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Well, the long and involved process of packing up my

father's household for his move to Idaho is over.I went up

yesterday to help with the last day's worth of stuff.



At one point, my Dad asked me to keep Bandit in the house

while he went to do something. Normally, he can put Bandit

in a sit, stay and leave and Bandit is fine, but recent

weeks have made Bandit anxious. So I tried to keep Bandit

confined to the living room, since my bro-in-law was

mopping floors with a strong bleach solution. My tyrant of

a younger sister who thinks she knows everything comes up

with "Let Bandit go he's okay" and I guess I just went off.

I first tried a pretty low-key "I'm trying to keep him off

the wet floors" but it didn't work it was "Oh it's not

going to hurt him" I sort of yelled "They can absorb that

stuff through the pads of their feet" but she wasn't buying

it. So then I started (I've had months of pent-up

frustration over my sister's bs) letting fly, and said a lot

of things that I'm not sorry for, including the "f" word

at one point. I probably should have known better, this is

a woman who doesn't allow dogs in HER house and feeds Ol'

Roy because it's the cheapest and all that a dog deserves.



She did come and apologize to me later, I think she was

sincere but she didn't say anything about the bleach part

of it. I think really she was just sorry she couldn't

"Control" me and surprised by my outburst. I let things go

so as not to upset my dad.



Thanks for listening.

:( :-5

Sometimes we reach our limits hun. No worries as long as the 2 of you can talk at the end of the day it is ok. And usually anger is when we blurt out the bad things, I suppose a coffee between the 2 of you and a hug would be my next suggestion

yeah, it's pretty frustrating when someone keeps prodding you to the breaking point.

Here's a tip. When you feel that anger begin to grow, tell the person, "Thanks, but I've made my decision." and then leave the room. It works wonders.

There`s always people around who will rile other people and also `know best` even when they don`t! I think your anger was understandable!

Do like I used to do: Just tackle your sister, pin her to the mat and make her yell "UNCLE!!" If you're not the physical type, I like Jives's suggestion. :yh_bigsmi