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valerie
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tmbsgrl wrote: Did any of your parents help with the cost of the wedding? I feel that my fiancee & I are both adults & we should pay for our wedding. But our friends are telling us to get help from our parents. Money is tight but my mom and Step- dad are rich and can afford to help. What would you do?


I didn't have a real wedding but if I had would have probably paid for it

ourselves... then again, I was 45 when I got married!! ;)

You can do one of two things... scale back your wedding plans to something

you can afford OR (depending on how close you are to your mom and stepdad)

have a little chat with them and ask them how they feel. They might surprise

you by wanting to help...
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Post by LottomagicZ4941 »

My parents paid for the rehersal dinner.

And in a way they did pay for my wedding in that they gave me money when they sold the farm. My Opa gave my dad money before he died and my dad decided to share his windfalll of having some developers paying many times what he paid for his farm.

I did not want to use that money for the ring I bought my wife.

I put my wife's ring on the credit card at 0% intrest thanks to MBNA and general competition. Other then the ring I had my own money to cover the weding expences. However we did get more in gifts then we spent on the big W.

We got real lucky finding a reception hall on the cheap. It was nice and we only paid a couple hundred dollars. The biggest expence was all the food and drinks. No one offered to help us with this so we hired a catering service. And we over did it on that as there was lots of stuff left over. Still have wine but have dranken all the surplus beer.

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In Ireland. The Brides father and her family pays for reception.
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Post by Peg »

I had small, affordable weddings both times and would never have considered asking my parents' help. They did enough for me growing up and I wouldn't dream of asking for more. If your parents are wealthy, maybe discuss your wedding plans with your mother and see if she offers.
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Post by Wednesday's Child »

Susie

Congratulations on your upcoming big day!! You mentioned on another thread you were married before .... I have always believed (whether right or wrong).... the first time is shared with the parents in the traditional sense. The successive marriages should be

up to the couple. If money is tight get creative and have a smaller more intimate wedding for the important members of your groups and then have little parties or get-togethers

after for the more casual friendships.

If your parents want to take part, that is wonderful, but I am only giving my opinion and no doubt anything goes in wedding plans these days.

Mainly - do what makes you both happy and not too in debt! You will find a way to please most of your loved ones I am sure.
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capt_buzzard wrote: In Ireland. The Brides father and her family pays for reception.


That's the tradition here in the USA also, at least for the first time wedding! :wah:

My wifes parents paid for the reception. We paid for the photographer, flowers, & limos!

When our Daughters got married, My wife & I paid for the reception, photographer, flowers, and "Daughters" paid for the limos.

Because your parents are well to do, they may be likely willing to help you with some, if not most of the expenses. (If not, they still love you anyway)

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You're gonna laugh...My fiance and I just got back from my mothers, like, 1/2 an hour ago. (You were the first to respond to my intro., and remember, that was the first thing we talked about...our upcoming weddings.) Anyway, while we were at my mom's she gave me a deposit slip that showed she had just put $1,000 dollars into our wedding account!

Now, while Matt and I had planned to pay for the whole thing ourselves, here comes my mom, throwing money at me. Heck, yeah I took it! We need all the help we can get! I like the opinions you've gotten. If your parents are wealthy, just talk to them and see what they can offer! And if you have to scale back a bit, so what? It's one day. The marriage is WAY more important than the wedding, right?
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Post by koan »

Traditionally the bride's parents pay for the wedding but if this is your second then it is kind of open. I payed for my own (I amade him pay for the divorce :o ). But my parent's did contribute cash as a gift so, technically you could say they paid for some of it and I chose where to spend it. You might try dropping hints that you would like a certain kind of wedding but can only afford a different kind. If you are into subtlties of this kind.
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Post by CARLA »

TMBSGRL,

:yh_flower Congrats on your up coming WEDDING..!!

You will know what feels right. If your parents offer on their own, and want to pay for parts of the Wedding let them. It's something they want to do..!!

BabyRider, Congrats as well to you on your Wedding..!! :D

Weddings make me think of my all time favorite song. AT LAST by: ETTA JAMES..!! Truly a beautiful, beautiful romantic song..!! :-4
ALOHA!!

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"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, champagne in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming.

WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"

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My favorite for a wedding is: "Fields of Gold by Sting"

It is the song Michelle Kwan skated to when she lost the gold in the last Winter Olympics (but had expected a win...thus the gold theme and her costume too)...

But the music is so beautiful and sticks with you forever after you hear it.....

I think some of the music sites can give you a sample.....The lyrics can be read here: http://www.geocities.com/bestlyr_x/lyri ... fgold.html



FIELDS OF GOLD

Sting

(Ten Summoner's Tale)



You'll remember me when the west wind moves

Upon the fields of barley

You'll forget the sun in his jealous sky

As we walk in fields of gold

So she took her love for to gaze awhile

Upon the fields of barley

In his arms she fell as her hair came down

Among the fields of gold



Will you stay with me, will you be my love

Among the fields of barley?

We'll forget the sun in his jealous sky

As we lie in fields of gold

See the west wind move like a lover so

Upon the fields of barley

Feel her body rise when you kiss her mouth

Among the fields of gold



I never made promises lightly

And there have been some that I've broken

But I swear in the days still left

We'll walk in fields of gold

We'll walk in fields of gold



Many years have passed since those summer days

Among the fields of barley

See the children run as the sun goes down

Among the fields of gold

You'll remember me when the west wind moves

Upon the fields of barley

You can tell the sun in his jealous sky

When we walked in fields of gold

When we walked in fields of gold

When we walked in fields of gold
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Tmbsgrl: If your mom helped pay for your sister's wedding, isn't it only fair for her to help out with yours too? If I were you, I'd just sit her down and say, here's what we want to do, here's what we can do, and how much help, if any can we expect from you guys? But that's me, I'm blunt like that!

Carla, thanks for the good wishes!
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Oh great choice...I love Luther! Matt and I kind of went "non-traditional" and are just going to dance our first dance to our song, "Why Don't You and I?" by Chad Kroeger and Santana. Of course, the whole wedding is going to be non-traditional. Tattoes and leather as far as the eye can see!!! (I did mention he's a biker, right??) :wah:
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BabyRider wrote: Oh great choice...I love Luther! Matt and I kind of went "non-traditional" and are just going to dance our first dance to our song, "Why Don't You and I?" by Chad Kroeger and Santana. Of course, the whole wedding is going to be non-traditional. Tattoes and leather as far as the eye can see!!! (I did mention he's a biker, right??) :wah:


So I gotta tell you guys about a wedding I went to YEARS ago.. a motorcycle

club member had to marry his GF so she wouldn't be deported... anyway,

here is this church full of big hairy guys with motorcycle boots and "colors"

alongside Aunt Tilly from Iowa. With her little white gloves (hey, I said it

was years ago!) and her patent leather purse. The ceremony was a LEETLE

strained shall we say... then we got to the reception, the champagne was

passed around... and here comes Aunt Tilly dancing with this big ol' scruffy

biker, everybody having a good ol' time. It was hilarious.

Then there was the time I went to a wedding when the pastor said "If there

is any man here who can..." "Then let him speak now or forever hold his peace"

and some poor guy stood up and says "I can because I still love her and I

know she still loves me" and starts sobbing. Whew! Awkward silence. Some

of the groomsmen came back and sort of helped this guy outta the church.

Very sad.
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