A word of advice anyone?

strongirl56 · Post by **strongirl56** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 9:20 pm

I've met this guy online a while back and we've never met. He's in a financial crisis right now and he has asked me to loan him some money. According to him, he's completely broke because he's lost his life savings gambling it all away. I don't like him gambling, smoking and drinking, he has all three of the five bad habits that I don't want in a guy. But there's also a part of him that I've come to like just like James sigh. I agreed but now I'm beginning to have second thoughts. I'm one of the people who trusts people way too easily and I have been hurt before because I trust people way too easily. I can load him some money but I also know that I will have a super hard and difficult time asking him to pay me back. I think I trust him enough to loan him the money. I also know that if I do loan him the money, it's a really risky thing to do. If I do loan him the money how do I know that he'll pay me back for sure? But how do I know for sure? We're supposed to be friends and he thinks of me as his girlfriend. He says he can't wait to see me and ask me out on a date, he's currently in new york right now, living with one of his friends. Lately he doesn't have a phone so the only way he could call me is for him to use his friend's phone and he has call me. Sometimes I could call him too hoping that he would pick up the phone. Other times we would just email each other. I don't know what kind of relationship that I'm having with him right now. Any suggestions anyone? Word of advice maybe?

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sat Oct 18, 2008 9:26 pm

Yeah. Don't give him any money unless you're sure you won't care when you never see it again.

There are men (and maybe women) like this everywhere including online. He'll use up your money just like that of everyone else he's conned. hhe may even have other "online girlfriends" that he's giving the same sob story to.

No, this guy isn't like James. Nobody is. So just accept that before it causes you more grief by making you think this other dude is special servings.

What I really want to say, hopefully without offending you, is "don't be prey to a sucker." Say no, you can't loan him any money. Then see if he changes his tune about you.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 12:11 am

strongirl56;1026333 wrote: I've met this guy online a while back and we've never met. He's in a financial crisis right now and he has asked me to loan him some money. According to him, he's completely broke because he's lost his life savings gambling it all away. I don't like him gambling, smoking and drinking, he has all three of the five bad habits that I don't want in a guy Oh for christs sake!

Did you really need to ask? :rolleyes:

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 12:28 am

Don't even go back on to the website you met him on.

Milly · Post by **Milly** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 12:59 am

The guy has told you he has a problem... if you really want to help him - Do not give him any money!

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 3:43 am

Like everyone else said here, leave it. Don't contact him again or allow him to contact you. Its an extremely unwise idea to talk to him again.

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 6:48 am

If he's on this site and asking you for money, report him. If he's on another site, I would imagine they would appreciate the same heads up.

Have you ever considered associating yourself with normal guys? Just another avenue to explore:rolleyes:... I've been considering it myself some lately...

:D

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 6:58 am

flopstock;1026643 wrote: Have you ever considered associating yourself with normal guys? Just another avenue to explore:rolleyes:... I've been considering it myself some lately...

:D

Normalcy, what is it ?

No I mean really...what is it ?

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 8:47 am

Good advice here, stronggirl. If you are really not sure if you should send him money or not, it's time to look at yourself. Use common sense. Sorry, if I seem a bit hard, but there should be no conflict in your mind whatsoever.

On the world-wide-web super-highway, always proceed with caution.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 8:55 am

First do this.

1. Report him

2. Don't go back to the site.

Ask yourself these questions??

3. Why would you send money to someone you haven't seen face to face? even then don't do it.

4. Why is he spending hours online begging for money when he could be out working to make up what he threw away gambling?

5. Do you have money you never want to see again, because you will never see the money you give him again, much less hear from him again?

HE IS A CON RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN IN THE OTHER DIRECTION.

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 9:33 am

give him nothing

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 10:17 am

You must be out of your mind. You set yourself up to be the perfect victim.:-5

QUINNSCOMMENTARY · Post by **QUINNSCOMMENTARY** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 10:44 am

Either this post is a joke or you just like to let other people know how dumb some people can be, did you take a mortgage recently with a payment equal to 95% of your gross income? Stop making excuses that you are just a person who can't say no or you "can't" ask for the money back. Of course, you can, but your chances of getting it are non existent.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 12:59 pm

strongirl56;1026333 wrote: I've met this guy online a while back and we've never met. He's in a financial crisis right now and he has asked me to loan him some money. According to him, he's completely broke because he's lost his life savings gambling it all away. I don't like him gambling, smoking and drinking, he has all three of the five bad habits that I don't want in a guy. But there's also a part of him that I've come to like just like James sigh. I agreed but now I'm beginning to have second thoughts. I'm one of the people who trusts people way too easily and I have been hurt before because I trust people way too easily. I can load him some money but I also know that I will have a super hard and difficult time asking him to pay me back. I think I trust him enough to loan him the money. I also know that if I do loan him the money, it's a really risky thing to do. If I do loan him the money how do I know that he'll pay me back for sure? But how do I know for sure? We're supposed to be friends and he thinks of me as his girlfriend. He says he can't wait to see me and ask me out on a date, he's currently in new york right now, living with one of his friends. Lately he doesn't have a phone so the only way he could call me is for him to use his friend's phone and he has call me. Sometimes I could call him too hoping that he would pick up the phone. Other times we would just email each other. I don't know what kind of relationship that I'm having with him right now. Any suggestions anyone? Word of advice maybe?

you agreed? c'mon, can you not see what is going on here? He is playing you......I don't care what he might say, next you will be meeting him and possibly he will kill you or threaten you for more......these are cyber predators........wake up, call it quits completely.........now!:-5

TheNewDG · Post by **TheNewDG** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 1:40 pm

QUINNSCOMMENTARY;1027077 wrote: Either this post is a joke or you just like to let other people know how dumb some people can be, did you take a mortgage recently with a payment equal to 95% of your gross income? Stop making excuses that you are just a person who can't say no or you "can't" ask for the money back. Of course, you can, but your chances of getting it are non existent.

I was thinking the same thing. THis post has to be joke...

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 3:56 pm

Oh, C'mon - your just wanting to make a heap of trouble for yourself.

Are you a DART BOARD? then don't make yourself one.:-5

this is a JOKE right.??

Well, hell - you have money, here's my address..

Hope school is going well, and your job - hadn't seen here for awhile

so I worried.

Patsy

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 4:55 pm

How long will this joke go on I wonder:-3

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 5:46 pm

sad part of it, shes not joking!

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 10:24 pm

Run,run,run & never look back.:-6

Post by **spot** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 10:59 pm

Odie;1027641 wrote: sad part of it, shes not joking!What reason have you for thinking strongirl56 is female, Odie?

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 11:43 pm

Strongirl

This guy asking for a Loan,, the same guy your talking about in that thread you started "can't take it anymore"..? And your upset with the drinking, smoking, gambling, hanging out attitude..?

DART BOARD..? RUN

Spot - she refers to herself as Female?

Good luck Girl

Patsy

Post by **spot** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 12:33 am

Patsy Warnick;1027758 wrote: Spot - she refers to herself as Female?That's it?

So do half the joke-players on the Internet who aren't. I wondered whether anyone had a good reason to, that's all. She doesn't sound like one in the slightest.

This is the second time I've called fake on someone. I was wrong last time. It took less than twelve hours to convincingly demonstrate and wow, did I look stupid.

Post by **spot** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 3:03 pm

spot strikes a match in the pitch-dark thread, hears scrabbling claws and panicked squeaks, then sees dozens of eyes reflect the glow from behind overturned barrels, cobwebbed cupboards, cracked skirting and drifting dust-motes

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sun Nov 02, 2008 4:36 pm

RUN!!!!! as fast and as far as you possibly can!!!!

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Mon Nov 03, 2008 2:06 am

Jester;1027582 wrote: ahahahahaa sure, go online to a legal forum and download a fianincal agreement contract, ask him for his home address so you can send it to him for a sginature and ask him for a bank account number to wire the money to.

Then sit back and watch his reaction. Then you can play him for a while instead of him playing you.

Or better yet, tell him your father the 'US Marshal' will bring him the money, then pm me his address and I'll go pay him a visit!:wah:

Jester, i'm having trouble with a particular person. I couldn't borrow you for a few days could i?? My little gunslinger.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Mon Nov 03, 2008 2:09 am

Tell him there's a dead cert running in the 2.30 at Cheltenham. It's going to win so if he lends you £5,000 for your bet, you'll split the winnings with him.

If you are for real........ then your the reason men think us women are dumb.