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I have found this to be true and it makes me chuckle but I am not quite sure of the thinking behind it. So here goes...........when you are dating and the woman dresses classy sexy (I don't mean whore sexy) your man is all over you and loves the way you dress. When you get married and dress this way - it becomes toooooo much. My BTS wants me to dress classy - but the heck with showing leg, too much curve or cleavage anymore. Is that a protection thing or WHAT?????? I am talking about going out in public - not being dressed at home for my love.

Far Rider wrote: Hmmmm...

When Vicky dresses up I love it! I love to show her off, but she does not dress provacative... So its difficult to tell...

However, the few times someone came up to flirt with her I have just stood between them and given them the look as if id rip his arms off, so I havnt had much trouble.

But I have seen someof these young teenage girls dress up in such tight clothing, and totally inapropriate for their age... now if my daughter tried that... well there just wouldnt be any of that! but if she went out like that Id not let a guy even look her direction!

And yes Im so darn old fashioned its not even funny... and NO im not going to change!


So classy is not provacative..........I understand the difference.... I used the word sexy instead and I can see that difference too now. Thanks. You DO GET PROTECTIVE then.. I can see you and BTS thumping your fists on your chests and saying.............MY WOMAN. It is very complimentary to me - as a woman. So I will look good and understated. I have so much respect for BTS that I would never intentionally embarass him by the way I dress.

nvalleyvee wrote: I have found this to be true and it makes me chuckle but I am not quite sure of the thinking behind it. So here goes...........when you are dating and the woman dresses classy sexy (I don't mean whore sexy) your man is all over you and loves the way you dress. When you get married and dress this way - it becomes toooooo much. My BTS wants me to dress classy - but the heck with showing leg, too much curve or cleavage anymore. Is that a protection thing or WHAT?????? I am talking about going out in public - not being dressed at home for my love.


I would certainly agree that there issues you did not thoroughly discuss before marriage and now is not too late to do that. Maybe breaking up the marriage is not the only answer or option open to you, but for sure gaining a new and better understanding with which you are both satisfied seems to be in order.

Go for that, Girl!

Art

lebobart273 wrote: I would certainly agree that there issues you did not thoroughly discuss before marriage and now is not too late to do that. Maybe breaking up the marriage is not the only answer or option open to you, but for sure gaining a new and better understanding with which you are both satisfied seems to be in order.

Go for that, Girl!

Art


What the heck are you talking about? There was never an issue of breaking up the marriage. I thought his feelings were very complimentary which just makes me :-4 him more.

Far Rider wrote: hahahaha, well sexy can be secretive too! Vicky Mae kinda lets on what shes wearin underneath all that pretty stuff!


Well I didn't want to go there BUT...............she's a woman after my own heart. It's fun to make your mate vision you after the outing..........

Demur, but still sexy, oh yeah. I had a problem with girlfriends in the past where they just would never get dolled up, except weddings, funerals, and baptisms (this may be an Irish thing). Most of the time it was a jeans and a nice "top" down the pub, where's the glamour?, I want my wife to be natural of course, not a film star, but if she could do the Lauren Bacall thing once in a while that would be great. So "sexy classy" as Nvallyee put it, oh yes, all the way. But again as has been said, not sexy as in porno mag, thats not sexy, thats gynacology.

OK - you men are telling me what you want in your wife..........did she ever dress differently when you were dating? I am assuming you married women that dressed this way BEFORE you were married. BTW....so did I.. OHHHH and what is your opinion on makeup?

My opinion in a nutshell.

Women should dress in a manner that makes them feel comfortable, while also producing a bit of an effect in the "other half" Dress how you want, but being classy in the way you dress and act, has always been and will always be, classy. If you want any ideas, go and hang out in the bars and cafes of the Marais in Paris, where you will see lots of elegant and chic ladies and girls, who havn't spent $5 million on clothes and beauty products to do it. Anyway, I can't undersatnd why men wouldn't want wives to look good or attractive, a pretty wife is after all something that certain men will pay a lot of money for.



Make up: Some, but the less required the better.

my signature...white silk suit with fringe and pearls sewn in bodice. and red lipstick and long red nails. it works.

lady cop wrote: my signature...white silk suit with fringe and pearls sewn in bodice. and red lipstick and long red nails. it works.


everything but the fingernails...........

nvalleyvee wrote: everything but the fingernails...........


Oiy If I did white, I would look lost, Us Canucks have winter white skin white is a no no hehehehe

I should be taking notes mind you, I am a jeans girl, and sorry no makeup and eeek come winter it is not that glam hehehehe dang I am getting old I need make up ahahahaha

i only do it when Bothwell is coming in...otherwise it's jammies!

minks wrote: Oiy If I did white, I would look lost, Us Canucks have winter white skin white is a no no hehehehe

I should be taking notes mind you, I am a jeans girl, and sorry no makeup and eeek come winter it is not that glam hehehehe dang I am getting old I need make up ahahahaha


Major sweat clothes here too. I have to be wrm and it is sooooo cold now.

lady cop wrote: i only do it when Bothwell is coming in...otherwise it's jammies!


ahahaha OOOO Jammies all day, how posh hehehehehe

I am still in gym gear nobody around to impress tonite

minks wrote: ahahaha OOOO Jammies all day, how posh hehehehehe

I am still in gym gear nobody around to impress tonite


It is my winter uniform..............have to keep warm.. 3 blankets on the bed.......freaking COLD .......... I hate to be cold.

Far Rider wrote: Vicky is very earthy too, mild amount of make up! Very pretty and natural! Her eyes and smile set off her whole face! yeehaw she sends me!


Dang - that's what BTS says about me ......... when I wear make-up ..it's just to enhance and only on very social occaissions ( can't spell it)

puttyknife............LMFAO.......probably lots of BLUE

Far Rider wrote: hahaha I think she used wood filler too!!!!

What do you think about men who wear make up?

There an exec where i work and he wears make up... im not kiddin... when i shake his hand I have to do it gently, cause he winces and the slightest grip!

*shakes head* Pathetic.


Can you say Michael Jackson?

i don't know what he's thinking.

SHOW IT OFF!! hell yeah. i get an enormous EGO boost when she dresses sexy-hot. all these guys drooling and i'm thinking, "drool all you like fellas. She's coming home with me!"

You can dress sexy and provocatively without looking slutty. Hubby loves it when I dress provocatively. Guess it says, "Look what I have and you can't have" to the other guys. Now if I'd go out that way alone, he might have a whole different take on the matter.:wah: Unfortunately, I wear jeans and a t shirt most of the time. I want COMFORT.

I work with a girl who even when it's below zero out, she'll have spaghetti strap shirts on. VERY low cut ones. Guess that's why she doesn't actually have to work and I do.:wah:

Did see a copy of Gynaecologists Only on the top shelf once. Took it down for a furtive look but it wasn't up to much. Just a lot of close ups and articles about speculums and how to wallpaper your hall through the letter-box

Galbally wrote: Demur, but still sexy, oh yeah. I had a problem with girlfriends in the past where they just would never get dolled up, except weddings, funerals, and baptisms (this may be an Irish thing). Most of the time it was a jeans and a nice "top" down the pub, where's the glamour?, I want my wife to be natural of course, not a film star, but if she could do the Lauren Bacall thing once in a while that would be great. So "sexy classy" as Nvallyee put it, oh yes, all the way. But again as has been said, not sexy as in porno mag, thats not sexy, thats gynacology.


By the way my above comment was a reply to this. I REALLY should get an early night

I still dress nice, makeup and all, and ask my husband what he thinks. He smiles.

That is enough for me.:-4

nvalleyvee wrote: What the heck are you talking about? There was never an issue of breaking up the marriage. I thought his feelings were very complimentary which just makes me :-4 him more.


Sorry I misunderstood.

Art

Its an ownership issue. I for one like it when my wife shows her stuff in public. Theres a pizza delivery story I would tell but its not in my best interest to do so. Self preservation and all that.

SnoozeControl wrote: I'd reply to that, but I'm ignoring your posts.




Amazing ! In an instant I feel as if the world has been removed from my shoulders. :-6

Nomad wrote: Man whore.




'scuse me ???

SnoozeControl wrote: I told someone he was a "he ho" once. He never spoke to me again.




Who are you talking to ? You talking to me ? *looks around* I dont see anyone else here, you must be talking to me.

Nomad.....didn't have a custard pie

There is not a man alive who is allowed to tell me how to do anything!! He would be very brave. Opinions and critique are welcome though. I like to dress for the occasion. Lady in the street and ......... in the bedroom :sneaky:

Thats me too Jenny....

Theres the classy, yet sexy outside appearance and the for your eyes only in thr bedroom :sneaky:

My husband thought I was cute all dressed up to go to lunch with the ladies, until he saw my hat....................:wah:

He could even utter a distinct,"Argh!" that made me laugh.

humph Id have made him buy me a new hat for that....:-2

Oh, he can't really talk much anymore, that was pretty good for him. It shows he still retains his sense of humor, which is an improvement.

BTS and I just went to an office party..............most of the women were dressed for cheap NYC parties. Thanks to all you men who told me how NOT to look cheap.

nvalleyvee wrote: BTS and I just went to an office party..............most of the women were dressed for cheap NYC parties. Thanks to all you men who told me how NOT to look cheap.
Thanks guys.....

My husband doesn't care if I dress up or not, or wear make-up. I only dress up now when we go somewhere nice. He loves and likes me the way I am. I used to dress up all the time but as life goes and money becomes less so do my dress up clothes (and clothes in general). I go without alot of things and make sure the children get what they need instead of myself. I've changed alot and not always for the better. The hubby is not a romantic and doesn't see why I should dress up for him. As long as there are clothes to dispense of when the time comes, that's pretty much all he cares about. Self centered man isn't he? LOL

jennyswan wrote: There is not a man alive who is allowed to tell me how to do anything!! He would be very brave. Opinions and critique are welcome though. I like to dress for the occasion. Lady in the street and ......... in the bedroom :sneaky:




Not only in the morning will I lay out what I require you to wear that day, my breakfast had damned well better be hot when I get to the table lil missy !



























*Will Nomad regret this ?...I think ummmm yes*













*Ducks*









:D :-6

Not only in the morning will I lay out what I require you to wear that day, my breakfast had damned well better be hot when I get to the table lil missy !


So Nomad wants the piece of THE SWAN!!

Come and get it honey. I'm flexible!! I can the wear the collar for once if that's what rocks your boat :p