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Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answers





Thats Theia's signiature Diane. It speaks volumes to all those really tough questions.

I hate to be cliche, but its so mightily truthful.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. You can be what you want to be.

I love you.

*big hug for Floppy*

Life does hurt sometimes, Floppy. It is the versatility of the soul to rebound from devastation, but the bounce will never be the same. And a quick glance over your shoulder, and you see someone bouncing along as happy as can be-and you wish it could be you.

I glance over my shoulder sometimes, and see the younger ones. But I only wish them happiness, I was happy and carefree once too.

I shuddered when my mother told me just last week-"I'll be happy again one day, and can do the things I want to." Well, the cost of that bounce that will be gone when I reach that point, will not make up for the loss I will have to face. Even a rubber ball eventually stops bouncing, and has to be picked up and thrown again.

Inside, you are always the same and your soul will rebound. You are a wonderful person, and you words speak volumes of who you are, and you are loved by us all.

We are always here to pick you up, and you are never alone.

flopstock wrote: Ever do the right thing for all the right reasons, yet know in your heart, you've died a little?



Have you ever thought about how your whole life you've made sure that 'it' is about everyone else and just this once.. you just wish it could be the way that you want? And yet you refuse to let it be...



Have you ever looked into anothers eyes and seen the soul you knew you had lost long ago?



Have you ever felt so totally alone?



Ya know, sometimes life just hurts.





EXHALE:o


Yes to all your questions! It seems to me that the older you get, the greyer life becomes. As a child everything seems so clear cut, so obvious, black & white, good & bad.

Nowadays everything is very grey, I can see good in bad and bad in the good.

I think all you can do is weigh up what you have right now, and choose the option which you feel in your heart is right for you. If you just please others or do what you think you are 'supposed' to do, you become very demoralised by it. And you also find it usually turns out not to be the best thing anyway.

We can all only do what we think is best with what we know at the time. When you look backwards the answers seem so obvious, but at the time they can be devastatingly hard. Sometimes you want to do one thing, when ALL your friends are telling you to do something else. But you must listen to your heart and do what is right for you. It doesn't matter how well meaning people are, it's your life and you have to live ith the consequences. Choose well and then you'll have done the best you can.

Think hard about what you want. Then think how you can make it possible.

You may be doing whats best for your family, but it may in the long run, be better to have you happy and settled rather than sinking slowly into misery and depression.

This answer may not seem very helpful, but I do understand these feelings and if it would help you to talk about them then please pm me. I wont tell you what to do but I'm a good listener and it often helps to talk things over with someone who will just listen to you.

I used to work as a counsellor for a nationwide UK organisation called Parentline Plus. Anyone with children, who had any problems (not necessarily child-related) could talk to us in confidence. If you want to talk to someone and cant talk to any of us, see if they have something similar where you live. It should be advertised in the yellow pages. And whatever your problem, believe me they've heard worse.

When you're involved in a problem, it seems as though you can't see the wood for the trees, but as an onlooker a problem can often seem much clearer and so can a solution.

I hope this helps Floppy, as I can feel you're hurting from the sheer weight of this problem on your shoulders. Big hugs to you sweetheart. :yh_hugs