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all you can do is grab a six pack, turn off the phone...and play on the internet all night. What do you do when you get so sad?

I sometimes go away by myself and just let myself BE sad. Other

people can't always be there for me, even DH.



(Big HUG to Hotsauce)



:-4

I either cry alot, color, or draw houseplans (inside only) I'm not an artist but I try, I also get old magazines and if I find something I like, I cut it out and glue, or tape, it on a sheet of typing paper and put it in a notebook. It helps with tension, stress and just helps me relax. Alot find it weird that I do that, but it's things I like to do.

I go for a long run. Or if I can't do that... I eat a large pot of the thickest creamiest most sinful yoghurt I can find. If it's a worse and longer kind of sad I pack my bags and just hit the road.

I eat chocolate, that always is a good thing to do!

*big hug*

I'm with you Chons chocolate works, as well as Ice Cream..:wah:

hotsauce wrote: all you can do is grab a six pack, turn off the phone...and play on the internet all night. What do you do when you get so sad?


I never get sad. Do you find that odd?

I usually try to fix the things that got me that way, but sometimes you just cant fix things, so you just have to ride it out I guess.

Nomad wrote: I usually try to fix the things that got me that way, but sometimes you just cant fix things, so you just have to ride it out I guess.


i'm riding as best i can! thanks!

hotsauce wrote: i'm riding as best i can! thanks!


Im trying to ride too

wish I had a 6 pack though

(((((((((((((((( hotsauce ))))))))))))))))

I don't know what's making you so sad. Sometimes there just isn't any specific reason for being sad. You just are! But I hope you get some sleep and wake up with that dark cloud lifted.

AussiePam wrote: (((((((((((((((( hotsauce ))))))))))))))))



I don't know what's making you so sad. Sometimes there just isn't any specific reason for being sad. You just are! But I hope you get some sleep and wake up with that dark cloud lifted.




awww....sweet thing. we lost our puppy of 16 years this week. all i want to do is break things and smoke (quit three weeks ago). my hubby is out of town as he could not stand to be in a dogless house. so, i am currently getting drunk and going to hate this post tomorrow. cheers!



it will get better, i know. everybody keeps saying that.

The sun is just about over the yardarm here, so I might just join you hotsauce!! I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Of course you're grieving. I'll raise a glass to the memory of a fine Puppy!!!

I found the thread about Stevi !!!

When I get sad, I jump on the motorcycle and ride, hard and fast, preferrably on the expressway. The wind hard in my face, the thrill of the speed, the danger....it just makes me feel so ALIVE. You can't be sad when you're doing 90 mph down the freeway on a bike.

AussiePam wrote: The sun is just about over the yardarm here, so I might just join you Hotsauce!! I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Of course you're grieving. I'll raise a glass to the memory of a fine Puppy!!! Can you post a picture?




awww...thanks, aussie! i have no pics on puter. she was a little tiny black thing made out of scrap metal! she never got down...just kept on going until we had to put her down. that was the hardest part. something i will never get over. i will never have another dog! i think we will have to sell this house. nothing seems right. and thanks for the toast. things will get better.

I've never done that BR, but can relate to it.

Of course if there's a reason for sadness, like in hotsauce's case, it's different... .. I guess you just hafta work through it, somehow. Sigh.

But sometimes I feel sad for no particular reason. A kind of life angst thing - though as a whole I'm an optimistic and happy person. Those times, these days, I try to enter into the sadness. Step back a little and let myself go with the flow. I'm feeling lonely and blue, so I seek out a nice warm dark cafe somewhere and take a book in there, plug in to smokey, bluesy music, and drink black coffee. I usually feel quite cheery again by the time I leave.

AussiePam wrote: I've never done that BR, but can relate to it.



Of course if there's a reason for sadness, like in hotsauce's case, it's different... .. I guess you just hafta work through it, somehow. Sigh.



But sometimes I feel sad for no particular reason. A kind of life angst thing - though as a whole I'm an optimistic and happy person. Those times, these days, I try to enter into the sadness. Step back a little and let myself go with the flow. I'm feeling lonely and blue, so I seek out a nice warm dark cafe somewhere and take a book in there, plug in to smokey, bluesy music, and drink black coffee. I usually feel quite cheery again by the time I leave.




Isnt that weird about blues ? Blues is sad by nature but its a good sad, a calm sad.

hotsauce wrote: awww...thanks, aussie! i have no pics on puter. she was a little tiny black thing made out of scrap metal! she never got down...just kept on going until we had to put her down. that was the hardest part. something i will never get over. i will never have another dog! i think we will have to sell this house. nothing seems right. and thanks for the toast. things will get better.


She sounds very sweet. And she was with you for 16 years. She must have had a wonderful life with you. And of course you can't contemplate having another dog right now. Can you try and get some sleep - sleep doesn't take away pain, but it helps you cope with it. I wish you some restful slumber!!

thanks. you truly are a good one! yes, i plan on sleeping until i can't feel my arms anymore. then i'm going to wake up and get a 130 dollar hair cut and color. (total splurge for turning 30!) then i'm going to go get my back rubbed and chill for about 3 hours. i'm having a total chill, recover from this hangover day. and yes, everything seems better after sleep.

hotsauce wrote: thanks. you truly are a good one! yes, i plan on sleeping until i can't feel my arms anymore. then i'm going to wake up and get a 130 dollar hair cut and color. (total splurge for turning 30!) then i'm going to go get my back rubbed and chill for about 3 hours. i'm having a total chill, recover from this hangover day. and yes, everything seems better after sleep.


GREAT IDEA. And please post photos of this hair cut and colour er color !!! Thirty is a great age, so I'm told. Wicked look.

hotsauce wrote: (total splurge for turning 30!) recover from this hangover day.


Sorry for your loss hot, loosing a dear pet is really loosing a family member. :-1

And it could not have come at a worse time, when you're turning "30"! That alone was a tramatic event for me. I remember the night before turning 30 sitting in a Bar, feeling sorry for myself & getting waisted, don't really know why I felt that way just did, I guess maybe it was leaving my 20's. So with your situation, you have yourself a double-banger! But cheer up I found out being "30" was a wonderful age, as you will find out also, you'll see. You're young enough to still be "in" with the young crowd, and now old enough to really be considered an adult by your elders!

And in time, maybe you may find yourself a new puppy that catches your fancy!

hotsauce wrote: awww....sweet thing. we lost our puppy of 16 years this week. all i want to do is break things and smoke (quit three weeks ago). my hubby is out of town as he could not stand to be in a dogless house. so, i am currently getting drunk and going to hate this post tomorrow. cheers!



it will get better, i know. everybody keeps saying that.


my pupster went to sleep in my arms easter monday she was 14 nearly 15yrs

if i can be of any comfort to you in p.m or e-mail - im here - hugs you tight

hotsauce wrote: all you can do is grab a six pack, turn off the phone...and play on the internet all night. What do you do when you get so sad?


:-1 Yep some thing similar to me,,,apart from i hit the JD..' Not much for beer ' hide my self away either on the net or watch a good film, i guess my choice of film would depend on my mood. the film would normaly relect the time of life i would rather be living, my life is petty dull most of the time so its not hard to find a better fantasy film.

some thing in a sunny place / some thing in a dark place. ( depends on the mood )

fav. films. / programs. Angel. / into the deep blue. / Blade. / King Arthur / Third watch / The Shield / . the list goes on.

Favorite music track prob. Evanesance.. ' bring me to life '

Shadow

shadow man wrote: :-1 Yep some thing similar to me,,,apart from i hit the JD..' Not much for beer ' hide my self away either on the net or watch a good film, i guess my choice of film would depend on my mood. the film would normaly relect the time of life i would rather be living, my life is petty dull most of the time so its not hard to find a better fantasy film.

some thing in a sunny place / some thing in a dark place. ( depends on the mood )

fav. films. / programs. Angel. / into the deep blue. / Blade. / King Arthur / Third watch / The Shield / . the list goes on.

Favorite music track prob. Evanesance.. ' bring me to life '



Shadow
OK, this is just too creepy. Shadow, when I read your post I thought, "Hey, it IS kinda quiet in here...think I'll turn on the stereo." Guess what song was just starting? Yup, Evanesance...."Bring Me to Life." How freakin' bizarre is that????

BabyRider wrote: OK, this is just too creepy. Shadow, when I read your post I thought, "Hey, it IS kinda quiet in here...think I'll turn on the stereo." Guess what song was just starting? Yup, Evanesance...."Bring Me to Life." How freakin' bizarre is that????


Freeky:wah:

but prety cool..........................

SHADOW

shadow man wrote: Freeky:wah:

but prety cool..........................



SHADOW


Theres a Freddy Prinze movie on behind me. Thats weird too right ?

shadow man wrote: Freeky:wah:

but prety cool..........................



SHADOW
Stuff like that freaks me out....and it's cool at the same time. Kinda like a good creeped out....I dunno.

I don't really get sad.

Amie wrote: I don't really get sad.


Thats great to here its nice to no , there is a possibility of sad free life

i am working on it but boy its hard.

May be you can give me some tips

Shadow

Happiness is a way of life, but sadness is a hole you get stuck in

take a shuvel out with you or a nice chick on you right arm..it helps:wah:

At the moment its a shuvel , but if any chicks want to come out with me

i am sure that would be a better option;)

Amie wrote: I don't really get sad.






Your in denial. :p

Nomad wrote: Your in denial. :p


:wah: Maybe, or maybe I'm just a heartless bitch.

sixyearsleft wrote: You may be positive, but that doesn't mean you dont get sad, unless that part of the Brain is missing,:)
I should have phrased it better I guess. I don't get so sad anymore that I have to have coping strategies like this. Maybe I am weird I don't know. If I'm sad, it's because someone has died, or something drastic like that.

shadow man wrote: Thats great to here its nice to no , there is a possibility of sad free life

i am working on it but boy its hard.

May be you can give me some tips

Shadow

Happiness is a way of life, but sadness is a hole you get stuck in

take a shuvel out with you or a nice chick on you right arm..it helps:wah:

At the moment its a shuvel , but if any chicks want to come out with me

i am sure that would be a better option;)


When I was in my late teens/early 20s I was the saddest lil thing you ever did see. For me it took being diagnosed with leukemia for that to change. I don't have any wonderful answers I'm afraid, that was what turned me around, I don't know what it will be for you. But.... I will say, the power of the mind is an amazing thing. Sometimes all it takes is to tell yourself a different story than the one your mind goes to naturally. ie If your day was terrible, dont focus on how terrible your day was, admit your day was terrible, accept that not everyday will be your version of fabulous, but focus on something good in the day (yes, there IS always something) and always always remember that any day you wake up really is a whole new beginning.

Mostly, give yourself a break, don't be your own worst critic, be your own best cheer squad. People are just so hard on themselves these days.