Has anyone ever demanded that you make a public apology?

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:06 am

Have you ever been in a situation where you behaved so badly, you were told you had to make a public apology to the people you have offended?

Maybe your boss has asked you to apologise to work colleagues or has some-one had to apologise to you?

Has some-one's behaviour been so disgusting that you refused their apology?

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:26 am

Nope, although I am waiting for the grandmother of one of my students to make her apology to me-she screamed and yelled and threatened me in front of other teachers for 15-20 minutes they let this go on, said she would apologize if she was wrong about her granddaughter. Well guess what, she was. As soon as that student was put into another class, she was suspended within 3 weeks. Did I receive an apology? No. Guess who's on my class list for next year!:mad:

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:30 am

chonsigirl;1225518 wrote: Nope, although I am waiting for the grandmother of one of my students to make her apology to me-she screamed and yelled and threatened me in front of other teachers for 15-20 minutes they let this go on, said she would apologize if she was wrong about her granddaughter. Well guess what, she was. As soon as that student was put into another class, she was suspended within 3 weeks. Did I receive an apology? No. Guess who's on my class list for next year!:mad: Threatened you??? That's terrible Chons. you don't need that in your job do you?

I had an apology very recently by formal letter and we were tempted to frame it and put it on the wall:wah:

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:35 am

No, I don't need it in my job, but I need the job. I am going to ask when I return in a few weeks that her class be changed.

7 more years. I am so restricted by the home situation I cannot go elsewhere, I turned down an offer for an interview at a nice private college here last week. I need the normal retirement without a job change right now, will take a small position somewhere in a quiet little college for a class or two when I retire. (or the Smithsonian one, that would be a lovely place to putter fora decade or so, small pay wouldn't matter, I would have a pension already) That one I think of alot, it will make the decision whether to return to L.A. or not, and probably I would opt for family.

Oh, back on topic about apologies.....................

hoppy · Post by **hoppy** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:35 am

Yeah, in my younger days. These days, I don't have to apologize anymore. I blame my bad behaviour on my age. Most of the time, it works.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:36 am

oscar;1225512 wrote: Have you ever been in a situation where you behaved so badly, you were told you had to make a public apology to the people you have offended?

Maybe your boss has asked you to apologise to work colleagues or has some-one had to apologise to you?

Has some-one's behaviour been so disgusting that you refused their apology?

I try to treat people the way I want to be treated so no, I've never been in the situation where I was asked to make a public apology. If I thought an apology was deserved, I would though.

There is one person that if he apologized, I'd tell him to eat sh!t and die. :wah:

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:47 am

nope not yet but there is some one who should.....:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:49 am

el guapo;1225529 wrote: nope not yet but there is some one who should.....:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Oh Jesse........ I'll do it here as well as e mail you. I apologise dearly if i offended you in any way. You are one of the sweetest guys i know and would not hurt you intentionally for the world. xxxxx

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 6:10 am

chonsigirl;1225524 wrote: No, I don't need it in my job, but I need the job. I am going to ask when I return in a few weeks that her class be changed.

7 more years. I am so restricted by the home situation I cannot go elsewhere, I turned down an offer for an interview at a nice private college here last week. I need the normal retirement without a job change right now, will take a small position somewhere in a quiet little college for a class or two when I retire. (or the Smithsonian one, that would be a lovely place to putter fora decade or so, small pay wouldn't matter, I would have a pension already) That one I think of alot, it will make the decision whether to return to L.A. or not, and probably I would opt for family.

Oh, back on topic about apologies.....................
Yes, family comes first always. I used to be very money minded, always chasing targets but after our illnesses, it puts life into perspective now although I am on the brink of, let's say, a major career change which is going to be very exciting.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 6:11 am

Peg;1225527 wrote: I try to treat people the way I want to be treated so no, I've never been in the situation where I was asked to make a public apology. If I thought an apology was deserved, I would though.

There is one person that if he apologized, I'd tell him to eat sh!t and die. :wah: Your bang on the nail there peg. If some-one is agressive, patronising or condescending, I tend to give as good back. If folk are nice and polite, I'm a sweetie with them.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 6:14 am

hoppy;1225525 wrote: Yeah, in my younger days. These days, I don't have to apologize anymore. I blame my bad behaviour on my age. Most of the time, it works.

We all screw up Hops but the difference is being man enough to face up to it and apologise. Sometimes we don't realise that we have offended some-one until they point it out. then there are others who know what an arsse=hole they are but just make excuses.

I'm getting older now so I'll use your excuse :wah: My husband has been using it for years:wah:

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 8:52 am

My behavior has always been above reproach and impeccable therefore never requiring any form of apology.

hoppy · Post by **hoppy** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 8:55 am

For some reason, I almost believe you.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 8:59 am

Peg;1225527 wrote: I try to treat people the way I want to be treated so no, I've never been in the situation where I was asked to make a public apology. If I thought an apology was deserved, I would though.

There is one person that if he apologized, I'd tell him to eat sh!t and die. :wah:

me too:( otherwise i would accept any sincere apology, one without a BUT on the end:wah:

I have never ben asked to make a public apology

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 9:02 am

kazalala;1225689 wrote: me too:( otherwise i would accept any sincere apology, one without a BUT on the end:wah:

I have never ben asked to make a public apology

No nor have I but I think I'd be humiliated beyond words if I was told to.

I have had to apologise on here before when I've been wrong but not Publically.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 9:03 am

Lon;1225680 wrote: My behavior has always been above reproach and impeccable therefore never requiring any form of apology.

I find that post extremely offensive Lon and I demand an apology.

princessladedah · Post by **princessladedah** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 10:15 am

about 10 years ago a patient lied and said I said some horrid thing to her sister, I never did, anyhow, boss marches me right infront of her and says "just apologize"

I said "No, I didnt say it, writer me up, fire me, I dont care" That would be saying I did it!!!!!

I went back to my computer and thats all there was to it.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 10:19 am

princessladedah;1225738 wrote: about 10 years ago a patient lied and said I said some horrid thing to her sister, I never did, anyhow, boss marches me right infront of her and says "just apologize"

I said "No, I didnt say it, writer me up, fire me, I dont care" That would be saying I did it!!!!!

I went back to my computer and thats all there was to it.
Good for you !!! I will always apologise if it's warrented or I have offended some-one un-intentionally but I will not just apologise to make some-one feel good or to make the situation go away.

When bosses demanded you apologise, It's usually nothing more than a public relations exercise and the apology is not heart-felt in the slightest.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 3:20 pm

I publicly apologize but no one has ever asked me to publicly apologize for anything. Sorry.

:D

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 3:40 pm

along-for-the-ride;1225910 wrote: I publicly apologize but no one has ever asked me to publicly apologize for anything. Sorry.

:D Do you know what? I have just remembered something! I did have to publicly apologise once and I totally forgot about It. When I was about 8 yrs old I decided to take my mum home some flowers. Problem was I picked them out of some-one's garden. My dad marched me round there trembling and made me apologise to the neighbour and then he gave them my pocket money

-1 I never did it again :wah:

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 4:18 pm

My dad marched me around to a womans house to apologise until he got the same tirade I got when I broke the bottle ......I didn't get to apologise and dad sent me home so he could give her a serve back.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 6:50 pm

Mainly everyone else owes me apologies. If I dont get one in a timely manner I start their house on fire.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 8:18 pm

Nomad;1226013 wrote: Mainly everyone else owes me apologies. If I dont get one in a timely manner I start their house on fire.

I'm sorry Nomad.

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Wed Aug 05, 2009 10:19 pm

I'm not!!!!

Clodhopper · Post by **Clodhopper** » Thu Aug 06, 2009 6:44 am

Had a situation a few months ago where a friend misunderstood my reaction to his story, blew a fuse bigtime and vanished in a cloud of profanity. Then I got an email from him demanding an apology that would be, in effect, public. Since I felt I was the injured innocent in the case I was very upset and angry, but after I cooled down and chatted to a mutual friend I apologised to him for upsetting him and he then spontaneously apologised to me for misunderstanding and over-reacting.

Issue resolved.

As the mutual friend said, pride is a sin.