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Have you ever looked at anyone's art work, poem, story ect here & complimented them (said its good) out of politeness rather than being genuine? :sneaky:

God woman, you're on a roll today:-6 :wah:

To answer your question - not yet no;)

I can honestly say no I haven't. IF I compliment, it's genuine.

It will be interesting to see if anyone admits it tho right? :sneaky:

People do it all the time.

LOL If anyone does admit to it, I'll never believe a compliment from them. :wah:

Yes.

Thank you Red, way to go :yh_clap

Well, if it were something that really warranted the truth, like "is my husband cheating on me?" for sure I would be honest. But to tell someone their haircut looks bad or to quelch their dream...no. It's just not right. (to me)

no I wouldn't do that.

yeah all the time i dont even bother reading it :sneaky:







i think i did once but on the whole if i dont like it i just dont post

no cos if i wasn't being genuine i wouldn't reply :guitarist

buttercup;650251 wrote: Have you ever looked at anyone's art work, poem, story ect here & complimented them (said its good) out of politeness rather than being genuine? :sneaky:


Sure, I do it all the time with grand children.

No Lon, i meant just here on the forum. I will edit & bold the word here

well to be honest i have always told the turth if i dont like anything i will say so.

please or affend is my motto :-3

I hope not, I find it a damn shame some of my stories don't get more feedback as it is. I would love if someone told me they really didn't like what I had written. Especially if they meant it. I wouldn't change anything, but t least I would know. People think that folks who share their stories and poems or what ever; don't want feed back, if we didn't we wouldn't share the damn things. I post my stories on usually 5-6 forums, and pray I get at least one response from each place. I don't do this **** just for the hell of it. Most times the things i write about are fiction derived from some of the most trying times in my life. Sometimes it is fresh, and others it is from years past. I understand that folks don't always come to a place looking to read 5 thousand words excerpts from a novel in progress, and would rather talk about pensions, job hunting, penis size, and three eyed gold fish (I was not in any way singling out any one, or their posts), but in a forum called POETRY and WRITING I expect there to be such things found there, and if you make an effort to stop by, then by all means if you feel like making a comment then do so.



Absit invidia

You get out the wrong side of the bed this morning KB? :-3

KB.;650562 wrote: I hope not, I find it a damn shame some of my stories don't get more feedback as it is. I would love if someone told me they really didn't like what I had written. Especially if they meant it. I wouldn't change anything, but t least I would know. People think that folks who share their stories and poems or what ever; don't want feed back, if we didn't we wouldn't share the damn things. I post my stories on usually 5-6 forums, and pray I get at least one response from each place. I don't do this **** just for the hell of it. Most times the things i write about are fiction derived from some of the most trying times in my life. Sometimes it is fresh, and others it is from years past. I understand that folks don't always come to a place looking to read 5 thousand words excerpts from a novel in progress, and would rather talk about pensions, job hunting, penis size, and three eyed gold fish (I was not in any way singling out any one, or their posts), but in a forum called POETRY and WRITING I expect there to be such things found there, and if you make an effort to stop by, then by all means if you feel like making a comment then do so.



Absit invidia


Just going there to read them now so i will send my feed back shortly, :yh_glasse

buttercup;650251 wrote: Have you ever looked at anyone's art work, poem, story ect here & complimented them (said its good) out of politeness rather than being genuine?


No. I will only comment if I think the item is good.

Absolutely not, one side is against the wall; therefore there is only one side to get out of. Well I usually stand up and walk off the foot of the bed but that is because there is a desk on the side not against the wall. You asked; dared us rather to be honest. I was. Most writers, damn me for almost using a stereotype, hunger for feedback. they don't want you to change or correct; if they do they will ask for it specifically (thanks Almostwent and Chonsi), but the do want to know what you think. it doesn't have to be much. I look at some of the things Horatio said to me, and thank the muses above that he did so. I get my PMs which are nice and personal, but you have to water a seed to make it grow. When those comments are made in public it fosters the growth of more comments. Watch how the views on a subject grow as more and more replies are made. I spend as much time copy/pasting my stores as i do writing them sometimes, and then constantly click over to my email to see if anyone has said anything. I thank everyone who has taken the time to write a comment, small or epic, genuine or generic. Time is valuable; and when someone cashes some of it in to stop by and give some feedback I understand just how valuable it is. I am as guilty as anyone, I do not always give feedback myself so take all of this with a boulder sized grain of salt.

Absit invidia

littlemissgiggle;650567 wrote: Just going there to read them now so i will send my feed back shortly, :yh_glasse


There is about 60k words; make some popcorn.

KB.;650570 wrote: Absolutely not, one side is against the wall; therefore there is only one side to get out of. Well I usually stand up and walk off the foot of the bed but that is because there is a desk on the side not against the wall. You asked; dared us rather to be honest. I was. Most writers, damn me for almost using a stereotype, hunger for feedback. they don't want you to change or correct; if they do they will ask for it specifically (thanks Almostwent and Chonsi), but the do want to know what you think. it doesn't have to be much. I look at some of the things Horatio said to me, and thank the muses above that he did so. I get my PMs which are nice and personal, but you have to water a seed to make it grow. When those comments are made in public it fosters the growth of more comments. Watch how the views on a subject grow as more and more replies are made. I spend as much time copy/pasting my stores as i do writing them sometimes, and then constantly click over to my email to see if anyone has said anything. I thank everyone who has taken the time to write a comment, small or epic, genuine or generic. Time is valuable; and when someone cashes some of it in to stop by and give some feedback I understand just how valuable it is. I am as guilty as anyone, I do not always give feedback myself so take all of this with a boulder sized grain of salt.

Absit invidia


If i was aiming a thread at you, you'd know it, shameless way to get people to read your stories :rolleyes:

KB.;650572 wrote: There is about 60k words; make some popcorn.


will do, just watching the legend that is Rod Stewart on t.v. then will turn it off and read them.

littlemissgiggle;650582 wrote: will do, just watching the legend that is Rod Stewart on t.v. then will turn it off and read them.


Has he told you lately that he loves you?

buttercup;650580 wrote: If i was aiming a thread at you, you'd know it, shameless way to get people to read your stories :rolleyes:


I'll do what ever it takes, but seriously this is a topic of importance to me. I was invited here by a friend to share stories, I want to share them.

KB.;650588 wrote: Has he told you lately that he loves you?


no :-5

he is just singing - i am sailing :guitarist

truth, like many things in life, is a relative concept...

I can honestly say that i have never done that... i only give compliments if i mean them.

I'm always honest.No matter what.Im kind but honest.I feel lieing to them does them no good.Just my opinion.

magenta flame;650873 wrote: I learnt a long long time ago that you never ever ever use the words good or bad about anyones art work . Should always use desriptions like "oh I love the colours you've used" "i've never seen a sunset done quite that way , it's very Avant Guarde"


Finesse.

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I am like Pinky on this one, I am honest about commenting...if I don't compliment or comment, because ummm I didn't read it, or it didn't interest me, but I believe in the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all"...

For those who know me I usually give compliments, but I am sincere and I really mean when I give praise...



Example: Jimbo's head is nice and shiney!!:p

magenta flame;650873 wrote: I learnt a long long time ago that you never ever ever use the words good or bad about anyones art work . Should always use desriptions like "oh I love the colours you've used" "i've never seen a sunset done quite that way , it's very Avant Guarde"


Good post Majenta, a bit :sneaky: but good