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This behavior is totally normal. Imagine how difficult it is to be aloof with someone youve shared a life with for so long. Despite differences you are automatically drawn back to that person when a crisis arises. If you ever do have someone else in your life.. dont be surprised if your ex wants you back. Its a female territorial kind of thing. She may not really want you.. but she will think she does. Is there any more intimate connection than having had children with someone? The mixed signals are from fear of going out into the world and being single again. You keep one hand on the old while you reach the other hand out to the new. Its like a baby learning to walk. Or like dropping pebbles so you can find your way home.

Very painful process for everyone. This is why seperations are designed to last a year, It gives couples a chance to see if they really want to proceed onto divorce. 99 % of the time its a mistake to get involved with anyone else too quickly. People need to suffer the pains of seperation, not skip the process by replacing a partner with someone else. It is the only way to grow and to be able to move on ,wiser and healed properly.

PS.. It is also difficult for her to see you doing well without her. That is why you say sometimes she is a bitch.

Well, it`s a difficult question really, isn`t it, "Is this normal?" because NOTHING is absolutely normal about people`s own unique situations. There may be more in this than meets the eye, but I suggest you just communicate and tell her how you feel or whatever. Best of luck