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Hi Bendybird (borrowed from Hammie)

I say to start on the most positive note you can. Give them the card and see what transpires. You don't have to be best friends with them (and you probably won't!), but making a nice gesture seems the right thing to do.

Don't you wish we could choose our neighbors like we do our friends? :-6

SnoozeControl wrote: The old flaming bag of poo would be a nice introduction to the neighborhood.


So Snoozie

If I lived next door to you

You'd get a delightful card from me

And I'd get a bag of poo

Wendybird wrote: Our new neighbours moved in yesterday. Our old neighbours were lovely - they looked after the cats when we were on holiday - they had keys to the house if anything went wrong - I babysat their 2 week old girl when the wife suffered major post natal depression and threatened to throw the little one out of the house lol - basically we couldn't have had better neighbours.

Now we have a new couple - mid 30's I think - the house sale was really involved and delayed and they seem a bit strange to me - not weirdo strange - well he is kind of strange to be honest. We have a skip at the side of the house because we have been doing the garden and there is an old beat up barbecue on the top. As I was coming home today he stopped me at the door and asked if he could have the barbecue - of course I said yes. (it is in about 6 rusty pieces and has been in the skip for 3 weeks and previously in a pile in the garden for 6 months so you can imagine the state of it)

The female was out in the back garden last night and she was wandering around with a can of lager in her hand and she was cursing and swearing quite loud. As the weather is still mild we had all the windows and the patio doors open so we could here it all. She kinda scares me really. I'm not normally a timid person but she was a bit freaky and she is friends with other people in the street (the only people in the street that ever cause problems - graffiti, damage to property, bad language, motorbikes revving etc etc)

I need a bit of new neighbour advice here please? I bought a welcome to your new home card when I was out and wonder if I should post it through the door or not? Or should I just leave it and see what happens?

Do I get involved or not or am I asking for trouble?

Your comments would be very welcome.


Hi WB,

My advice would be to post the card to them. Not only is it a nice gesture but if there are any issues that you need to bring up with them in the future it would be better to do it from a 'friendly neighbour' angle than 'the strangers that live next door' way IYSWIM? Maybe think of it as a softener? LOL.

Good luck.

Katy

It sounds to me like your just going to have to start their house on fire. I really dont see any other way.

Nomad wrote: It sounds to me like your just going to have to start their house on fire. I really dont see any other way.


Sage and noble advice from The Master :-6

Oh Wendy, I SO feel for you!!!

We also had great neighbours who were thoughtful, kind & friendly.

Unfortunately they decided to retire and move to a bungalow as the stairs were becoming too much for the husband. They sold the house to the manager of a local football club. God knows why he didn't buy a bigger house, he could certainly have afforded it! I can only assume it's because her sister lives down the road and they're a close family.

Anyway, they started off by ripping all the inside of the house up. They were banging and hammering from 7am until 11pm! I asked them to be quieter in the morning as hubby works from 9pm to 7am then comes home to sleep. They ignored me.

When England was in the World Cup he had ALL his mates around, including his entire football team. The MASSIVE TV was up FULL BLAST and even that was drowned out by their cheers or swearing! My God, you should have heard the language! It was disgusting! I mean, I swear but this was waaaaayyyyy more disgusting than anything I say - or want the kids to hear!

This bloke is obviously rolling in money but SO rude and obnoxious! He drives like a maniac and nearly killed some kids on their bikes this morning! :-5

Now they have just sent me some plans, via the Council, to say they want to add 5 rooms plus a massive conservatory onto their house! It means they'll block my daughter's view and give her 5 feet of brick wall to look at instead!

When they were hammering and banging I took them a welcome card and a bottle of wine to ask them to quieten it down a little - but it didn't really work!

I know they're going to be extremely unhappy when I put in an objection to their extension! And, to be honest, I don't know that I can cope with them living next door any longer. So my solution will be to ask the landlord to rehouse us somewhere else - and hope somewhere else is available soon!

Leave the card, and then just leave it alone. Just because they're neighbors, you don't have to be friendly with them-I don't think I would want to be.

Rapunzel wrote: Oh Wendy, I SO feel for you!!!



We also had great neighbours who were thoughtful, kind & friendly.

Unfortunately they decided to retire and move to a bungalow as the stairs were becoming too much for the husband. They sold the house to the manager of a local football club. God knows why he didn't buy a bigger house, he could certainly have afforded it! I can only assume it's because her sister lives down the road and they're a close family.



Anyway, they started off by ripping all the inside of the house up. They were banging and hammering from 7am until 11pm! I asked them to be quieter in the morning as hubby works from 9pm to 7am then comes home to sleep. They ignored me.



When England was in the World Cup he had ALL his mates around, including his entire football team. The MASSIVE TV was up FULL BLAST and even that was drowned out by their cheers or swearing! My God, you should have heard the language! It was disgusting! I mean, I swear but this was waaaaayyyyy more disgusting than anything I say - or want the kids to hear!



This bloke is obviously rolling in money but SO rude and obnoxious! He drives like a maniac and nearly killed some kids on their bikes this morning! :-5



Now they have just sent me some plans, via the Council, to say they want to add 5 rooms plus a massive conservatory onto their house! It means they'll block my daughter's view and give her 5 feet of brick wall to look at instead!



When they were hammering and banging I took them a welcome card and a bottle of wine to ask them to quieten it down a little - but it didn't really work!

I know they're going to be extremely unhappy when I put in an objection to their extension! And, to be honest, I don't know that I can cope with them living next door any longer. So my solution will be to ask the landlord to rehouse us somewhere else - and hope somewhere else is available soon!


Rap, that's awful. They sound like neighbours from hell and back again.

Before you move, keep a record of their anti-social, behaviour. Sneaky photos would also help, especially with audio or film with audio. Then report them. No one here needs to put up with that kind of behaviour any more.

Pinky wrote: Get a load of mates round, get them to wear black cloaks, dance and chant around a fire in the garden, etc etc.

Mine don't come anywhere near me, haha!


:wah: I can now picture you in my head dancing around a bonfire, dressed head to toe in black and muttering mumbo jumbo, while your neighbours shiver in fear on the other side of the fence!!!!

put the following message on a card:



Good ****ing day to ya! it's a swell as **** ****ing neighborhood and i hope you ****ers have a good ****ing time and don't act like ****ing cunts!



if you need anything just ****ing holler, k?



:wah:

Pinky wrote: Yup. Works for me, haha!

I have tried to be friendly and ask if they want to join in, but they run in and lock the door for some reason..can't imagine why

:D


WOW, i wish you were my neighbor. :sneaky:

SnoozeControl wrote: The old flaming bag of poo would be a nice introduction to the neighborhood.


:yh_rotfl :yh_devil :yh_ghost

note to self: If moving next door to Snooze, watch for flaming bags of poo.

Leave the card, say welcome to the neighborhood and go about your business.

We had odd ball neighbors, also. We just let them be as they were not hurting anyone or anything..they were just odd.

Nomad wrote: It sounds to me like your just going to have to start their house on fire. I really dont see any other way.


How..with a flaming bag of Poo? Are you and Snoozie getting together to come up with these answers????

You guys are lucky we like you. :-4

Ok l say post the card and then keep detailed accounts of weirdness incase you need em....

oh and maybe the flaming bag of poo as an emergency back up!!:rolleyes:

venus wrote: Ok l say post the card and then keep detailed accounts of weirdness incase you need em....






venus forgot to mention the MOST important part of these detailed accounts..come back here and tell us all about them!!:D

Pinky wrote: Hehe, you never know where I might end up, Argi!

Any houses for sale near you? :sneaky:


yeah, there's a nice yellow cottage on the lakefront... i've had my eye on it. :sneaky:

Marie5656 wrote: Leave the card, say welcome to the neighborhood and go about your business.

We had odd ball neighbors, also. We just let them be as they were not hurting anyone or anything..they were just odd.


yup.

(I'm sure Nomad can get a number for the WELCOME WAGON WOMAN.)

+++++++++ It's possible they don't realize how clearly they can be heard over your wall. I'd approach them with the card and some cookies and tell them how you're interested in being a good neighbor and hope they are, too.

Then, when she's reeling around and cursing, you can pop your head over the wall and say, "Hey, Lady Articulate! Having a bad day?" :wah:

ARgi wrote: put the following message on a card:





Good ****ing day to ya! it's a swell as **** ****ing neighborhood and i hope you ****ers have a good ****ing time and don't act like ****ing cunts!





if you need anything just ****ing holler, k?







:wah:


Nice censoring Argi....but you missed one :-3

nomad your truly a genius buddy



but how about this for a cunning plan



the new neighbor is a manager of a football team



soo find out the arch rivel teams web page





join said team supporters site under a false name



wait for a derby game when said rivals play each other



post a few posts saying how much you hate the neighbours team



stir things up a bit say you know where said manager lives



chuck a few bricks through his windows with opposing team colors on them



paint opposing teams graffiti over neighbours car



deliver by hand hate mail from rival fans



become a rival fan



then post his address his phone number etc



neighbour will move in no time





mwoooaaaahhh mwoooaaahhh mwoooaaaahh mwoooaaaahh (dr evil laugh)

jimbo wrote: nomad your truly a genius buddy



but how about this for a cunning plan



the new neighbor is a manager of a football team



soo find out the arch rivel teams web page





join said team supporters site under a false name



wait for a derby game when said rivals play each other



post a few posts saying how much you hate the neighbours team



stir things up a bit say you know where said manager lives



chuck a few bricks through his windows with opposing team colors on them



paint opposing teams graffiti over neighbours car



deliver by hand hate mail from rival fans



become a rival fan



then post his address his phone number etc



neighbour will move in no time





mwoooaaaahhh mwoooaaahhh mwoooaaaahh mwoooaaaahh (dr evil laugh)


hahaha this sounds so detailed, that it almost sounds as though you have experienced this yourself Jimbo! :sneaky:

thanks Chris coming from you that's a big complement i am as we speak



thinking up cunning ways to impress my neighbors by falsely convincing them





i move in social circles that i clearly have no access to :sneaky: :sneaky:

:wah: hahaha well if I think up of anything that you could use, I'll be sure to let ya know!!

:wah: chris i have posted a new thread called make the neighbors think do you



think it could work please take a look and let me know thanks jimbo



still using my personality as the ultimate contraceptive :wah: