swingers

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 1:13 am

definition - A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners - People active in the sexual swinging lifestyle.

i dont see how this could possibly benefit a couple's relationship but it seems quite widespread & popular, your thoughts?

Tigerlily · Post by **Tigerlily** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 3:14 am

There was a prog on telly last year about a couple from Lancashire I think who went to the US to join some sort of swingers convention. There wasn't a person of either sex that I'd have fancied. Soooooooooo unpleasant.

Post by **spot** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:01 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Personally, I don't see the point of being married if you're going to go around trying to screw other people.

It's how first cousins who marry avoid inbred offspring, Shirley.

DayDreamer · Post by **DayDreamer** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:10 am

Whatever floats your boat.

Between consenting adults and all that.:wah: :wah:

Celtic Thunder · Post by **Celtic Thunder** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:16 am

If you think swinging is tacky, what about dogging.

It has a big following in the UK.

Post by **spot** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:18 am

Celtic Thunder wrote: If you think swinging is tacky, what about dogging.

It has a big following in the UK. :DSpot pulls his Sunday underwear over the outside of his trousers and looks up Tog Hill Picnic Area on the AA Road Map.

Post by **spot** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:26 am

SnoozeControl wrote: I had to google that one.:DIt's one of the few informal social scenes in which "d'you come here often?" is taken as an explicit chat-up line.

I'll stop posting in this thread now.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:27 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Let me be frank, don't call me Shirley.

Frank, that was a very Earnest comment

Post by **spot** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:28 am

Uncle Kram wrote: Frank, that was a very Earnest comment ;)I thought she was Sly?

Post by **spot** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:32 am

SnoozeControl wrote: While at work, I always giggle when someone asks me when I get off.But you don't ask if he could lend a hand to find out?

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:50 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Actually, I'm feeling Mary right now.

Lucky Mary

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:54 am

Hubby and I have been together for over 7 years

I make him laugh and get silly every single day

I'm always aware of how important it is to *stay connected* with your beloved (borrowing from you Acc, my friend).

The casual touch as you pass each other in the hallway, the butt pinch when he bends over to pat the little dog, the look that says "oooohh what I'd like to do to you tonight . . ."

These things help to keep the fires burning, I think :-6

Post by **spot** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:54 am

flopstock wrote: One of the things I liked about Far was that I got the sense that he wouldn't be up for 'just sex' with his ms vickie, he still 'made love' to her.I'd so much doubt it - I always associated that covert psychopath with Brigadier General Jack D. Ripper in "Dr. Strangelove" - you didn't recognise the type?

Today, war is too important to be left to politicians. They have neither the time, the training, nor the inclination for strategic thought. I can no longer sit back and allow Communist infiltration, Communist indoctrination, Communist subversion and the international Communist conspiracy to sap and impurify all of our precious bodily fluids.

A foreign substance is introduced into our precious bodily fluids without the knowledge of the individual. Certainly without any choice. That's the way your hard-core Commie works. I first became aware of it during the physical act of love. A profound sense of fatigue... a feeling of emptiness followed. Luckily I... I was able to interpret these feelings correctly. Loss of essence. I can assure you it has not recurred, Mandrake. Women uh... women sense my power and they seek the life essence. I, uh... I do not avoid women, Mandrake. But I... I do deny them my essence.

And it fits perfectly with his anti-sex anti-feminine notions about the purity of all-male armed forces, of course.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:55 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Actually, I'm feeling Mary right now.
And does Mary mind? :-2

Post by **spot** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 7:33 am

flopstock wrote: While I'm happy that you've most likely been able to get your rocks off this morning with an attack on that most dreaded of foes "far', I really don't appreciate you or anyone else taking an innocent comment I might make regarding him, to use as fodder in these assinine little pokes.I happen to be one of those who doesn't poke, strangely. You may find evidence to dispute that assertion but it's my opinion. I'd maintain, in an appropriate thread, if asked, that Far is centrally representative of the type of American who has brought so many people around the world to regard his nation with mingled disgust and incredulity, and that I'd rather we had the old USA back than suffer the new, but this isn't the place.

You don't need to rephrase, I have no problem with the idea that I can express a view in contextual contrast to a prior one in a thread. "I never saw a difference between cerulean and sky-blue" - "Oh, surely, sky-blue has more white than pink, it's more a Norfolk sky than a Monaco sky". Isn't that how threads work?

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Thu Jul 13, 2006 8:03 am

Like somebody said before why get married and then have sex with somebody else - its rather tacky, seedy, and i find the idea quite disgusting . The funny thing is i bet the people who do this kind of thing think that they are being really adventurous and the people who poo poo the idea are rather boring . I really cant think of one reason why i would want to go and have sex with strangers and people who go dogging, how sad is that some pathetic loser standing in a field having a w*** while watching a couple get their jollies in the back of a car -

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 8:22 am

buttercup wrote: definition - A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners - People active in the sexual swinging lifestyle.

i dont see how this could possibly benefit a couple's relationship but it seems quite widespread & popular, your thoughts?

Yeah, I keep hearing that it's popular. But I've never known anyone who did it. None of the people I associate would do this. My parents didn't do it, nor did my wife's parents. My son doesn't do it.

I have to agree with Buttercup, this kind of behavior can only be self-destructive, and maybe a little dangerous. (STD's are on the rise.)

If you love a person, they are everything to you. If you really love them, you won't need anyone else.

Post by **spot** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 8:54 am

I've seen arguments in favor of lifelong marriage. I'm utterly delighted to see the notion collapsing at such a pace in Western society. Life is a much wider canvas than that. The idea that I can't achieve emotional resonance within a short-term sexual encounter is refuted by experience - I'd never spend time in bed with anyone I felt no emotion toward, it would be an ugly and pointless gratification. I don't regard any sexual encounter I've had as "casual".

Is marriage still marriage when it's a serial marriage, with marriages before it and more to come after, all ending in divorce? I don't think that's what the idea involved. I'd not use the word marriage of it, though legislation does. Scrap the pretence and bring in fixed-term civil contracts if that's what some people want while raising children together.

jbbarker1947 · Post by **jbbarker1947** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 8:56 am

SnoozeControl wrote: While I was married and still in my early 20s, my husband worked with someone that wanted us to start socializing with he and his wife... we eventually figured out they were a pair of swingers, but we were both so naive that we couldn't figure out why they were trying to herd us into separate areas... it was the wet new year's eve kiss I got from the husband that finally bonked me into awareness.

Personally, I don't see the point of being married if you're going to go around trying to screw other people.

Snooze. Ya gotta lover.

Ditto

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:14 am

I wouldn't do it, I wouldn't have gotten married if I wanted to be with more than one person!

venus · Post by **venus** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:18 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Let me be frank, don't call me Shirley.

ok snooze is now frank..and l didnt even notice the hormone therapy had been working..:wah:

sorry not my deal..l love my partner and would not want to see him with anyone else let alone think of the goings on between em..:yh_frustr :yh_sick

Tigerlily · Post by **Tigerlily** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 10:02 am

Found two of the blokes I work with sniggering. Turns out they've enrolled the brother of one of them on a dogging website. I'll see them on Monday and find out how many offers he's got.

Amie · Post by **Amie** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 2:59 am

Wow.

Go find my thread, I made when I first joined "here ask the newb anything" or something like that. I'm not a swinger, but I'm as close as you'll probably get. You guys are gonna have a field day making rash uneducated assumptions about me and my relationship after reading it. :wah:

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 4:19 am

To me, swinging would be like cheating with permission. Yet swingers would probably be upset if their partner cheated on them behind their backs.:-2

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 4:35 am

Peg wrote: To me, swinging would be like cheating with permission. Yet swingers would probably be upset if their partner cheated on them behind their backs.:-2

What an interesting point, Peg . . . :yh_clap

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 6:48 am

Amie wrote: Wow.

Go find my thread, I made when I first joined "here ask the newb anything" or something like that. I'm not a swinger, but I'm as close as you'll probably get. You guys are gonna have a field day making rash uneducated assumptions about me and my relationship after reading it. :wah:

To each his own and Live and Let Live.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 6:51 am

Amie wrote: Wow.

Go find my thread, I made when I first joined "here ask the newb anything" or something like that. I'm not a swinger, but I'm as close as you'll probably get. You guys are gonna have a field day making rash uneducated assumptions about me and my relationship after reading it. :wah:
we don't make rash, uneducated assumptions about anyone.

It seems like everyone has just posted what they would or would not do in their own relationship.

I would never be with more than one person at a time but I don't judge anyone else's life style either. What 2 consenting adults choose to do in their own relationship shouldn't concern anyone else. :-6

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 6:55 am

sunny104 wrote: we don't make rash, uneducated assumptions about anyone.

It seems like everyone has just posted what they would or would not do in their own relationship.

I would never be with more than one person at a time but I don't judge anyone else's life style either. What 2 consenting adults choose to do in their own relationship shouldn't concern anyone else. :-6

Yeah

What Sunny said :-6

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 7:17 am

Nope I'm not into the whole swinger lifestyle. But to each their own.