A STORY ABOUT A SOLDIER 36 years of service flushed down the crapper
Posted: Sat Aug 13, 2005 4:41 pm
This REALLY PI SSED me off.
What are your thoughts?
Do you think it was the army trying to save a buck?
Or could it be he stepped on someones toes that had it in for him?
In 1969, Kevin P. Byrnes raised his arm to the square and was sworn in as a second lieutenant in the field artillery. Then he got to go to Vietnam. That was 36 years ago. Thirty-six years of soldiering in the uniform of his country. Last December, with four stars on his shoulder, he officiated at the ROTC graduation where his own son was commissioned. Kevin P. Byrnes is GI through and through. At least he was until Monday, when they kicked him out. On Monday, Gen. Kevin P. Byrnes was relieved of his duties as the leader of the Army’s Training and Doctrine Command. One of just 11 four-star generals in the Army, he was the first one in modern times to be fired.
What’d he do? How did he fall so far so fast? How did his near 40 years of service to his country turn to crap? How did the Bronze Star on his chest turn to tin? Adultery. Kevin P. Byrnes, 55, legally separated from his wife, began dating a woman. She didn’t work for him, she wasn’t in the Army, she wasn’t a Department of Defense of employee, she didn’t work for the government at all. She was just a woman. A woman he asked out. A woman the Army apparently believes he eventually slept with. And for that, less than three months before his scheduled retirement, he has been sacked.
His career is disgraced, his pension is in jeopardy, they might even take his stars back. Vietnam, Germany, Bosnia and now the Dumpster. Old soldiers never die, they just get screwed over.
First, let’s talk about the morality of it. Yes, he was still married and, yes, he was legally separated but, no, the divorce wasn’t final. And, yes, you shouldn’t have sex with anybody you’re not married to. But that’s between him and God. That’s between him and his former wife. It’s none of anybody else’s business. If you can put your life on the line for your country – for 36 years – can’t you, at 55, have a little bit of privacy? You can be trusted to command the 1st Cavalry Division but you can’t be trusted to run your own life behind a closed bedroom door? Granted, adultery is against the law in the Army. Just like it is in more than 20 states. It is also rampant in the Army. Just like it is in all 50 states. In fact, the best numbers show the adultery rate in the United States is in the neighborhood of 40 percent. Which is a national tragedy. The pain and moral significance of this cannot be overstated, and I don’t mean to diminish its terrible nature, generally or in this case. But the point is it’s not rare. And it’s not worth throwing a man away over, and it’s not worth flushing 36 years of honorable service down the toilet over. And when exactly did we decide that warriors should also be choir boys? Isn’t the purpose of an army to inflict deadly violence in defense of our national interests? Isn’t it inherently a dirty business? How can we foist a standard onto our soldiers which we ourselves are not willing to live?
How would the great warriors of American history fare if held to this standard? Didn’t Eisenhower have a girlfriend when he liberated Europe? Isn’t the prostitute nickname “hooker†taken from an Army general? Wasn’t John McCain a lover boy? How emasculated do we want our warriors to be? Didn’t the last commander in chief boff a subordinate employee in the work place? How can there be such radically different standards for two federal employees? How is a president better than a general? And when a group like the one hanging Kevin P. Byrnes out to dry brought an adulteress to Jesus, didn’t he suggest that the one without sin cast the first stone? And didn’t those ancient prigs have the decency to skulk away? And didn’t Jesus tell the offending woman to go on her way and sin no more? Apparently, the top folks at the Pentagon are without sin, and apparently they are more than willing to cast the first stone, and however many others there might be lying around.
And so just 10 weeks before Kevin P. Byrnes was to honorably lay aside the uniform he had worn for 36 years, he’s being humiliated in the press, he has lost his command, he’s been stripped from Army websites, he may lose a chunk of his retirement. While who knows how many congressmen, anchormen, businessmen and enlistedmen have done exactly the same thing and faced no professional penalty whatsoever. Justice is represented in our society by a scale, indicating that it is a balance, a balance of factors – like good and evil. In this case, the balance between 36 years and a girlfriend. Kevin P. Byrnes has a chestful of medals and a scarlet letter and it is not just to ignore the several to focus on the one.
Life is not fairly judged on a system of disqualification. If one flaw is automatically disqualifying, then a thousand strengths have no meaning. It doesn’t matter how much right you do, it only matters that just once you are caught in a wrong. And then all is lost. That is a ridiculous and unjust standard. And this general has been ridiculously and unjustly condemned. Adultery is wrong, but so is ingratitude. And 36 years of your life sacrificed on the altar of service is something that can’t be dismissed. It must count for something. The Vietnam, the Bosnia, the holidays lost and the rigors endured. It all must count for something. And this one mistake must not count for everything. It must not negate everything. This serviceman must not be thrown away.
- by Bob Lonsberry © 2005
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What are your thoughts?
Do you think it was the army trying to save a buck?
Or could it be he stepped on someones toes that had it in for him?
In 1969, Kevin P. Byrnes raised his arm to the square and was sworn in as a second lieutenant in the field artillery. Then he got to go to Vietnam. That was 36 years ago. Thirty-six years of soldiering in the uniform of his country. Last December, with four stars on his shoulder, he officiated at the ROTC graduation where his own son was commissioned. Kevin P. Byrnes is GI through and through. At least he was until Monday, when they kicked him out. On Monday, Gen. Kevin P. Byrnes was relieved of his duties as the leader of the Army’s Training and Doctrine Command. One of just 11 four-star generals in the Army, he was the first one in modern times to be fired.
What’d he do? How did he fall so far so fast? How did his near 40 years of service to his country turn to crap? How did the Bronze Star on his chest turn to tin? Adultery. Kevin P. Byrnes, 55, legally separated from his wife, began dating a woman. She didn’t work for him, she wasn’t in the Army, she wasn’t a Department of Defense of employee, she didn’t work for the government at all. She was just a woman. A woman he asked out. A woman the Army apparently believes he eventually slept with. And for that, less than three months before his scheduled retirement, he has been sacked.
His career is disgraced, his pension is in jeopardy, they might even take his stars back. Vietnam, Germany, Bosnia and now the Dumpster. Old soldiers never die, they just get screwed over.
First, let’s talk about the morality of it. Yes, he was still married and, yes, he was legally separated but, no, the divorce wasn’t final. And, yes, you shouldn’t have sex with anybody you’re not married to. But that’s between him and God. That’s between him and his former wife. It’s none of anybody else’s business. If you can put your life on the line for your country – for 36 years – can’t you, at 55, have a little bit of privacy? You can be trusted to command the 1st Cavalry Division but you can’t be trusted to run your own life behind a closed bedroom door? Granted, adultery is against the law in the Army. Just like it is in more than 20 states. It is also rampant in the Army. Just like it is in all 50 states. In fact, the best numbers show the adultery rate in the United States is in the neighborhood of 40 percent. Which is a national tragedy. The pain and moral significance of this cannot be overstated, and I don’t mean to diminish its terrible nature, generally or in this case. But the point is it’s not rare. And it’s not worth throwing a man away over, and it’s not worth flushing 36 years of honorable service down the toilet over. And when exactly did we decide that warriors should also be choir boys? Isn’t the purpose of an army to inflict deadly violence in defense of our national interests? Isn’t it inherently a dirty business? How can we foist a standard onto our soldiers which we ourselves are not willing to live?
How would the great warriors of American history fare if held to this standard? Didn’t Eisenhower have a girlfriend when he liberated Europe? Isn’t the prostitute nickname “hooker†taken from an Army general? Wasn’t John McCain a lover boy? How emasculated do we want our warriors to be? Didn’t the last commander in chief boff a subordinate employee in the work place? How can there be such radically different standards for two federal employees? How is a president better than a general? And when a group like the one hanging Kevin P. Byrnes out to dry brought an adulteress to Jesus, didn’t he suggest that the one without sin cast the first stone? And didn’t those ancient prigs have the decency to skulk away? And didn’t Jesus tell the offending woman to go on her way and sin no more? Apparently, the top folks at the Pentagon are without sin, and apparently they are more than willing to cast the first stone, and however many others there might be lying around.
And so just 10 weeks before Kevin P. Byrnes was to honorably lay aside the uniform he had worn for 36 years, he’s being humiliated in the press, he has lost his command, he’s been stripped from Army websites, he may lose a chunk of his retirement. While who knows how many congressmen, anchormen, businessmen and enlistedmen have done exactly the same thing and faced no professional penalty whatsoever. Justice is represented in our society by a scale, indicating that it is a balance, a balance of factors – like good and evil. In this case, the balance between 36 years and a girlfriend. Kevin P. Byrnes has a chestful of medals and a scarlet letter and it is not just to ignore the several to focus on the one.
Life is not fairly judged on a system of disqualification. If one flaw is automatically disqualifying, then a thousand strengths have no meaning. It doesn’t matter how much right you do, it only matters that just once you are caught in a wrong. And then all is lost. That is a ridiculous and unjust standard. And this general has been ridiculously and unjustly condemned. Adultery is wrong, but so is ingratitude. And 36 years of your life sacrificed on the altar of service is something that can’t be dismissed. It must count for something. The Vietnam, the Bosnia, the holidays lost and the rigors endured. It all must count for something. And this one mistake must not count for everything. It must not negate everything. This serviceman must not be thrown away.
- by Bob Lonsberry © 2005
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