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Bruv;1473036 wrote: Annie Annie Annie....perhaps it's not worth it.........if you are on ignore he can't see.........do you want me to "quote" you ?I'd bet you $5 that they are already reading along.

Bruv;1473002 wrote: The Ignore button is the same as closing your eyes, putting your fingers in your ears and singing la la la.........it's what kids do.

I could happily live my life without certain people in it, not all of them are online, I manage to navigate through my life without too much of a problem.


In addition to what Betty Boop says about “choosing to be bothered about it... or not the button spares you from reverting to “closing your eyes, putting your fingers in your ears and singing la la la - and it also cuts the page down half so you can get on to input you think worthy of your attention, rather than skimming through.

NOTE. It needn't be someone you dislike who needs to be obscured. I mean, let's say that an old school chum has become such an alcoholic that he sits on the same corner every day, half-conscious, and you've already tried to help him out, to no avail. He doesn't want to be helped. Would you want to see him daily on his collision course with self-destruction? The ignore button can function as “taking another route.

Getting back towards the original point of the post - as we're all aware, Oscar & I were poles apart when it came to our politics & much as I loathe them, I respect & support her right to follow them. However, when not talking politics she could make some extremely interesting posts upon which we had a great deal in common. Now, if I were to have put her on ignore because of her extremist political views, I wouldn't have been able to enjoy the posts she made on other matters either.

FourPart;1473083 wrote: Getting back towards the original point of the post - as we're all aware, Oscar & I were poles apart when it came to our politics & much as I loathe them, I respect & support her right to follow them. However, when not talking politics she could make some extremely interesting posts upon which we had a great deal in common. Now, if I were to have put her on ignore because of her extremist political views, I wouldn't have been able to enjoy the posts she made on other matters either.


That is certainly true. But what if the views you were at odds with were not political but personal, agressive and/or slanderous sort? Would you feel the same way about risking missing the fluffy ones?

Let's keep it straight. We are discussing the merits (or lack of) the "ignore function". Are you really saying that dissimilar veiws on political opinion is the worst it can get?

Closing your eyes to events doesn't make those events go away. That's just the ostrich syndrome.

To Oscar's credit she kept the attacks, on the whole, to the relevant threads - although some threads did get regularly hijacked, but they remained out of the other threads.

FourPart;1473090 wrote: Closing your eyes to events doesn't make those events go away. That's just the ostrich syndrome.

To Oscar's credit she kept the attacks, on the whole, to the relevant threads - although some threads did get regularly hijacked, but they remained out of the other threads.


"Events"? I guess you haven't read my above response yet.

High Threshold;1473092 wrote: "Events"? I guess you haven't read my above response yet.


Or more like, understood the reasoning behind it.

If you walk along a pavement with dog crap on it, it may not be pleasant to look at, but by closing your eyes to it you just walk into more of it.

Bruv;1473093 wrote: Or more like, understood the reasoning behind it.


Perhaps you ought to explain "the reasoning" to me then, because I must have missed it.

High Threshold;1473096 wrote: Perhaps you ought to explain "the reasoning" to me then, because I must have missed it.


Are you getting all Oscaresque on me ?

If you read the discussion in sequence my comment might make sense..............if not don't worry about it.

Bruv;1473098 wrote: Are you getting all Oscaresque on me ?

If you read the discussion in sequence my comment might make sense..............if not don't worry about it.


I'm not worried about it. I was having a one-to-one discussion on the merits of the "ingnore" button (NOT on the "ban" of Oscar and Co.) and I feel four-part was speaking at cross-purposes or just simply wasn't making sense. It was he who put Oscar and the "ignore" button on the table together. Perhaps he meant to say "ban" but said "ignore" by mistake?

No - I meant ignore.

To use your metaphor, a ban might be used to remove the undesirable drunkard from the street. To ignore him is to just pretend the problem doesn't exist.

His aim was not to ignore me---it was to TELL ME he is ignoring me, or else he would not have mentioned it twice! in 2 separate threads. Draw your own conclusions, mine is "passive-aggressive."

FourPart;1473100 wrote: No - I meant ignore.

To use your metaphor, a ban might be used to remove the undesirable drunkard from the street. To ignore him is to just pretend the problem doesn't exist.


Well yes, but a BAN is for the benefit of the whole forum, as perceived by admin of course. IGNORE is an independent benefit, as perceived by the individual, naturally.

I agree with you 100% that differences in political opinion or motivation is much too a minor thing to put someone on “ignore, especially when that person is appreciated on other subjects ¦ as you say. Who wouldn't agree with you? But I still maintain that the “ignore function is a blessing for other circumstances. Perhaps we agree on that point as well, and I've only misunderstood you?

What I do not agree with is your own spin on the metaphor: Ignoring a drunk (particularly if you know him personally) is NOT to just pretend a/the/his problem doesn't exist. There are tons of reasons why one might want to ignore a drunk, none (of which I have in mind) would indicate denying or pretending a/the/his problem does not exist.

And then there is the personal or general antagonist, chip-on-the shoulder, stalker, troll, whatever. To put him on “ignore is a wise thing to do, I'd say ¦. or do you feel ignoring your own personal antagonist is to pretend such people do not exist? Surely not.

Bruv;1473002 wrote: The Ignore button is the same as closing your eyes, putting your fingers in your ears and singing la la la.........it's what kids do.

I could happily live my life without certain people in it, not all of them are online, I manage to navigate through my life without too much of a problem.


And I would argue that it's the equivalent of turning your back and walking away from someone when they are insulting and disrespecting you. It's what adults do.

We're all different, of course, so judging one person's coping strategies by your own standards in useless. I know myself, and I know what I'm talking about when it concerns me. I've been banned from this forum before, and some of the people who "helped" me get myself banned are still here and surface every once in a while to take potshots at me. So the ignore feature does what it was intended to do for me.

My own anti-submarine net so I don't take a torpedo.

High Threshold;1473104 wrote:

And then there is the personal antagonist, chip-on-the shoulder, stalker, troll, whatever. To put him on “ignore is a wise thing to do, I'd say ¦. or do you feel ignoring your own personal antagonist is to pretend such people do not exist? Surely not.


You said that better than I. And of course, I've already demonstrated to myself that these kinds of people affect me WAY more than is good for me. (Can you imagine staying awake all night stressing over what someone, who is a stranger to you and doesn't even know you, has said online to you? Well, I've done it and it seems to me ridiculous.) Since I can't stop them from saying those hurtful things, and I can't seem to stop myself from reading them, the ignore button seems made to order.

Perhaps that's even why it was invented.

I have an evil suspicion, based on recollections from way back around 2007 or so, that nobody can ignore me.





eta: the *correct* response, just so we're all singing from the same hymn sheet, is "we would not know, John, for it would never have occurred to us to find out".

Saint_;1473108 wrote: ¦ Since I can't stop them from saying those hurtful things, and I can't seem to stop myself from reading them, the ignore button seems made to order.

¦ I would argue that it's the equivalent of turning your back and walking away from someone when they are insulting and disrespecting you. It's what adults do.


I have nothing further to add, counsellor.

HT, Hej min vän, hur packningen på väg? :yh_rotfl Oops mustn't do that - gotta be in English !

Saint_;1473108 wrote: And I would argue that it's the equivalent of turning your back and walking away from someone when they are insulting and disrespecting you. It's what adults do.

We're all different, of course, so judging one person's coping strategies by your own standards in useless. I know myself, and I know what I'm talking about when it concerns me. I've been banned from this forum before, and some of the people who "helped" me get myself banned are still here and surface every once in a while to take potshots at me. So the ignore feature does what it was intended to do for me.

My own anti-submarine net so I don't take a torpedo.


We are all human beings and have 'coping mechanisms' (not the sort of language I use too often) so if it is good for you......go for it.

To be honest, people have wound me up online, as you say these people are virtual strangers. I always remember what my Father used to say when one of my 2 elder brothers wound me up, and that was to ignore them, they win when you react, you win when you can brush it aside.

As an aside...........seriously how can someone who doesn't know you, insult or disrespect you ? Are you super sensitive ? If you feel they are 'having a go' do a Tude Dog and throw them an enigmatic curve ball (that always stumps me)

G#Gill;1473116 wrote: HT, Hej min vän, hur packningen på väg? :yh_rotfl Oops mustn't do that - gotta be in English !
The question is whether we should ban you for that blatant infraction of the rules, or merely ignore you?

G#Gill;1473116 wrote: HT, Hej min vän, hur packningen på väg? :yh_rotfl Oops mustn't do that - gotta be in English !


Well! I am really, REALLY impressed!:) And I'm flattered too. To answer your question ¦. it's tough, but we're beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel. Saturday's the day but we've been jockeying everything closer and closer to the exit (in order of importance) to make it go as smoothly as possible when I collect the rental van ¦.. and try to beat the clock. We're buzzing like bees and getting little sleep!

FourPart;1473118 wrote: The question is whether we should ban you for that blatant infraction of the rules, or merely ignore you?


Na'. There's a lady what canna' be ignored! :yh_giggle

FourPart;1473118 wrote: The question is whether we should ban you for that blatant infraction of the rules, or merely ignore you?


Oh, FourPart, don't be such a stuffed shirt ! :wah: It was only a few harmless words and I more or less apologised for writing in a non-English language. A bit of fun. I said nothing rude, or anything which could upset anybody ! Honest guv ! :p :wah:

Stuffed shirt? What shirt?

Nice & cosy here in my flat. No need for shirts & the like.

G#Gill;1473169 wrote: Oh, FourPart, don't be such a stuffed shirt ! :wah: It was only a few harmless words and I more or less apologised for writing in a non-English language. A bit of fun. I said nothing rude, or anything which could upset anybody ! Honest guv ! :p :wah:


That's your interpretation ... I was moved to tears, myself ..... :-1

G#Gill;1473116 wrote: HT, Hej min vän, hur packningen på väg? :yh_rotfl Oops mustn't do that - gotta be in English !


Is that anything like גיי קאקן אויפן ים ? :wah:

You don't know how many time I wanted to tell somebody that. Problem besides maybe violating forum rules it would be meaningless.

tude dog;1473208 wrote: Is that anything like גיי קאקן אויפן ים ? :wah:

You don't know how many time I wanted to tell somebody that. Problem besides maybe violating forum rules it would be meaningless.


You will have to use Milford lake ?

tude dog;1473208 wrote: Is that anything like גיי קאקן אויפן ים ? :wah:




No. It's more like: גייט דרעק אויף דיין קאָפּ :yh_rotfl

High Threshold;1473210 wrote: No. It's more like: גייט דרעק אויף דיין קאָפּ :yh_rotfl


Thanks

Bruv;1473209 wrote: You will have to use Milford lake ?


Not really, I don't live near there.

If I wanted to go out of the way to spoil a lake the nearest to me is Waconda Lake.

I couldn't imagine in good conscience doing that in a lake where my I let my puppies



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G#Gill;1473116 wrote: HT, Hej min vän, hur packningen på väg? :yh_rotfl Oops mustn't do that - gotta be in English !


I'm pulling the plug on the computer now. See you in a day or two.

High Threshold;1473264 wrote: I'm pulling the plug on the computer now. See you in a day or two.


Happy landings, HT. Take care and don't break your wife's favourite ornament !

G#Gill;1473267 wrote: Happy landings, HT. Take care and don't break your wife's favourite ornament !


I have 2 words of advice for you: 1). Never move flats. 2). Stay young. We got everything shifted now but the flat is up to the rafters in boxes. Trying to find this and that just ain't easy ¦.. if we could just find the most important things! So far nothing broken, but we did foget the thick, plastic, under-the-swivel-chair-to-save-the-woodwork thing in the van and I'll have to dash back this morning and hope it's still there.

FourPart;1473172 wrote: Stuffed shirt? What shirt?

Nice & cosy here in my flat. No need for shirts & the like.


Not a good image, now I find myelf wondering if you come on the forum naked at your computer screen. Maybe just as well there are no cameras.

Steady on, boys! There is plenty of time for that when the lights are out.

HT, I hope you managed to rescue your thick plastic thingy !

G#Gill;1473451 wrote: HT, I hope you managed to rescue your thick plastic thingy !


I did, thanks! It was right there on the floor where we left it ...... despite the van having been rented out twice more! No one noticed it.

High Threshold;1473453 wrote: I did, thanks! It was right there on the floor where we left it ...... despite the van having been rented out twice more! No one noticed it.


Yo show is lucky HT !

G#Gill;1473454 wrote: Yo show is lucky HT !


I show do be!

High Threshold;1473453 wrote: I did, thanks! It was right there on the floor where we left it ...... despite the van having been rented out twice more! No one noticed it.


Yo show is lucky HT !