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Ok we have seen some cool comments about how mature we seem here (all of you stop laughing behind your hands)

I wanna throw out this question for fun, if someone started a nasty rumor about you right now here in FG how would you handle it? Would you loose it and get defensive and make a scene or would you just blow it off, laugh and carry on.

NO NO it is not happening I just am bored and want to know how you all would act.

Come on out an play, it's friday and if you are in boggy soggy weather I am feeling sorry for you, it is sunnnnneeeeee here.

So go on give it a stab.

Minks

Off with their heads!! Every single last one!!



Sincerely,

Mrs. Anasasafrassy



:yh_giggle :yh_dance :yh_battin

Mmmmm...I hope I would be tactful but I would probably turn a bit 'frosty' for a while. I doubt I would have a blazing row (in public) but it's hard to say. I tend to take things to heart so I would be 'boo hooing' to one or two of my friends here via PMs...be warned

I'm not sure what I would do, probably depending on how bad the rumour was I would put one post in defending myself then ignore anything else said. If it wasn't anything too serious then I would just go along with it.

What have you heard about me? :wah:

pina wrote: I'm not sure what I would do, probably depending on how bad the rumour was I would put one post in defending myself then ignore anything else said. If it wasn't anything too serious then I would just go along with it.

What have you heard about me? :wah:


ALL good things my dear.

valerie wrote: Off with their heads!! Every single last one!!



Sincerely,

Mrs. Anasasafrassy



:yh_giggle :yh_dance :yh_battin


And YES to what valeries said...:yh_beatup

I've had it done to me, and i ignored it and put them on ignore.

There is probably much that hasn't been said about me but it doesn't seem like it.

Rumours can be quite funny or deadly depending on the comments. In real life I tried to create a rumour about myself once and failed miserably. Other people succeed at it much better. I'm just not a good liar. I suppose, to some extent, it is better to be talked about than not at all...in the end there is little one can do to stop it, all we can control is our reactions.

Well, the old saying, "Sticks and stones.............." just ignore them.

chonsigirl wrote: Well, the old saying, "Sticks and stones.............." just ignore them.


I guess it depends on what is being said. if it's a character assasination, and other people believe what's being said, then one has to stand up and be heard. If it's just 'silliness' it's probably right to IGNORE.

Yes, you have a point, Bez. How would one defend themselves so, this is the internet and all?

I am glad it is just a thinking question and is not something that is happening here.

I think personally I would have to eat the offender for lunch....

Riiiiight

ok I would state my case flat out, and defend myself then let it go and ignore it. I feel I am getting old because confrontation sure does not float my boat like it used to many moons ago.

my before and after attitudes

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chonsigirl wrote: Yes, you have a point, Bez. How would one defend themselves so, this is the internet and all?



I am glad it is just a thinking question and is not something that is happening here.


Difficult to say Chonsi. These are all hypothetical thoughts and I have not been personally involved in such circumstances in the real or cyber world thanks goodness.

Ha! The little cutie on the couch is much more fun!

No no Chonsi, this is NOT related anything at all, I was just curious as to how us mature folks handle such situations.

Thinking back to my teens, I would not have been able to let things just "roll off my back" funny I feel old suddenly..... sigh

chonsigirl wrote: Ha! The little cutie on the couch is much more fun!


Absolutely ! :-4

chonsigirl wrote: Ha! The little cutie on the couch is much more fun!


less stress too ahahaha better for the blood pressure levels.

You know, I think I am always the last to hear gossip or things like that. Even as a teenage girl. I always ask a student at school if something happened, they always know first!

chonsigirl wrote: You know, I think I am always the last to hear gossip or things like that. Even as a teenage girl. I always ask a student at school if something happened, they always know first!


I think that is a good thing mind you.

minks wrote: No no Chonsi, this is NOT related anything at all, I was just curious as to how us mature folks handle such situations.

Thinking back to my teens, I would not have been able to let things just "roll off my back" funny I feel old suddenly..... sigh


He he he...no one who wears a 'wacky' pink cowboy hat feels old....I just don't believe it



By the way....there have been loads of versions of your pink hat on sale over here. I've seen a couple of trendy teenagers wearing them today...you old trend setter you !!! Even gott'em in Marks and Spencers.

Bez wrote: He he he...no one who wears a 'wacky' pink cowboy hat feels old....I just don't believe it



By the way....there have been loads of versions of your pink hat on sale over here. I've seen a couple of trendy teenagers wearing them today...you old trend setter you !!! Even gott'em in Marks and Spencers.


Oh get out!!!

that is just too funny, well I gave the hat to my oldest daughter upon my return, I will try and get a pic of her with it....

Oh today I feel old, not enough sleep last nite and I am dragging my sorry self around. I want my slippers wahhhhhhh:-1

minks wrote: Oh get out!!!

that is just too funny, well I gave the hat to my oldest daughter upon my return, I will try and get a pic of her with it....

Oh today I feel old, not enough sleep last nite and I am dragging my sorry self around. I want my slippers wahhhhhhh:-1


You just have a relaxing weekend and 're-charge' those batteries.

Bez wrote: You just have a relaxing weekend and 're-charge' those batteries.


A nap under my desk would be good right about... now

I can't think of anything anyone could say to throw me into a full blown hissy fit. If it pissed me off too bad, I'd just leave for a few weeks and wait until other rumors were started about others :wah:

minks wrote: A nap under my desk would be good right about... now


Oh Lord...I forgot the time difference and that you are at work. Poor you. How long before you get to go home ?

Bez wrote: Oh Lord...I forgot the time difference and that you are at work. Poor you. How long before you get to go home ?
1.25 longgggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg hours

devist8me wrote: I can't think of anything anyone could say to throw me into a full blown hissy fit. If it pissed me off too bad, I'd just leave for a few weeks and wait until other rumors were started about others :wah:


ooo good idea

*kicking the clock*

Is it going faster yet, Minks?

chonsigirl wrote: *kicking the clock*



Is it going faster yet, Minks?


Wind the hands on a bit Minks

Since I am pretty new here, I'm sure I would take it too personally.

One of my problems is that I like to be liked.

Gotta remember that respect is more important.

Please don't hurt my feelings and make me sad!

At least until you know me better:)

Oh, I hope no one hurts your feelings!

cherandbuster wrote: Since I am pretty new here, I'm sure I would take it too personally.



One of my problems is that I like to be liked.



Gotta remember that respect is more important.



Please don't hurt my feelings and make me sad!



At least until you know me better:)Yup yup *nods*



My mood at the time I find out goes miles toward how I react. If I'm in a good mood, virtually nothing can shake it. If I'm already down on myself for something, I'm definitely less predictable.

Accountable wrote: My mood at the time I find out goes miles toward how I react. If I'm in a good mood, virtually nothing can shake it. If I'm already down on myself for something, I'm definitely less predictable.


Agreed.

If I'm edgy or feeling negative, then I'm more liable to react emotionally vs. rationally. I would react with my heart instead of my head.

And maybe regret it:-3

cherandbuster wrote: Agreed.

If I'm edgy or feeling negative, then I'm more liable to react emotionally vs. rationally. I would react with my heart instead of my head.

And maybe regret it:-3


aw human nature is so delicate at times. And true mood and environment aids in how we handle situations.

Yes, I wish I would learn to handle washing the dishes more diligently!

chonsigirl wrote: Yes, I wish I would learn to handle washing the dishes more diligently!


oh and I wish for the same with vacuming



but my mood swings prevent me from doing so in a cheery manner

:wah: I just finished cleaning the dowstairs for the weekend-gosh, it won't last! I'll have to do it again!

Always wanted those robot vacuums, that go around the room and vacuum it while you're gone.......................

chonsigirl wrote: :wah: I just finished cleaning the dowstairs for the weekend-gosh, it won't last! I'll have to do it again!

Always wanted those robot vacuums, that go around the room and vacuum it while you're gone.......................


HAH I tried to get Jr Minks to do the job on her 2 days off but noooooooo she slept in ... rotten kid grrrrrrrrrrr

:p Yeah, and kids love to leave the dishes for me after work................like come on young'uns!

minks wrote: Ok we have seen some cool comments about how mature we seem here (all of you stop laughing behind your hands)

I wanna throw out this question for fun, if someone started a nasty rumor about you right now here in FG how would you handle it? Would you loose it and get defensive and make a scene or would you just blow it off, laugh and carry on.

NO NO it is not happening I just am bored and want to know how you all would act.

Come on out an play, it's friday and if you are in boggy soggy weather I am feeling sorry for you, it is sunnnnneeeeee here.



So go on give it a stab.



Minks




Your going to blast me now right ? Whadid I do ?

Well i know for a fact if it was me i would go all out to prove that the person making the claim was a flat out liar, i really dispise liars. I would also encourage anyone to just ask me straight out if there was anything that they wanted to know ..i dont see a problem with that, honesty is always the best policy . In general liar's are stupid they believe themselve's to be superior they invent thing's to make themselves look interesting or make them the center of attention and by putting other's down it make's them feel better about themselves ,, they also forget that they may have skeletons in their own closet that they may not want anyone else to know about,,fight fire with fire thats what i say and head straight for the jugular

I'd probably laugh it off, everyone should know me by now and Acc. and JB know that I'm the same dorky goofball in person as I am on here!

mrsK wrote: I would make sure that it was about me first & foremost just so there is no mistake whatsoever,then I would want to know why & how it came about.Then it would be battles stations:-6




Oh puleeze :rolleyes: a fluffy lil koala bear......battle stations :-4

minks wrote: Ok we have seen some cool comments about how mature we seem here (all of you stop laughing behind your hands)

I wanna throw out this question for fun, if someone started a nasty rumor about you right now here in FG how would you handle it? Would you loose it and get defensive and make a scene or would you just blow it off, laugh and carry on.

NO NO it is not happening I just am bored and want to know how you all would act.

Come on out an play, it's friday and if you are in boggy soggy weather I am feeling sorry for you, it is sunnnnneeeeee here.

So go on give it a stab.

Minks


I did both.......so go figure. I have a real inner place that wants to understand everbody. When BTS got banned..........I was pissed. But hey I'm back now. I have always made my own way.

cherandbuster wrote: Since I am pretty new here, I'm sure I would take it too personally.

One of my problems is that I like to be liked.

Gotta remember that respect is more important.

Please don't hurt my feelings and make me sad!

At least until you know me better:)


i think everyone likes to be liked dosent matter how new they are here.

i think we'd all like to be liked and respected and talked nicely to.

i think the problem is that all people jump to conclusions to quickly without knowing all the facts and dont always bother looking for the truth once they've decided on what there opinion is.

i think most people are to quick to judge and dont give other people the benefit of the doubt. people are very judgemental overall i think and it can be very hard to get people to see that you meant something in a nice or funny way once they have decided that you are being unkind or thoughtless or mean for some reason.

this is ment as a thoughtful post and i am not being judgemental to anyone here just saying what i think about life in general

I leaning toward "KICKIN ASS AND TAKING NAMES..!!" :wah: :wah: I'm mature ..

Interesting responses.

Me?

I’m 60 years old and after my life to date it’s unlikely that anyone COULD start a rumor about me that didn’t have at least a grain of truth somewhere in it!

(Well, rule out pedophilia, cruelty to animals, or converting to islam.)

Otherwise I might play along with it for a laugh!

CARLA wrote: I leaning toward "KICKIN ASS AND TAKING NAMES..!!" :wah: :wah: I'm mature ..


Right on, Carla!!