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There is a person in my life who is a know it all, generally it doesn't bug me. But every once in while it just eats me up. this person is so sure that they know everything about everything, and refuse to admit they may be wrong about something. And even if you had physical evidence that they are wrong and show it to them, they just ignore it and insist they are still right. :-5

Anyone else have a person like this in their life? How do you deal with it? Ignore them, roll your eyes and go on, what do you do?

No, I don't allow that type of personality around me. Its always a debate, and they'll always be right.

You just can't have a regular conversation with them - so you can't enjoy yourself around them - so why put yourself thru it. Unless this person is your parent or husband - then disconnect yourself from this person.

Patsy

I would cut the person out of my life, unfortunately I'm not able to.

Sheryl;519182 wrote: I would cut the person out of my life, unfortunately I'm not able to.
Then you just have to develope the patience of a saint, darling. I work with someone like that, but I got so angry with them, and told them what I really thought of them, now she doesnt speak to me at all. Come to think of it, thats a good thing!

Pinky;519188 wrote: I think we all know people like that. I've learned just to agree with them and they shut up and go away that much quicker.


Quite so. Just say "Yes, dear.". It may very probably help not to express any

sort of opinion on anything at all controversial. If pressed, say "I don't know,

dear.", or "I try and not to even *think* about that sort of thing these days,

dear.".

Oh that would drive them quiet crazy if I was just to respond like that. Just may have to do that. :wah:

Sheryl

Its tough to bite your tongue - so if your have to be around this person - kill them with kindness.

Patsy

Sheryl;519229 wrote: Oh that would drive them quiet crazy if I was just to respond like that. Just may have to do that. :wah:


i thought you'd say that and i was right again :p

Patsy Warnick;519234 wrote: Sheryl

Its tough to bite your tongue - so if your have to be around this person - kill them with kindness.

Patsy


Oh Patsy you make me laugh my ex MIL said that all the time...."Kill them with kindness" She was good at that too, and I loved that attitude.

It's my aunt/adoptive mother. Somethings I just bite my tongue, other times her comments make me feel like sh*t.

I knew it was a parent of sorts. Sounds like she's in pain

Only miserable people strike out to inflict misery towards another.

There's nothing like a heart to heart talk. You may not get a honest response, but you have to live with these thoughts the rest of your life.

I had a heart to heart with my mom - I'm glad I did. Oh the responses weren't the bottom line answer I wanted - but my mom respected me for addressing different issues, and we were able to communicate from then on.

It can be a win win discussion.

Patsy

I would have the heart to heart, but I get the feeling if I did anything that shows me to be ungrateful, she'd be the one to point it out to me and others.

I don't see why we should put up with behaviour that we wouldn't accept from anyone else just because it comes from family. You can make a big difference for everyone if you take a stand and defend yourself. Even if it means cutting her off for a time period. Just make it clear what your boundaries are and that if she is willing to respect you then she is welcome in your life. It seems harsh but it works. I've had to hang up on family before. They eventually learn not to overstep their boundaries. If they don't then it is their choice, not yours.

Maybe she doesn't know she hurts you feelings?

Make a statement to her - saying do you know you hurt my feelings saying "that".

Just a example..

Talking to her is better than keeping this to yourself and having to go to therapy beacause of it.

Don't worry about "others" and their opinion. This is not a attack on your mom/Aunt - its a conversation.

Good luck

Patsy

Koan

I so agree with you - family or not. We're individuals and this is how I feel Period.

Patsy

Thanks for the advice. I'll remember it all for next time.

I have a co-worker who is a know it all, and just recently because of his *crap* he got a big slap in the face, he was stripped of his authority, released from being in a lead roll at our sister company, has had privledges removed from him and given to me, and put into a position where he can be watched closely. He is not liked at all, and I hope this has shown him that despite being the head chief's Son In Law, he is a witless, idiot.

ughh Minks, hope he doesn't cause you problems.

koan;519273 wrote: I don't see why we should put up with behaviour that we wouldn't accept from anyone else just because it comes from family. You can make a big difference for everyone if you take a stand and defend yourself. Even if it means cutting her off for a time period. Just make it clear what your boundaries are and that if she is willing to respect you then she is welcome in your life. It seems harsh but it works. I've had to hang up on family before. They eventually learn not to overstep their boundaries. If they don't then it is their choice, not yours.


Sheryl;519240 wrote: It's my aunt/adoptive mother. Somethings I just bite my tongue, other times her comments make me feel like sh*t.


Sheryl, my mother is also like this! She has constantly criticised me all my life until she went too far. I havent spoken to her for 2 years now, which is hard, but I feel better about myself as a person. She sent my daughter a nice birthday card today and a nice christmas card so perhaps the tide is turning. I agree with what Koan said above, cut her off for a time. Them criticising us isnt kind or helpful, it's just making themselves feel good at our expense and, in reality, it's mental and emotional abuse. I'd avoid her until she grows up enough to show you some respect. And if that doesn't happen then you're better off without her. Sorry.

Sheryl;519349 wrote: ughh Minks, hope he doesn't cause you problems.


Thanks Sheryl I now have permission to "tell on him" ahahahaha

Actually with being his equal, I get to ram "policies and procedures" down his throat.

I look forward to setting him on his ear.

I have a customer that THINK he knows everything about everything. If you tell of a horrible experience in a store, he'll insist he was there when in fact, he wasn't. I've made up stories about the bar I used to work at and he insists he was there every time.:yh_rotfl

i have one that i work with. Deb. we have nicknamed her,

St. FUD

Shut The F Up Deb.