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Racism or just confusion? The other day at the pub a group of us was sitting outside in hte beer garden and the men were admiring /perving/ (insert word here) some younger girls. I have to admit one girl was showing bum cheek.........I always think it's either deliberate or the girls do not understand the principle of "relative distance from the beach". so anyway the men are perving and the women are raising their eyes and laughing at the audacity of the girls in question. The men told us to lighten up etc. and I thought how would you like to sit here and have to see the 'raising of the flags' in front of you and have to hear the comments? They told me "You'd do it if you had the chance" and I said " I will now."

CLASSIC!!!! Just after I finish the sentence guess what? A car pulls into the pub and a very attractive muscular African looking bloke gets out of the car.....WITH NO SHIRT ON!!!:)...............DEAD SILENCE from the men .:yh_rotfl and I look at them grinning from ear to ear.

He comes over to us, and I say "It's okay lads I'll help the gentleman out.":yh_rotfl

Anyway he asks how far to Wilsons Prom it is from where we are. He seemed shocked at how far it was . He said his wife was getting a bit concerned about being in the car for so long with the kids.

I asked him where he'd originally come from...............meaning how long have you been travelling, thinking he must be from interstate or something

He looked at me really sourly and took it as 'where about from around the world he was from. Then he said Melbourne.

Now I'm confused at this point because ......................I'm giving him the 'don't you own a map look, and how can you not know how far Wilsons is from Melbourne.

And he's looking at me as if I'm being the quintisential white person who needs to know what country every foriegner is from . I don't know about any of you guys but we honestly don't have anyone of colour around here ...we're all pretty boring white people which of course he would have noticed himself.

Anyway we get over that and he goes inside the pub...We all laugh because he's about to be perved at by the bus load of middle aged women who are sitting inside and have just dropped in for some more alcohol on their way back from a day at the winery. . ....yes we all get another foul look because he thinks we're laughing at him. Poor bugger I wouldn't have wished that group on any man.

While he was inside the pub I went over to the car and invited his wife to come and have a drink with us because it would be too hot in the car. She thought it was a great idea but then he came out with 'take aways' and bundled them all in again and took off.

Now I know he left that place thinking we're all racist pricks............when in fact We were just helping him .

Comunication and an understanding of local rules and humour where ever you go is paramount to a healthy society.

Why did he have a "black" reaction as opposed to a human reaction?

I didnt read anything that indicated his nor your race played any role at all in the events you described.

It sounds as if you were assuming you knew what he was thinking when he may very well not have been thinking race was an issue. He may have been tired, frustrated, been dealing with wife and kids while being lost while its hot.

Sounds like a human episode played out rather than a black family happening upon white locals.

I dont get how you arrived at your deductions fuzzballs.

lmao... according to your tag...

well, let's just say i've had my bout with alcoholic paranoia

fuzzywuzzy;1281469 wrote: Racism or just confusion? The other day at the pub a group of us was sitting outside in hte beer garden and the men were admiring /perving/ (insert word here) some younger girls. I have to admit one girl was showing bum cheek.........I always think it's either deliberate or the girls do not understand the principle of "relative distance from the beach". so anyway the men are perving and the women are raising their eyes and laughing at the audacity of the girls in question. The men told us to lighten up etc. and I thought how would you like to sit here and have to see the 'raising of the flags' in front of you and have to hear the comments? They told me "You'd do it if you had the chance" and I said " I will now."



CLASSIC!!!! Just after I finish the sentence guess what? A car pulls into the pub and a very attractive muscular African looking bloke gets out of the car.....WITH NO SHIRT ON!!!:)...............DEAD SILENCE from the men .:yh_rotfl and I look at them grinning from ear to ear.

He comes over to us, and I say "It's okay lads I'll help the gentleman out.":yh_rotfl



Anyway he asks how far to Wilsons Prom it is from where we are. He seemed shocked at how far it was . He said his wife was getting a bit concerned about being in the car for so long with the kids.



I asked him where he'd originally come from...............meaning how long have you been travelling, thinking he must be from interstate or something



He looked at me really sourly and took it as 'where about from around the world he was from. Then he said Melbourne.



Now I'm confused at this point because ......................I'm giving him the 'don't you own a map look, and how can you not know how far Wilsons is from Melbourne.



And he's looking at me as if I'm being the quintisential white person who needs to know what country every foriegner is from . I don't know about any of you guys but we honestly don't have anyone of colour around here ...we're all pretty boring white people which of course he would have noticed himself.



Anyway we get over that and he goes inside the pub...We all laugh because he's about to be perved at by the bus load of middle aged women who are sitting inside and have just dropped in for some more alcohol on their way back from a day at the winery. . ....yes we all get another foul look because he thinks we're laughing at him. Poor bugger I wouldn't have wished that group on any man.



While he was inside the pub I went over to the car and invited his wife to come and have a drink with us because it would be too hot in the car. She thought it was a great idea but then he came out with 'take aways' and bundled them all in again and took off.



Now I know he left that place thinking we're all racist pricks............when in fact We were just helping him .



Comunication and an understanding of local rules and humour where ever you go is paramount to a healthy society.
Ever been to Africa, Fuzz? Me either. But even over here I get asked where I am from. I always laugh and say 'Essex. Cant you tell by my accent?';)

Raven;1281505 wrote: Ever been to Africa, Fuzz? Me either. But even over here I get asked where I am from. I always laugh and say 'Essex. Cant you tell by my accent?';)


Well, you shouldn't wear those white stillettoes

Snowfire;1281516 wrote: Well, you shouldn't wear those white stillettoes
along with the little hop skip around the handbag?:yh_rotfl It is well fun being an Essex gilw. (no i didnt spell that wrong.);)

And of course, once the bloke has misunderstood it that way, he'll see all similar incidents in a similar way. Oh lord.

Worked with a black guy once. He was gay, which added to the chips on his shoulder. The most awkward s-o-b you've ever met. Stroppy, argumentative, rude and a complete snob...

Couldn't understand why no-one liked him. Interpreted it as racism and/or homophobia. I was the only guy who rather liked him, so ended up working next to him for a year or so. He did have a sense of humour, though.

One day his cumulative behaviour had the management over en masse to give him a serious warning for upsetting fellow employees and they said he was unco-operative, resentful of authority, stroppy, rude and not conducive to good team building (all true). I leaned across grinning cheerfully, and said, "Oh, I don't hate you for any of those reasons...(pause)...I hate you because you're black."

He gave me one incredulous look and fell about in helpless laughter. The management decided without a word spoken they wanted nothing more to do with any of us and departed. I still giggle about it now.

Nomad;1281472 wrote: Why did he have a "black" reaction as opposed to a human reaction?

I didnt read anything that indicated his nor your race played any role at all in the events you described.

It sounds as if you were assuming you knew what he was thinking when he may very well not have been thinking race was an issue. He may have been tired, frustrated, been dealing with wife and kids while being lost while its hot.

Sounds like a human episode played out rather than a black family happening upon white locals.

I dont get how you arrived at your deductions fuzzballs.


Ahhh and there we have it Touchness.

Well you weren't there nommy I'm only writing up the basics of the conversation. Actualy we couldn't have been more helpful to him.

The family wasn't 'Black' only him ....

Love it Clod, love it!!!!



well, let's just say i've had my bout with alcoholic paranoia


Not sure what that was supposed to imply. Where do you live so we can discuss it personally.