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What are your thoughts on the "trend" of young men and women today having casual sex partners...?

To my understanding these are partners who are available exclusively to one another for sexual purposes only...they may be friends and see each other socially but do not consider themselves to be boyfriend/girlfriend..they have no obligation to be more than a partner on a sexual level only...or...some of them have a casual sex partner but also reserve the right to take home other partners if they are attracted to someone else, and their CSP is supposed to accept this as part of the deal..

charity2k4 wrote: What are your thoughts on the "trend" of young men and women today having casual sex partners...?

To my understanding these are partners who are available exclusively to one another for sexual purposes only...they may be friends and see each other socially but do not consider themselves to be boyfriend/girlfriend..they have no obligation to be more than a partner on a sexual level only...or...some of them have a casual sex partner but also reserve the right to take home other partners if they are attracted to someone else, and their CSP is supposed to accept this as part of the deal..


If they are consenting adults and behave responsibly, why not? Its their perogatove I guess. Live and let live.

DG, I agree with you here. Casual sex is not a path I am comfortable following, but as long as folks are responsible, and safe, let them be, I guess.

Marie, I have a feeling this one will end in the tar-pit. Just my prediction. We have had similar posts on this subject and it always gets highly volatile! Beware, everyone, and please, lets all be polite when making our arguments.

My only thoughts are, it better not be my kids! (they were raised to know that is not within our religious parameters) Everyone else can do what they want to....................

chonsigirl wrote: My only thoughts are, it better not be my kids! (they were raised to know that is not within our religious parameters) Everyone else can do what they want to....................


yep I was going to post that as well, if this is the trend, be responsible and let's not have children by accident.

As for what I believe, it is not for me, but my way isn't the only way. If it is agreed upon by all involved so be it. But it raises my eyebrow about ... that nasty "A" word....affairs.....

I would have to say this is not a new trend. People have been "trying other people on" for lack of a better phrase for eons. Im not condoning it, I just know this behavior has existed long before 2006.

Oh, sure, it's been going on forever. We're just more open to talking about it now than we were in the past.

For myself, no. Sex is a big step for me, not something to be taken lightly. For others...do what you want, AS LONG AS YOU'RE SAFE. I have had "that talk" with my son and I pray that he knows how important it is to WRAP IT!!!! I am only fooling myself if I don't think a 17-year old boy isn't going to or hasen't already begun to experiment. Just be safe. Don't spread disease, and don't make unwanted babies.

I am only fooling myself if I don't think a 17-year old boy isn't going to or hasen't already begun to experiment. Just be safe. Don't spread disease, and don't make unwanted babies.[/QUOTE]

Precisely.

Boy, this thread doesn't seem to be headed to the Tar Pit.

Are we all mature adults or what?!

cherandbuster wrote: Boy, this thread doesn't seem to be headed to the Tar Pit.



Are we all mature adults or what?!


Yes you keep telling yourself that :rolleyes: :p

cherandbuster wrote: Boy, this thread doesn't seem to be headed to the Tar Pit.



Are we all mature adults or what?!
Hey!! Speak for yourself!! I'm stickin' with 19. :p :yh_rotfl



If we can keep it civil, it won't go to the TarPit. We'll see....

BabyRider wrote:


Kettle corn, my friend?:)

Being an 'old fogey' and having a very strict up bringing, I've always thought that sex and love were inextricably connected. Of course that's not the thinking nowadays ( a shame I think) and attitudes have changed but I would urge people to be responsible. Not much I can add to previous posts....lots of sound advice

cherandbuster wrote: Kettle corn, my friend?:)
Oh, absolutely!!! My favorite!! YUM.... :yh_bigsmi

Bez wrote: Being an 'old fogey' and having a very strict up bringing, I've always thought that sex and love were inextricably connected. Of course that's not the thinking nowadays ( a shame I think) and attitudes have changed but I would urge people to be responsible. Not much I can add to previous posts....lots of sound advice


I don't think that makes you sound like an "old fogey" at all. I think it's incredibly insightful. I've had my share of idiotic moments in my younger years (not that I'm that old now), but the values my parents instilled in me, regarding the responsibilities surrounding anything sexual always stayed with me. Sex, to me shouldn't be taken lightly. Sure it's important, and while I don't necessarily see myself as having casual partners like the original post is referring to, I don't take issue with those that do, as long as they do what's necessary to remain safe and do no harm.

Casual sex = empty sex to me.

Can't do it personally, I have no problem with others doing it as long as it's not hurting someone and the correct precautions are taken.

I'm heartened by how very moral my kids and their friends seem to be - their ethics may not be based on southern baptist Christian models, but they seem to have a great sense of responsibility. They behave better than some of their parents did. Grin.

Nomad wrote: I would have to say this is not a new trend. People have been "trying other people on" for lack of a better phrase for eons. Im not condoning it, I just know this behavior has existed long before 2006.


Nomad knows this

Women have been turning him down FOR YEARS now;) :-4

:wah: I wonder if that's what happened with the Welcome Wagon Ladies.............

And the prize for bringing TWO threads together as ONE goes to . . .

:-6 Chonsigirl:-6

DITTO !!!

[QUOTE]POST BY FLOOPY But while sex is great and I'm all for it any place it is legal and safe, there is nothing that has come down the pike to eclipse that sensation of being made love to..[/QUOTE]

ok well i have a STRONG opinion on this subjet especially since 2 of my closest guy friends wanted to be friends with "privilages" and they're no longer my friends. the first time was about i'd say 6 to 7 yrs ago one day he invited me to his grandma's house to help him water the plants b/c his grandma was out of town we kissed then that night he asked me if we could be friends with privilages from that day on i haven't considered him a friend then the second one was just about a yr ago really nice guy a yr ago we were very good friends he had a gf at the time and he told me all there problems and stuff then they broke up and got back and broke up and got back (and on and on and on...) then he came over we talked then he wanted sex and i said no of course then he left b/c he had class then the next night he wanted sex and i said no and then he found out i told his sister and he yelled at me then we didn't talk for a yr b/c he got a new gf then they just recently broke up and now he wants me as a gf but he says he's going to take his time and since i haven't forgivin him he wants to "prove" to me as friends he isn't the character he was back then and i don't think i really believe him and this just happened 2-3 wks ago and he said he was gonna call me but no call yet what so ever

puppgirl wrote: ok well i have a STRONG opinion on this subjet especially since 2 of my closest guy friends wanted to be friends with "privilages" and they're no longer my friends. the first time was about i'd say 6 to 7 yrs ago one day he invited me to his grandma's house to help him water the plants b/c his grandma was out of town we kissed then that night he asked me if we could be friends with privilages from that day on i haven't considered him a friend then the second one was just about a yr ago really nice guy a yr ago we were very good friends he had a gf at the time and he told me all there problems and stuff then they broke up and got back and broke up and got back (and on and on and on...) then he came over we talked then he wanted sex and i said no of course then he left b/c he had class then the next night he wanted sex and i said no and then he found out i told his sister and he yelled at me then we didn't talk for a yr b/c he got a new gf then they just recently broke up and now he wants me as a gf but he says he's going to take his time and since i haven't forgivin him he wants to "prove" to me as friends he isn't the character he was back then and i don't think i really believe him and this just happened 2-3 wks ago and he said he was gonna call me but no call yet what so ever


Hello Puppgirl Welcome to the Group

You have a strong sense of morals and high standards, its not nice to 'used' as someone's toy. Your ex- friend has shown you complete disregard for your feelings. That can not do your self- esteem or sense of self- worth any good. I would go with your 'instincts' and wait for someone who is able to show you something more genuine. This is one of the problems with 'casual sex / relationships that people sometimes dismiss. It can slowly erode away what you expect from a relationship and how you expect to be treated by others.:-6

I think it is up to those involved,as long as it is safe sex,whatever that is;)

Not for me though,I am an oldie as well & have a different upbringing,different era

puppgirl wrote: ok well i have a STRONG opinion on this subjet especially since 2 of my closest guy friends wanted to be friends with "privilages" and they're no longer my friends. the first time was about i'd say 6 to 7 yrs ago one day he invited me to his grandma's house to help him water the plants b/c his grandma was out of town we kissed then that night he asked me if we could be friends with privilages from that day on i haven't considered him a friend then the second one was just about a yr ago really nice guy a yr ago we were very good friends he had a gf at the time and he told me all there problems and stuff then they broke up and got back and broke up and got back (and on and on and on...) then he came over we talked then he wanted sex and i said no of course then he left b/c he had class then the next night he wanted sex and i said no and then he found out i told his sister and he yelled at me then we didn't talk for a yr b/c he got a new gf then they just recently broke up and now he wants me as a gf but he says he's going to take his time and since i haven't forgivin him he wants to "prove" to me as friends he isn't the character he was back then and i don't think i really believe him and this just happened 2-3 wks ago and he said he was gonna call me but no call yet what so ever


That's the longest sentence I've ever read

cherandbuster wrote: That's the longest sentence I've ever read
I'm taking you to school with me in the fall to grade papers, Cher!:)

*smileys jumped again*

SnoozeControl wrote: :wah: Same brain!


worries

smiles

celebrates:-6

:wah: I'm laughing at snooze's saying.......................

*it's getting hard to find the right smiley's now*

cherandbuster wrote: Boy, this thread doesn't seem to be headed to the Tar Pit.

Are we all mature adults or what?!
Guess that means I have to stay out of this thread.:-1 :wah:

Casual sex partners???

Where where where????????????

now which smiley..

:yh_alien2 :yh_star :yh_clap :yh_drool

cherandbuster wrote: That's the longest sentence I've ever read


Yeah - I wouldn't want to sing it :yh_giggle

You may be right, Pinky

'Cause I don't get it:(

Oh

O. K. then

Seems i got here late.We have already wondered off the subject.But I will chime anyways.

Perhaps I have turned that corner into old fart but i don't view sex as a Team sport,never really did.We all had names for the people at the bar or what ever that made a habit of bed jumping.A one night stand is one thing but too revisit one over and over is not a healthy way too live your life.One would would think that it would be hard too respect someone who is just out for sex with out feeling.

But things change and perhaps today this is the "it" thing too do.Perhaps in the future women can put there phone numbers on there back just above there pants,just let men know shes game,a nice tat next to the one that says do me like a dog and dump it here some have now.

I hope that daughter will have enough self esteem and respect for her self too not become a mindless piece of meat.

lol i call same brain cuz my best friend and i ihave it alot i call it SBS, same brain syndrome

Now, when you say 'never really did' in relation to viewing sex as a team sport.. are ya saying you did try it as a team sport at some point or just voyeured the situation and didn't care for it...just curious:-2


I don't know why some guys fly there goods.I have always been a work out freak.And have ridden mt. bikes all my life,so bike shorts are attire for me on and off the bike,and for the gym as well.But when at the gym or out and about I tend too where shorts over them both for pockets and i know that not every one wants too see my junk.And the tuck rule does not apply too me.

Now as far as sex as a team sport.I was a bouncer/door man/beer tender and a drinker for a while.

When i was on the job I got too see bar room politics.Bar whores as we called them applies too both girls and boys.

And yes I have engaged in more than one partner sex,but these are not people that you expect a normal relationship with or marry.

The best example is when a ex of some sort is having a bad week-end or just bored and calls you too come over and "talk",all the while you know this person is dating around and you are not the only one too hit that, that week or that week-end.

Myself,always being in good shape and always on the more defined side of body shape I got my share of sex.But it wasn't until I hooked up with a older woman that learned about love and sensuality and what making love was about.

Two hot souls coming together and feeling the passion,orgasm for the brain.Then eating ice cream and watching loony tunes together after.and really being with that person for who they are,a person.

This is what is missing from these games that are played now.

^^ prude, you might enjoy it.

I find it's only a problem when they find out about each other.

Shweet tatersalad wrote: But it wasn't until I hooked up with a older woman


I'm impressed that at 101 you still prefer women older than you... :wah:

I guess I'm a prude too. I only ever went to bed with a girl that I was in love with and wanted to marry. Sometimes it didn't work out, but I never viewed sex as any kind of "casual" thing. I always viewed it as a serious and deeply personal thing.

Jives wrote: I guess I'm a prude too. I only ever went to bed with a girl that I was in love with and wanted to marry. Sometimes it didn't work out, but I never viewed sex as any kind of "casual" thing. I always viewed it as a serious and deeply personal thing.


It is refreshing to year that coming from a man. :yh_worshp :yh_clap

Betty Boop wrote: Casual sex = empty sex to me.

Can't do it personally, I have no problem with others doing it as long as it's not hurting someone and the correct precautions are taken.


I'm with betty boop on this one... I agree casual sex = empty sex.



I need to be in a deep and meaningful relationship to enjoy a sexual relationship with someone,



but saying that as long as everyones in agreement and safe sex is practised, then go for it. x x x



shelley