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Don't know for sure where else to put this, but current events seemed as good a place as any. It's a current event here in the garden, so it made sense.



Probably a few of you have seen the thread "Fascinating", and I'd like to address a couple things there along with a particular post.

First, the post I refer to is downright rude, misleading, and flat-out antagonistic. The member who wrote this has held on with both hands to an issue that had died out months ago. Since the instance that I speak of, I have responded to this member exactly once. (A momentary lapse of reason, happens to the best of us.) The "trouble" that the poster talks about is the fact that I have ignored her. Plain and simple. We had words, I added her to my "ignore" list and since becoming a moderator, removed her from that list, for the simple reason that it seems silly. I don't respond to her anyway. Now said member is jumping on a two-person band wagon to smear me. I apparently am coming across as a power-hungry, vindictive warden type. Well, let's clear things up:

I have reason to be leary of a certain poster. Those reasons have been communicated in private and I don't feel the need to publicize them to every member. If someone thinks I am being too harsh, by all means, let me know. I have very thick skin, contrary to popular opinion.

The fact that I am a moderator means very little. I have the "power" to edit and delete posts in certain areas, something I have never done. Being a moderator is my way of contributing to the forum that I enjoy so much. If I have abused this awesome power, I'd sure like to hear about it.

I don't believe that I have over-stepped any bounds in my responses to anyone, and if I have, I will hear about it from the administrators. Which I would expect regardless of being a mod or not. That position in no way changes how I respond to anything. Neither does someone other than administration telling me I am out of line.

i have found you to be reasonable, intelligent and kind in all your dealings with people here, long before you were a moderator. which is why i highly recommended you to admin. as a mod.~ clearly they agreed with my assessment of you. i've never seen you as combative, except perhaps when showing your loyalty to a member. we all have our personality traits, some more endearing than others. 'mod' does not equate with "power". it is a service we provide for no reason other than feeling the board is a "home". nobody will like everyone, life isn't like that. everyone here is just a human being with frailties and strengths. i personally think you're an involved mod who tries to relate to everyone in a respectful manner.

Okay, you've contradicted yourself there, but that doesn't matter.

You appeared to have jumped on the guy for something and nothing, it wasn't until post 16 of the thread that you gave reason as to why.

Now, there is no need for you to give a reason, but it really doesn't look good for a mod to "just be defending a friend", when all it seems is someone has argued facts in another thread.

Waste of time me typing this though seeing as I'm not an administrator.

Everybody is entitle to their opinion. I am particularly passionate about mine, as some of you know. I have over re-acted to posts, and I have made mistakes. :-3 We all do. It's when you don't learn from them that you fail. "Let he who is pefect cast the first stone". Get over it, move on. Agree to dis-agree. And if none of these cliche's work, than just plain grow up. :wah:

NO COMMENTS..... :driving:

Being a moderator is a tricky thing. Most people think mods have a lot more power than they do. It involves a lot of discretion but at times requires sterness and reprimand. How to be effective is not alway easy to figure out.

There have been a couple of instances where mods have been accused of being power hungry. I don't think that is a fair classification but at the same time think that it is cause for all mods, not just those accused, to think about effective means of communication...as we should always be doing. I'm pretty new at this myself and learn from every situation (hopefully).

Aw c'mon! Your style is fresh and invigorating! Your personality shouts through your posts! Do you realise how hard that is to accomplish? LOL! This place is an awesome read! I have found absolutely nothing wrong with either your style or the content of your responses. And with this many people around, there are always going to be disagreements. Thats the beauty of the place. Flowers bloom.

You're doing fine, BR. Dont sweat the small stuff.



Oh hell! I just read the 'fascinating' thread!

LC, sweety, you've been a cop for quite awhile now, have you not? I would trust your instinct, just fine, ma'm. If you feel something is hinky, then you're probably right. It's what makes you find the bad guys. And by GOD you're allowed your opinion on a public forum, just as well as the rest of us!