who has had nasty neighbours, c`mon lets hear what they did!

[kazalala]

RedGlitter;1007497 wrote: Hey guys, I have more!

Same neighbor.

I was up all night trying to sleep. Finally fell asleep on the sofa and was sleeping very well around 9 AM. I start to hear loud commotion which would be all my dogs barking off the patio and I hear this "ANYBODY HOME???" I look up and there is Friend in the kitchen with The Girl in tow and I assumed she had run my dad on an errand. I asked where my dad was, she didn't know. Then I realized she had just helped herself into my house. So I went and woke up my dad and he stumbled out and we had to entertain them for a couple hours. I have no tolerance for 13 year old girls' mumble jumble at this hour of the morning but I was polite. Friend thinks it's a riot that when she rattles her keys my dogs go to barking. One dog is a bassett and her bark can be heard through my neighborhood. I don't need that kind of trouble. I have tried to hint around that if neighbors start calling the cops on me again, or animal control comes out, I'llbe back in court over my dogs. Friend just laughs and shakes her damn keys and there go my dogs. I go out and shut them up and she still doesn't get the hint!

At least today we got the food sorted out. The Girl requested her cheese and crackers and I handed them right over. We shouldn't have any more food issues now.

I am going to start keeping the back door locked all day. This is not the first time she's walked in my house. If I am home and don't run to the door fast enough she walks on in. She gives me unwanted advice. She reads our mail. She's gotten involved in my banking matters, advising me how to handle a large sum of money. I have a financial advisor already, I do not require this.


How very rude:mad: i think Patsy gave some good advice and good idea about keeping the door locked, tut you have to harden up Red;):-4

[Odie]

had no idea when I started this thread, just how far it would go!

alot of nasty miserable, self-centered people out there!

[Oscar Namechange]

kazalala;1006777 wrote: aw thanks:D

I once used to babysit for someone and they would never let them have a treat even when i said they had been good and eaten all their tea:( so from then on i gave them a treat before their parent got home:sneaky:


I have a friend, but is not a friend as i hate everything she stands for, if that makes sense?

I don't want to go into details but nearly a year ago, i found myself unexpectantly thrust into the full media glare of the British Press, it even reached America.

Something horrible that happened to me was jumped on by politicians as a tool for the Country's next election which i predict will be called in about a year.

After everything was over, i expected my life to return to normal but people were recognising me in the street, i was being contacted to give speeches etc.

I expected the press to go away but the politicians and local councillors want to use me still.

At first, i was annoyed but then realised i had to go along with it, just to try stop the same thing happening to some-one else, and that means changing laws, which means i need the politicians as much as they need me right now.

When i hit the National Headlines in the press, i got people i never knew contacting me. What happened to me, put me in the company of some pretty famous People, and i learnt very quickly that there is a hell of a difference between true Friendship, support and "hangers-on" who's only desire was to be in the same company as i was.

With some, i had to get down right cruel, to get rid of. They were sapping my energy and trying to hi jack the whole issue for their own benifit. I didn't like doing this but they were users.

One woman, who lives a short distance from my home, decided that because she knew me vaguely, would begin to call at my house, phone me etc etc. She even hi jacked me on facebook to the extent, i don't post any more.

My true supporters would phone and say to Mr Oscar "Has she slept, has she eaten?" This woman began turning up at council etc etc meetings where she knew i'd be to fight my cause just to be seen with me in the hope the press would snap her. Sounds awfully big headed doesn't it? But i am not big headed over this.

I had an invite by a national newspaper "The Sun" to go and meet a famous Tory politician in the "Save our Streets campaign". I knew it would be awash with press and didn't go.

This woman rang me and went crazy at me saying things like "The Sun" was there, you would have been in the paper again". I said, "Exactly why i didn't go".

This is my life this woman is hi jacking. To change the law so this doesn't happen to some-one else, i can only do it from behind the scenes with politicians not to pose in the bloody papers.

I have done everything to get rid of this woman. Problem is, my husband has taken to her husband and we really like the guy and value him. Her kids love me as well and i don't want to hurt them

I was on the BBC radio a few nights ago in a debate with the Member of Parliment for Kensington, London.

The show started with the presenter saying what had happened to me. Then i came in with my story. Then the M.P. came in and answered. After that, the show goes live to the public phoning in. They get thousands of call and after i had done my bit, the presenter announced they were going to a woman in my home town and we were stunned to hear her bloody voice come on the radio.

The show was politics, she didn't have a clue about the politics of it but started by telling everyone, she lived near me. I was lived.

There -- i've had a damn good moan now and feel 100 times better.

Isn't FG great to unload on?

Any advice as how to get rid of this woman without ruining the friendship of her hubby and mine and hurting her kids feelings will be most welcome.

Thanks

[kazalala]

oscar;1008098 wrote: I have a friend, but is not a friend as i hate everything she stands for, if that makes sense?

I don't want to go into details but nearly a year ago, i found myself unexpectantly thrust into the full media glare of the British Press, it even reached America.

Something horrible that happened to me was jumped on by politicians as a tool for the Country's next election which i predict will be called in about a year.

After everything was over, i expected my life to return to normal but people were recognising me in the street, i was being contacted to give speeches etc.

I expected the press to go away but the politicians and local councillors want to use me still.

At first, i was annoyed but then realised i had to go along with it, just to try stop the same thing happening to some-one else, and that means changing laws, which means i need the politicians as much as they need me right now.

When i hit the National Headlines in the press, i got people i never knew contacting me. What happened to me, put me in the company of some pretty famous People, and i learnt very quickly that there is a hell of a difference between true Friendship, support and "hangers-on" who's only desire was to be in the same company as i was.

With some, i had to get down right cruel, to get rid of. They were sapping my energy and trying to hi jack the whole issue for their own benifit. I didn't like doing this but they were users.

One woman, who lives a short distance from my home, decided that because she knew me vaguely, would begin to call at my house, phone me etc etc. She even hi jacked me on facebook to the extent, i don't post any more.

My true supporters would phone and say to Mr Oscar "Has she slept, has she eaten?" This woman began turning up at council etc etc meetings where she knew i'd be to fight my cause just to be seen with me in the hope the press would snap her. Sounds awfully big headed doesn't it? But i am not big headed over this.

I had an invite by a national newspaper "The Sun" to go and meet a famous Tory politician in the "Save our Streets campaign". I knew it would be awash with press and didn't go.

This woman rang me and went crazy at me saying things like "The Sun" was there, you would have been in the paper again". I said, "Exactly why i didn't go".

This is my life this woman is hi jacking. To change the law so this doesn't happen to some-one else, i can only do it from behind the scenes with politicians not to pose in the bloody papers.

I have done everything to get rid of this woman. Problem is, my husband has taken to her husband and we really like the guy and value him. Her kids love me as well and i don't want to hurt them

I was on the BBC radio a few nights ago in a debate with the Member of Parliment for Kensington, London.

The show started with the presenter saying what had happened to me. Then i came in with my story. Then the M.P. came in and answered. After that, the show goes live to the public phoning in. They get thousands of call and after i had done my bit, the presenter announced they were going to a woman in my home town and we were stunned to hear her bloody voice come on the radio.

The show was politics, she didn't have a clue about the politics of it but started by telling everyone, she lived near me. I was lived.

There -- i've had a damn good moan now and feel 100 times better.

Isn't FG great to unload on?

Any advice as how to get rid of this woman without ruining the friendship of her hubby and mine and hurting her kids feelings will be most welcome.

Thanks


Glad you feel better:D sorry i dont know how you can get rid of the woman, without also losing the husband:-3:(

[Oscar Namechange]

kazalala;1008109 wrote: Glad you feel better:D sorry i dont know how you can get rid of the woman, without also losing the husband:-3:( Thanks. If it wasn't for the husband and her kids, i'd get tough.

When all of this reached it's peak, my house and every hotel near-by was full of family. Some had travelled hundreds of miles to see me. It was the one time, i really needed them all there and i'd never have done it without them.

My front door was open as there was so much in and out's and this woman just walked in and sat down. We all ignored her but she was talking as if she was part of the family. She had never met any of them before.

After some days, it was time for the family to go home, back to their jobs etc and all of them had planned to leave on the friday lunchtime.

She said thursday night she would call in the next morning and i politely said, we will all have a lie in (hint hint).

No, she turned up in the morning and sat down with the family. Some of them i hadn't seen for a year especially the teenagers who seem to grow so quickly.

I really resented that. It was MY time, with MY family to say goodbye and she's sat there unwanted.

My family were giving me looks as if to say "Who is this person?"

A few days later, her husband said to mine that he didn't come round with her as he respected that i needed time alone with my brothers and sisters because it had been an emotional ride for me.

My husband said, that's exactly what we would have done -- had the grace to butt out.

That's why we value his friendship.

And on top of that, i have builders in Help :-5:-5:-5

[Oscar Namechange]

Who knows Kaz, you might be looking at the next Margaret Thatcher? :-3:-3:-3

[kazalala]

:wah::wah: well i would maybe have said,, ook im sorry but i need to talk to my family about some personal family things so would you mind if i asked you to go home and i'll see you later:D sometimes you jsut have to take the bull by the horns and if you lose a friendship ,, hey ho ,,, its not the end of the world.. you are going to have to choose which is the lesser evil i think:-3

[Oscar Namechange]

kazalala;1008277 wrote: :wah::wah: well i would maybe have said,, ook im sorry but i need to talk to my family about some personal family things so would you mind if i asked you to go home and i'll see you later:D sometimes you jsut have to take the bull by the horns and if you lose a friendship ,, hey ho ,,, its not the end of the world.. you are going to have to choose which is the lesser evil i think:-3
I should have done shouldn't i? Hence to say, i don't announce my meetings anymore, i have to personally phone any-one i want there.

What i was originally going to say was that in response to Redglitter: This woman has two adorable kids and i never see them with anything. The woman is down the pub at night, smoking dope etc etc and on benifit (Don't get me started on that one). One day recently she just turned up at my house unannounced with the kids. I got some Magnum ice creams out of the freezer for the kids and it was the look on their faces. You'd think they'd never had them. One day her little boy spied some fruit in my kitchen and his eyes lit up. He was so wide eyed and asked "Please may i have an apple". How can people be so damn bloody selfish??:-5

[kazalala]

oscar;1008310 wrote: I should have done shouldn't i? Hence to say, i don't announce my meetings anymore, i have to personally phone any-one i want there.

What i was originally going to say was that in response to Redglitter: This woman has two adorable kids and i never see them with anything. The woman is down the pub at night, smoking dope etc etc and on benifit (Don't get me started on that one). One day recently she just turned up at my house unannounced with the kids. I got some Magnum ice creams out of the freezer for the kids and it was the look on their faces. You'd think they'd never had them. One day her little boy spied some fruit in my kitchen and his eyes lit up. He was so wide eyed and asked "Please may i have an apple". How can people be so damn bloody selfish??:-5


I dont know:( im my opinion there is nothing better than a childs smile:)

[Oscar Namechange]

kazalala;1008312 wrote: I dont know:( im my opinion there is nothing better than a childs smile:)
OOHH i know. That's why i'm so reluctant to tell the woman to **** off. My husband thinks they were all saddo's who latched on to me, and really she is too.

I thought the other day about what i was getting her kids for Christmas so it looks like i'm stuck with her.

Only British people will understand this, CHRISTMAS IS HERE ALREADY -- We had our first Brussell Sprouts last night. Hurrah :-6

[Odie]

your turn to vent Rap!

[Rapunzel]

Odie;1276304 wrote: your turn to vent Rap!


Thanks for bumping this up for me to read Odie.

Our neighbours are complete and total gits but talking bout them just winds me up.

We're moving house in January, just to get the hell away from them. Can't wait!

[Odie]

Rapunzel;1276322 wrote: Thanks for bumping this up for me to read Odie.

Our neighbours are complete and total gits but talking bout them just winds me up.

We're moving house in January, just to get the hell away from them. Can't wait!


it does wind you up.:-5

as I said, ignore them, pretend they are not even there.



ignoring bullies is the only way.

So glad you found another house like we did.

serenity now!:-4

[Rapunzel]

Odie;1276323 wrote: it does wind you up.:-5

as I said, ignore them, pretend they are not even there.



ignoring bullies is the only way.

So glad you found another house like we did.

serenity now!:-4


It's hard to ignore them when they're hammering and drilling at 1:30am in the morning! Or when they open and slam their car doors shut 60 times (I counted!) at 11pm at night or when they're banging on your front door at midnight for no reason!

[Odie]

Rapunzel;1276329 wrote: It's hard to ignore them when they're hammering and drilling at 1:30am in the morning! Or when they open and slam their car doors shut 60 times (I counted!) at 11pm at night or when they're banging on your front door at midnight for no reason!


you'll soon be gone.

if they knock....don't answer your door,



you should buy an air horn.

these ones sound like real trouble-makers.:-5

[Nomad]

Id have to refer you to my neighbors.

[Odie]

Nomad;1276742 wrote: Id have to refer you to my neighbors.


oh please tell me, tell me!:wah::wah:

[Odie]

well the old bat started screaming again this morning!:-5

all because I was trimming her hedge on my side.

She yelled and screamed don't cut off the top, we like that for privacy, I yelled back, so do I!:yh_rotfl

She continued and made up stuff no one would have believed.:-3



So I phoned the police, they came here and heard me out, then went and talked to her, basically telling her not to talk to me.

They advised me if she starts up again...ignore her, as she wants me to fight back.:-2

They also said 'when I say nothing back' she will stop screaming as that just makes her even madder.

does this makes sense to anyone?

[G#Gill]

It takes two (at least) to argue, so if one side refuses to argue or take part in the verbal fight then there is no argument! The side that wants to carry on arguing with no reaction, will eventually pack it in and stomp off! Just put the old bat on 'ignore' and don't even speak to her. She isn't there ! That will annoy her intensely (I think that is what the cop was meaning), she maybe will gradually leave things alone. Make sure that you are on the right side of the law all the time, and there will be nothing the old bat can do about anything. If she tries, then the law will be on your side.

[Odie]

G#Gill;1324193 wrote: It takes two (at least) to argue, so if one side refuses to argue or take part in the verbal fight then there is no argument! The side that wants to carry on arguing with no reaction, will eventually pack it in and stomp off! Just put the old bat on 'ignore' and don't even speak to her. She isn't there ! That will annoy her intensely (I think that is what the cop was meaning), she maybe will gradually leave things alone. Make sure that you are on the right side of the law all the time, and there will be nothing the old bat can do about anything. If she tries, then the law will be on your side.


That's exactly what the officers meant.....ignore her.....she will stop.

Her daughter certainly got there quick, her whole family assumes I'm the nut job, little do they know.:-5

[Oscar Namechange]

Nomad;963701 wrote: I would die for a neighbor like that !!!

Id torture him relentlessly.
Did I mention that we are moving to Minnesotta?

And you thought me sending you Bee's In the post was the least of your worries.... HA

[Kathy Ellen]

Odie;1324188 wrote: well the old bat started screaming again this morning!:-5

all because I was trimming her hedge on my side.

She yelled and screamed don't cut off the top, we like that for privacy, I yelled back, so do I!:yh_rotfl

She continued and made up stuff no one would have believed.:-3



So I phoned the police, they came here and heard me out, then went and talked to her, basically telling her not to talk to me.

They advised me if she starts up again...ignore her, as she wants me to fight back.:-2

They also said 'when I say nothing back' she will stop screaming as that just makes her even madder.

does this makes sense to anyone?


I think that you have the same police mentality that we have here Odie. Except our police were in deep 'do do' with law suits because they beat up a lot of the tourists. Now, they don't want to be involved in any spats, especially between neighbors.

It's easy to say ignore your neighbors, but it's very hard to when they're in your face all the time.

[Oscar Namechange]

I have never had much of a problem with neighbours. If they have strange ways, I try to befriend them because after-all, I have to live next door to them. I will offer the hand of friendship with some of Peter's home-made Jam or offer to watch their house while they are away. If that does not work, I put dog poo through their letter-box, dump my cat litter In their garden and call the police on them.

[Patsy Warnick]

Odie

Your neighbor provokes you and wants a response.

I'd continue to trim & cut what ever you please - put on a head set/ear plugs sing away. The less you respond / react - the more irritation you cause her. I would not do any thing to provoke her, just go along with your work

NO comprenday...!!

Trust me - look at her as if she's invisible & watch her get pissed and not you.

I wish I was there with you - I love invisible people..

Patsy

[Oscar Namechange]

Did I mention I also bat snails and slugs over their fence with a tennis raquet?

[Odie]

Kathy Ellen;1324222 wrote: I think that you have the same police mentality that we have here Odie. Except our police were in deep 'do do' with law suits because they beat up a lot of the tourists. Now, they don't want to be involved in any spats, especially between neighbors.

It's easy to say ignore your neighbors, but it's very hard to when they're in your face all the time.


Police basically were useless....

exactly Kathy, easier said than done, the things she said to me were cruel and heartless..and I never did anything wrong.

yet they are still in my mind now hours later.......

[Odie]

Patsy Warnick;1324264 wrote: Odie

Your neighbor provokes you and wants a response.

I'd continue to trim & cut what ever you please - put on a head set/ear plugs sing away. The less you respond / react - the more irritation you cause her. I would not do any thing to provoke her, just go along with your work

NO comprenday...!!

Trust me - look at her as if she's invisible & watch her get pissed and not you.

I wish I was there with you - I love invisible people..

Patsy


She may even be worse now that the police visited her.

When I had enough, I turned back on the electric hedge trimmers, those drounded her out pretty quick.

[Oscar Namechange]

Odie;1324288 wrote: Police basically were useless....they said its not a police issue.

exactly Kathy, easier said than done........and some of the things she said to me were cruel and heartless..and I never did anything wrong.
No... Police are not useless. They just happen to have serious crime to deal with first. Your problem Is a civil case not a police matter unless you have been physically threatened with violence. The Police are not there to solve every little argument with neighbours.

You could try getting your solicitor to send a letter or try arbitration but It is not up to the Police.