Is this Crazy?

Paula · Post by **Paula** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 1:16 pm

You became a victim, people with those personalities look for others to create trouble for, get away as far as you can...Don't ever trust her for anything. Misfortune always happens to "those" who cause needless bull-crap to others. I say -- stay away! Good Luck.

cars · Post by **cars** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 1:53 pm

tmbsgrl wrote: Ok as some of you know My fiancee and i moved here 2 years ago. We used to live with his brother & sister-in-law along with their 3 kids. Me and "Cindy" got along in the beginning for maybe 1-2 months. Then all of a sudden she started telling everyone lies that i had said about them. She had everyone in the family mad at me. It was a very uncomfortable situation. It got so bad at one point i was ready to leave my fiancee cause i couldn't take being around her ( i hated her that much) Well We finally moved out and us fighting and arguing continued for about 1 year & a half. ( we fought because she continued to backstab me, even though i never did anything to her) I decided to be nice and write her a nice email. We were talking for a while.. It was nice. Then all of a sudden she comes out and tells the family that she has been cheating on her husband for 4 years with some guy she used to work with when they first moved her ( 4 Years ago) She has been hurting the family with ignorant comments and telling her kids that she doesn't care for them & that they were a mistake. I feel like she has a mental problem that nobody has found. (therepists) Is it crazy that i still want to talk to her and help her. She is living with her boyfriend. But i still can't help but worry about her mental health. Am i stupid? What would you do?

Susie

Susie, living with relatives and or friends for any extended period of time is never a good situation, even in the best of circumstances. It usually always ends up harshly! I know, been there, done that! As far as the Sister-in-law" situation, like Paula said, she's trouble. But you seem like a very caring (not stupid) person, and it is your nature to want to help people. After all she has done to you, if you still really want to help her, the best & prudent way you could help her would be to see that "She" gets "professional" help!! "That" won't be an easy Task!!!

Phychiatrists can prescribe medication for her if she is really mentally depressed!

Good Luck.

Paula · Post by **Paula** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 7:33 am

Susie, Take my Advice...Send a Christmas Card, be assertive...treat her nicely, but keep a distance. You need to set the example and lead. she sounds like a co-dependent person? When she can't fool with you anymore, she will be crying to you about her problems, then you let her have it? No, just say i'll get back to you & forget her...

greydeadhead · Post by **greydeadhead** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 7:42 am

As my Grandfather used to say.. "kill her with kindness".. Don't get sucked down to her level .. Continue to be yourself and you will eventually come out on top of the situation..

greydeadhead · Post by **greydeadhead** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 8:29 am

Well then Susie.. it sounds like you tried your best to understand and be friends with her. I would let it go and don't beat yourself up over it. Some people are not going to like you. no matter how nice you are to them. Eventually she will get what she deserves out of life. Continue commmunicating with your fiancee and don't let her come between you. Have a great holiday season and a wonderful New Years..