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This has probably been posted many times before, but let's do it again...K?;)

No, because some men have higher standards and it goes against what they belive.



Some do for various reasons. Some I belive are drawn in by begining to flirt beliving it to be harmles, but then get drawn in and think they have fallen in love with someone else as the new realtionship has all the love bubbles along with it.

I don't think very many cheat - probably about the same percentage as women. It's a sign of disrespect in the relationship.

I think all men cheat.. They're all perverts.. None of them can keep their eyes in their head when a hot girl walks by. Some men are really disrespectful.

No, not all men cheat. My ex-husband never did.

So many men are runarounds, because they growup with the concept put into their heads, as well as their own desires, to get as many women as they can. They get patted on the back for it. It's a sign of their masculinity. Women are raised with the idea of finding their Prince Charming or one-and-only. It's a wonder how any male-female relationships ever work out, when looking at the picture that way.

But I do believe that men can be just as honest to their marriage commitments as women. After all, people are people, and we can control the way things work and happen in our lives. We don't have to just drop our pants in the heat of passion. We can turn that off. We're not animals, and animals are the ones who won't, don't and can't control their basic instincts. I really don't think men have an excuse for not being able to keep it in their pants. It all depends on their characters, morales, beliefs & values, though.

Just as all women don't cheat, all men don't cheat. Or so the lying bass turds tell me.

Sometimes married men pursue cheating and that's wrong.

Sometimes married men are pursued and cave in, that's wrong too, but oh so hard to deal with.

The answer: No way.

Do some cheat? You bet.

Funny thing is, they always need another woman to cheat with. So who does that woman belong to?

Anyway....

Women need to have high standards and expect as such from their men. If you don't you'll get what you fear.

Lon wrote: Sometimes married men pursue cheating and that's wrong.

Sometimes married men are pursued and cave in, that's wrong too, but oh so hard to deal with.
Are you saying it's hard for the men to deal with and resist, or it's harder for the women to deal with a man who was not able to control himself? While each is wrong, I cannot abide that old, worn, tired and pathetic line: "They really can't help themselves."

Men who cheat can and DO help themselves. There is no one standing there with a gun to their heads, saying, "Go on now, screw around or you'll be sorry." They are fully cognizant, self-aware creatures, capable of making their own choices. Anyone who says to me, "they can't help it" I drop the discussion right there. I refuse to even acknowledge it.

When it comes to anything else under the sun, they are "grown men, and can do what they want." So guess what? The crap about "you can't help yourselves"?? Not gonna fly here.

To answer the original question: No, all men do not cheat. A man who cheats is lacking something in his current relationship. And for all the women who blame the other woman: A man can't be "stolen" unless he wants to be.

This brings us to the end of my rant about cheating. Tune in next week, same time, same station.

Lon wrote: Sometimes married men pursue cheating and that's wrong.

Sometimes married men are pursued and cave in, that's wrong too, but oh so hard to deal with.


I always wondered if you were fleeing or stalking with your AV Lon....................



Now I am really not sure.......

Dakotawoman wrote: This has probably been posted many times before, but let's do it again...K?;)


nooooo I don't think so, there are many a happy and long marriages out there. And I would have to guess both genders cheat. Some folks just can't resist temptation. Attraction is an addiction, and if it becomes faint in a marriage there are 2 choices, change or look elsewhere, and women and men alike are equally capable of both options.

I go to a gay bar & everybody knows I'm straight. I go to a singles bar and everybody knows I'm married. I couldn't cheat if I wanted to. :wah:

Some people cheat and some don't. Most of the adultery divorces I do, however, tend to be based on the husband's adultery. Read what you like into that:p

Yavanna wrote: Some people cheat and some don't. Most of the adultery divorces I do, however, tend to be based on the husband's adultery. Read what you like into that:p
Um ... women are sneakier? :p

Accountable wrote: Um ... women are sneakier? :p
interesting

Idaho_Chic wrote: Some men are really disrespectful.
yeah... SOME.

not all.

I used to drive me ex crazy when we went out. we'd be walking along or driving somewhere and my head was on a swivel. it took me a few weeks to get her to realize that i was Oogling the cars; not the women.:wah:

No. Not all men cheat. Many men who do cheat whouldn't without being encouraged by a willing or tempting woman.

When asked by men how far they can go without having a problem I've answered: When you are stopped at a light in traffic and a beautiful woman crosses in front of you in the crosswalk it isn't wrong to notice. You may watch her as she crosses thinking what a beautiful creature she is but when she reaches the opposite curb it's over. If you continue to think about her or try to figure out where she is going so you can meet her, you've gone too far.

Unlike AC... women don't care if I'm married or not. They just don't bother to think about it.:wah:

Accountable wrote: Um ... women are sneakier? :p


Aside Damnit, he's on to us....

tmbsgrl wrote: OH my.. My ex fiancée was like that! He got smacked I don't know how many times! Come to find out he was checking out some old cars! I felt so dumb his mom even laughed at me.. I was ready to leave him!
so was she.

I still don't think she believed me.

:wah:

Do all men cheat? No

Do a lot of men cheat? Yes

Why? Lots of reasons, but mostly because they think they can get away with it.

Do they cheat all the time? Generally, No.

Do they cheat on every woman? Again generally, No.

Do all men have occasional fantasies about being with other women? Absolutley.

Does any aspect of human sexual behaviour make sense? Not particularly.

ALL MEN DO NOT CHEAT. I NEVER COULD HAVE IT TOO GOOD WHERE I AM, BESIDES COULD NEVER FIND ANOTHER TO PUT WITH ALL MY B/S.. AS FOR LOOKING YES I DO. I AM NOT DEAD YET. ALSO ITS BREAD INTO THE MALE SPECIES TO BREED WITH AS MANY FEMALES OF THE SAME BREED AS POSSIBLE, SAME GOES FOR WILD ANIMALS, HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH THE NEED TO MULTIPLY. I FORGET THE EXACT SAYING, AS HEARD ON THE ANIMAL PLANET THE OTHER DAY.

men and women are both guilty of this crime. I think that it is awefull to assume that it is just men. some people are just not comitted to the person they are with and they are looking for an out. that being said i think that most of those who do cheat do it for reasons other then "tempting women" or "persuant men" people have will power reguardless of what they say, if they are truley comitted then it wont matter the ammount of temptation.

Pfft. More men get caught. That doesn't mean they cheat more.

cheating is stealing emotional energy from the primary relationship. if one cheats, one robs themselves of a precious gift, to be able to come to your lover with a loving heart and clean conscience. yes PEOPLE cheat...but if you are with your soul mate you simply don't need to or want to, hang the biological imperative. my trust in me and my man is perfect, despite being 4500 miles apart. we don't find it at all difficult to be joyfully faithful until we see each other again. we find many ways to express how we feel. it's not hard to eschew unfaithfulness when we have so many ways to express how we feel. i think cheaters are on an ego gratification , ie, immaturity trip. there is nothing more meaningful than loyalty that is reciprocated, and it is not difficult. it's worth every moment spent apart when finally that plane lands and you can look honestly in each others' eyes. cheaters are losers in the true meaning of love that is based on more than lust.

lady cop wrote: cheating is stealing emotional energy from the primary relationship. if one cheats, one robs themselves of a precious gift, to be able to come to your lover with a loving heart and clean conscience. yes PEOPLE cheat...but if you are with your soul mate you simply don't need to or want to, hang the biological imperative. my trust in me and my man is perfect, despite being 4500 miles apart. we don't find it at all difficult to be joyfully faithful until we see each other again. we find many ways to express how we feel. it's not hard to eschew unfaithfulness when we have so many ways to express how we feel. i think cheaters are on an ego gratification , ie, immaturity trip. there is nothing more meaningful than loyalty that is reciprocated, and it is not difficult. it's worth every moment spent apart when finally that plane lands and you can look honestly in each others' eyes. cheaters are losers in the true meaning of love that is based on more than lust.


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^ absolutely.

I've never cheated... I've been falsely accused of it by a jealous lover but, I've never, ever been unfaithful.

I agree with LC. There are many oppurtunities given to men and women alike, but if you love your partner and are respectful to yourself aswell as then you won't take up any of the chances..

I hate it when people give an excuse for it, l was drunk, you werent giving me enough affection blah blah blah.

If there is an issue in your relationship then try and sort it, if it is to far gone then earn your way out of that relationship (DR Phil).

Far to many people are just up for good times, not realising the really good ones are with someone you know, love and trust..

My humble opinion...

lady cop wrote: cheating is stealing emotional energy from the primary relationship. if one cheats, one robs themselves of a precious gift, to be able to come to your lover with a loving heart and clean conscience. yes PEOPLE cheat...but if you are with your soul mate you simply don't need to or want to, hang the biological imperative. my trust in me and my man is perfect, despite being 4500 miles apart. we don't find it at all difficult to be joyfully faithful until we see each other again. we find many ways to express how we feel. it's not hard to eschew unfaithfulness when we have so many ways to express how we feel. i think cheaters are on an ego gratification , ie, immaturity trip. there is nothing more meaningful than loyalty that is reciprocated, and it is not difficult. it's worth every moment spent apart when finally that plane lands and you can look honestly in each others' eyes. cheaters are losers in the true meaning of love that is based on more than lust.


Nice imagery, but that was little more gynocentric than I like my answers to issues that concern both women and men in the guilty role.

DJayPRX wrote: Nice imagery, but that was little more gynocentric than I like my answers to issues that concern both women and men in the guilty role.which is why you may notice i said (some) PEOPLE cheat.

Why do guys cheat?

Pretty much one of two reasons...no matter what the scenario.

A) Too lazy to fix a problem in their current relationship...and thus they search out the solution with someone different.

B) Low self-esteem and starved for attention (even when in a loving relationship!). Many guys need constant affirmation that they are sexy, wanted, etc.

"A" represents the assholes/morons/dorks of the world, "B" represents the ones who are selfish/needy/troubled. The "A's" are least likely to be caught...because they go to great effort to conceal their wrong-doing....whereas the "B's" don't generally intend to hurt anyone, but almost ALWAYS end up getting caught, hurting everyone, including themselves.

Not ALL men cheat! Look, for every man who cheats there is a women involved as well. Besides that, anyone who cheats (man or woman) is a dirt bag. Have the personal integrity to honour your committment to your partner. If you can't do that then don't get married or get a divorce.

In no way did I profess myself to be perfect. I have a deep understanding of human faults... I have faults myself but why would someone stay in a marriage..... cheat, lie, and sneak around? Doesn't that demean both the spouse and the lover? Does the cheater have any self respect or respect for the others involved?

All men do not cheat. My ex cheated on me though and i still don't get it. I treated him very well and I was always ready to go when he was. i thought we were in great shape, he cheated with some big ol' beer swilling qwoman from his bar! I'm a cute little red head, she was like 6'2 , 240, no kidding. To this day I just sahke my head. I dont get it

You can do a lot better than being with that bum. A cute little redhead will not have a problem getting a date. I wish you the best.

PS I am glad you stood up, got out and gained back your self-respect.

Jason McCarty wrote: You can do a lot better than being with that bum. A cute little redhead will not have a problem getting a date. I wish you the best.



PS I am glad you stood up, got out and gained back your self-respect.


Oh man, I'm having a ball being single. It's wonderful! It's fun to be single in your 30's because we tend to have better jobs and a little more money. Dates are WAY better than they were in my 20's!

onsekiz wrote: i'd never cheat. because i'd respect my spouse.


There is also self-respect.

[quote=Bill Sikes]There is also self-respect.[/quote



Right On!

Not all men, but a good percentage do! Why hmmm...i don't know i guess the reasons range from "just for fun" to "insecurity"

DO ALL MEN CHEAT - no, not all .

People do seem to want what they cant have and do seem to think the grass is greener on the other side .

I've seen a few cheaters in my time and there are just as many women cheaters as men. One I am thinking of right now is a co worker, no one ever taught her that discretion is the better part of valour. No one also ever told her not to dip the pen in the company ink so to speak. Yup they both work with me. She is married, he is divorced with custody of his children. I think there are a lot of people's lives that are going to be affected with this one.



Sorry to digress there but my point was I don't think men cheat any more frequently than women do.

Jana

I agree that both men and women cheat

Especially now that women match men in the workforce

Monogamy doesn't work for some people

If you are one of them

DON'T GET MARRIED

So what about "open" relationships. Is that cheating?

CheshireCat wrote: So what about "open" relationships. Is that cheating?


Good point.

My feeling is that if BOTH parties agree to a defined situation, then more power to them.

BUT both sides must share the same definition of marriage. :-6

CheshireCat wrote: So what about "open" relationships. Is that cheating?


By definition, no. However, I think, that normal human nature being what it

is, it's dangerous to that relationship, as well as other peoples'.

Originally Posted by Jason McCarty

Not ALL men cheat! Look, for every man who cheats there is a women involved as well. Besides that, anyone who cheats (man or woman) is a dirt bag. Have the personal integrity to honour your committment to your partner. If you can't do that then don't get married or get a divorce.

Exactly. There's no excuse for either sex cheating. If the marriage sucks and you can't get what you need, have the decency to end it BEFORE you get in someone else's pants. I have no use for infidels and they all ought to be shot. I make no apologies.

So what about "open" relationships. Is that cheating?

No, that's just BS.