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I really do, because

I did it again

I did it again

I did it again

I did it again

I did it again:-5:-5

ARGGGGHHHHHHH:(

What did you do, Floppy?

what did you do?

now take a deep breath........

chonsigirl;747669 wrote: What did you do, Floppy?


I fixed someone and then gave them up rather then hold on for dear life. Why do I always end up knowing they'll be better off with someone else Chonsi? Why do I push them away instead of fighting to keep them...

And you know me... I'll start fresh, with some other poor sap next week..

I'm the real 'poor sap' aint i?:o

littlemissgiggle;747670 wrote: what did you do?

now take a deep breath........


I am not to be trusted in a mature relationship... I'm really not!:-6

Floppy your just not ready yet plain and simple. Has nothing to do with a mature relationship, it has everything to do with wanting to be in a relationship period. :-5

Carla's got it there.

I always used to do that for others while my life around me stagnated.

Then I decided it was my turn.

Took my own medicine and my own advice and now it's my turn to shine.

:-6

CARLA;747686 wrote: Floppy your just not ready yet plain and simple. Has nothing to do with a mature relationship, it has everything to do with wanting to be in a relationship period. :-5


I think it may actually be that I am afraid to be in a relationship, carla.

Short term doesn't seem to bother me, but I just can't conceive of anyone possibly wanting to be with me forever, so i leave before it has a chance to occur to them too...

grh;747679 wrote: I fixed someone and then gave them up rather then hold on for dear life. Why do I always end up knowing they'll be better off with someone else Chonsi? Why do I push them away instead of fighting to keep them...

And you know me... I'll start fresh, with some other poor sap next week..

I'm the real 'poor sap' aint i?:o


You are never a "sap." You must have pushed them away for a reason, because the one you will hold onto for dear life, is still waiting for you to find.

I think you are very wise, and will know when that someone is there before you.

JacksDad;747694 wrote: Carla's got it there.

I always used to do that for others while my life around me stagnated.

Then I decided it was my turn.

Took my own medicine and my own advice and now it's my turn to shine.

:-6


Have you asked your mailman if he's single... or was I just thinking of having you check into that for me???:p:-4

Been there done that myself. It still gets back to not being ready, if you were ready you wouldn't leave. It would feel right and fear or insecurity wouldn't be an issue.

[QUOTE]I think it may actually be that I am afraid to be in a relationship, carla.

Short term doesn't seem to bother me, but I just can't conceive of anyone possibly wanting to be with me forever, so i leave before it has a chance to occur to them too...[/QUOTE]

How do you 'fix' someone?

grh;747699 wrote: I think it may actually be that I am afraid to be in a relationship, carla.

Short term doesn't seem to bother me, but I just can't conceive of anyone possibly wanting to be with me forever, so i leave before it has a chance to occur to them too...


Do you think this might mean that you can't conceive of wanting to be with

someone forever? Just a thought...

(and the minute I hit the submit button, I'll read back and see that this has already been posted. If so, apologies)

grh;747701 wrote: Have you asked your mailman if he's single... or was I just thinking of having you check into that for me???:p:-4


I've been trying to avoid the subject but seeing that you won't let it go, here's the deal.

My Mail "man" is actually an extremely large Jamaican woman with facial hair and she sweats no matter what the temperature. It also appears that do to her extreme mass she has flattened the leaf springs on her Jeep to the point that she now has the only 'low rider" mail delivery vehicle in town. Much to the chagrin of the local Hispanic community.

Can Hispanics be chagrined?

:-3

JacksDad;747829 wrote: I've been trying to avoid the subject but seeing that you won't let it go, here's the deal.

My Mail "man" is actually an extremely large Jamaican woman with facial hair and she sweats no matter what the temperature. It also appears that do to her extreme mass she has flattened the leaf springs on her Jeep to the point that she now has the only 'low rider" mail delivery vehicle in town. Much to the chagrin of the local Hispanic community.

Can Hispanics be chagrined?

:-3


Yeah, but is she single?

theia;747813 wrote: Do you think this might mean that you can't conceive of wanting to be with

someone forever? Just a thought...

(and the minute I hit the submit button, I'll read back and see that this has already been posted. If so, apologies)


I think it's pretty safe to say that i need my space. :p People aggravate me too easily.

JacksDad;747829 wrote: I've been trying to avoid the subject but seeing that you won't let it go, here's the deal.

My Mail "man" is actually an extremely large Jamaican woman with facial hair and she sweats no matter what the temperature. It also appears that do to her extreme mass she has flattened the leaf springs on her Jeep to the point that she now has the only 'low rider" mail delivery vehicle in town. Much to the chagrin of the local Hispanic community.

Can Hispanics be chagrined?

:-3


Okay, let's move that mailman to third string, eh?:D

grh;747838 wrote: I think it's pretty safe to say that i need my space. :p People aggravate me too easily.


Hmmm and why do they aggravate you? are they showing you something about yourself you don't like??

A notion Ive heard many times but havent quite grasped myself yet is that true happiness derives from serving others.

Not in a servant sense nor as in losing your own identity.

Are you selfish ?

No shame in that but a less selfish outlook is a quality worth striving for.

Not just you of course its a human trait.

Me thinking out loud.

Floppy if you don't want to be with someone don't blame yourself. Hell I have no desire to have a relationship at this time in my life. I don't blame anyone at all. I hate that it has to be someones fault at all. :-5

I'm just happy being alone and damit that's my story and I'm sticking to it. :wah:

I'm still curious how you fix someone. Wouldn't that be up to him to decide and accomplish? I'm not sure I'd be too pleased if someone decided I'd make a dandy little improvement project.

Snooze;747906 wrote: I'm still curious how you fix someone. Wouldn't that be up to him to decide and accomplish? I'm not sure I'd be too pleased if someone decided I'd make a dandy little improvement project.






Oh.....

You just haven't met "the one worth fighting for". He'll come along when you least expect it.

Nomad;747881 wrote: A notion Ive heard many times but havent quite grasped myself yet is that true happiness derives from serving others.

Not in a servant sense nor as in losing your own identity.

Are you selfish ?

No shame in that but a less selfish outlook is a quality worth striving for.

Not just you of course its a human trait.

Me thinking out loud.


selfish is as selfish does

I think that to strive to be less selfish, is a selfish act. You could actually be focusing your attentions on someone else, couldn't you? I don't try to be selfish or giving, but if I had to guess I'd say I lean more toward the giving side.... so long as we're not talking emotions here, that is. And I don't consider that selfish... I consider that self preservation.:-6

grh;748025 wrote: selfish is as selfish does



I think that to strive to be less selfish, is a selfish act. You could actually be focusing your attentions on someone else, couldn't you? I don't try to be selfish or giving, but if I had to guess I'd say I lean more toward the giving side.... so long as we're not talking emotions here, that is. And I don't consider that selfish... I consider that self preservation.:-6


This wasnt criticism. Ive no idea whatsoever if your selfish or if your not.

But since were talking about emotions harboring them is extremely selfish.

Blow jobs are a dime a dozen.

Self preservation is me me me.

Nomad;748028 wrote: This wasnt criticism. Ive no idea whatsoever if your selfish or if your not.

But since were talking about emotions harboring them is extremely selfish.

Blow jobs are a dime a dozen.

Self preservation is me me me.


exactly

grh;748047 wrote: exactly Fine !

grh;748025 wrote: selfish is as selfish does

I consider that self preservation.


Did you watch Forrest Gump last night too?

Or Love Actually?:p

Swallow hard and call him back.

I'm obviously invisible. I can handle that.

Accountable;749020 wrote: Swallow hard and call him back.


heheheh:sneaky::yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

sorry, lost my head....

grh;749044 wrote: heheheh:sneaky::yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl



sorry, lost my head....
:yh_rotfl ................ ahem ........ Oi!

*snort*

jimbo;749049 wrote: who said that:-3:-3:-3


You're a ghost whisperer, Jimbo. Shhh!