Should You Be Nice To People Who Are Not Nice To You?

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 5:02 pm

Odie;1028616 wrote: there are good and bad on any forum and alot of crap does go on, what I hate is the allowing of forwarding pm's to other friends, and some here do that out of spite and sheer enjoyment, meanwhile you have no idea who is forwarding what you say to others, pm's are that, 'private messages' and should never be forwarded unless its to a mod to report it.......but that is my opinion, sometimes it can be safer to get an email address, but those can always be forwarded.

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That's a point Odie, i wish you hadn't given my private e mail address to that Sarah Palin....... I can't get rid of her now :wah::wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 5:04 pm

Carolly;1028686 wrote: Cleared the mess up fanks:D:driving:

I noticed you had 1/2 of the cake?:sneaky:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 5:05 pm

oscar;1028732 wrote: That's a point Odie, i wish you hadn't given my private e mail address to that Sarah Palin....... I can't get rid of her now :wah::wah:

you found out? damn, it was to be a secret!:wah:

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 5:06 pm

I go on some Forums for a certain rock band i shall be seeing wednesday night, OMG, i'm so excited :-4:-4:-4

Anyway, they are FAN clubs and forums. I then see idiots posting critisism of them, quite harshly in some cases. Do they register and post merely to wind the real fans up? I can't tell. What's the point of doing that?? They wouldn't dare go to one of their gigs and do it to the fans faces. :-5

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Mon Oct 20, 2008 5:10 pm

Odie;1028734 wrote: you found out? damn, it was to be a secret!:wah:

She wants my advice on how to get rid of some old guy :wah::wah:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 1:47 am

Odie;1028733 wrote: I noticed you had 1/2 of the cake?:sneaky:Na the Mad Oz nicked it;)

:D:rolleyes:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 1:57 am

oscar;1028736 wrote: I go on some Forums for a certain rock band i shall be seeing wednesday night, OMG, i'm so excited :-4:-4:-4

Anyway, they are FAN clubs and forums. I then see idiots posting critisism of them, quite harshly in some cases. Do they register and post merely to wind the real fans up? I can't tell. What's the point of doing that?? They wouldn't dare go to one of their gigs and do it to the fans faces. :-5Its because many of those people are cowards......plain and simple....of course they can sit at their pc and be as nasty as much as they like to.........to whom they like as they cant be seen.In the RW these people would not say Boo to a Goose as there wimps and know away from their safe PC they are no match for the ones they love doing those things to that you have mentioned.Ok we all moan and groan online at times about someone or something and its all part of Cyber life and thats healthy but to be online just to upset folk is just plain sick.

kayleneaussie · Post by **kayleneaussie** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 2:03 am

Carolly;1028900 wrote: Na the Mad Oz nicked it;)

:D:rolleyes:

:yh_liar:yh_liar:yh_liar

conascot · Post by **conascot** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 9:32 am

Odie wrote: there are good and bad on any forum and alot of crap does go on, what I hate is the allowing of forwarding pm's to other friends, and some here do that out of spite and sheer enjoyment, meanwhile you have no idea who is forwarding what you say to others, pm's are that, 'private messages' and should never be forwarded unless its to a mod to report it.......but that is my opinion, sometimes it can be safer to get an email address, but those can always be forwarded.

Thanks for the heads up everyone.

Especially the above; I stupidly wasn't aware of this nasty habit some might have.

I take people at face value usually until shown otherwise. Here though since we can't read people's facial expressions alot of caution is needed, to state the obvious. First day posting here the ugly reared its head right off the bat (I think most here are nice though.)

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 9:59 am

conascot;1029452 wrote: Thanks for the heads up everyone.

Especially the above; I stupidly wasn't aware of this nasty habit some might have.

I take people at face value usually until shown otherwise. Here though since we can't read people's facial expressions alot of caution is needed, to state the obvious. First day posting here the ugly reared its head right off the bat (I think most here are nice though.)

not at all nice on your first day, but depends what you brought up or said..........most of us are honest, caring, fun to be with and people you can trust, and hey welcome!

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:12 am

I have always heard "KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS" Now that i am older. HAH! why waste my time and effort on someone. who has no regards on anyone's feelings. So this person had a rough childhood. A Lot people did. No excuse:mad:

conascot · Post by **conascot** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:43 am

Odie;1029528 wrote: not at all nice on your first day, but depends what you brought up or said..........most of us are honest, caring, fun to be with and people you can trust, and hey welcome!

:-6 I agree! I don't believe I said anything wrong on first day..but if I did, I apologize.. Thanks for welcome:):

Milly · Post by **Milly** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:53 am

conascot;1029452 wrote: I take people at face value usually until shown otherwise. Here though since we can't read people's facial expressions alot of caution is needed, to state the obvious. First day posting here the ugly reared its head right off the bat (I think most here are nice though.)

Sorry you've experienced that here hun.... I've found most here to be a good sort too :-6

I don't think it's a bad thing to take people as you find them... I'm very much that way too.... yeah, sure sometimes you get your fingers burned but on the whole, I'm sure you'll have a heck of a lot more good experiences than you will bad...

And as for PM... well.... if you don't put out the nasties babe, you wont be worried about them coming back to smack you in the face will you hunny

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Treat as you would like to be treated and you can never go far wrong.... :-6

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Oct 21, 2008 10:54 am

Milly;1029658 wrote: Sorry you've experienced that here hun.... I've found most here to be a good sort too :-6

I don't think it's a bad thing to take people as you find them... I'm very much that way too.... yeah, sure sometimes you get your fingers burned but on the whole, I'm sure you'll have a heck of a lot more good experiences than you will bad...

And as for PM... well.... if you don't put out the nasties babe, you wont be worried about them coming back to smack you in the face will you hunny

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Treat as you would like to be treated and you can never go far wrong.... :-6
Right on Milly;):D

Rustyc · Post by **Rustyc** » Fri Aug 24, 2012 4:33 pm

I try to treat people with the same attitude and the same way that I would like to be treated...however, if I someone pokes me in the eye because they're having a bad day, I will get in their space and make them uncomfortable. We live in a larger town on the east coast of Mexico and the attitude here is everyone for themselves, coming from Canada... lol well, we're still adjusting. I know it's small to some...but in a crowded supermarket, I hate nasty people who leave a full shopping cart in the middle of the aisle and walk away from it...if I see who it is... they get it pushed into the back of their legs or I tell them to move it they're not the only ones in here... I know it's awful...but.... I think it's just ignorant.

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Fri Aug 24, 2012 5:05 pm

It was interesting reading this thread and seeing some of the not so pleasant members claiming that they're 'always nice' when I've seen them act like complete assholes in here.

I'd rather have someone just talk to me in a polite, reasonable manner than try to be fake charming.

Rustyc · Post by **Rustyc** » Fri Aug 24, 2012 5:15 pm

I agree! I worked with a boss one time that when they answered the phone they were all nice and drippy etc... but as soon as they hung up...they always has secondary comments to who they were just talking to... like " That's what you think" or "So who do you think you are?" anyway the point is here is, you knew **** well that when she hung up from talking to you, you got the once over as well. Just bad management and bad manners, especially when someone else was in the room who sooner or later had to talk to them.

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Sat Aug 25, 2012 7:07 am

SnoozeAgain;1401938 wrote: It was interesting reading this thread and seeing some of the not so pleasant members claiming that they're 'always nice' when I've seen them act like complete assholes in here.

I'd rather have someone just talk to me in a polite, reasonable manner than try to be fake charming.

I try to avoid being nice to anyone. I hate to raise false expectations.

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Sat Aug 25, 2012 8:26 am

Even the word bugs me. I say "that's nice" more as sarcasm than anything else. But I'm usually polite, so I feel okay about my non-niceness.