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Are you honest with other people

or

do you tell people what they want to hear?

WHY?

To be honest, my reply depends on two things. Firstly, it depends on whether I have an answer. If I have not an answer and I have been asked, I will say as much. But if the person is persistent, then I am likely to tell them what they want to hear. This serves to stop them from constantly haranguing me and makes them happy.

On the other hand, if I have an answer, then I will give it to them. However, I will use tact as necessary, to the best of my limited ability, so that they might act positively rather than negatively.

I confess that in the first instance, I should not give in to an easy way out. Yet, sometimes, when I have an answer, and am able to give it in a positive manner, they are not interested in anything other than what they want to hear.

I usually always tell the truth. Sometimes being a teacher, you have to not mention the truth about something for awhile: for example, a shooting at our school this week. It was better to play dumb and not know the answers, or the children would keep questioning and become more worried as the day progressed. They know it is safe if I go outside and take my walk 6th period, something I do everyday-unless it snows very hard or rains-ever since the sniper was there a few years ago. It makes them feel more secure, if I can go out side-la de dah-then it is all right for them when it is time to go home.

chonsigirl wrote: I usually always tell the truth. Sometimes being a teacher, you have to not mention the truth about something for awhile: for example, a shooting at our school this week. It was better to play dumb and not know the answers, or the children would keep questioning and become more worried as the day progressed. They know it is safe if I go outside and take my walk 6th period, something I do everyday-unless it snows very hard or rains-ever since the sniper was there a few years ago. It makes them feel more secure, if I can go out side-la de dah-then it is all right for them when it is time to go home.


Oh my! Talk about having influence..............

if I can go out side-la de dah


Sorry Chonsi, but as I read this, I had an image of you doing a jump, skip and hop as you took your walk. Please forgive me.

:wah: I almost run out of school Period 6 to walk, and grab a counselor or two who need a break. We are worse then the kids........................

MrsK understands, don't you love to go out just for 20 minutes without the kids, to fortify yourself for the last class of the day?

You must be wonderful with your kids, MrsK.

chonsigirl wrote: :wah: I almost run out of school Period 6 to walk, and grab a counselor or two who need a break. We are worse then the kids........................


:yh_doh

I am a truth teller. I do not like lies. If someone asks me a question and the I the truth will hurt them, I either drop the conversation or tell the truth. It just depends on the situation.

Sheryl - what are the 47 other Dangerous Words????

I tell the truth, I expect the truth. If I feel a person is telling me what he thinks I want to hear, I'll press the issue. I want it right between the eyes, without the fluff. I'm savvy enough to know when someone is being kind and when they're being cruel.



I normally use considerably more tact in my delivery, though. I don't work with kids, so I will not lie. If I know something but can't tell, I will say I know but won't tell. That usually blows people's minds until they get used to me.

SOJOURNER wrote: Are you honest with other people

or

do you tell people what they want to hear?

WHY?


how would you know if i was telling the truth when i answer this post?

so what is it that you all want to hear?

but i guess you could say i'm a little from collum A and a little from collum B.

AussiePam wrote: Sheryl - what are the 47 other Dangerous Words????


hmmm let me get back to you...



*scurries for a theasorous

I am straigt foward, and honest. Many good friends love me for it. Others loathe me, and my personality. Most of the people who came into my business in Georgia,instantly disliked me. It is possible to be honest, and kind.

Alfred wrote: how would you know if i was telling the truth when i answer this post?

so what is it that you all want to hear?

but i guess you could say i'm a little from collum A and a little from collum B.
What about on multiple choice quizzes?:wah:

Sheryl wrote: hmmm let me get back to you...





*scurries for a theasorousGrab a spell checker while you're there. :wah:

Honesty can be a double edged sword. Frequently people think they want the truth but when they actually hear it they cant handle it. Tact is a useful tool. Anyhoo truth is subjective, we all have varying realities. Its not a bad idea to preface your truth with a "in my opinion".......

Accountable wrote: Grab a spell checker while you're there. :wah:




:p don't pick on me cause my spelling is awful.

Ill pick on her acc....got it covered.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrr

i say wot i hink

n if no1 likes it

well tuff :wah: :wah:

snuggs wrote: i say wot i hink



n if no1 likes it



well tuff :wah: :wah:


Oh man that really pisses me off !!! :-5

Nomad wrote: Oh man that really pisses me off !!! :-5


TUFF :wah: :wah:

chonsigirl wrote: What about on multiple choice quizzes?:wah:
multiple choice questions are settled by a quick bout of eany meany miny mo. (geez i hope thats how its spelled)

Alfred wrote: how would you know if i was telling the truth when i answer this post?

so what is it that you all want to hear?



but i guess you could say i'm a little from collum A and a little from collum B.
3rd post in this link places you more in column B, I'd say.

http://users.boardnation.com/~revolutio ... 00;start=0

Far Rider wrote: was that the truth ACC or were ya just sayin?:wah:
[smilie=1,33,2] As I said before, I tell the truth, I expect the truth.

Far Rider wrote: ok then do these jeans make me look fat? *Far turns around slowly*:yh_rotflwhat does it matter when you won't keep them on anyway? :wah:

Far Rider wrote: ok then do these jeans make me look fat? *Far turns around slowly*:yh_rotfl
No, Far, those jeans don't make you look fat. Your fat makes you look fat! :yh_rotfl