My ex is single

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sat Jun 02, 2007 9:16 pm

Her husband packed his bags and moved out.

Yes. I love her.

:-5:-5:-5:-5

That's about all I have to say about it right now.

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Sat Jun 02, 2007 9:18 pm

JacksDad;627662 wrote: Her husband packed his bags and moved out.

Yes. I love her.

:-5:-5:-5

That's about all I have to say about it right now.

You love her as in yay she's single you're in love, or is this a sarcastic statement?

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Jun 02, 2007 10:48 pm

Gosh.

If this is what I think you are saying... please think it over carefully.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sat Jun 02, 2007 11:05 pm

She is your EX for a reason.:-3

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Jun 02, 2007 11:23 pm

Peg;627677 wrote: She is your EX for a reason.:-3

what peg said buddy :-6

go carefull dont get smashed to bits all over again:-6

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 2:47 am

sometimes the grass is never greener on the other side as jimbo and koan said please take it easy xx

anotherlisa · Post by **anotherlisa** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 6:49 am

Has anything about the underlying reasons for the split changed? Even if things have changed, take it slow & watch out for yourself and your feelings.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:18 am

Go wander around Home Depot and look at drill bits and wet saws. Thats what I do to unclutter.

But I might be insane so take my advice with a grain of salt.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:33 am

What happened to the Lady you started to date?

Your in Love with your EX for who she was - not who she is.

Don't go back to comfy - go for Happy...

You may not remember why you divorced - Why is her current husband leaving?

Patsy

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:38 am

Nomad;627782 wrote: Go wander around Home Depot and look at drill bits and wet saws. Thats what I do to unclutter.

But I might be insane so take my advice with a grain of salt.

I like Home Depot too, always cute guys there lol I mean. umm.. .flowers.. and stuff.. yea

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:40 am

NotToday;627798 wrote: I like Home Depot too, always cute guys there lol I mean. umm.. .flowers.. and stuff.. yea

HD is a pick up joint now ?

HD is a sacred "man" lounge ! :p

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:41 am

I only window shop, I don't take anything home that is not for sale.... :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:42 am

Nomad;627801 wrote: HD is a pick up joint now ?

HD is a sacred "man" lounge ! :p

er whats wrong with the tool you have buddy not enough power ,not big enough ???:wah: :wah:

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:43 am

jimbo;627807 wrote: er whats wrong with the tool you have buddy not enough power ,not big enough ???:wah: :wah:

:yh_ooooo

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 7:46 am

jimbo;627807 wrote: er whats wrong with the tool you have buddy not enough power ,not big enough ???:wah: :wah:

Why I outta !

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 8:25 am

I love home Depot too!! .......................for the plant section...:p

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 9:47 am

Nomad;627801 wrote: HD is a pick up joint now ?

HD is a sacred "man" lounge ! :p

Why not? What better place to find a man who is handy around the house?

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 11:38 am

Maybe they split because she realised that he was not the man you are. Everyone is entitled to a second chance & if you love her i dont see any problem giving it another shot, good luck hun, from what ive seen of you here you seem like a good guy

Best of luck

laneybug · Post by **laneybug** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 4:12 pm

Take time to sort this out in your head. Look at every angle, not just the one you want to see. And go carefully.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 4:25 pm

I find the men better looking at LOWE'S if you as me.

[QUOTE]Originally Posted by Nomad

Go wander around Home Depot and look at drill bits and wet saws. Thats what I do to unclutter.

But I might be insane so take my advice with a grain of salt.[/QUOTE]

koan · Post by **koan** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 4:58 pm

Where was she when you were recovering from your heart attacks?

I'm recalling this right, yes?

Did she ever offer you love or support during that time? Did she show any genuine concern? I hope you use this forum or some other as therapy. Start a journal or something to get all the thoughts out and try to make sense of them. I remember being ready to take back a very abusive man a year after I left him, just because I hadn't found anyone else and thought maybe no one else would ever love me. I was only 19 though.

This is one of the reasons I used to hate emotions. They make no freaking sense.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 5:37 pm

koan;628159 wrote: Where was she when you were recovering from your heart attacks?

I'm recalling this right, yes?

Did she ever offer you love or support during that time? Did she show any genuine concern?

BAM!

And Koan closes the thread. Just when Buttercup was tickling my romantic:-4, Koan comes in for the kill with a heavy dose of reality.

For twelve days I lay in a hospital bed after nearly dying ALONE.

For four months I slept in the woods and she had the idiocy to call me and ask when I was going to see my son.

Forgiving her cheating on me, I have.

Forgetting about her cold lack of compassion. I did.

Thank you Koan.

Now on with your regularly scheduled forum.

Hmmm. Where's that redheads phone number.

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 5:39 pm

JacksDad;628171 wrote: BAM!

And Koan closes the thread. Just when Buttercup was tickling my romantic:-4, Koan comes in for the kill with a heavy dose of reality.

For twelve days I lay in a hospital bed after nearly dying ALONE.

For four months I slept in the woods and she had the idiocy to call me and ask when I was going to see my son.

Forgiving her cheating on me, I have.

Forgetting about her cold lack of compassion. I did.

Thank you Koan.

Now on with your regularly scheduled forum.

Hmmm. Where's that redheads phone number.

Good for you JD! It certainly sounds like you deserve better than that!!!

koan · Post by **koan** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 5:51 pm

Love's not easy to find. It's easier to pretend we already found it sometimes.

I'm glad you shared some of your past with us before so I knew what to say. You definitely deserve better, even if it takes a long time to find it.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 6:03 pm

No hurry. It's been six years already.

I'm quite comfortable.

Thanks again.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sun Jun 03, 2007 9:05 pm

I wish you all the best Jacks Dad!!:-4

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 12:04 am

Jacksdad

your comfortable - but lonely, you'll go to a movie with her - maybe out to dinner

she'll worm her way back into your life and you'll allow it.

she get back with you for a financial position and you'll welcome her back for the companionship. - its just what happens

mark my words it will happen - and its OK - if your OK with the situation.

Patsy

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 1:46 am

jacks dad you seem a really great guy

i got back with an ex that treated me like crap ,guess what we got back together and she treated me like crapier crap

what i should of done is write on my chest welcome in big black letters lay down on the floor and let her wipe her dirty stinking feet on me and whilst she was at it walk all over me

if you go back you might as well do the same

i might come across a tad bitter here ....... that could be an understatement

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 4:10 am

koan;628159 wrote: Where was she when you were recovering from your heart attacks?

I'm recalling this right, yes?

Did she ever offer you love or support during that time? Did she show any genuine concern? I hope you use this forum or some other as therapy. Start a journal or something to get all the thoughts out and try to make sense of them. I remember being ready to take back a very abusive man a year after I left him, just because I hadn't found anyone else and thought maybe no one else would ever love me. I was only 19 though.

This is one of the reasons I used to hate emotions. They make no freaking sense.

Oh i was not aware of all that

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 7:08 am

Patsy Warnick;628233 wrote: Jacksdad

your comfortable - but lonely, you'll go to a movie with her - maybe out to dinner

she'll worm her way back into your life and you'll allow it.

she get back with you for a financial position and you'll welcome her back for the companionship. - its just what happens

mark my words it will happen - and its OK - if your OK with the situation.

Patsy

You're on the money about her there, Patsy. But I know her for the Black Widow that she is. She'll not have an opportunity to sink those fangs in me again.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:08 am

Aw JD like somebody said, our ex's are our ex's for some reason. I wish you luck on this. Remember it's all about you now, so be sure to do things your way.

Cheers

Minks

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:13 am

JacksDad;628310 wrote: You're on the money about her there, Patsy. But I know her for the Black Widow that she is. She'll not have an opportunity to sink those fangs in me again.

Good for you JD!!

I have the experience of marry-ing the same man twice and from personal experience...they may change for a while, and mine actually was good for about 5-7 years but eventually turned back into a horrible monster worse than the first time...and glad he's out of my life finally!! but went through 17 years of ups and downs and ins and outs and OY!! (and 3 beautiful boys-which I'm very thankful for).

I just hope the best for you JD, You've been through a lot and you deserve a good Woman to really love and care for YOU!!:-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:18 am

WonderWendy3;628335 wrote: Good for you JD!!

I have the experience of marry-ing the same man twice and from personal experience...they may change for a while, and mine actually was good for about 5-7 years but eventually turned back into a horrible monster worse than the first time...and glad he's out of my life finally!! but went through 17 years of ups and downs and ins and outs and OY!! (and 3 beautiful boys-which I'm very thankful for).

I just hope the best for you JD, You've been through a lot and you deserve a good Woman to really love and care for YOU!!:-4

Wow WW3 I often wonder if ex's ever change. I am on the "never take him back" side of the coin.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:47 am

minks;628337 wrote: Wow WW3 I often wonder if ex's ever change. I am on the "never take him back" side of the coin.

My advice is STAY on that side of the coin!! I'm sure there is that 1 example out there somewhere that they don't change back, I just never have met them yet.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:50 am

WonderWendy3;628393 wrote: My advice is STAY on that side of the coin!! I'm sure there is that 1 example out there somewhere that they don't change back, I just never have met them yet.

Wierd stuff this divorce business eh.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:51 am

Rose-tinted spectacles are SO last year. Always forwards never backwards my friend. You know it makes sense.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 8:57 am

Thanks everyone but really. I'm fine.

That Koan girl can deliver one hard slap to the face.

I'm quite comfortable being alone, I'm not lonely and in no hurry to be tied down again.

Anyway, on Sunday I took Nomads advice but instead of HD I went to the flea market.

There are far too many beautiful women out there for me to be wasting my life with my past.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:00 am

JacksDad;628413 wrote: Thanks everyone but really. I'm fine.

That Koan girl can deliver one hard slap to the face.

I'm quite comfortable being alone, I'm not lonely and in no hurry to be tied down again.

Anyway, on Sunday I took Nomads advice but instead of HD I went to the flea market.

There are far too many beautiful women out there for me to be wasting my life with my past.

Hi Fives JD. I feel the same, single life is for the most part a pleasant place to be.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:02 am

minks;628415 wrote: Hi Fives JD. I feel the same, single life is for the most part a pleasant place to be.
Are you knocking me back AGAIN Minksy? :-2

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:03 am

JacksDad;628413 wrote: Thanks everyone but really. I'm fine.

That Koan girl can deliver one hard slap to the face.

I'm quite comfortable being alone, I'm not lonely and in no hurry to be tied down again.

Anyway, on Sunday I took Nomads advice but instead of HD I went to the flea market.

There are far too many beautiful women out there for me to be wasting my life with my past.

Yipeee!! Glad to hear that!!:-6

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:05 am

Watch out JD. She's flirting again :rolleyes:

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:24 am

Uncle Kram;628419 wrote: Are you knocking me back AGAIN Minksy? :-2

Wot you mean Krammy??

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:26 am

minks;628433 wrote: Wot you mean Krammy??
Well I keep hitting on you but you prefer the single life

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:27 am

Uncle Kram;628434 wrote: Well I keep hitting on you but you prefer the single life

Hah you ain't tryin hard enough Krammy I didn't even notice, was preferring single life cause I was oblivious to your advances... *rethinking my direction now*:wah:

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:29 am

minks;628436 wrote: Hah you ain't tryin hard enough Krammy I didn't even notice, was preferring single life cause I was oblivious to your advances... *rethinking my direction now*:wah:
Would it help if I wore a wig?

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:31 am

Uncle Kram;628423 wrote: Watch out JD. She's flirting again :rolleyes:

Who's flirting?

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:32 am

WonderWendy3;628440 wrote: Who's flirting?
Could be me I suppose

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:34 am

Uncle Kram;628423 wrote: Watch out JD. She's flirting again

Uncle Kram;628442 wrote: Could be me I suppose

you said "SHE"...is there something you need to share with the class??

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:36 am

WonderWendy3;628444 wrote: you said "SHE"...is there something you need to share with the class??

Only my dress size (18)

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 9:43 am

Uncle Kram;628439 wrote: Would it help if I wore a wig?

Noooo I don't "do" girls