Why can't men talk about sex???

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 2:42 pm

Men do not generally talk about sex, because they do not enjoy talking about sex in the specific way that women do, also we know that women do not share all of our attitudes towards these things and never will, and sometimes complete honesty between the sexes may not be very conducive to an easy life. I do not know what that is so, but it is, and I think it probably always has been. But we (men) certainly can talk about it if prompted, as you have discovered, though you may not always like our answers. Though hopefully you will still like us enough to, erm, you know. :rolleyes:

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 2:50 pm

Hamster;502442 wrote:

Please....men out there...are you shy?

No. :wah:

Post by **Betty Boop** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 2:52 pm

Magenta flame;502453 wrote: Completely understandable Keith. It's not just men by the way , I'd need to ask permission otherwise I'd feel I'd be betraying my husbands personal life.

I don't think it is just a 'man' thing.

There are certain things I just don't want to discuss, I like to keep my own 'naughty' little secrets (or big as the case may be

)

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 2:55 pm

I think also that in fairness to the men here at FG, they are also reticent of barging into womens conversations about sexuality, their sexual experiences, their sexual needs, as it is not always appreciated and can be taken up the wrong way if you know what I mean. But I think that if you specifically asked most of the men here sexual questions, they would answer them frankly enough if they are inclined to. There are issues of respect for women about such things as someone else said, and I don't think thats old fashioned thats just good manners.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 2:57 pm

Galbally;502452 wrote: Men do not generally talk about sex, because they do not enjoy talking about sex in the specific way that women do
Not in my world.

Gallbally wrote: also we know that women do not share all of our attitudes towards these things and never will,
Not in my world.

Gallbally wrote: and sometimes complete honesty between the sexes may not be very conducive to an easy life.
Not in my world.

Sorry Gallbally, I'm not picking on you. :yh_bigsmi (a first for me today)

My husband has no issues whatsoever discussing sex in any way.

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 2:57 pm

Guys talk about sex...they just don't go into detail, nor does anyone want to hear about it from another guy(At least I don't).

Saffron · Post by **Saffron** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 3:26 pm

Men LOVE to talk about sex, but in person. All of my guy friends LOVE talking about sex with me, even though they know they are not going to HAVE sex with me. They still LOVE to talk about it. I guess there isn't anything interesting about writing about it. For a man. So maybe just TALKING about it is the next best thing to doing it. :wah:

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:29 pm

Come on girls.....Would you really wanna see Krammy blushing? :yh_angel

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:31 pm

Uncle Kram;502585 wrote: Come on girls.....Would you really wanna see Krammy blushing? :yh_angel

yes.....i would.......:p

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:33 pm

Pinky;502587 wrote: Of course we do!:D
Actually, I'm painfully shy in these matters. I always leave my socks on

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:37 pm

Pinky;502597 wrote: At least you'll have warm feet! Nothing worse than someone's freezing feet getting stuck on you!
I don't wear them on my feet

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:39 pm

Uncle Kram;502593 wrote: Actually, I'm painfully shy in these matters. I always leave my socks on

Add some cowboy boots and you'll be stylish.

oops... make that Doc Martins. You're English.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:39 pm

Uncle Kram;502604 wrote: I don't wear them on my feet

:yh_rotfl

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:42 pm

Hamster;502608 wrote: This was supposed to be a serious thread....It says serious discussions only!
If it's serious you want, you know you can rely on me 100% Hammy

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:45 pm

Pinky;502618 wrote: Sorry Hamster!:D

Got this really funny pic in my head now of Kram doing his Red Hot Chilli Peppers impression!:wah:
After Columbo it would be my best impression if the sock didn't keep falling off

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 5:39 pm

BabyRider;502464 wrote: Not in my world.

Not in my world.

Not in my world.

Sorry Gallbally, I'm not picking on you. :yh_bigsmi (a first for me today)

My husband has no issues whatsoever discussing sex in any way.

I know you are not picking on me BR, I think you are misinterpreting what I am saying. I think on a one-to-one situation with a partner a lot of men will definetly talk about sex, but not socially, not among other men, except in a school-yard kinda way, or occasionally maybe with a trusted male friend if something prompts it.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 5:48 pm

Uncle Kram

If the sock don't fit - you can't commit .

Patsy

P.S. Sorry Hammy - I couldn't resist

I know this is serious.

Patsy

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 5:58 pm

Galbally;502712 wrote: I know you are not picking on me BR, I think you are misinterpreting what I am saying. I think on a one-to-one situation with a partner a lot of men will definetly talk about sex, but not socially, not among other men, except in a school-yard kinda way, or occasionally maybe with a trusted male friend if something prompts it.

(speaking to BR, while trying to add to this post)

Ha...

Yeah, and theres only two questions that will ever arise during that conversation, and thats...

1.Who

2.When

Anything else is just not important...(You will get the occasional conversation in regards to...shall I say..."freaky" sort of things) :wah:

Post by **spot** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 6:39 pm

SnoozeControl;502716 wrote: I think the reason it's mostly women that respond to these type of threads is because we outnumber the men in here probably by 3 to 1. Spot's unclassifiable though, so we can't really count him. :)I haven't posted in this thread at all so far, Snooze. Would you explain what you mean by suggesting that I can't be classified as either man or woman?

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 6:39 pm

Galbally;502712 wrote: I know you are not picking on me BR, I think you are misinterpreting what I am saying. I think on a one-to-one situation with a partner a lot of men will definetly talk about sex, but not socially, not among other men, except in a school-yard kinda way, or occasionally maybe with a trusted male friend if something prompts it.
Sorry, did I say just with me? :yh_wink

It's one of Bullet's favorite topics no matter who is in the room! And not much of it is "school-yard" material. :yh_bigsmi

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Jan 01, 2007 7:49 pm

Men love to talk about sex. They just prefer to whisper it in your ear.

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Tue Jan 02, 2007 12:52 am

Ok how do you take someone seriously when they call their organ a bell-end or Todger .....

:yh_giggle

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 2:47 am

It isn't just men that can't or won't talk about sex. I will happily discuss it in general but not go into specifics of my own sex life e.g. I didn't join in on the anal or oral sex issue because I don't want to say if I do or don't out of respect for my husband who would be mortified if I did.

Men are expected to be new men and at the same time cave men - how confusing for them. No wonder they can't talk sensibly or openly about some things and have to hide behind smut and mickey taking!!

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 3:05 am

Diuretic;503025 wrote: Let me tell you about the Sensitive New Age Guy thing of some years ago. It falls under the heading "Men Will Do Anything To Get Laid". Seriously. And the thing is - it works. How sad is that?

Hmmm, maybe that's why we don't talk about sex seriously - we're in competition with one another............safer to hide behind wobbly jokes down the pub.

:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

I think I've been married too long! I forgot that aspect of male behaviour.

but don't forget that us girlies are in competition for male attention too - witness in your local the large amount of hair flicking over the shoulder and laughing at non-funny jokes!!

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 5:54 am

Hamster;502442 wrote: Please....men out there...are you shy? Don't think its appropriate? Are you embarrassed? Why can't you talk about sex??? Why not?

I want to know!!!!

It is unseemly and unnecessary to indulge in a lot of vulgar and salacious gossip

like a load of old fishwives.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 9:08 am

What do you want to know Hammy?

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 9:22 am

Hamster;503171 wrote: I guess I wanna know why men seem to mainly avoid the issue and make jokes??

All the threads here that involve such questions are only ever seriously answered by the women here.
I dont think it is being avoided. I do think sometimes we sit back and read what you women have to say if for no other reason than to try and learn about you women.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 9:25 am

Hamster;503171 wrote: I guess I wanna know why men seem to mainly avoid the issue and make jokes??

All the threads here that involve such questions are only ever seriously answered by the women here.
Oh and sometimes we answer in a joking way because we are not sure if we will offend. But even the joking answers usually ring true so to speak.

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Tue Jan 02, 2007 9:28 am

Hamster;503171 wrote: I guess I wanna know why men seem to mainly avoid the issue and make jokes??

All the threads here that involve such questions are only ever seriously answered by the women here.

Well, I personally find talking about it is too perverted for my taste....

I will be happy to flirt with you though. :yh_wink :wah: :yh_kiss