Bad Manners

[pinkchick]

I have 2 questions that I'd like to ask.

I can't stand bad manners. I was raised to say please and thank you and always to speak when spoken to.

This has been bugging the life out of me for ages and I'd like to see what you guys think.

When I come into work I always say good morning and ask how everyone is.

My colleagues always respond .... but there is ALWAYS one that doesn't!

This person just looks at you. It drives me completely nuts. I just think it's the height of bad manners. Am I being unreasonable?

Another point ... when I speak to someone face to face I always look them in the eye. Lately I've noticed some people avoid eye contact when speaking and that winds me up no end.

Do you speak when someone speaks to you?

Do you look at someone when talking to them?

[lou lou belle]

pinkchick;1225631 wrote: I have 2 questions that I'd like to ask.

I can't stand bad manners. I was raised to say please and thank you and always to speak when spoken to.

This has been bugging the life out of me for ages and I'd like to see what you guys think.

When I come into work I always say good morning and ask how everyone is.

My colleagues always respond .... but there is ALWAYS one that doesn't!

This person just looks at you. It drives me completely nuts. I just think it's the height of bad manners. Am I being unreasonable?

Another point ... when I speak to someone face to face I always look them in the eye. Lately I've noticed some people avoid eye contact when speaking and that winds me up no end.

Do you speak when someone speaks to you?

Do you look at someone when talking to them?


I hate bad manners, i like it when some one holds the door for you, says thank you when required.

I hate being served by some one who has no regard whether you there or not.

Does not give you eye contact, or is pre-occupied with something else.

Its not nice and i will say something if i feel they are being rude.

Manners maketh the man!

[kazalala]

pinkchick;1225631 wrote: I have 2 questions that I'd like to ask.

I can't stand bad manners. I was raised to say please and thank you and always to speak when spoken to.

This has been bugging the life out of me for ages and I'd like to see what you guys think.

When I come into work I always say good morning and ask how everyone is.

My colleagues always respond .... but there is ALWAYS one that doesn't!

This person just looks at you. It drives me completely nuts. I just think it's the height of bad manners. Am I being unreasonable?

Another point ... when I speak to someone face to face I always look them in the eye. Lately I've noticed some people avoid eye contact when speaking and that winds me up no end.

Do you speak when someone speaks to you?

Do you look at someone when talking to them?
Yes,, and yes!

No you are not being unreasonable that person does not know what good manners are and they are rude in my opinion!,, it takes nothing to even just smile an acknowledgement, good god i say good morning to people i dont even know when out walking the dog etc,, you can usually tell if the other person is going to be receptive or not mind,, but sometimes people say it to me before i say it,, and its great! basic manners make a lot of difference to most people i would say:)

[Lon]

I am of the Old School I guess. I say yes instead of yeah, no instead of ugh, open doors for females etc., walk on the street side with them. It's a generational thing I suspect, with teenagers being the worst culprits. Their conversation is barely intelligible and forget about manners. Good manners will never offend other than clods.

[Bill Sikes]

Lon;1225668 wrote: teenagers being the worst culprits. Their conversation is barely intelligible and forget about manners


I went to lunch with some people a few days ago; there was a teenager there, invited with her mum. She spent most of the time fiddling with her mobile 'phone, texting, reading messages, and all the time it was making noises when the keys were pressed.... this at table. Bloody rude. Her mum didn't say anything about it.

[Oscar Namechange]

Bill Sikes;1225688 wrote: I went to lunch with some people a few days ago; there was a teenager there, invited with her mum. She spent most of the time fiddling with her mobile 'phone, texting, reading messages, and all the time it was making noises when the keys were pressed.... this at table. Bloody rude. Her mum didn't say anything about it.
That's down to bad parenting Bill.

I was interviewed once and the interviewer could not give me eye contact. Just kept looking down at the paper work. Tells me a lot that.

[minks]

Pink I think you are not being unreasonable. I remember having a guest visit me from out east (near Odie's home) and we went to Banff and he liked to shop so I took him into a bunch of the shops. I could not help notice that everytime the transaction was done the staff at the store would say something like have a nice day, or here you go or something nice and he NEVER once said thank you. That struck me as terribly rude... I really thought it was just me... but then again it is kind of a funny thing about us here in Calgary, people say we are known to be so polite we are almost nauseating hmmmm

I raised my girls to say please and thank you and be courteous to everybody.

[princessladedah]

I have one of those at work, I describe her as the playground bully!!!



Causes trouble, then runs to management and lies her ass off, they beleive her,

everyones afraid of her, Ive stood up to her lots, its landed me in trouble

[Oscar Namechange]

princessladedah;1225735 wrote: I have one of those at work, I describe her as the playground bully!!!



Causes trouble, then runs to management and lies her ass off, they beleive her,

everyones afraid of her, Ive stood up to her lots, its landed me in trouble Nice to see you back :-6

Yes, I have met some-one who lies and is known as the local bully. Bide your time as most get rumbled for what they are eventually.

I find the manners in local kids appalling but I don't blame them, I blame the parents. They are not all like that mind, the majority are brilliant.

[gmc]

It's a regional/cultural thing as well. I spend time in touristy areas hillwalking and it's a standing joke when you say hello to someone you meet if they don't answer it's a safe bet they're from the south of england. When I was living down there you would come out the door in the morning you would say hello and they would act as if you weren't there. Northerners` are friendly you can spend half an hour talking to someone from newcastle or birmingham and they chat away quite happily. Standing in a bis queue in glasgow birmingham blackpool and people will strike up a conversation with you. Try starting a conversation on the london tube and people move away as if you are insane. Just seems to be essex and places that are like that.

It's parents as well. Remember the phrase common courtesy?

[Oscar Namechange]

gmc;1225752 wrote: It's a regional/cultural thing as well. I spend time in touristy areas hillwalking and it's a standing joke when you say hello to someone you meet if they don't answer it's a safe bet they're from the south of england. When I was living down there you would come out the door in the morning you would say hello and they would act as if you weren't there. Northerners` are friendly you can spend half an hour talking to someone from newcastle or birmingham and they chat away quite happily. Standing in a bis queue in glasgow birmingham blackpool and people will strike up a conversation with you. Try starting a conversation on the london tube and people move away as if you are insane. Just seems to be essex and places that are like that.

It's parents as well. Remember the phrase common courtesy?
South of England ??? Are you having a swipe at me Auld Yin?

I agree about the tube as I have to admit that if some-one smiles at me on the tube, I change carraiges.

Here, stand at any bus stop and the conversation will start with 'Has the bus come?' very tempting to reply 'Yes, I'm on it now travelling up the motor-way'.

Next will follow the stories of their bad feet, how long they had to wait to see the Dr, when their daughter emigrated finishing with showing you photo's of various grand-children.

I do admit that Northerners are by large more friendly. I love going oup North.

However, if you came across me out walking in the glens, I would give you a cheery hello and smile. It is always the same where ever you go that if you have a dog with you, the whole world will speak to you. In my case, usually to ask if I would mind detatching my dogs teeth from their dogs throat but you still make friends.

[G#Gill]

pinkchick;1225631 wrote: I have 2 questions that I'd like to ask.

I can't stand bad manners. I was raised to say please and thank you and always to speak when spoken to.

This has been bugging the life out of me for ages and I'd like to see what you guys think.

When I come into work I always say good morning and ask how everyone is.

My colleagues always respond .... but there is ALWAYS one that doesn't!

This person just looks at you. It drives me completely nuts. I just think it's the height of bad manners. Am I being unreasonable?

Another point ... when I speak to someone face to face I always look them in the eye. Lately I've noticed some people avoid eye contact when speaking and that winds me up no end.

Do you speak when someone speaks to you?

Do you look at someone when talking to them?


Next time you do this just say good morning to everybody and say 'except ????', (naming the person) and see what happens :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

I do agree that it is very bad manners, also people who keep sunglasses on when there is no need, and talk to you. Eye contact is so important.

I always feel that if somebody doesn't make eye contact, or has 'shifty' eyes, they may not be very trustworthy, or maybe they are just shy, although in my experience it usually turns out that it is the former reason !

[Patsy Warnick]

Pinkchick

Usually if that one at work doesn't respond - or look at you - they usually don't care for you for some reason. - jealous

Body Language is everything.!!

Don't play rude to rude individuals, it'll usually land you in trouble (at work).

Continue to be pleasant

perhaps compliment that rude person occasionally.?

Your the good polite individual - don't let some one pull you into the mud/gutter

attitude.

Unfortunately life has made some people stone cold to any affection, even

good morning, hi, they'll even growl at a Smile.. bitter soles..

Patsy

[along-for-the-ride]

I believe good manners should be a part of your personality. But, sadly, many folks nowadays don't seem to agree.

I was raised to turn my TV off at home when I had visitors.

I was raised to call people ahead of time if I plan to visit them.

I was raised to send a thank you note to anybody who has taken the time to send me a gift or a card.

I was raised to look people in the eye when they are speaking to me and listen to what they are saying.

I was raised to do what I say I am going to do.

I was raised to treat everyone with respect and courtesy.

[Odie]

pinkchick;1225631 wrote: I have 2 questions that I'd like to ask.

I can't stand bad manners. I was raised to say please and thank you and always to speak when spoken to.

This has been bugging the life out of me for ages and I'd like to see what you guys think.

When I come into work I always say good morning and ask how everyone is.

My colleagues always respond .... but there is ALWAYS one that doesn't!

This person just looks at you. It drives me completely nuts. I just think it's the height of bad manners. Am I being unreasonable?

Another point ... when I speak to someone face to face I always look them in the eye. Lately I've noticed some people avoid eye contact when speaking and that winds me up no end.

Do you speak when someone speaks to you?

Do you look at someone when talking to them?


That one person I always found hated work, so had no care in proper

manners.



Its just common with me, to say hello, how are you, or at the end of the day, say, take care........

some people are to shy for that eye to eye contact.....give them time.

[mrsK]

I also like to go into our staff room & say a general "Good Morning "

Most answer back a few don't but that hasn't stopped me from doing the same thing every morning for 5 years;)

I figure the ones who don't answer must be getting sick of my good morning by now;):yh_rotfl

My parents also told me if someone cannot look you in the eye whan they are talking to you then they must have something to hide or they are telling you "porkers";) Unless it is a cultural reason:-6

[Nomad]

Run into a few every day. Sometimes Ill get uppity with them, give them a little lip like "whatever dude" or "Im fine thanks"

I always hope that makes them cry later.

[Kathy Ellen]

Yes, we have people in my area with the same bad manners Rosie...



We have coworkers who walk passed you without saying hello and ignore you when you speak, clerks who throw change back at you and don't even look at you, and neighbors who won't talk to you....



And then there's my relative who yaps all the time, and when you speak, they ignore you and start talking over you.



I think it's just plain ignorance and a control issue on their part.



I try really hard to ignore bad manners and slap myself upside the head when I show bad manners:o

[Clodhopper]

Good manners will never offend other than clods Eh? What did I do?

Pinkie: He's being rude, but there is just a possibility it's because he's shy/insecure. If he's also the person who won't look you in the eye this becomes more possible.

[Odie]

there really is no excuse for bad manners, the ones who have them, I ignore.

better things to do than ask them why they are so rude.

[Peg]

pinkchick;1225631 wrote: I have 2 questions that I'd like to ask.

I can't stand bad manners. I was raised to say please and thank you and always to speak when spoken to.

This has been bugging the life out of me for ages and I'd like to see what you guys think.

When I come into work I always say good morning and ask how everyone is.

My colleagues always respond .... but there is ALWAYS one that doesn't!

This person just looks at you. It drives me completely nuts. I just think it's the height of bad manners. Am I being unreasonable?

Another point ... when I speak to someone face to face I always look them in the eye. Lately I've noticed some people avoid eye contact when speaking and that winds me up no end.

Do you speak when someone speaks to you?

Do you look at someone when talking to them?
I always speak when spoken to and look people in the eye.

Lon;1225668 wrote: I am of the Old School I guess. I say yes instead of yeah, no instead of ugh, open doors for females etc., walk on the street side with them. It's a generational thing I suspect, with teenagers being the worst culprits. Their conversation is barely intelligible and forget about manners. Good manners will never offend other than clods.


Have you ever heard the parents of some of these teenagers? Instead of "Could I please have", you get "gimme". Thank yous are few and far between.

[gmc]

oscar;1225755 wrote: South of England ??? Are you having a swipe at me Auld Yin?

I agree about the tube as I have to admit that if some-one smiles at me on the tube, I change carraiges.

Here, stand at any bus stop and the conversation will start with 'Has the bus come?' very tempting to reply 'Yes, I'm on it now travelling up the motor-way'.

Next will follow the stories of their bad feet, how long they had to wait to see the Dr, when their daughter emigrated finishing with showing you photo's of various grand-children.

I do admit that Northerners are by large more friendly. I love going oup North.

However, if you came across me out walking in the glens, I would give you a cheery hello and smile. It is always the same where ever you go that if you have a dog with you, the whole world will speak to you. In my case, usually to ask if I would mind detatching my dogs teeth from their dogs throat but you still make friends.


No at least not in particular. Having looked up sussex I now realise you are south of london. It just seems to be certain bits of the south east-essex and the like, devon and cornwall are friendly so are somerset. Don't ask me why it just seems to be so. You meet them in the lake district as well-these B_))JJHS that don't bother being civil to anyone.

posted by pinkchick

Another point ... when I speak to someone face to face I always look them in the eye. Lately I've noticed some people avoid eye contact when speaking and that winds me up no end.

Do you speak when someone speaks to you?

Do you look at someone when talking to them?


it's cultural thing. We find it offensive if someone doesn't meet our eye when we talk to them and think it means they are lying-just think of all the idiomatic phrases we use-look him in the eye, spit in his eye, shifty eyed, you catch someone's eye, make eye contact, not bat an eye, see eye to eye, make sheeps' eyes at someone, look at people the wrong way, a side glance look askance. It's a challenge to a fight in some circumstances.

It's also a power play. If you talk to someone and they don't look to you they are treating what you say as inconsequential (or they didn't hear you). If you walk in and talk to your boss and he doesn't look up or at you then they're not listening. The thing to do is stop talking until they look up. If you are talking to someone and they look away it's often a sign they are not listening-stop talking until they are. If you watch people at parties or social gatherings you will see what I mean. When someone is interested they use long eye contact-if they're not they use short glances opt just look away. You get uncomfortable in situations where you can't read the body language-usually without realising what the problem is- just as someone standing too close-unless you on the tube or something like that-can put the hackles up.

[kazalala]

gmc;1226157 wrote: No at least not in particular. Having looked up sussex I now realise you are south of london. It just seems to be certain bits of the south east-essex and the like, devon and cornwall are friendly so are somerset. Don't ask me why it just seems to be so. You meet them in the lake district as well-these B_))JJHS that don't bother being civil to anyone.



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I agree:)