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We used to have the neighbours from hell, didn`t matter what we did.............we were dead wrong. We were never noisy, no parties, kept to ourselves.

We were the 9th couple of have bought this home, the others moved the same as we did after much intimidation over the years.

-he threatened me each time I watered the grass and it landed on city property....he would take pictures pretending to complain to the city.When I had called the city to see if this was illegal..............they laughed so hard! by all means, water the grass!

-he shovelled over 8 feet of heavy snow up against the foundation of our house (which is illegal, no one is aloud to do anything to or on your property) and continued to do this, well after the cops came...............until I came out the next day and took pictures of him doing it, wow, that snow disappeared fast!

-if I put the garbage out one early, he would call the city so I would get a letter.......he did this to all neighbours.

-he purposely parked his truck right up against my grass so I could not water my lawn without getting his truck wet.

-he outlined in chalk his property lines..............not that there was an issue

-whenever I watered my gardens, the old bat would yell at me for doing it wrong!

-he had to be in contol of everything we did........

the lists go on and on.............



we finally built a 7foot non see thru fence, he was pissed at that, called it the berlin wall.

I have been really lucky...got fantastic neighbours

kayleneaussie;963588 wrote: I have been really lucky...got fantastic neighbours


we to finally have some really fabulous neighbours, but went through hell for 7 years...........actually had a nervous breakdown because of them.

Odie;963593 wrote: we to finally have some really fabulous neighbours, but went through hell for 7 years...........actually had a nervous breakdown because of them.


awwwwwwww thats sad:( glad u have some good neighbours now

Behind Me:

Trashy Neighbors. Worse than Sanford & Son. Back in 1975 we moved out here and we had a big freezer. We lived in a camper for a while and our freezer sat outside in 120 degree heat. It died. My parents had purchased a side of beef and they asked a local store to freeze it fo rthem and they also asked Trashy Neighbors. The Trashies took a lot of meat, fille dup their freezers with it. When we moved into our home shortly after, Mom went over to get the meat back and I think she got like five packages of hamburger. They ate everything.

They were never nasty to us. We don't mingle and that's fine but if either of our wells break down the other neighbor is there to hook up a hose to their own.

They have a ton of animals coming and going.They have no business having pets. Two years ago their Rotts who were friends with my beloved dog, attacked and killed him on my own damn property. I couldn't turn them in because I feared for my other dogs. When we called them, they didn't even say sorry.

My other neighbors whom I don't even know, made my life hell last year by reporting me to animal control and calling the copwads on me twice. Because my dogs were barking not only at night- but during the day too! One jerk sent a nastygram around to all but me (my kidn neighbor brought me a copy) saying what a bitch I was (he'd never even met me) and asking them to call the cops and animal control on me. I had to rehome my dogs and pay a ridiculous fine and was facing ppssible jail time for "running a kennel with no permit." I hope their houses go up in flames for doing it too.

My back yard backs into a very large Golf Course. My yard is fenced in due to the pool. 3 foot block wall with @ 3 foot of iron on top and a iron gate to the Golf Course. It's very open.

People walk their dogs all the time(leashed) - no big deal. Although it is against Policy. HOH Policy/ Laws. This one neighbor has 2 labs, which he lets run loose.

He yells & yells at them. For the last 5 yrs. I've listened to him.

He can ruin a beautiful Sunset....

Going thru enough stress - I'm sitting on my patio - here he is by my gate yelling at his dogs. I said "Do You Mine?" reply " F U " oh boy, a target for my stress..

bring it on dog walker...

I didn't have to say much as I'm about to climb my fence

the idiot didn't realize my husband was in the yard..... oh boy !!!

It didn't stop for some time - one night I waited for him with my garden hose

GOTCHA ...:wah: one night I had my camera - the flash scared him...:wah:

I wrote him up with the HOH

I really hated to see the game end...:wah:

Patsy

fuzzy butt;963653 wrote: what's a HOH?


One step up from a Biatch presumably. You live a very protected life.

i had a mother,son and daughter plus the sons freind move in next to me. they spent a while decorating, had some beautiful furniture and carpets laid before they took over the house, were well dressed,a nice car.

within a week i was dreading night times.

the kids running riot round the neighbourhood, drinking fighting screaming and swearing. picking on the local children and terrorising the old folk who lived in a little row of houses opposite.

music, like you were actually inside a nightclub blaring til morning, even the people four houses up from them complained about that !!!

they couldnt walk through a door with out slamming it shut so hard, my pictures vibrated off the walls.

i was in the process of moving house anyway, before they got there.

at 4-15am one night i had had enough so i went out into the back garden and took a look through their kitchen window to find the mother doing her ironing to the music of guns and roses !!! i got a big stick and banged on her window, she looked out at me and i said if you cant find the volume control on your stereo, i'll show you where it is with a hammer.

for the few days i had left there, i never had any trouble again but i did hear, they eventually got evicted and completely trashed the house before they went.

I would die for a neighbor like that !!!

Id torture him relentlessly.

the last subdivision we lived in in Florida we affectionately referred to as "the 7th layer of hell" or just "sh#$hole" for short. But we sold during the boom, so we got paid well for being tortured. :wah:

spot;963657 wrote: One step up from a Biatch presumably. You live a very protected life.


Spot - your reply made me laugh so hard!

An HOH is a group that sets the rules for a subdivision and make sure that said rules are followed.

over the years my lawyer's advice was to always take pictures, this way you have proof if you ever need it, plus when neighbours seeing you take pics........it scares the hell out of them!

bylaw here is no longer noise aloud up to 11pm, you are to be able to enjoy your life 24/7...................if there is constant dogs barking, loud music, unnessary noises, you are aloud to call the police now.................but you also have to face the consequences as most neighbours will take it upon themselves to get back at you...............so whats the point?



hope my x-neighbours rot in hell!...they were old and retired, they had nothing better to do than constantly harrass me!

sunny104;963876 wrote: the last subdivision we lived in in Florida we affectionately referred to as "the 7th layer of hell" or just "sh#$hole" for short. But we sold during the boom, so we got paid well for being tortured. :wah:


The seventh circle of hell housed the violent, the suicides, profligates, blasphemers, sodomites and usurers. What on earth were YOU there for?

well not MEAN, just DIRTY and JUNKY. On one side we have Sandford &Son. So much JUNK. Old cars, boats, and a little bit of everything:mad: the other side. Just messy neighbors. their yard is full of trash. which blows in my yard, or the dogs carry it in. they have cleaned fish before. instead of disposing them in a can, just threw it in the yard. OMG!! you know where it landed. ON MY FRONT PORCH!! The Smell and flies!!:-5 We work very hard on our yard. I am growing tall trees and bushes around on the sides where we can see their STUFF. But will take a couple more years to grow. I feel also it brings down our property value. Because of the JUNK MASTER and The DIRTY PIG:mad::mad::mad::-5

My mum has hellish nieghbours foreign students! She lives in a maisonette so of course can hear the people above who now have laminate flooring so making it ten times worse.

They have parties very regularly like every other night if she goes to complain they say 'no enlish' no spek enlish' She has complained to the housing office, the council, the private landlord, the police all to no effect

Last thursday 3am and my brother lost his temper he went up and banged on the door when they wouldn't open it he yelled 'open up, police this is a raid' with that he heard them all run upstairs and lock themselves in the bathroom! So he barged the door in and took the fuses out of the electric meter.

Strangely one of the students came down the next day and asked my mum in perfect English if she knew anything about it.

She has told them if they have a problem they can ask their landlord to contact her and she will explain the situation once and for all.

My brother thinks they may have extra friends who are illegal staying with them (hence the bathroom hideaway) so the dare not complain.

southern yankee;963999 wrote: well not MEAN, just DIRTY and JUNKY. On one side we have Sandford &Son. So much JUNK. Old cars, boats, and a little bit of everything:mad: the other side. Just messy neighbors. their yard is full of trash. which blows in my yard, or the dogs carry it in. they have cleaned fish before. instead of disposing them in a can, just threw it in the yard. OMG!! you know where it landed. ON MY FRONT PORCH!! The Smell and flies!!:-5 We work very hard on our yard. I am growing tall trees and bushes around on the sides where we can see their STUFF. But will take a couple more years to grow. I feel also it brings down our property value. Because of the JUNK MASTER and The DIRTY PIG:mad::mad::mad::-5


Can you call the city on them? We can here when it looks that bad, they will send someone up and demand its cleaned up.

i have some neighbors that are our entertainment...they like to get drunk and go outside late at night and fight..screaming, hollering, throwing things out of their house..i have a old metal glider up against my six foot fence that i stand on and watch them ...(i have another neighbor that lives about as far from them as i do on the other side..if she hears them first she calls me. we meet on the glider.:sneaky:)

Odie;964304 wrote: Can you call the city on them? We can here when it looks that bad, they will send someone up and demand its cleaned up. we live sooo far out. no body cares what goes on out here.

southern yankee;964584 wrote: we live sooo far out. no body cares what goes on out here.


we really had to move with ours...........other serious circumstances as well, any chance of you moving.................trust me, its worth the sanity!

Never buy a house when there are many for sale signs up around the area at the same time.:-5

I used to have an abuser next door. He started small with the woman and things just grew. Often the music was turned up loud or the TV so we could not hear the screaming. I witnessed him rolling a kitchen table top out onto the front lawn and stomping on it in a drunken rage. I saw her marks grow from little finger tip bruises to black eyes, split lips and a skull wound. I heard him threaten to kill people. He used to tap on the window of my house and get my dog barking. He used to set his car alarm off to get my dog barking. He sprayed bug spray through the fence into my dogs face. I suspect he is who tried to poison my dog by throwing something over the fence for my dog to eat that was poisonous... yes the vet suggested this may have been what caused my dogs illness. He has called animal control on me but my dog only barks when people walk by or come to my door then quits. He never is left outside for longer than 20 minutes.

The woman next door lost custody of her children because this man was so awful.

Thankfully about a year ago this man left. It has been almost a dream neighborhood.

minks;964614 wrote: Never buy a house when there are many for sale signs up around the area at the same time.:-5

I used to have an abuser next door. He started small with the woman and things just grew. Often the music was turned up loud or the TV so we could not hear the screaming. I witnessed him rolling a kitchen table top out onto the front lawn and stomping on it in a drunken rage. I saw her marks grow from little finger tip bruises to black eyes, split lips and a skull wound. I heard him threaten to kill people. He used to tap on the window of my house and get my dog barking. He used to set his car alarm off to get my dog barking. He sprayed bug spray through the fence into my dogs face. I suspect he is who tried to poison my dog by throwing something over the fence for my dog to eat that was poisonous... yes the vet suggested this may have been what caused my dogs illness. He has called animal control on me but my dog only barks when people walk by or come to my door then quits. He never is left outside for longer than 20 minutes.

The woman next door lost custody of her children because this man was so awful.

Thankfully about a year ago this man left. It has been almost a dream neighborhood.


OMG................That is monsterous what he did!

Minks

you called the police during this time?

thats just awful.. very abusive

Mine was a antogizing "A**" . and he'd continue - never thinking I'd be there loaded and ready.

Oh, Minks - you'd appreciate the night I had my garden hose on & ready for this A** to come along my fence. I sprayed him ..... LAUGHED ALL NIGHT...

Sorry to hear about your awful experience - I just thought I'd try to make you laugh.

Patsy

A group of unsupervised teens moved in 2 doors down from me at the beach. The little buggers party hardy and are up at all hours. I try to ignore them.



Just found out that the little skites are dealing drugs. Police have been called a few times and believe the stories that these kids tell them. But a neighbor who I trust and respect has seen them dealing.



Damn, I love living at the beach but don't like some of the people who rent here:-5

Kathy Ellen;965328 wrote: A group of unsupervised teens moved in 2 doors down from me at the beach. The little buggers party hardy and are up at all hours. I try to ignore them.



Just found out that the little skites are dealing drugs. Police have been called a few times and believe the stories that these kids tell them. But a neighbor who I trust and respect has seen them dealing.



Damn, I love living at the beach but don't like some of the people who rent here:-5


seems like a good place to deal as well, stay clear of them!;)

Odie;965426 wrote: seems like a good place to deal as well, stay clear of them!;)


Thanks Odie, I am trying to steer clear of them. They're usually up late at night and into the morning....guess I've hear them from 12 am to 5 am...I just worry about my car because they have the nerve to walk through my driveway. Touch my car and you're done for:wah:

Kathy Ellen;965434 wrote: Thanks Odie, I am trying to steer clear of them. They're usually up late at night and into the morning....guess I've hear them from 12 am to 5 am...I just worry about my car because they have the nerve to walk through my driveway. Touch my car and you're done for:wah:


If everyone knows they are dealing...............hopefully they will be evicted soon if enough complaints of that and noise.

My neighbour is a widow in her late 70’s. For six years we have got on great, I cut her grass, I have helped her on many occasions. My wife and her spend hours talking, and whenever my wife bakes cakes or something she send my daughters over with some for her.

A couple of weeks ago my wife saw her out front speaking to another neighbour and when my wife went over to talk to her she glared at my wife. When she asked what was up my neighbour lost her temper completely (even to the surprise of the other neighbour) and said that the tree in the back of our garden was getting too big and we should cut it down.

She stormed into the house and hasn’t spoken to us since despite an attempt by my wife to see what the hell is going on. We make sure the kids still say hello to her and speak to her, but she will not speak to me or my wife.

How weird is that? :-2

mikeinie;965450 wrote: My neighbour is a widow in her late 70’s. For six years we have got on great, I cut her grass, I have helped her on many occasions. My wife and her spend hours talking, and whenever my wife bakes cakes or something she send my daughters over with some for her.

A couple of weeks ago my wife saw her out front speaking to another neighbour and when my wife went over to talk to her she glared at my wife. When she asked what was up my neighbour lost her temper completely (even to the surprise of the other neighbour) and said that the tree in the back of our garden was getting too big and we should cut it down.

She stormed into the house and hasn’t spoken to us since despite an attempt by my wife to see what the hell is going on. We make sure the kids still say hello to her and speak to her, but she will not speak to me or my wife.

How weird is that? :-2




this is weird! not sure what to make of this now, perhaps she is getting senile and just doesn't remember things anymore?

[quote=mikeinie;965450]My neighbour is a widow in her late 70’s. For six years we have got on great, I cut her grass, I have helped her on many occasions. My wife and her spend hours talking, and whenever my wife bakes cakes or something she send my daughters over with some for her.

A couple of weeks ago my wife saw her out front speaking to another neighbour and when my wife went over to talk to her she glared at my wife. When she asked what was up my neighbour lost her temper completely (even to the surprise of the other neighbour) and said that the tree in the back of our garden was getting too big and we should cut it down.

She stormed into the house and hasn’t spoken to us since despite an attempt by my wife to see what the hell is going on. We make sure the kids still say hello to her and speak to her, but she will not speak to me or my wife.



Ahhhhhh Mike....sounds like she might be having the beginnings of dementia. When that happens the person doesn't really remember who you are and has lost all sense reality. I'd keep a careful eye on her.

One of mine is bloody awful...it all started because I caught him opening my tent when I had my niece over (she wanted to know what camping was like, so we set up tents in the garden). I heard it unzip and thought it would be niece waking up early...instead I woke up to Adrian sticking his horrid head in!

Anyway, I took exception to this and he's been a real sh1t ever since. He accused me of trying run him over when I backed out of my driveway - if I'd been trying, I wouldn't have missed! He yelled at the wedding car guy for parking on 'his' piece of the dell on my wedding day (it's not his, he has a garden, it's just a piece of land that we all share) he tried to poison other people against us, luckily they're not that gullible! I've even caught his girlfriend throwing fag butts over my fence. My bike is there as well as plants, it's just dangerous! He let his friend's dogs poop in my garden (I took a carrier round and told him to pick it up or he'd find it through his mailbox) and the newest one is that he's stuck poles across what he thinks is 'his' aforementioned bit of the dell because I had to cut across it one day as there was a tractor in the way! He's a very, very sad man.

jimbo;965748 wrote: my next door nieghbour has the next door neighbour from hell big bald guy ,always goofing around vans on fire ,puppy walking always screeching with laughter whilst logged on to fg ,what a loser :-3:-3:-3


Jimbo:-4 How are you sooooo funny..you always crack me up:-6

Pinky;965546 wrote: One of mine is bloody awful...it all started because I caught him opening my tent when I had my niece over (she wanted to know what camping was like, so we set up tents in the garden). I heard it unzip and thought it would be niece waking up early...instead I woke up to Adrian sticking his horrid head in!

Anyway, I took exception to this and he's been a real sh1t ever since. He accused me of trying run him over when I backed out of my driveway - if I'd been trying, I wouldn't have missed! He yelled at the wedding car guy for parking on 'his' piece of the dell on my wedding day (it's not his, he has a garden, it's just a piece of land that we all share) he tried to poison other people against us, luckily they're not that gullible! I've even caught his girlfriend throwing fag butts over my fence. My bike is there as well as plants, it's just dangerous! He let his friend's dogs poop in my garden (I took a carrier round and told him to pick it up or he'd find it through his mailbox) and the newest one is that he's stuck poles across what he thinks is 'his' aforementioned bit of the dell because I had to cut across it one day as there was a tractor in the way! He's a very, very sad man.


OMG.............he is just dreadful, and the nerve of going into someone's tent!:-5

Know how you feel Jimbo, i got a neighbour like that. I think he's got a bike & his wifes cheating on him.:wah::wah:

I forgot to mention about neighbours.........if they are on your property or doing anything to it......run out and take pictures......make sure they see you do this.

no one has the right to trespass or do anything on your property, it is a law.

when I had soooooooo many problems with mine, my lawyer advised me to take pictures of them doing things in the act just in case it went to court.



but what really shocked me, was the neighbour was petrified everytime he saw me with my camera taking pictures of him......he knew I was buiding a case to sue him...........he eventually stopped everything.



one storm, he purposely piled 6 feet of snow right up against the foundation of our house and our windows.....this was done on purpose......I phoned the police, they came and warned him..............this ******* continued to do it!

next morning there I was snapping pics of the snow............I have never seen him run so damn fast and clear that snow off!



a picture is worth a thousand words!

hope this helps, it sure did for us.

I have a neighbor that lives about six acres away..he had sixty or so fighting roosters tied in his yard..the rest of the neighbors started talking and complaining..they asked politely for him to move them..or at least thin them out..he blatantly told everybody they could kiss his ass..so we took him to court..and had them removed..he doesnt speak to any of us anymore..oh well..one less arrogant **** we have to listen tooo:wah:

I need some advice Fg members. I have never ever fallen out with a neighbour in all my life until i moved her 10 yrs ago. I am considerate to everything & everybody around me. I haven't even had a party. I live smack bang next to a large primary school where the noise is horrendous but i don't mind, i expect it. I live on an estate where dogs bark, kids scream, taxi's bang doors all night etc etc. I don't mind, i expect it. I have a field outside my lounge windows, i get dogs barking at all times, i don't mind, i expect it. One side of me there is an elderly couple who say to us "Don't ever move will you". The other side of me is a couple in their late thirties. She's great but at work all hours. He is in a wheelchair. When we moved in 10 years ago, we felt the greatest of empathy & sympathy for him. We ended up tip toeing around our house because he works on his computer all day. We did everything we could to be considerate. In nice weather he will sit on his front porch smoking. We even went to the lengths of fencing off a large part of our garden so our 3 dogs could not get round to that side & bark at passing dogs next to his porch. In 10 yrs, he has complained about everything. He even went to the school & told the head teacher to tell the children to be silent as they walked past his house. Another neighbour warned us that he had hounded out everyone who had ever lived in our house. We thought, the nicer & more considerate we were to him, the better he's be---No. He became more demanding. A plumber once told us that he's told his boss that he'd rather be sacked then go in that house again. To cut a long story short, his complaining became so bad that the council slapped a 2 yr "No complaint" ban on him. Something they can do to obssessive complainers who waste time, money & resources investigating ridiculous complaints. After the ban was up, sure enough i had a letter from the Enviromental Health after he complained that we had uncontrollable ivy. He is not lonely. He has a lovely wife & family & NHS carers that come in every day. He is on benifits so he can get any house improvements he likes. Over 10 years, he has been having major work done in his house every year. New kitchen one yr, next yr bathroom & on it goes. We have suffered to the point of distraction from all this work & we say nothing incase people think were being horrible to a disabled person. It's not just us, he's generally disliked all over but people are civil to him. He, however is rude, ignorant & selfish & i believe he's like it because of the wheelchair thing. The work that has been going on every year for 10 years included his wife elecrically sanding every piece of wood in the house that took her 3 weeks. For all that time we had the noise & no signal on our t.v's or phones. We said nothing. Another time, he had his shower floor taken up by the council 4 times as he wasn't satisfied with it & workman dug it up with a kango beginning 8 in the morning. We said nothing. Posts were removed with an angle grinder for weeks. We said nothing. It seems as if there is drilling or banging all the time. Fairly recently my husband was found to be in the advanced stages of prostate cancer & had to have emergency radical open surgery. When he came out of hospital, i had to nurse him post op & he was very very ill. He gradually recovered from the trauma of the surgery but still needs to take a nap afternoons as he gets exhausted. The neighbour knows of all this but work goes on in his house regardless. After saying nothing for years, i put a pleasent polite note through his door simply asking that as my husband needed this sleep afternoons, could he give us at least 24 notice of any major future work. Did he---did he hell. Not even a nod that drilling was about to start. We were furious after years of tip toeing around him. I unfenced the garden for one & began turning the volume control on the hi fi just to normal. I thought, wheelchair or no wheelchair--sod you.

In one weeks time, builders are arriving at my house. They will be re-plastering, re-wiring, re-plumbing, new kitchen, new bathroom & some rooms, new floor. Here's the thing--- Do i warn him?? There is nothing he can do about it but they will have to cut water & electrics off at some point as well. The man is a complete selfish pig but why do i feel guilty if we don't warn him?? The work is expected to take 3 weeks. What do you all think i should do??? I am detached from the oldies the other side, so they won't suffer. Sensible answers only please--This is worrying me. Ta very much OSCAR

If your workers are cutting off the water and hydro on his house, then, yes, you should let him know......there is nothing he can do about it....it is also your house as well and you have a right to get repairs done.

-just slip him a note under the door: sorry for any inconvenience, but we are having workmen here for a couple of weeks & the water & hydro will be shut off from time to time while they are working..............(and sign and date it)

keep a copy for yourselves as well.......its always good to have proof with any neighbour like that.



no need to explain what you are having done, not his business.

hope this helps you!

oscar;997582 wrote: I need some advice Fg members. I have never ever fallen out with a neighbour in all my life until i moved her 10 yrs ago. I am considerate to everything & everybody around me. I haven't even had a party. I live smack bang next to a large primary school where the noise is horrendous but i don't mind, i expect it. I live on an estate where dogs bark, kids scream, taxi's bang doors all night etc etc. I don't mind, i expect it. I have a field outside my lounge windows, i get dogs barking at all times, i don't mind, i expect it. One side of me there is an elderly couple who say to us "Don't ever move will you". The other side of me is a couple in their late thirties. She's great but at work all hours. He is in a wheelchair. When we moved in 10 years ago, we felt the greatest of empathy & sympathy for him. We ended up tip toeing around our house because he works on his computer all day. We did everything we could to be considerate. In nice weather he will sit on his front porch smoking. We even went to the lengths of fencing off a large part of our garden so our 3 dogs could not get round to that side & bark at passing dogs next to his porch. In 10 yrs, he has complained about everything. He even went to the school & told the head teacher to tell the children to be silent as they walked past his house. Another neighbour warned us that he had hounded out everyone who had ever lived in our house. We thought, the nicer & more considerate we were to him, the better he's be---No. He became more demanding. A plumber once told us that he's told his boss that he'd rather be sacked then go in that house again. To cut a long story short, his complaining became so bad that the council slapped a 2 yr "No complaint" ban on him. Something they can do to obssessive complainers who waste time, money & resources investigating ridiculous complaints. After the ban was up, sure enough i had a letter from the Enviromental Health after he complained that we had uncontrollable ivy. He is not lonely. He has a lovely wife & family & NHS carers that come in every day. He is on benifits so he can get any house improvements he likes. Over 10 years, he has been having major work done in his house every year. New kitchen one yr, next yr bathroom & on it goes. We have suffered to the point of distraction from all this work & we say nothing incase people think were being horrible to a disabled person. It's not just us, he's generally disliked all over but people are civil to him. He, however is rude, ignorant & selfish & i believe he's like it because of the wheelchair thing. The work that has been going on every year for 10 years included his wife elecrically sanding every piece of wood in the house that took her 3 weeks. For all that time we had the noise & no signal on our t.v's or phones. We said nothing. Another time, he had his shower floor taken up by the council 4 times as he wasn't satisfied with it & workman dug it up with a kango beginning 8 in the morning. We said nothing. Posts were removed with an angle grinder for weeks. We said nothing. It seems as if there is drilling or banging all the time. Fairly recently my husband was found to be in the advanced stages of prostate cancer & had to have emergency radical open surgery. When he came out of hospital, i had to nurse him post op & he was very very ill. He gradually recovered from the trauma of the surgery but still needs to take a nap afternoons as he gets exhausted. The neighbour knows of all this but work goes on in his house regardless. After saying nothing for years, i put a pleasent polite note through his door simply asking that as my husband needed this sleep afternoons, could he give us at least 24 notice of any major future work. Did he---did he hell. Not even a nod that drilling was about to start. We were furious after years of tip toeing around him. I unfenced the garden for one & began turning the volume control on the hi fi just to normal. I thought, wheelchair or no wheelchair--sod you.

In one weeks time, builders are arriving at my house. They will be re-plastering, re-wiring, re-plumbing, new kitchen, new bathroom & some rooms, new floor. Here's the thing--- Do i warn him?? There is nothing he can do about it but they will have to cut water & electrics off at some point as well. The man is a complete selfish pig but why do i feel guilty if we don't warn him?? The work is expected to take 3 weeks. What do you all think i should do??? I am detached from the oldies the other side, so they won't suffer. Sensible answers only please--This is worrying me. Ta very much OSCAR


Im lucky we have lovely neighbours, infact our whole street is lovely so I cant sympathise with knowing how it feels.

However me being me would go with my heart and inform him of the works. I personally wouldnt stoop to his level and I would show him I was the better person.:-4 Disabilities can affect people differently, he sounds angry and bitter, again I cant comment as iv'e never been disabled or even have someone close to me who is. Must be sole destrying.

southern yankee;964584 wrote: we live sooo far out. no body cares what goes on out here. Any vacant properies near you:)

Chezzie;997589 wrote: Im lucky we have lovely neighbours, infact our whole street is lovely so I cant sympathise with knowing how it feels.

However me being me would go with my heart and inform him of the works. I personally wouldnt stoop to his level and I would show him I was the better person.:-4 Disabilities can affect people differently, he sounds angry and bitter, again I cant comment as iv'e never been disabled or even have someone close to me who is. Must be sole destrying. I think your Spot on here, i'm sure he's bitter about being in the wheelchair. I know many other peeps in wheelchairs & some, my heart goes out to cos they live alone & don't see a soul for a day or have barely nothing. This guy has all the gismo's, sky sports on wide screen, p.c., computer games, you name it, he's got it. He has cleaners, nurses, gardeners, all sorts of people plus a lovely wife with a good job & fab family who are in & out for him. I look at other disabled peeps & think this guy has no idea of what he has in life. Nothing pleases him. I know deep down that if we don't warn him about the works, he will just be round here every day bugging the workman & complaining about the noise, making them feel guilty. Here, by law, the workman have to put a business card through his door giving 24 hr notice of water & electric being cut off. Half of me says "let him find out the hard way---pay back" The other half of me thinks that i will just be coming down to his level but i remember how uncaring he was when my husband was having life saving surgery & all the pain he was in recovering from it for a year.:-1

oscar;997676 wrote: I think your Spot on here, i'm sure he's bitter about being in the wheelchair. I know many other peeps in wheelchairs & some, my heart goes out to cos they live alone & don't see a soul for a day or have barely nothing. This guy has all the gismo's, sky sports on wide screen, p.c., computer games, you name it, he's got it. He has cleaners, nurses, gardeners, all sorts of people plus a lovely wife with a good job & fab family who are in & out for him. I look at other disabled peeps & think this guy has no idea of what he has in life. Nothing pleases him. I know deep down that if we don't warn him about the works, he will just be round here every day bugging the workman & complaining about the noise, making them feel guilty. Here, by law, the workman have to put a business card through his door giving 24 hr notice of water & electric being cut off. Half of me says "let him find out the hard way---pay back" The other half of me thinks that i will just be coming down to his level but i remember how uncaring he was when my husband was having life saving surgery & all the pain he was in recovering from it for a year.:-1


Tough call as you know best, its your life your describing and only you knows what you have been through because of this guy...Hope they do a good job on the house.

Chezzie;997683 wrote: Tough call as you know best, its your life your describing and only you knows what you have been through because of this guy...Hope they do a good job on the house. Thanks guys. You know what us girls are like with new kitchens? I'm very excited as i have been waiting for years for the work but i am also dreading the noise & the mess. The bit where this guy went to the head teacher to tell her to tell the children to be silent when they walked past his house. She told me his exact words & i was astonished. He said, the kids should have more respect for the fact that i'm in a wheelchair & be quiet when they pass my house. My husband was at home in bed after his surgery with the staples still in him & never complained about the noise from the school. The guy complained to me one day & i said to him "Mike, they are little kids, there babies, they don't understand". He said, well the head teacher should educate them about me!!! Any way thanks guys, it's great to unload aint it?? Always nice to have a good moan. You will probably see a new thread in about two weeks, "Builders from Hell". Any more advice is welcome. For guys out there, us women don't know it all, we just think we do.:-6:-6:-6

for the most part we've been lucky - but there was this one time when we lived in the apartments we had a hellish family that lived above us. they were loud.. noisy and sooo damn rude. they let the kids run the house- they were up ALL hours of the night bouncing basketballs on the floor. Luckily they got evicted and got the hell away from me.. lmao. I was plottin' revenge.. lol :rolleyes::D

Oscar:

Wheelchair bound or not...........he has been do damn mean to everyone....how can he expect people to continue to always be nice to him?.....sympathy can only go so far with anyone..............so he should learn to suck it up!



It must be hell what he is going thru...........but why continually take it out on everyone else...........its not their faults......and we all have our problems.

Barman;997805 wrote: We had people two doors away that poured brake fluid over their neighbours new BMW, and then poured oil in their swimming pool.

The final straw came after he beat up the old boy next door. I went to the rescue when his daughter came screaming at our door when this thug was hitting her dad. I rescued him to put it mildly, this thug then threw a rock at our conservatory so i phoned the police,told the neighbour to make a complaint also, arse got an ASBO, shortly after his wife left him.

Nice neighbours.

We got a young couple with a little boy aged 3 now, couldn't ask for a better neighbour, he keeps us entertained for hours.


OMG...............this sounds like that new movie that is coming out with Samual Jackson.........he is the neighbour from hell!

anyone heard of it?........Lakeview Terrace, just came out today in threaters, he plays a cop.

Odie;997809 wrote: OMG...............this sounds like that new movie that is coming out with Samual Jackson.........he is the neighbour from hell!

anyone heard of it?........Lakeview Terrace, just came out today in threaters, he plays a cop.


yes, i've heard of it and i can't wait to see it! lmao!