We all know this type, unfortunately I am not speaking about a child, but a 54 year old women, who stirs up crap between co-workers, and lies to each of them to see them go at each other and file false complaints, to get the other fired, this has gone on for 5 years, and corporate beleives her.
What to do?
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princessladedah;1225740 wrote: We all know this type, unfortunately I am not speaking about a child, but a 54 year old women, who stirs up crap between co-workers, and lies to each of them to see them go at each other and file false complaints, to get the other fired, this has gone on for 5 years, and corporate beleives her.
What to do?
Set a trap for her, so that it will be obvious that she is the one shyte stirring !
What to do?
Set a trap for her, so that it will be obvious that she is the one shyte stirring !
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G#Gill;1225742 wrote: Set a trap for her, so that it will be obvious that she is the one shyte stirring ! Very good advice Gill.
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I know how frustrating it is to have a menace at work. **** stirrer.
there's one at every work area between women.
Stay out of it unless it's you - she'll turn the problem around on you and you'll be the one in trouble........
she's a good manipulator - year's of practice
usually a individual jealous, hates her life, over weight, bitter sole....
try to be nice/ civil ..
Patsy
there's one at every work area between women.
Stay out of it unless it's you - she'll turn the problem around on you and you'll be the one in trouble........
she's a good manipulator - year's of practice
usually a individual jealous, hates her life, over weight, bitter sole....
try to be nice/ civil ..
Patsy
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Patsy Warnick;1225797 wrote: I know how frustrating it is to have a menace at work. **** stirrer.
there's one at every work area between women.
Stay out of it unless it's you - she'll turn the problem around on you and you'll be the one in trouble........
she's a good manipulator - year's of practice
usually a individual jealous, hates her life, over weight, bitter sole....
try to be nice/ civil ..
Patsy It is tough Pats when they are deliberately baiting you. Mr O's advice is to laugh at them and ignore.
there's one at every work area between women.
Stay out of it unless it's you - she'll turn the problem around on you and you'll be the one in trouble........
she's a good manipulator - year's of practice
usually a individual jealous, hates her life, over weight, bitter sole....
try to be nice/ civil ..
Patsy It is tough Pats when they are deliberately baiting you. Mr O's advice is to laugh at them and ignore.
At the going down of the sun and in the morning, we will remember them. R.L. Binyon
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oscar;1225800 wrote: It is tough Pats when they are deliberately baiting you. Mr O's advice is to laugh at them and ignore.
I would say ignoring is usually the best answer ,,, they want reaction .. if they dont get it ,, probs drive em barmy :yh_rotfl usually if you look back at an incident or a few incidents and try to imagine what would have happened if you had just ignored instead,, that brings clarity. Also they are usually attention seekers too so they like the drama,,, if the person targeted dont even notice ,, then no one else will and there will be no drama:wah::wah:
I would say ignoring is usually the best answer ,,, they want reaction .. if they dont get it ,, probs drive em barmy :yh_rotfl usually if you look back at an incident or a few incidents and try to imagine what would have happened if you had just ignored instead,, that brings clarity. Also they are usually attention seekers too so they like the drama,,, if the person targeted dont even notice ,, then no one else will and there will be no drama:wah::wah:
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Ignore,Ignore,Ignore it hurts the bully,they hate it;)
Be sure to give her a big smile everyday as well,won't like that either:sneaky:
Be sure to give her a big smile everyday as well,won't like that either:sneaky:
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I was bullied at school by one girl and it went on for ages. To cut a long story short, as we grew up I realised that she had a really rotton home life. She told me years later that she did it because she envied my parents and longed for a home life like mine. She became a good friend and we're still in touch. Some times the bully is really insecure.
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While you at work and on company time, just do your job and ignore her.
If you do feel the need for a confrontation, do it on your own time and away from work. Just be calm and clear.
If you do feel the need for a confrontation, do it on your own time and away from work. Just be calm and clear.
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princessladedah;1225740 wrote: We all know this type, unfortunately I am not speaking about a child, but a 54 year old women, who stirs up crap between co-workers, and lies to each of them to see them go at each other and file false complaints, to get the other fired, this has gone on for 5 years, and corporate beleives her.
What to do?
oh gosh, been there twice........
its a battle for sure as they are always bullying and picking on you, and its not just that easy to ignore them.
Corporate will believe her unless others speak up.
What to do?
oh gosh, been there twice........
its a battle for sure as they are always bullying and picking on you, and its not just that easy to ignore them.
Corporate will believe her unless others speak up.
Life is just to short for drama.
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princessladedah;1225740 wrote: We all know this type, unfortunately I am not speaking about a child, but a 54 year old women, who stirs up crap between co-workers, and lies to each of them to see them go at each other and file false complaints, to get the other fired, this has gone on for 5 years, and corporate beleives her.
What to do?
Notify the HR manager and get all the co-workers involved in one room and confront the situation head on. Bullying is totally not acceptable and it is obvously leading to further action (filing false complaints). I think if it is left then the problem festers and things could get worse. She obviously thinks she is getting away with it. Put a stop to it.
My brother was bullied so badly in school it was awful to see him in constant stress going to school.
So one day i went into the school canteen where this bully was eating his lunch, asked the dinner lady if i could have a plate of beans and mash. Waited for them to get a bit cooler, as i did'nt want to scold him.
Walked over to him and proceeded to pour the plate over the bully's head.
The whole of the canteen laughed, i was frogged marched out by the teachers, an my parents were called.
Believe it or not i was sent home for the afternoon, but allowed back the next day.
From that day my brother was left alone and god did i feel good.
I know thats extreme but sometimes things have to be addressed.
No one ever messed with me in school, because i stood up for what i thought was right.
What to do?
Notify the HR manager and get all the co-workers involved in one room and confront the situation head on. Bullying is totally not acceptable and it is obvously leading to further action (filing false complaints). I think if it is left then the problem festers and things could get worse. She obviously thinks she is getting away with it. Put a stop to it.
My brother was bullied so badly in school it was awful to see him in constant stress going to school.
So one day i went into the school canteen where this bully was eating his lunch, asked the dinner lady if i could have a plate of beans and mash. Waited for them to get a bit cooler, as i did'nt want to scold him.
Walked over to him and proceeded to pour the plate over the bully's head.
The whole of the canteen laughed, i was frogged marched out by the teachers, an my parents were called.
Believe it or not i was sent home for the afternoon, but allowed back the next day.
From that day my brother was left alone and god did i feel good.
I know thats extreme but sometimes things have to be addressed.
No one ever messed with me in school, because i stood up for what i thought was right.
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lou lou belle;1226068 wrote:
My brother was bullied so badly in school it was awful to see him in constant stress going to school.
So one day i went into the school canteen where this bully was eating his lunch, asked the dinner lady if i could have a plate of beans and mash. Waited for them to get a bit cooler, as i did'nt want to scold him.
Walked over to him and proceeded to pour the plate over the bully's head.
The whole of the canteen laughed, i was frogged marched out by the teachers, an my parents were called.
Believe it or not i was sent home for the afternoon, but allowed back the next day.
From that day my brother was left alone and god did i feel good.
I know thats extreme but sometimes things have to be addressed.
No one ever messed with me in school, because i stood up for what i thought was right.
I would imagine that most people would find that action quite disgusting and an act that could have had an opposite effect in bringing your brother more problems.
To antagonise a bully further and resort to the very same methods that they dish out is futile and makes you no better than the bully, in fact, worse. Your action could be seen by some as nothing short of premeditated assault and a desire to humiliate.
Having worked as a primary school caretaker in my retirement, i have witnessed a great deal of bullying amongst the children. It seems to always be the way that once you delve into the background of a bully, they are suffering from no more than insecurity. To inflict such a humiliating act on a bully is only more fuel to that insecurity. Far better to try to understand the child that is the bully and offer support and understanding rather than such inane acts. Once a bully is offered kindness and understanding they generally find their way. You may have stopped your brother being bullyed further but i am in no doubt from my experience that the bully only moved on to another child.
My brother was bullied so badly in school it was awful to see him in constant stress going to school.
So one day i went into the school canteen where this bully was eating his lunch, asked the dinner lady if i could have a plate of beans and mash. Waited for them to get a bit cooler, as i did'nt want to scold him.
Walked over to him and proceeded to pour the plate over the bully's head.
The whole of the canteen laughed, i was frogged marched out by the teachers, an my parents were called.
Believe it or not i was sent home for the afternoon, but allowed back the next day.
From that day my brother was left alone and god did i feel good.
I know thats extreme but sometimes things have to be addressed.
No one ever messed with me in school, because i stood up for what i thought was right.
I would imagine that most people would find that action quite disgusting and an act that could have had an opposite effect in bringing your brother more problems.
To antagonise a bully further and resort to the very same methods that they dish out is futile and makes you no better than the bully, in fact, worse. Your action could be seen by some as nothing short of premeditated assault and a desire to humiliate.
Having worked as a primary school caretaker in my retirement, i have witnessed a great deal of bullying amongst the children. It seems to always be the way that once you delve into the background of a bully, they are suffering from no more than insecurity. To inflict such a humiliating act on a bully is only more fuel to that insecurity. Far better to try to understand the child that is the bully and offer support and understanding rather than such inane acts. Once a bully is offered kindness and understanding they generally find their way. You may have stopped your brother being bullyed further but i am in no doubt from my experience that the bully only moved on to another child.
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:)Peter Lake;1226262 wrote: I would imagine that most people would find that action quite disgusting and an act that could have had an opposite effect in bringing your brother more problems.
To antagonise a bully further and resort to the very same methods that they dish out is futile and makes you no better than the bully, in fact, worse. Your action could be seen by some as nothing short of premeditated assault and a desire to humiliate.
Having worked as a primary school caretaker in my retirement, i have witnessed a great deal of bullying amongst the children. It seems to always be the way that once you delve into the background of a bully, they are suffering from no more than insecurity. To inflict such a humiliating act on a bully is only more fuel to that insecurity. Far better to try to understand the child that is the bully and offer support and understanding rather than such inane acts. Once a bully is offered kindness and understanding they generally find their way. You may have stopped your brother being bullyed further but i am in no doubt from my experience that the bully only moved on to another child.
Wrong.... it worked and at least it stopped my brother from being dangled over the railway bridge by his feet. I could go on about the things MY brother endured but i wont, you have to stand up to bullies not allow their behaviour to become worse. I dont buy the you have got to look into the background scenario, thats rubbish. Especially when in previous threads you have commented about teenage YOBS etc.. I did,nt read any simpathy in those threads or anything relating to being supportive and understanding. I think this is a pretty shameful way of trying to have another go at me. Pathetic really.
My brother is the best brother a girl could ask for, he is intelligent, caring and would give his last penny if someone needed it more than him.
I will not allow anyone to take away what was a truly horrific time he endured in school.
I could,nt give a monkeys about the bullies background. What he did was wrong and he needed to be stood up to... i was strong enough to do that.
To antagonise a bully further and resort to the very same methods that they dish out is futile and makes you no better than the bully, in fact, worse. Your action could be seen by some as nothing short of premeditated assault and a desire to humiliate.
Having worked as a primary school caretaker in my retirement, i have witnessed a great deal of bullying amongst the children. It seems to always be the way that once you delve into the background of a bully, they are suffering from no more than insecurity. To inflict such a humiliating act on a bully is only more fuel to that insecurity. Far better to try to understand the child that is the bully and offer support and understanding rather than such inane acts. Once a bully is offered kindness and understanding they generally find their way. You may have stopped your brother being bullyed further but i am in no doubt from my experience that the bully only moved on to another child.
Wrong.... it worked and at least it stopped my brother from being dangled over the railway bridge by his feet. I could go on about the things MY brother endured but i wont, you have to stand up to bullies not allow their behaviour to become worse. I dont buy the you have got to look into the background scenario, thats rubbish. Especially when in previous threads you have commented about teenage YOBS etc.. I did,nt read any simpathy in those threads or anything relating to being supportive and understanding. I think this is a pretty shameful way of trying to have another go at me. Pathetic really.
My brother is the best brother a girl could ask for, he is intelligent, caring and would give his last penny if someone needed it more than him.
I will not allow anyone to take away what was a truly horrific time he endured in school.
I could,nt give a monkeys about the bullies background. What he did was wrong and he needed to be stood up to... i was strong enough to do that.
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lou lou belle;1226641 wrote:
Wrong.... it worked and at least it stopped my brother from being dangled over the railway bridge by his feet. I could go on about the things MY brother endured but i wont, you have to stand up to bullies not allow their behaviour to become worse. I dont buy the you have got to look into the background scenario, thats rubbish. Especially when in previous threads you have commented about teenage YOBS etc.. I did,nt read any simpathy in those threads or anything relating to being supportive and understanding. I think this is a pretty shameful way of trying to have another go at me. Pathetic really.
My brother is the best brother a girl could ask for, he is intelligent, caring and would give his last penny if someone needed it more than him.
I will not allow anyone to take away what was a truly horrific time he endured in school.
I could,nt give a monkeys about the bullies background. What he did was wrong and he needed to be stood up to... i was strong enough to do that.
This does not seem to be consistent here and i am struggling to understand your reasoning.
You do not give your age when you assaulted the lad on behalf of your brother and that would be a help here.
Let us clarify my position on yobs first of all. There is a world of difference between thirty to forty youths over five foot eight inches congregating late at night and terrorising a small community night after night after night. There is a world of difference between a fully grown teenager taking his penis out in the middle of the day and urinating against a shop front inches from mothers and young children. There is a world of difference between those teenagers and children and i assume you were talking about a child in your story of revenge. Please correct me if i was wrong in my assumption.
As it happens, i myself were bullied at school and i speak from bitter experience and i too suffered many a dangerous and humiliating act. Taking revenge is not the answer as the bully moves to another child who will suffer the consquences of your actions. In my experience working in the school with local children, it very often happens to be the way that bully may be a victem of abuse at home and be being beaten or ignored by their parents. Their rage at other children can be a vent for what they are also suffering and you do not know this until you have showed some understanding and looked a little closer. A bully is more likely to be the weak member of the family and they then try to become powerful over a child they see as weak at school.
I am also wondering how you could go on to become a police officer with such lack of compassion for a child. If you have no compassion for a child then i see it as hypocritical to call yourself such a caring person. You say you stand up for what you believe in yet there are times when you make an arrest on a member of the public for also standing up for what they believe in.
If your brother was in such immediate danger by being dangled over a bridge, i believe anyone else would have called the police however young the child was and have the child at least warned that he was likely to cause serious injury. What you did was no more than an act of vigilanteeism that you so vehemently scorn upon in your job.
As for having a go at you as you put it, once you have been around this forum some time, you will find that most members do not agree with each other all of the time. If a member not agreeing with you is deemed as having a go at you, then you seem to have a persecution complex. I am entitled to agree or disagree with any member of my choosing as that is what a forum is about, opposing views.
Wrong.... it worked and at least it stopped my brother from being dangled over the railway bridge by his feet. I could go on about the things MY brother endured but i wont, you have to stand up to bullies not allow their behaviour to become worse. I dont buy the you have got to look into the background scenario, thats rubbish. Especially when in previous threads you have commented about teenage YOBS etc.. I did,nt read any simpathy in those threads or anything relating to being supportive and understanding. I think this is a pretty shameful way of trying to have another go at me. Pathetic really.
My brother is the best brother a girl could ask for, he is intelligent, caring and would give his last penny if someone needed it more than him.
I will not allow anyone to take away what was a truly horrific time he endured in school.
I could,nt give a monkeys about the bullies background. What he did was wrong and he needed to be stood up to... i was strong enough to do that.
This does not seem to be consistent here and i am struggling to understand your reasoning.
You do not give your age when you assaulted the lad on behalf of your brother and that would be a help here.
Let us clarify my position on yobs first of all. There is a world of difference between thirty to forty youths over five foot eight inches congregating late at night and terrorising a small community night after night after night. There is a world of difference between a fully grown teenager taking his penis out in the middle of the day and urinating against a shop front inches from mothers and young children. There is a world of difference between those teenagers and children and i assume you were talking about a child in your story of revenge. Please correct me if i was wrong in my assumption.
As it happens, i myself were bullied at school and i speak from bitter experience and i too suffered many a dangerous and humiliating act. Taking revenge is not the answer as the bully moves to another child who will suffer the consquences of your actions. In my experience working in the school with local children, it very often happens to be the way that bully may be a victem of abuse at home and be being beaten or ignored by their parents. Their rage at other children can be a vent for what they are also suffering and you do not know this until you have showed some understanding and looked a little closer. A bully is more likely to be the weak member of the family and they then try to become powerful over a child they see as weak at school.
I am also wondering how you could go on to become a police officer with such lack of compassion for a child. If you have no compassion for a child then i see it as hypocritical to call yourself such a caring person. You say you stand up for what you believe in yet there are times when you make an arrest on a member of the public for also standing up for what they believe in.
If your brother was in such immediate danger by being dangled over a bridge, i believe anyone else would have called the police however young the child was and have the child at least warned that he was likely to cause serious injury. What you did was no more than an act of vigilanteeism that you so vehemently scorn upon in your job.
As for having a go at you as you put it, once you have been around this forum some time, you will find that most members do not agree with each other all of the time. If a member not agreeing with you is deemed as having a go at you, then you seem to have a persecution complex. I am entitled to agree or disagree with any member of my choosing as that is what a forum is about, opposing views.
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princessladedah;1225740 wrote: We all know this type, unfortunately I am not speaking about a child, but a 54 year old women, who stirs up crap between co-workers, and lies to each of them to see them go at each other and file false complaints, to get the other fired, this has gone on for 5 years, and corporate beleives her.
What to do? My advice to you would be to try to get to know the lady a little better and find out why she is like this. My wife and i have both worked with people like this and it is often the way that they are insecure about their position in the company, often fearing losing their job so feel the need to protect the job in the only way they know how. She may be suffering at home in a way of domestic violence or just extreme insecurity and her job may be her reason for living. I know that is difficult when a colleague is causing so much trouble but you can tie yourself up in knots constantly trying to get the upper hand over her. If her lies are really libelous then record every complaint she makes should you need it for future reference. Very often the people who claim to have the perfect life are deeply insecure about losing their job and try to get the lies in first before they are found out themselves. In any case like this, your bosses will tire of her and see her for what she is trying to do.
What to do? My advice to you would be to try to get to know the lady a little better and find out why she is like this. My wife and i have both worked with people like this and it is often the way that they are insecure about their position in the company, often fearing losing their job so feel the need to protect the job in the only way they know how. She may be suffering at home in a way of domestic violence or just extreme insecurity and her job may be her reason for living. I know that is difficult when a colleague is causing so much trouble but you can tie yourself up in knots constantly trying to get the upper hand over her. If her lies are really libelous then record every complaint she makes should you need it for future reference. Very often the people who claim to have the perfect life are deeply insecure about losing their job and try to get the lies in first before they are found out themselves. In any case like this, your bosses will tire of her and see her for what she is trying to do.
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princessladedah;1225740 wrote: We all know this type, unfortunately I am not speaking about a child, but a 54 year old women, who stirs up crap between co-workers, and lies to each of them to see them go at each other and file false complaints, to get the other fired, this has gone on for 5 years, and corporate beleives her.
What to do? Do the rest of them not see it? Is she in the midst of it or sitting back watching and enjoying the fruits of her labor? I would think that if this has been going unchecked for five years, she's either related to someone at corporate or co-workers are just looking for a reason to fight with each other. I can't imagine that folks are mentioning her name time and again and upper management would be in the dark.
mrsK;1225881 wrote: Ignore,Ignore,Ignore it hurts the bully,they hate it;)
Be sure to give her a big smile everyday as well,won't like that either:sneaky:
This works beautifully as an adult, I've found. The nicer you are to an idiot, the more determined they are to get you . Eventually, everyone around you sees that you are just being helpful and above it all... drives the idiot nuts.:-6
I'm only like that with folks who'd like to pick on me though... :-6
Peter Lake;1226262 wrote: I would imagine that most people would find that action quite disgusting and an act that could have had an opposite effect in bringing your brother more problems.
To antagonise a bully further and resort to the very same methods that they dish out is futile and makes you no better than the bully, in fact, worse. Your action could be seen by some as nothing short of premeditated assault and a desire to humiliate.
Having worked as a primary school caretaker in my retirement, i have witnessed a great deal of bullying amongst the children. It seems to always be the way that once you delve into the background of a bully, they are suffering from no more than insecurity. To inflict such a humiliating act on a bully is only more fuel to that insecurity. Far better to try to understand the child that is the bully and offer support and understanding rather than such inane acts. Once a bully is offered kindness and understanding they generally find their way. You may have stopped your brother being bullyed further but i am in no doubt from my experience that the bully only moved on to another child.
Hah! Get real.. I was known as Cassius Clay around these parts..:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl
Anyone made the mistake of picking on my little brother or little sister would have welcomed a simple plate of cold food on their head or lap.
The only thing I every needed to know about a blullys background was whether they were right or left handed and how much they weighed so I'd have an idea how much I would hurt the next day..:p
What to do? Do the rest of them not see it? Is she in the midst of it or sitting back watching and enjoying the fruits of her labor? I would think that if this has been going unchecked for five years, she's either related to someone at corporate or co-workers are just looking for a reason to fight with each other. I can't imagine that folks are mentioning her name time and again and upper management would be in the dark.
mrsK;1225881 wrote: Ignore,Ignore,Ignore it hurts the bully,they hate it;)
Be sure to give her a big smile everyday as well,won't like that either:sneaky:
This works beautifully as an adult, I've found. The nicer you are to an idiot, the more determined they are to get you . Eventually, everyone around you sees that you are just being helpful and above it all... drives the idiot nuts.:-6
I'm only like that with folks who'd like to pick on me though... :-6
Peter Lake;1226262 wrote: I would imagine that most people would find that action quite disgusting and an act that could have had an opposite effect in bringing your brother more problems.
To antagonise a bully further and resort to the very same methods that they dish out is futile and makes you no better than the bully, in fact, worse. Your action could be seen by some as nothing short of premeditated assault and a desire to humiliate.
Having worked as a primary school caretaker in my retirement, i have witnessed a great deal of bullying amongst the children. It seems to always be the way that once you delve into the background of a bully, they are suffering from no more than insecurity. To inflict such a humiliating act on a bully is only more fuel to that insecurity. Far better to try to understand the child that is the bully and offer support and understanding rather than such inane acts. Once a bully is offered kindness and understanding they generally find their way. You may have stopped your brother being bullyed further but i am in no doubt from my experience that the bully only moved on to another child.
Hah! Get real.. I was known as Cassius Clay around these parts..:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl
Anyone made the mistake of picking on my little brother or little sister would have welcomed a simple plate of cold food on their head or lap.
The only thing I every needed to know about a blullys background was whether they were right or left handed and how much they weighed so I'd have an idea how much I would hurt the next day..:p
I expressly forbid the use of any of my posts anywhere outside of FG (with the exception of the incredibly witty 'get a room already' )posted recently.
Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
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flopstock;1226739 wrote: Do the rest of them not see it? Is she in the midst of it or sitting back watching and enjoying the fruits of her labor? I would think that if this has been going unchecked for five years, she's either related to someone at corporate or co-workers are just looking for a reason to fight with each other. I can't imagine that folks are mentioning her name time and again and upper management would be in the dark.
This works beautifully as an adult, I've found. The nicer you are to an idiot, the more determined they are to get you . Eventually, everyone around you sees that you are just being helpful and above it all... drives the idiot nuts.:-6
I'm only like that with folks who'd like to pick on me though... :-6
Hah! Get real.. I was known as Cassius Clay around these parts..:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl
Anyone made the mistake of picking on my little brother or little sister would have welcomed a simple plate of cold food on their head or lap.
The only thing I every needed to know about a blullys background was whether they were right or left handed and how much they weighed so I'd have an idea how much I would hurt the next day..:p
Absolutely, and believe me i was small in school as was my brother. However he is over 6ft now. No one messed with me in school or come to think of it in any of the places i have worked. I will always stand up for myself and others that cant do it themselves.
This works beautifully as an adult, I've found. The nicer you are to an idiot, the more determined they are to get you . Eventually, everyone around you sees that you are just being helpful and above it all... drives the idiot nuts.:-6
I'm only like that with folks who'd like to pick on me though... :-6
Hah! Get real.. I was known as Cassius Clay around these parts..:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl
Anyone made the mistake of picking on my little brother or little sister would have welcomed a simple plate of cold food on their head or lap.
The only thing I every needed to know about a blullys background was whether they were right or left handed and how much they weighed so I'd have an idea how much I would hurt the next day..:p
Absolutely, and believe me i was small in school as was my brother. However he is over 6ft now. No one messed with me in school or come to think of it in any of the places i have worked. I will always stand up for myself and others that cant do it themselves.
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lou lou belle;1226763 wrote: Absolutely, and believe me i was small in school as was my brother. However he is over 6ft now. No one messed with me in school or come to think of it in any of the places i have worked. I will always stand up for myself and others that cant do it themselves. Yet you scorn upon others that also stand up for others?
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flopstock;1226739 wrote: Do the rest of them not see it? Is she in the midst of it or sitting back watching and enjoying the fruits of her labor? I would think that if this has been going unchecked for five years, she's either related to someone at corporate or co-workers are just looking for a reason to fight with each other. I can't imagine that folks are mentioning her name time and again and upper management would be in the dark.
This works beautifully as an adult, I've found. The nicer you are to an idiot, the more determined they are to get you . Eventually, everyone around you sees that you are just being helpful and above it all... drives the idiot nuts.:-6
I'm only like that with folks who'd like to pick on me though... :-6
Hah! Get real.. I was known as Cassius Clay around these parts..:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl
Anyone made the mistake of picking on my little brother or little sister would have welcomed a simple plate of cold food on their head or lap.
The only thing I every needed to know about a blullys background was whether they were right or left handed and how much they weighed so I'd have an idea how much I would hurt the next day..:p In hindsight you would have come in very handy during my childhood. :wah:
This works beautifully as an adult, I've found. The nicer you are to an idiot, the more determined they are to get you . Eventually, everyone around you sees that you are just being helpful and above it all... drives the idiot nuts.:-6
I'm only like that with folks who'd like to pick on me though... :-6
Hah! Get real.. I was known as Cassius Clay around these parts..:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl
Anyone made the mistake of picking on my little brother or little sister would have welcomed a simple plate of cold food on their head or lap.
The only thing I every needed to know about a blullys background was whether they were right or left handed and how much they weighed so I'd have an idea how much I would hurt the next day..:p In hindsight you would have come in very handy during my childhood. :wah:
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Peter Lake;1226766 wrote: Yet you scorn upon others that also stand up for others?
I threw the beans on a boy older than me and i was all of thirteen.
Somehow i think thats justice. I was a child!!!!! Not an adult.
I never scorn on others that also stand up for others. What are you talking about?
I threw the beans on a boy older than me and i was all of thirteen.
Somehow i think thats justice. I was a child!!!!! Not an adult.
I never scorn on others that also stand up for others. What are you talking about?
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[QUOTE=lou lou belle;1226772]I threw the beans on a boy older than me and i was all of thirteen.
Somehow i think thats justice. I was a child!!!!! Not an adult.
QUOTE] This raises a further question if you were thirteen. You see a thirteen year old as a child and the age as an excuse to carry out a premeditated assault. There will be a trial in the media round april of a fourteen year old child kicking a man to death in the street so is he a child or a cold blooded violent murderer? Will the defence be arguing that he was bullied at school? In this day and age in this country as a police officer, if you were called out after a parent had lodged a complaint for assault to their child, you would be duty bound to arrest and charge at the age of thirteen yet you offer your age as an excuse to assault another child.
Somehow i think thats justice. I was a child!!!!! Not an adult.
QUOTE] This raises a further question if you were thirteen. You see a thirteen year old as a child and the age as an excuse to carry out a premeditated assault. There will be a trial in the media round april of a fourteen year old child kicking a man to death in the street so is he a child or a cold blooded violent murderer? Will the defence be arguing that he was bullied at school? In this day and age in this country as a police officer, if you were called out after a parent had lodged a complaint for assault to their child, you would be duty bound to arrest and charge at the age of thirteen yet you offer your age as an excuse to assault another child.
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Peter Lake;1226778 wrote: [QUOTE=lou lou belle;1226772]I threw the beans on a boy older than me and i was all of thirteen.
Somehow i think thats justice. I was a child!!!!! Not an adult.
QUOTE] This raises a further question if you were thirteen. You see a thirteen year old as a child and the age as an excuse to carry out a premeditated assault. There will be a trial in the media round april of a fourteen year old child kicking a man to death in the street so is he a child or a cold blooded violent murderer? Will the defence be arguing that he was bullied at school? In this day and age in this country as a police officer, if you were called out after a parent had lodged a complaint for assault to their child, you would be duty bound to arrest and charge at the age of thirteen yet you offer your age as an excuse to assault another child.
OMG it was beans Peter, Beans, now move along.... your boring me.:wah:
Somehow i think thats justice. I was a child!!!!! Not an adult.
QUOTE] This raises a further question if you were thirteen. You see a thirteen year old as a child and the age as an excuse to carry out a premeditated assault. There will be a trial in the media round april of a fourteen year old child kicking a man to death in the street so is he a child or a cold blooded violent murderer? Will the defence be arguing that he was bullied at school? In this day and age in this country as a police officer, if you were called out after a parent had lodged a complaint for assault to their child, you would be duty bound to arrest and charge at the age of thirteen yet you offer your age as an excuse to assault another child.
OMG it was beans Peter, Beans
, now move along.... your boring me.:wah:-
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lou lou belle;1226794 wrote: [QUOTE=Peter Lake;1226778]
OMG it was beans Peter, Beans, now move along.... your boring me.:wah: I think you will find that it is common assault in this country and you were lucky the parent did not have you prosecuted. Would you like to answer my question of the fourteen year old about to go on trial for kicking a man to death in the street? Is that excusable due to his young age i wonder?
OMG it was beans Peter, Beans
, now move along.... your boring me.:wah: I think you will find that it is common assault in this country and you were lucky the parent did not have you prosecuted. Would you like to answer my question of the fourteen year old about to go on trial for kicking a man to death in the street? Is that excusable due to his young age i wonder?-
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Peter Lake;1226798 wrote: [QUOTE=lou lou belle;1226794] I think you will find that it is common assault in this country and you were lucky the parent did not have you prosecuted. Would you like to answer my question of the fourteen year old about to go on trial for kicking a man to death in the street? Is that excusable due to his young age i wonder?
The bully's parents did not condone his actions, and he was expelled for his tirade of abuse on my brother.
Justice was served.
The bully's parents did not condone his actions, and he was expelled for his tirade of abuse on my brother.
Justice was served.
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lou lou belle;1226802 wrote: [quote=Peter Lake;1226798]
The bully's parents did not condone his actions, and he was expelled for his tirade of abuse on my brother.
Justice was served.
I NOMAD am the only one who serves the justice around here.
Do NOT challenge my authority.
The bully's parents did not condone his actions, and he was expelled for his tirade of abuse on my brother.
Justice was served.
I NOMAD am the only one who serves the justice around here.
Do NOT challenge my authority.
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Nomad;1226804 wrote: [quote=lou lou belle;1226802]
I NOMAD am the only one who serves the justice around here.
Do NOT challenge my authority.
So i take it your FG's law person? Can i ask do you think justice was served?
I NOMAD am the only one who serves the justice around here.
Do NOT challenge my authority.
So i take it your FG's law person? Can i ask do you think justice was served?
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lou lou belle;1226813 wrote: [QUOTE=Nomad;1226804]
So i take it your FG's law person? Can i ask do you think justice was served? Yes he is Fg's law person. :wah: You'll get used to him in time +++++...... we all did in the end.
So i take it your FG's law person? Can i ask do you think justice was served? Yes he is Fg's law person. :wah: You'll get used to him in time +++++...... we all did in the end.
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oscar;1226816 wrote: [QUOTE=lou lou belle;1226813] Yes he is Fg's law person. :wah: You'll get used to him in time Louise...... we all did in the end.
Urmmm why i are you calling me ++++++confused:
Lou Lou Belle is the name of my cat. :-4
Urmmm why i are you calling me ++++++confused:
Lou Lou Belle is the name of my cat. :-4
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lou lou belle;1226819 wrote: [quote=oscar;1226816]
Urmmm why i are you calling me +++++?
Lou Lou Belle is the name of my cat. :-4
Because your name is +++++ the same as my name is Julie. If you don't like your name being used here then I shall not mention it again, it's no big deal and in fact, my post to your reply to Nomad was not offensive in the least so I don't know why you are responding so defensively.
Oscar is the name of my cat :-4
Urmmm why i are you calling me +++++?
Lou Lou Belle is the name of my cat. :-4
Because your name is +++++ the same as my name is Julie. If you don't like your name being used here then I shall not mention it again, it's no big deal and in fact, my post to your reply to Nomad was not offensive in the least so I don't know why you are responding so defensively.
Oscar is the name of my cat :-4
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lou lou belle;1226813 wrote: [quote=Nomad;1226804]
So i take it your FG's law person? Can i ask do you think justice was served?
Yes that is correct.
I will present a ruling after I feed the cat.
And I have to return a DVD.
In the future please refrain from rushing my decisions.
Nomads rulings dont grow on trees. They must be thoughtfully considered and weighed.
Also it doesnt hurt if the parties involved cater to Nomads whims in order to receive a favorable determination.
So i take it your FG's law person? Can i ask do you think justice was served?
Yes that is correct.
I will present a ruling after I feed the cat.
And I have to return a DVD.
In the future please refrain from rushing my decisions.
Nomads rulings dont grow on trees. They must be thoughtfully considered and weighed.
Also it doesnt hurt if the parties involved cater to Nomads whims in order to receive a favorable determination.
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Nomad;1226832 wrote: [quote=lou lou belle;1226813]
Yes that is correct.
I will present a ruling after I feed the cat.
And I have to return a DVD.
In the future please refrain from rushing my decisions.
Nomads rulings dont grow on trees. They must be thoughtfully considered and weighed.
Also it doesnt hurt if the parties involved cater to Nomads whims in order to receive a favorable determination. God, how I love you :-4:-4:-4:-4
Yes that is correct.
I will present a ruling after I feed the cat.
And I have to return a DVD.
In the future please refrain from rushing my decisions.
Nomads rulings dont grow on trees. They must be thoughtfully considered and weighed.
Also it doesnt hurt if the parties involved cater to Nomads whims in order to receive a favorable determination. God, how I love you :-4:-4:-4:-4
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Nomad;1226832 wrote: [quote=lou lou belle;1226813]
Yes that is correct.
I will present a ruling after I feed the cat.
And I have to return a DVD.
In the future please refrain from rushing my decisions.
Nomads rulings dont grow on trees. They must be thoughtfully considered and weighed.
Also it doesnt hurt if the parties involved cater to Nomads whims in order to receive a favorable determination.
Knocking you upside the head helps sometimes too, I've found..:yh_rotfl
Yes that is correct.
I will present a ruling after I feed the cat.
And I have to return a DVD.
In the future please refrain from rushing my decisions.
Nomads rulings dont grow on trees. They must be thoughtfully considered and weighed.
Also it doesnt hurt if the parties involved cater to Nomads whims in order to receive a favorable determination.
Knocking you upside the head helps sometimes too, I've found..
:yh_rotflI expressly forbid the use of any of my posts anywhere outside of FG (with the exception of the incredibly witty 'get a room already' )posted recently.
Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
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Nomad;1226832 wrote: [quote=lou lou belle;1226813]
Yes that is correct.
I will present a ruling after I feed the cat.
And I have to return a DVD.
In the future please refrain from rushing my decisions.
Nomads rulings dont grow on trees. They must be thoughtfully considered and weighed.
Also it doesnt hurt if the parties involved cater to Nomads whims in order to receive a favorable determination.
yes sir, right away sir.
what would you like oh master?
Yes that is correct.
I will present a ruling after I feed the cat.
And I have to return a DVD.
In the future please refrain from rushing my decisions.
Nomads rulings dont grow on trees. They must be thoughtfully considered and weighed.
Also it doesnt hurt if the parties involved cater to Nomads whims in order to receive a favorable determination.
yes sir, right away sir.
what would you like oh master?
Life is just to short for drama.
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flopstock;1226841 wrote: [quote=Nomad;1226832]
Knocking you upside the head helps sometimes too, I've found..:yh_rotfl
You are dangerously close to becoming an enemy of the monarchy.
I suggest you retreat from amusing yourself while your standing is still intact.
Knocking you upside the head helps sometimes too, I've found..
:yh_rotflYou are dangerously close to becoming an enemy of the monarchy.
I suggest you retreat from amusing yourself while your standing is still intact.
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Odie;1226853 wrote: [quote=Nomad;1226832]
yes sir, right away sir.
what would you like oh master?
Toast with crunchy peanut butter.
yes sir, right away sir.
what would you like oh master?
Toast with crunchy peanut butter.
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Nomad;1226859 wrote: [quote=Odie;1226853]
Toast with crunchy peanut butter.
oh sorry, only smooth here.
Toast with crunchy peanut butter.
oh sorry, only smooth here.
Life is just to short for drama.
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Odie;1226861 wrote: [quote=Nomad;1226859]
oh sorry, only smooth here.
Vacate yourself from the Kingdom by sundown peasant.
oh sorry, only smooth here.
Vacate yourself from the Kingdom by sundown peasant.
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Nomad;1226871 wrote: [quote=Odie;1226861]
Vacate yourself from the Kingdom by sundown peasant. You've been gone a while.... Did you get held up at the DVD store?
Vacate yourself from the Kingdom by sundown peasant. You've been gone a while.... Did you get held up at the DVD store?
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Nomad;1226871 wrote: [quote=Odie;1226861]
Vacate yourself from the Kingdom by sundown peasant.
my time or yours?
Vacate yourself from the Kingdom by sundown peasant.
my time or yours?
Life is just to short for drama.
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Odie;1227067 wrote: [quote=Nomad;1226871]
my time or yours?
Ive decided to give you a reprieve and allow you the opportunity to redeem yourself.
my time or yours?
Ive decided to give you a reprieve and allow you the opportunity to redeem yourself.
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Nomad;1227069 wrote: [quote=Odie;1227067]
Ive decided to give you a reprieve and allow you the opportunity to redeem yourself.
oh thank you kind Master of Forumgarden, thou shall run quickly and buy crunchy peanut butter, don't wait up.
Ive decided to give you a reprieve and allow you the opportunity to redeem yourself.
oh thank you kind Master of Forumgarden, thou shall run quickly and buy crunchy peanut butter, don't wait up.
Life is just to short for drama.
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Odie;1227074 wrote: [quote=Nomad;1227069]
oh thank you kind Master of Forumgarden, thou shall run quickly and buy crunchy peanut butter, don't wait up.
On pumpernikel please, thank you Oddy.
oh thank you kind Master of Forumgarden, thou shall run quickly and buy crunchy peanut butter, don't wait up.
On pumpernikel please, thank you Oddy.
I AM AWESOME MAN
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Nomad;1227084 wrote: [quote=Odie;1227074]
On pumpernikel please, thank you Oddy.
of course you majesty, here are two......enjoy.
On pumpernikel please, thank you Oddy.
of course you majesty, here are two......enjoy.
Life is just to short for drama.
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Odie;1227088 wrote: [quote=Nomad;1227084]
of course you majesty, here are two......enjoy.
Where ?
of course you majesty, here are two......enjoy.
Where ?
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lou lou belle;1226641 wrote:
Wrong.... it worked and at least it stopped my brother from being dangled over the railway bridge by his feet. I could go on about the things MY brother endured but i wont, you have to stand up to bullies not allow their behaviour to become worse. I dont buy the you have got to look into the background scenario, thats rubbish. Especially when in previous threads you have commented about teenage YOBS etc.. I did,nt read any simpathy in those threads or anything relating to being supportive and understanding. I think this is a pretty shameful way of trying to have another go at me. Pathetic really.
My brother is the best brother a girl could ask for, he is intelligent, caring and would give his last penny if someone needed it more than him.
I will not allow anyone to take away what was a truly horrific time he endured in school.
I could,nt give a monkeys about the bullies background. What he did was wrong and he needed to be stood up to... i was strong enough to do that.
bravo !!! Just saw this .
Many moons ago when my middle boy was in prep he was being bullied and so were his little friends. (ages 4,5,6, bullied by large 11,12, years olds at school) One of the little fellas had his head buried in sand and another was kicked and ended up with a black eye.
When my eldest found out about it he asked me what I was going to do about it.
I was brought up a little differently than kids today. I swung around and yelled at him .
"WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?!!!" he was quite stunned, but I continued.
" You can go nuts in a canteen to the point where your friends have to hold you back because someone says something about your mother, but you can't stick up for your little Brother?"
Next day he was down at the school, and he stood and waited for his brother but a little out of the way to watch what happened. And on que the bullies started on these three little ones. That's when Joel acted!!! Apparently he asked the little boys what these older kids did to them. His brother said they hit us. So Joel began to hit them. Joel asked did they ever punch you and one of the little boys said "Yes in the back of the head " and showed Joel where. so Joel asked which one? and the kids pointed out which one ...so that one was punched. Joel again asked the boys what these kids did to them but by this time the Bullies knew what was coming and ran off...........little Barstards.
What stunned Joel the most were the two mothers who didn't intervene even when he punced the kid and who clapped him afterwards. And he said he was sure a teacher was standing at a window looking at all what was going on. To this day he swears that teacher winked at him.
Now before anyone says that's not a very good lesson to teach you're kids Well I beg to differ. One thing that stood out that day to my son was not the bullying itself but the faces of the children who he thought looked so scared they looked as though to wet themselves. That touched him. If my son learnt empathy that day then I am proud of him. Lessons come in all shapes and sizes.
what was the outcome?
Needless to say the boys never got picked on again (probably because Joel shouted at the boys that he was coming back tommorow:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl )
Joel became a legend in our estate and little kids sought him out :wah:
and brett saw fit to wait hand and foot on him for a few days afterwards.
but what was really special is Brett told everyone all about what happened at "show and tell" the next day at school and told everyone he loved his big brother......Awwwhhhhh:o
I teach my boys that they look after each other .............I was brought up that way ........nobody picked on us because they soon found out if you pick on one member of the family you're picking on all members of the family.
Wrong.... it worked and at least it stopped my brother from being dangled over the railway bridge by his feet. I could go on about the things MY brother endured but i wont, you have to stand up to bullies not allow their behaviour to become worse. I dont buy the you have got to look into the background scenario, thats rubbish. Especially when in previous threads you have commented about teenage YOBS etc.. I did,nt read any simpathy in those threads or anything relating to being supportive and understanding. I think this is a pretty shameful way of trying to have another go at me. Pathetic really.
My brother is the best brother a girl could ask for, he is intelligent, caring and would give his last penny if someone needed it more than him.
I will not allow anyone to take away what was a truly horrific time he endured in school.
I could,nt give a monkeys about the bullies background. What he did was wrong and he needed to be stood up to... i was strong enough to do that.
bravo !!! Just saw this .
Many moons ago when my middle boy was in prep he was being bullied and so were his little friends. (ages 4,5,6, bullied by large 11,12, years olds at school) One of the little fellas had his head buried in sand and another was kicked and ended up with a black eye.
When my eldest found out about it he asked me what I was going to do about it.
I was brought up a little differently than kids today. I swung around and yelled at him .
"WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?!!!" he was quite stunned, but I continued.
" You can go nuts in a canteen to the point where your friends have to hold you back because someone says something about your mother, but you can't stick up for your little Brother?"
Next day he was down at the school, and he stood and waited for his brother but a little out of the way to watch what happened. And on que the bullies started on these three little ones. That's when Joel acted!!! Apparently he asked the little boys what these older kids did to them. His brother said they hit us. So Joel began to hit them. Joel asked did they ever punch you and one of the little boys said "Yes in the back of the head " and showed Joel where. so Joel asked which one? and the kids pointed out which one ...so that one was punched. Joel again asked the boys what these kids did to them but by this time the Bullies knew what was coming and ran off...........little Barstards.
What stunned Joel the most were the two mothers who didn't intervene even when he punced the kid and who clapped him afterwards. And he said he was sure a teacher was standing at a window looking at all what was going on. To this day he swears that teacher winked at him.
Now before anyone says that's not a very good lesson to teach you're kids Well I beg to differ. One thing that stood out that day to my son was not the bullying itself but the faces of the children who he thought looked so scared they looked as though to wet themselves. That touched him. If my son learnt empathy that day then I am proud of him. Lessons come in all shapes and sizes.
what was the outcome?
Needless to say the boys never got picked on again (probably because Joel shouted at the boys that he was coming back tommorow:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl )
Joel became a legend in our estate and little kids sought him out :wah:
and brett saw fit to wait hand and foot on him for a few days afterwards.
but what was really special is Brett told everyone all about what happened at "show and tell" the next day at school and told everyone he loved his big brother......Awwwhhhhh:o
I teach my boys that they look after each other .............I was brought up that way ........nobody picked on us because they soon found out if you pick on one member of the family you're picking on all members of the family.
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fuzzywuzzy;1227412 wrote: bravo !!! Just saw this .
Many moons ago when my middle boy was in prep he was being bullied and so were his little friends. (ages 4,5,6, bullied by large 11,12, years olds at school) One of the little fellas had his head buried in sand and another was kicked and ended up with a black eye.
When my eldest found out about it he asked me what I was going to do about it.
I was brought up a little differently than kids today. I swung around and yelled at him .
"WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?!!!" he was quite stunned, but I continued.
" You can go nuts in a canteen to the point where your friends have to hold you back because someone says something about your mother, but you can't stick up for your little Brother?"
Next day he was down at the school, and he stood and waited for his brother but a little out of the way to watch what happened. And on que the bullies started on these three little ones. That's when Joel acted!!! Apparently he asked the little boys what these older kids did to them. His brother said they hit us. So Joel began to hit them. Joel asked did they ever punch you and one of the little boys said "Yes in the back of the head " and showed Joel where. so Joel asked which one? and the kids pointed out which one ...so that one was punched. Joel again asked the boys what these kids did to them but by this time the Bullies knew what was coming and ran off...........little Barstards.
What stunned Joel the most were the two mothers who didn't intervene even when he punced the kid and who clapped him afterwards. And he said he was sure a teacher was standing at a window looking at all what was going on. To this day he swears that teacher winked at him.
Now before anyone says that's not a very good lesson to teach you're kids Well I beg to differ. One thing that stood out that day to my son was not the bullying itself but the faces of the children who he thought looked so scared they looked as though to wet themselves. That touched him. If my son learnt empathy that day then I am proud of him. Lessons come in all shapes and sizes.
what was the outcome?
Needless to say the boys never got picked on again (probably because Joel shouted at the boys that he was coming back tommorow:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl )
Joel became a legend in our estate and little kids sought him out :wah:
and brett saw fit to wait hand and foot on him for a few days afterwards.
but what was really special is Brett told everyone all about what happened at "show and tell" the next day at school and told everyone he loved his big brother......Awwwhhhhh:o
I teach my boys that they look after each other .............I was brought up that way ........nobody picked on us because they soon found out if you pick on one member of the family you're picking on all members of the family.
Brilliant reply Fuzzywuzzy. i so agree. Families need to stick together. My brother is a real gentle giant, he would,nt hurt a mouse. I was so fed up with the crap he was getting in school it was awful to watch.
After the beans incident, i was hailed a hero by the older guys in school and my brother remained in school without any further problems.
You have taught your sons well. Family should stick together.
Many moons ago when my middle boy was in prep he was being bullied and so were his little friends. (ages 4,5,6, bullied by large 11,12, years olds at school) One of the little fellas had his head buried in sand and another was kicked and ended up with a black eye.
When my eldest found out about it he asked me what I was going to do about it.
I was brought up a little differently than kids today. I swung around and yelled at him .
"WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?!!!" he was quite stunned, but I continued.
" You can go nuts in a canteen to the point where your friends have to hold you back because someone says something about your mother, but you can't stick up for your little Brother?"
Next day he was down at the school, and he stood and waited for his brother but a little out of the way to watch what happened. And on que the bullies started on these three little ones. That's when Joel acted!!! Apparently he asked the little boys what these older kids did to them. His brother said they hit us. So Joel began to hit them. Joel asked did they ever punch you and one of the little boys said "Yes in the back of the head " and showed Joel where. so Joel asked which one? and the kids pointed out which one ...so that one was punched. Joel again asked the boys what these kids did to them but by this time the Bullies knew what was coming and ran off...........little Barstards.
What stunned Joel the most were the two mothers who didn't intervene even when he punced the kid and who clapped him afterwards. And he said he was sure a teacher was standing at a window looking at all what was going on. To this day he swears that teacher winked at him.
Now before anyone says that's not a very good lesson to teach you're kids Well I beg to differ. One thing that stood out that day to my son was not the bullying itself but the faces of the children who he thought looked so scared they looked as though to wet themselves. That touched him. If my son learnt empathy that day then I am proud of him. Lessons come in all shapes and sizes.
what was the outcome?
Needless to say the boys never got picked on again (probably because Joel shouted at the boys that he was coming back tommorow:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl )
Joel became a legend in our estate and little kids sought him out :wah:
and brett saw fit to wait hand and foot on him for a few days afterwards.
but what was really special is Brett told everyone all about what happened at "show and tell" the next day at school and told everyone he loved his big brother......Awwwhhhhh:o
I teach my boys that they look after each other .............I was brought up that way ........nobody picked on us because they soon found out if you pick on one member of the family you're picking on all members of the family.
Brilliant reply Fuzzywuzzy. i so agree. Families need to stick together. My brother is a real gentle giant, he would,nt hurt a mouse. I was so fed up with the crap he was getting in school it was awful to watch.
After the beans incident, i was hailed a hero by the older guys in school and my brother remained in school without any further problems.
You have taught your sons well. Family should stick together.