who has had nasty neighbours, c`mon lets hear what they did!

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 4:45 pm

ButterflyPrincess;997815 wrote: yes, i've heard of it and i can't wait to see it! lmao!

I'm to scared!

I will come home and think my neighbour is like him!

ahhhhhhhhhhhh!:-5

ButterflyPrincess · Post by **ButterflyPrincess** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 4:50 pm

:wah: too funny. you remind me of my friend Alishea.. she's like that.. lmao

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 4:52 pm

ButterflyPrincess;997832 wrote: :wah: too funny. you remind me of my friend Alishea.. she's like that.. lmao

soooooooooo scared.........let me know how it ends!

come to my room and tell me!:wah:

ButterflyPrincess · Post by **ButterflyPrincess** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 4:53 pm

Ok.. in the dark though so i can scare you! :sneaky:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 6:52 pm

I have lucked out with great neighbors except for the moronic A$$'s across the street. The other day, I was on the porch with my daughter, son and her friend and the woman across the street was having a fight w/her boyfriend in the middle of the street. I kindly asked her to "could you please keep it down" well, she laid into me with the "F" word big time. I did feel good as I never even used a curse word on her and her boyfriend did calm her down and he apologized. She didn't though.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 6:58 pm

ButterflyPrincess;997840 wrote: Ok.. in the dark though so i can scare you! :sneaky:

just make sure its before 10pm, Mike leaves for work then...... all alone with 4 cats that are more frightened that me!:wah:

I hate saying the word hubby, they do have names!:-5

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:04 pm

Well finally after 2 yrs of calling the borough, the zoning officer came out and ordered scum bags across the street to clean out their back yard which contained a ton of dog crap, old mattresses, a beat pool, old toys, you name it, it came out of that yard. Plus the next trash day, they must have had 20 giant trash bags full of crap.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:08 pm

qsducks;997948 wrote: I have lucked out with great neighbors except for the moronic A$$'s across the street. The other day, I was on the porch with my daughter, son and her friend and the woman across the street was having a fight w/her boyfriend in the middle of the street. I kindly asked her to "could you please keep it down" well, she laid into me with the "F" word big time. I did feel good as I never even used a curse word on her and her boyfriend did calm her down and he apologized. She didn't though.

woah, your brave..............around here we keep our mouths shut or they will shut them for us................ahhhhhhhh Toronto living!:-5:wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:09 pm

qsducks;997959 wrote: Well finally after 2 yrs of calling the borough, the zoning officer came out and ordered scum bags across the street to clean out their back yard which contained a ton of dog crap, old mattresses, a beat pool, old toys, you name it, it came out of that yard. Plus the next trash day, they must have had 20 giant trash bags full of crap.

2 years! We don't have to wait that long..........one phone call here.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:12 pm

Odie;997965 wrote: woah, your brave..............around here we keep our mouths shut or they will shut them for us................ahhhhhhhh Toronto living!:-5:wah:

Not us. Told them right off the bat the first time 2 yrs ago, you start your sh*t, you will get it right back and we always win. Told the chick right to her face "I'm not afraid of you and if you touch one thing on my property I will come over here and kick your sorry welfare, sitting on your butt a$$.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:24 pm

qsducks;997970 wrote: Not us. Told them right off the bat the first time 2 yrs ago, you start your sh*t, you will get it right back and we always win. Told the chick right to her face "I'm not afraid of you and if you touch one thing on my property I will come over here and kick your sorry welfare, sitting on your butt a$$.

remind me to be a nice neighbour!:wah:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:26 pm

Odie;997981 wrote: remind me to be a nice neighbour!:wah:

You would be welcome in my neighborhood Odie.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:28 pm

qsducks;997983 wrote: You would be welcome in my neighborhood Odie.

always been more than a nice neighbour, if anyone needs help, we are there for them--------accept the old bag that lives beside me and is constantly complaining about stupid things................I have learnt to ignore her, why get my stress level up!

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:31 pm

Odie;997985 wrote: always been more than a nice neighbour, if anyone needs help, we are there for them--------accept the old bag that lives beside me and is constantly complaining about stupid things................I have learnt to ignore her, why get my stress level up!

Same here. Just had a neighbor fall down the steps and everybody helped them out and wished Jack well. He had to go to the hospital and get stitches. But that's the good neighbors. Always help each other out.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:39 pm

qsducks;997988 wrote: Same here. Just had a neighbor fall down the steps and everybody helped them out and wished Jack well. He had to go to the hospital and get stitches. But that's the good neighbors. Always help each other out.

and we do have one neighbour, she snaps and we all used to come a running..............not anymore!

you can only run for one person only so long.......and she does not appreciate it..................she expects it as we 4 are her neighbours!

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:42 pm

fuzzy butt;997994 wrote: i wrote this , this morning out of sheer anger

You light a match, and it burns out

You light two, and it burns a little longer

Three, and you're almost there.

Four, and the straw is alight

You're hungry for fire without any regret

Malicious, hateful, destroying fire,

The flames reach higher and begins to burn her dress

She has no screams, although the despreate anger is there

She has no recourse because there is no 'one' face to blame

There are many faces whispering in the darkness, hissing venom

And the flames become higher engulfing her in burning agonising flames

With her last crys she falls dead you have won .............you gossips

Soul destroyers of innocent human beings .

You wipe your hands and move onto the next victim.

Another to burn at the stake.

Megs.

Wow Meg those are powerful words.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 6:43 am

Odie;997809 wrote: OMG...............this sounds like that new movie that is coming out with Samual Jackson.........he is the neighbour from hell!

anyone heard of it?........Lakeview Terrace, just came out today in threaters, he plays a cop. I love Samuel L Jackson, one of my fave actors. I'll look out for this film, it's sounds really good. I chatted with the oldies on the other side of me this morning. They said "sod him, let him find out the hard way". Comforting to know it's not just us that feels that way about him. he came round moaning one day that he could hear my hi fi. It wasn't loud at all, i respect the oldies on the other side & infront of me. After he had moaned on about working on his computer he told my husband that the previous week was o.k. because i was playing "The Verve" ( a brit band). My husband said, so if she plays the Stones, you want it off, if she plays The verve, that's o.k. because you like them?? My husband also told him one day that when we first moved in, all we saw was the wheelchair, years later, we only see the man sitting in it. He was speechless. He's so used to everyone tiptoeing around him. I am still stuck as to weather i tell him or not.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 6:48 am

Get it off your chest and tell him.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 6:49 am

We have other neighbours who are a bit hippy. I don't know them well but i know they are on benifits. Every year on the bank holiday, they pitch a huge tent & marquee in the field outside our lounge windows. It is illegal as the field is council owned. They spend 3 days & all the kids in the street tag on to these people as for three days they play with their kids, cricket, football etc etc. I know that they do this to give their kids a bit of excitement of camping out because they can't afford to go away on holiday. It is a pain as they do get noisy but it's once a year. If it were you, would you call the police?? He does. Spoilsport. It's little kids having fun.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 6:51 am

oscar;998395 wrote: We have other neighbours who are a bit hippy. I don't know them well but i know they are on benifits. Every year on the bank holiday, they pitch a huge tent & marquee in the field outside our lounge windows. It is illegal as the field is council owned. They spend 3 days & all the kids in the street tag on to these people as for three days they play with their kids, cricket, football etc etc. I know that they do this to give their kids a bit of excitement of camping out because they can't afford to go away on holiday. It is a pain as they do get noisy but it's once a year. If it were you, would you call the police?? He does. Spoilsport. It's little kids having fun.

No because we would probs be there. I have kids too. Kids make noise, tell the old fart to get used to it. He is obs not young at heart.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 7:09 am

qsducks;998405 wrote: No because we would probs be there. I have kids too. Kids make noise, tell the old fart to get used to it. He is obs not young at heart. Absolutely right. The police do attend every year when he calls them but i am pleased to say that a few weeks ago the police didn't tell them to pack up. They left them to it. I was so pleased. I've decided. I'm not telling him about the work.:sneaky::sneaky::sneaky:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 7:11 am

oscar;998466 wrote: Absolutely right. The police do attend every year when he calls them but i am pleased to say that a few weeks ago the police didn't tell them to pack up. They left them to it. I was so pleased. I've decided. I'm not telling him about the work.:sneaky::sneaky::sneaky:

I was at first suggesting you tell him, but now I agree. Don't do it. He will b*tch & moan if you do or you don't.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:08 am

qsducks;998471 wrote: I was at first suggesting you tell him, but now I agree. Don't do it. He will b*tch & moan if you do or you don't. You are so right. My husband & i have discussed this at length for weeks. We both said that he will complain anyway even if he knew months in advance, so what's the point?

We got a new puppy recently. We were not actively looking for one but "Rosie" was spotted in a cage when i did a delivery. She was in a bad place & the priority was to get her out of there. If my dominant male didn't accept her, then we had plenty of good peeps who'd take her in. She was tiny, she could sit in my palm. He passed the garden one day shortly after we got her & i began to tell him about the conditions she was found in & he just said "It better not bark". Rosie was accepted & is as much part of our family now as the others. Yep, she can bark:wah::wah::wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:09 am

oscar;998384 wrote: I love Samuel L Jackson, one of my fave actors. I'll look out for this film, it's sounds really good. I chatted with the oldies on the other side of me this morning. They said "sod him, let him find out the hard way". Comforting to know it's not just us that feels that way about him. he came round moaning one day that he could hear my hi fi. It wasn't loud at all, i respect the oldies on the other side & infront of me. After he had moaned on about working on his computer he told my husband that the previous week was o.k. because i was playing "The Verve" ( a brit band). My husband said, so if she plays the Stones, you want it off, if she plays The verve, that's o.k. because you like them?? My husband also told him one day that when we first moved in, all we saw was the wheelchair, years later, we only see the man sitting in it. He was speechless. He's so used to everyone tiptoeing around him. I am still stuck as to weather i tell him or not.

I really think you have an obligation to tell him.......after all its your workers that will be shutting off his hydro and water...........I would appreciate knowing that.......a simple courtesy note thru the door.

If you don't, do you want him yelling at your workers when this happens?

and stop tiptoeing around him...............he's just not worth it, and play what you want on your stereo, not what he likes!:-5

and maybe turn the volume up!:D

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:14 am

oscar;998395 wrote: We have other neighbours who are a bit hippy. I don't know them well but i know they are on benifits. Every year on the bank holiday, they pitch a huge tent & marquee in the field outside our lounge windows. It is illegal as the field is council owned. They spend 3 days & all the kids in the street tag on to these people as for three days they play with their kids, cricket, football etc etc. I know that they do this to give their kids a bit of excitement of camping out because they can't afford to go away on holiday. It is a pain as they do get noisy but it's once a year. If it were you, would you call the police?? He does. Spoilsport. It's little kids having fun.

god no, they have to have their fun to..........and its only once a year!

the cops probably hate this guy...........snitching about every wee thing.........makes cops mad!

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:17 am

My worry now is did i make the right choice?? Will those oak cupboards match that granite worktop??:wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:30 am

oscar;998553 wrote: My worry now is did i make the right choice?? Will those oak cupboards match that granite worktop??:wah:

:yh_rotfl

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:31 am

Odie;998552 wrote: god no, they have to have their fun to..........and its only once a year!

the cops probably hate this guy...........snitching about every wee thing.........makes cops mad! Your right, it interferes with their coffee breaks too as it's classed as grade c, which is non urgent. As it's fri & sat nights, the cops are out doing the heavy stuff. Then they have to give up their break to come out for this kind of thing. As for telling him about the water & electric, by law, the builders do have to put a business card through his door or visit him personally 24 hrs in advance to warn him. Another thought is that if i warn him, he'll have a weeks advance to bitch about it. He calls the cops over neighbours dogs barking which led to a guy telling him that if it were not for the wheelchair, he'd have a broken nose.

We had a power cut some years ago. Water men accidently cut through a main cable in the road. It went on for 9 hours. The poor guys were doing their best, they were out there working on live cables. My neighbour was out there every half hour bitching to them. At first, they were sympathetic, after a few hours, they were saying to us, "Jesus, how do you live with this guy, me me me". After about 7 hours, my husband had got in touch with the head at the kids school next door as it was weekend. She agreed that he could open the school up as they were not affected, to cook up a meal for the local kids. We had great fun. He refused the invite. We were astonished. No-one had even a coffee for hours. We thought, his loss. He then submitted a formal complaint to the council for "Undue suffering" to the disabled because they couldn't get us re-connected fast enough. Some people don't want nice people living next to them. It's almost like he wants to suffer so he can bitch & get sympathy. My husband was given 9 months to live before his surgery. He nearly died.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:57 am

Oscar

not to barge in - been reading @ your neighbor...!!! wow.

He's just down right negative - can't & won't ever please one like that..

My neighbor started yard work this morn. @ 6:30 A.M........!!!!:-5

Good luck

Patsy

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 9:22 am

Patsy Warnick;998597 wrote: Oscar

not to barge in - been reading @ your neighbor...!!! wow.

He's just down right negative - can't & won't ever please one like that..

My neighbor started yard work this morn. @ 6:30 A.M........!!!!:-5

Good luck

Patsy Hang on, that's the middle of the night to me. I was complaining about 08.00 a.m. Is there not laws that stop them from doing that? Here, i think 09.00 a.m. is the legal time. I read an article in one of our papers & they called it "The Me Generation". It discribed these people spot on. No consideration for anything or anyone else. I know also that long after the work is finished, he will raise the subject years later. I think the final thing for me was when he ignored my note asking for a little notice of any work as my husband was napping in the afternoon after his surgery. We had considered him for years & he couldn't do payback...Wheelchair or no wheelchair, there's no excuse for that kind of ignorance. When his 2 year "No complaint" ban was up from the council, he complained to the inviromental health that i had "Uncontrollable ivy". I told them that Tortoiseshell butterflys were on the endangered species list & they lay their eggs in ivy. They said, keep the ivy. Now i have to cut back his bloody Virginia creeper that's mutated all over my garage. In England, council tenants who get evicted for being anti social get moved to an estate purely for evicted council tenants. I would rather be homeless than live on one of those estates. Even taxi's will not drop off in them. They are like Beirut. He should visit some of them before he bitches about a little bit of ivy. At least on these estates, horrid people have to live next to equally as horrid people.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 9:51 am

oscar;998623 wrote: Hang on, that's the middle of the night to me. I was complaining about 08.00 a.m. Is there not laws that stop them from doing that? Here, i think 09.00 a.m. is the legal time. I read an article in one of our papers & they called it "The Me Generation". It discribed these people spot on. No consideration for anything or anyone else. I know also that long after the work is finished, he will raise the subject years later. I think the final thing for me was when he ignored my note asking for a little notice of any work as my husband was napping in the afternoon after his surgery. We had considered him for years & he couldn't do payback...Wheelchair or no wheelchair, there's no excuse for that kind of ignorance. When his 2 year "No complaint" ban was up from the council, he complained to the inviromental health that i had "Uncontrollable ivy". I told them that Tortoiseshell butterflys were on the endangered species list & they lay their eggs in ivy. They said, keep the ivy. Now i have to cut back his bloody Virginia creeper that's mutated all over my garage. In England, council tenants who get evicted for being anti social get moved to an estate purely for evicted council tenants. I would rather be homeless than live on one of those estates. Even taxi's will not drop off in them. They are like Beirut. He should visit some of them before he bitches about a little bit of ivy. At least on these estates, horrid people have to live next to equally as horrid people.

Wheres that? it dont happen here where i live thats for sure, although we do have some unsavoury estates:wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 9:53 am

Patsy Warnick;998597 wrote: Oscar

not to barge in - been reading @ your neighbor...!!! wow.

He's just down right negative - can't & won't ever please one like that..

My neighbor started yard work this morn. @ 6:30 A.M........!!!!:-5

Good luck

Patsy

ohhhhhhhhhh I would have said something about that!:D

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 10:11 am

Oscar

Beirut? similar to a Leopard Colony? a place where no man wants to go.??

Odie

I wasn't a happy camper.. for the most part these neighbors are real good about time.

with our health issues - they use to ask / warn us, is case one was sleeping.?

this morning

6:30 hedge trimmer - oh !!! they wouldn't even look at me as I wonder out to my patio with coffee & stare......

That's OK

Next weekend I'm having a Garage Sale - I start real early...:wah:

Patsy

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 11:13 am

kazalala;998666 wrote: Wheres that? it dont happen here where i live thats for sure, although we do have some unsavoury estates:wah: East & West Sussex have them & many other cities but it depends on the council. I sit on local council & i know that today, it is very difficult to get a council tenant evicted even for rent arrears. Council have to get ASBO's granted first. (Anti social behaviour orders). If they don't conform, they get evicted. Government has instructed our courts (Magistrates) that they don't want a homeless situation & not to grant councils eviction orders. It can take months even yrs to get some people out. They very soon complain when they find the only other alternative housing is on an estate with very similar people. I know of one case where people were evicted onto one of these estates due to the behaviour of their 13 yr old boy. They did nothing about him terrorising the neighbours until they got a shock & found themselves homeless or re-housed. Here, if you go to your local council, they give you the papers to apply for an ASBO on a neighbour & you keep a detailed log. Councils are guilty themselves of creating no-go area's in community's. We strive to get asylum seelers etc better housing but some councils tend to group all the say, Somalian's, Afro-Carribean, Asian etc tenants in the same estate. They are guilty of forming a kind of racism where they do not give people the option of living in a white based area to integrate. Their children grow up insular in these estates & then have trouble mixing at school. I visited one of the evictee estates in a large city, i won't say where incase i upset them. I swear to god, every window was boarded up. There was not one garden without the obligatory shopping trolly in the front garden. A scarey place, they do exist.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 11:30 am

oscar;998722 wrote: East & West Sussex have them & many other cities but it depends on the council. I sit on local council & i know that today, it is very difficult to get a council tenant evicted even for rent arrears. Council have to get ASBO's granted first. (Anti social behaviour orders). If they don't conform, they get evicted. Government has instructed our courts (Magistrates) that they don't want a homeless situation & not to grant councils eviction orders. It can take months even yrs to get some people out. They very soon complain when they find the only other alternative housing is on an estate with very similar people. I know of one case where people were evicted onto one of these estates due to the behaviour of their 13 yr old boy. They did nothing about him terrorising the neighbours until they got a shock & found themselves homeless or re-housed. Here, if you go to your local council, they give you the papers to apply for an ASBO on a neighbour & you keep a detailed log. Councils are guilty themselves of creating no-go area's in community's. We strive to get asylum seelers etc better housing but some councils tend to group all the say, Somalian's, Afro-Carribean, Asian etc tenants in the same estate. They are guilty of forming a kind of racism where they do not give people the option of living in a white based area to integrate. Their children grow up insular in these estates & then have trouble mixing at school. I visited one of the evictee estates in a large city, i won't say where incase i upset them. I swear to god, every window was boarded up. There was not one garden without the obligatory shopping trolly in the front garden. A scarey place, they do exist.

wow.. so in effect some councils are actually creating these no go areas:-3 dont know if i like that idea or not

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Sep 27, 2008 12:37 pm

kazalala;998743 wrote: wow.. so in effect some councils are actually creating these no go areas:-3 dont know if i like that idea or not

Yes, councils unwittingly create many of their own problems. the evictee estates can work for the better. When you've got the neighbour from hell living next door to the neighbour from hell, many will adapt & start actually consider other people for the first time in their lives. They get a taste of their own medicine.

Councils lose millions in lost rent due to creating these ethnic estates. If you have an estate with the majority say Asian, a chinese family are not going to want the house that comes up empty, so it sits there losing rent until suitable type comes up on the housing list. Due to nooo Labour's human rights policies, would be council tenants can now refuse 3 offered properties before they have to take one. This again causes problems. It makes people too choosey. Councils also don't want long transfer lists, they like it simple. I would just love to put my neighbour in a car & take him to these area's or better still, make him live there for a month. That would stop his bitching.:-5

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Sun Sep 28, 2008 1:43 am

oscar;998811 wrote: Yes, councils unwittingly create many of their own problems. the evictee estates can work for the better. When you've got the neighbour from hell living next door to the neighbour from hell, many will adapt & start actually consider other people for the first time in their lives. They get a taste of their own medicine.

Councils lose millions in lost rent due to creating these ethnic estates. If you have an estate with the majority say Asian, a chinese family are not going to want the house that comes up empty, so it sits there losing rent until suitable type comes up on the housing list. Due to nooo Labour's human rights policies, would be council tenants can now refuse 3 offered properties before they have to take one. This again causes problems. It makes people too choosey. Councils also don't want long transfer lists, they like it simple. I would just love to put my neighbour in a car & take him to these area's or better still, make him live there for a month. That would stop his bitching.:-5

It does'nt seem an ideal solution, but on the other hand i dont have a clue what else you could do with them:-3 also seems unfair to move them next to some other unsuspecting person happily living in nice neighbourhood.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sun Sep 28, 2008 2:19 pm

kazalala;999242 wrote: It does'nt seem an ideal solution, but on the other hand i dont have a clue what else you could do with them:-3 also seems unfair to move them next to some other unsuspecting person happily living in nice neighbourhood. This is exactly the problem that local council have. What the heck do you do with people like that? If they are not evicted, they ruin life for neighbours where they are. If they are evicted & re-housed next to more decent people, they ruin their lives too. Evictee's do have months of warning before they are actually turfed out. They have to be dumb if an anti social behaviour order is telling them to conform, & they don't. They get chance to change their ways, & many due in fear of losing their home in a nice area. Only the absolute idiots will carry on terrorising their neighbourhood even after a court warning. If they have so little thought for others & carry on, i suppose they deserve to be kicked out. If a neighbour is not council accomodation but private, you can get them warned off by The enviromental Health who have huge power to impose massive fines to private home owners. In my case, unfortunately they can not fine my neighbour for being a miserable ungrateful git.:-5

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Mon Sep 29, 2008 4:10 am

oscar;999925 wrote: This is exactly the problem that local council have. What the heck do you do with people like that? If they are not evicted, they ruin life for neighbours where they are. If they are evicted & re-housed next to more decent people, they ruin their lives too. Evictee's do have months of warning before they are actually turfed out. They have to be dumb if an anti social behaviour order is telling them to conform, & they don't. They get chance to change their ways, & many due in fear of losing their home in a nice area. Only the absolute idiots will carry on terrorising their neighbourhood even after a court warning. If they have so little thought for others & carry on, i suppose they deserve to be kicked out. If a neighbour is not council accomodation but private, you can get them warned off by The enviromental Health who have huge power to impose massive fines to private home owners. In my case, unfortunately they can not fine my neighbour for being a miserable ungrateful git.:-5

Thats because they have already got away with far too much, these people get away without having to face consequences of their actions, not just down to councils of course but also the police and the justice system:( They think they can just carry on doing whatever they like and no one can do a thing, which in some cases sadly they are right!

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 4:09 am

The builders arrived for their first day. I was pleased to see some very fit young men

No banging or drilling today, just gutting the kitchen and bathroom.

I think in a day or two the real drilling and noise will begin. What an excuse to turn the hi fi up full max?

No sign of misery guts from next door yet, as they have been quiet but we shall see. :sneaky:

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 5:28 am

Okay I have another contribution to make as of yesterday.

A family friend (age 70 and crabby) I have known since I was 12 comes over quite often and visits with my dad. We'll call her Friend. Well Friend is in the position of having to help raise her roommate's daughter, a 13 year old girl. She is too old for this an dis not good mother material but she needs roommate's help as she is in bad health so she's stuck.

She often yells at the Girl. Doesn't have much understanding (remembrance?) of what it's like at 13. She supposedly was raised in a French convent so there ya go.

Well when she comes over she and my dad talk and eat Zingers. That's their thing. (For nonAmericans, that's a type of sweet snack cake. Junk food.) Okay, the Girl is not allowed to eat or drink anything with out Friend's permission. My dad offered her a soda and she had to look at Friend for the go ahead. This pissed my dad off.

Day before yesterday they were over here and the Zingers came out and I heard Friend say to Girl "You can't have any." My hackles went up but I said nothing. The girl asked me later if she could have one and I sent her off with one.

Yesterday, my mouth said what my mind was thinking. This is not always a good thing. :wah: As Friend was stuffing a Zinger in her face, she told Girl she couldn't have one. Yours truly said "well that's rude!" Oh man, if looks could kill. Friend looked at me and YELLED "NOOOOO!" "She is not to have any!" I just looked at her. I said it doesn't seem fair that you can eat them in front of her and she can't have any. Again, I got stared down. I said "Is there anything she can have when she comes over that is suitable?" After more Stare of Death, Friend snapped, "saltines." I said "we have some." Then it was agreed on cheese and crackers. So we all had grocery shopping to do and my dad and I bought that canned spray cheese and crackers so when Girl and Friend come over, that is her snack.

I realize I was out of line to contradict Friend when this girl isn't my child. However. They're in MY home and we don't play that crap where we eat in front of people and then tell them "you can't have any!" I don't care if Friend is a 70 year old woman, I am no child to her anymore and I don't put up with rudeness or unfairness in my home.

It pissed me OFF!!! Then when we got back home and continued visiting, and Girl wanted her cheese and crackers, I looked at Friend for the go-ahead and got another Death Stare. So I gave her the crackers. **** on it.

And that's my story.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 6:10 am

RedGlitter;1006555 wrote: Okay I have another contribution to make as of yesterday.

A family friend (age 70 and crabby) I have known since I was 12 comes over quite often and visits with my dad. We'll call her Friend. Well Friend is in the position of having to help raise her roommate's daughter, a 13 year old girl. She is too old for this an dis not good mother material but she needs roommate's help as she is in bad health so she's stuck.

She often yells at the Girl. Doesn't have much understanding (remembrance?) of what it's like at 13. She supposedly was raised in a French convent so there ya go.

Well when she comes over she and my dad talk and eat Zingers. That's their thing. (For nonAmericans, that's a type of sweet snack cake. Junk food.) Okay, the Girl is not allowed to eat or drink anything with out Friend's permission. My dad offered her a soda and she had to look at Friend for the go ahead. This pissed my dad off.

Day before yesterday they were over here and the Zingers came out and I heard Friend say to Girl "You can't have any." My hackles went up but I said nothing. The girl asked me later if she could have one and I sent her off with one.

Yesterday, my mouth said what my mind was thinking. This is not always a good thing. :wah: As Friend was stuffing a Zinger in her face, she told Girl she couldn't have one. Yours truly said "well that's rude!" Oh man, if looks could kill. Friend looked at me and YELLED "NOOOOO!" "She is not to have any!" I just looked at her. I said it doesn't seem fair that you can eat them in front of her and she can't have any. Again, I got stared down. I said "Is there anything she can have when she comes over that is suitable?" After more Stare of Death, Friend snapped, "saltines." I said "we have some." Then it was agreed on cheese and crackers. So we all had grocery shopping to do and my dad and I bought that canned spray cheese and crackers so when Girl and Friend come over, that is her snack.

I realize I was out of line to contradict Friend when this girl isn't my child. However. They're in MY home and we don't play that crap where we eat in front of people and then tell them "you can't have any!" I don't care if Friend is a 70 year old woman, I am no child to her anymore and I don't put up with rudeness or unfairness in my home.

It pissed me OFF!!! Then when we got back home and continued visiting, and Girl wanted her cheese and crackers, I looked at Friend for the go-ahead and got another Death Stare. So I gave her the crackers. **** on it.

And that's my story.

well done red:D

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 6:52 am

RED GLITTER --- your inbox was full, tried to send you a message. Ta

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 7:53 am

Kaza, thank you. And your signature banner is lovely!:)

Oscar, I dumped my mailbox last night, it'll probably go through now.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 8:16 am

RedGlitter;1006746 wrote: Kaza, thank you. And your signature banner is lovely!:)

Oscar, I dumped my mailbox last night, it'll probably go through now.

aw thanks:D

I once used to babysit for someone and they would never let them have a treat even when i said they had been good and eaten all their tea:( so from then on i gave them a treat before their parent got home:sneaky:

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 5:35 pm

Hey guys, I have more!

Same neighbor.

I was up all night trying to sleep. Finally fell asleep on the sofa and was sleeping very well around 9 AM. I start to hear loud commotion which would be all my dogs barking off the patio and I hear this "ANYBODY HOME???" I look up and there is Friend in the kitchen with The Girl in tow and I assumed she had run my dad on an errand. I asked where my dad was, she didn't know. Then I realized she had just helped herself into my house. So I went and woke up my dad and he stumbled out and we had to entertain them for a couple hours. I have no tolerance for 13 year old girls' mumble jumble at this hour of the morning but I was polite. Friend thinks it's a riot that when she rattles her keys my dogs go to barking. One dog is a bassett and her bark can be heard through my neighborhood. I don't need that kind of trouble. I have tried to hint around that if neighbors start calling the cops on me again, or animal control comes out, I'llbe back in court over my dogs. Friend just laughs and shakes her damn keys and there go my dogs. I go out and shut them up and she still doesn't get the hint!

At least today we got the food sorted out. The Girl requested her cheese and crackers and I handed them right over. We shouldn't have any more food issues now.

I am going to start keeping the back door locked all day. This is not the first time she's walked in my house. If I am home and don't run to the door fast enough she walks on in. She gives me unwanted advice. She reads our mail. She's gotten involved in my banking matters, advising me how to handle a large sum of money. I have a financial advisor already, I do not require this.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 5:57 pm

RedGlitter;1007497 wrote: Hey guys, I have more!

Same neighbor.

I was up all night trying to sleep. Finally fell asleep on the sofa and was sleeping very well around 9 AM. I start to hear loud commotion which would be all my dogs barking off the patio and I hear this "ANYBODY HOME???" I look up and there is Friend in the kitchen with The Girl in tow and I assumed she had run my dad on an errand. I asked where my dad was, she didn't know. Then I realized she had just helped herself into my house. So I went and woke up my dad and he stumbled out and we had to entertain them for a couple hours. I have no tolerance for 13 year old girls' mumble jumble at this hour of the morning but I was polite. Friend thinks it's a riot that when she rattles her keys my dogs go to barking. One dog is a bassett and her bark can be heard through my neighborhood. I don't need that kind of trouble. I have tried to hint around that if neighbors start calling the cops on me again, or animal control comes out, I'llbe back in court over my dogs. Friend just laughs and shakes her damn keys and there go my dogs. I go out and shut them up and she still doesn't get the hint!

At least today we got the food sorted out. The Girl requested her cheese and crackers and I handed them right over. We shouldn't have any more food issues now.

I am going to start keeping the back door locked all day. This is not the first time she's walked in my house. If I am home and don't run to the door fast enough she walks on in. She gives me unwanted advice. She reads our mail. She's gotten involved in my banking matters, advising me how to handle a large sum of money. I have a financial advisor already, I do not require this.

I can't believe what i'm reading. It's terrible. Is there some authority you can go to giving your version of the key rattling first? Tell them it's being done deliberate. Why should your dogs have grief because of this person? Here, it would be classed as incitement or harrassment. Keep a log, days, dates etc. just in case.

That's no friend and no neighbour. Lock the doors until she gets the message.

I have an unwanted friend who likes to give advice etc. Others call her "The bigmouth". As soon as she starts talking about any of my personal stuff, i overtalk her with "Yeah, my lawyer said this, my brother advised that, my bank told me etc blah blah. It works in the end,

Good luck

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Fri Oct 03, 2008 9:21 pm

Red

She's done this before, strict, bitter old gal.

Now, when a mutual family friend arrives anytime - that is your opportunity to allow the visit or not.

Your Dad is sleeping - your woken up - The visit would've been a NO for me.

Go to the door/cracked open, politely state Dad's sleeping, not a good time for a visit, we'll call you later, and start closing that door and go back to your couch.....

She'll rattle the Dogs, cause she doesn't like you..!!!

Your Dad may arise & ask who? what? Oh, so & so dropped by, I said another time, I really don't feel well, and down the hallway you go..

No one just drops in anymore - don't wake me. This is all on purpose, certainly towards different life styles.

This is just another Bully

Power struggle same as a bully in a park -This time the playgrounds your house.

I'm glad you spoke up - but with Friend it's tug of-war game, as compared to strategy game.

Patsy