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watermark;888942 wrote: Hi Red,

warning: could be thread killer reply here

I'm not sure what the penpal communication means? Will I send and receive secret emails from a perfect stranger or something? Will I have to ask and answer twenty questions? It's all so mysterious!

Why not get to know everyone on the forumgarden instead, just the way it is? Please help me understand how going email or pm contributes to more authentic relationship building in this context. It's all virtual communication anyway.

Am I sounding negative right now? Please comment; I welcome the input. Just not sure how this penpal thing works? Personally at this time I don't feel too close to anyone because I haven't made the effort to be sincere, be consistent in my interactions or involved in the stuff that makes closeness possible-like small talk. Does email do that? Make one real on the internet?

I believe most people, when they spend enough time with each other, will sort out who they have stuff in common with and develop deeper friendships as a result. I'm not sure it's necessary to assign penpals to people and go underground. I infer people already communicate with others they have developed friendships with, offline or through other channels, on their own.

Not sure I should click the submit button, but here goes...

Erin :-6


Hello Erin,

I think it would be fairly impossible to get to know every person on FG since there are so many. I've been here three years and there are people I still don't know mainly because neither I nor they have made any effort to change that. That could be because we don't care for each other or it could be because of the tendency of people to fall into little groups or cliques of their own and then they never branch out to meet new people.

You ask if email makes one real on the net. No it won't. Only effort and sincerity will do that.



The idea only occurred to me when I was looking at the home page and saw all those names I see every day, yet know not who those people are. I thought maybe others might feel the same way.

My idea was in no way intended to suggest we "go underground" and form little private groups or anything like that, if it sounded that way. I don't like that stuff myself. But someone who liked the idea, picked me as someone they would like to know better and we've been sending PMs back and forth. I'm learning some nice things about her and it's fun. She's someone who is on daily yet I never took the time before to know anything about her. I might have missed out on knowing a very cool person!

It was just an idea, Erin. Nobody has to do it if they don't want to.:-6

RedGlitter;889058 wrote: Hello Erin,

I think it would be fairly impossible to get to know every person on FG since there are so many. I've been here three years and there are people I still don't know mainly because neither I nor they have made any effort to change that. That could be because we don't care for each other or it could be because of the tendency of people to fall into little groups or cliques of their own and then they never branch out to meet new people.

You ask if email makes one real on the net. No it won't. Only effort and sincerity will do that.



The idea only occurred to me when I was looking at the home page and saw all those names I see every day, yet know not who those people are. I thought maybe others might feel the same way.

My idea was in no way intended to suggest we "go underground" and form little private groups or anything like that, if it sounded that way. I don't like that stuff myself. But someone who liked the idea, picked me as someone they would like to know better and we've been sending PMs back and forth. I'm learning some nice things about her and it's fun. She's someone who is on daily yet I never took the time before to know anything about her. I might have missed out on knowing a very cool person!

It was just an idea, Erin. Nobody has to do it if they don't want to.:-6It was a great idea babe and well done for thinking of it and even if only one new friendship came out of it................good on yer girl;)

kayleneaussie;888933 wrote: Carol have you chosen your pen pal yet No...how can I inflict that on anybody fgs......they can choose me if anybody is that brave:wah:;)

Nomad;888937 wrote: I dont like the sound of this, not one bit.Oh dont be such an old misog....be the happy person that really lies within:rolleyes::wah:;)

watermark;888942 wrote: Hi Red,

warning: could be thread killer reply here

I'm not sure what the penpal communication means? Will I send and receive secret emails from a perfect stranger or something? Will I have to ask and answer twenty questions? It's all so mysterious!

Why not get to know everyone on the forumgarden instead, just the way it is? Please help me understand how going email or pm contributes to more authentic relationship building in this context. It's all virtual communication anyway.

Am I sounding negative right now? Please comment; I welcome the input. Just not sure how this penpal thing works?t Personally at this time I don't feel too close to anyone because I haven't made the effort o be sincere, be consistent in my interactions or involved in the stuff that makes closeness possible-like small talk. Does email do that? Make one real on the internet?

I believe most people, when they spend enough time with each other, will sort out who they have stuff in common with and develop deeper friendships as a result. I'm not sure it's necessary to assign penpals to people and go underground. I infer people already communicate with others they have developed friendships with, offline or through other channels, on their own.

Not sure I should click the submit button, but here goes...

Erin :-6Emails dont do that............YOU have to;)

Yes i think its a good idea too:D i for one usually stick to certain threads, so therefore miss out on talking and meeting with quite a lot of members on here( and yes i know thats my own fault),, but i have often seen posts from People who i dont talk to much and vice versa, and think oh they sund interesting, and i bet it would be interesting to find out more about that person, you just never know how much you may have in common, or how well you would get on with someone even though you dont usually frequent the same type of threads.

Im in, feel free to PM me. My course finishes in two weeks so I'll have much more time then.



Yes you can make some really great real friends on here, having been to meets and kept in contact with some of them since, it's easy to sort out the genuine people. Just as in real life you can meet shady people anywhere, you can also meet good lifelong supportive friends :-6

Count me in too!

I have one Pen Pan friendship with a member here. She sends me at least one Lovely E-mail almost every week. :-4 And I send her one.

I'm always so busy doing this or that. I don't get a chance to get in to the Garden as much as I'd like to. And I know that is the reason I feel like I don't fit in. I've always been a little shy. And don't like to draw attention to myself. That's why this time, like the last time I was here ,I don't start my own threads. I usually just tag a long with something that catches my eye. I would like to get to know more people. If only I could make myself get out of my shell.

I'm working on it!

Betty Boop;889215 wrote: Just as in real life you can meet shady people anywhere, :-6


Yet you just keep on coming back for more dont you love ? :sneaky:

Nomad;889279 wrote: Yet you just keep on coming back for more dont you love ? :sneaky:




:wah: I did, I don't now hun, the power has shifted completely but it still ain't good enough.

Betty Boop;889285 wrote: :wah: I did, I don't now hun, the power has shifted completely but it still ain't good enough.


Well I didnt mean that I meant me.

Nomad;889296 wrote: Well I didnt mean that I meant me.




:wah: Same could apply, interesting that I took it as otherwise. Hmmmm :-4

Betty Boop;889303 wrote: :wah: Same could apply, interesting that I took it as otherwise. Hmmmm :-4




Well alrightee then

I think this is a wonderful idea and a great way to meet new friends. Count me in please :-6

hello loads of friends, my names david:)

SlipStream;889436 wrote: hello loads of friends, my names david:)


you have to pm someone silly:rolleyes:or maybe they will pm you:D

who wants me as a pen pal open to offers:D

kazalala;889484 wrote: you have to pm someone silly:rolleyes:or maybe they will pm you:D


I did put a message on his profile but..........nothing:D

ahhh you said pm??? does it HAVE to be pm?

Ok! Count me in, but if no-one PMs me, I'll get angry, and you won't like me when I'm angry... :wah:

In Too.

Chezzie;889712 wrote: I did put a message on his profile but..........nothing:D

ahhh you said pm??? does it HAVE to be pm?


Cheezie send a pm if he is anything like me he dosent go to his profile

Well i have started my first pm to my new pen pal:)

Ah what a really nice idea, always good to get to know everyone a bit better! :-6



Hahaha mind you I'm really not that interesting and besides, I think I know most people that post in here often, as they do me (sadly for them!) :wah: :p :rolleyes:

i'm definately in on this, so i think i better go searching for for someone lol

So lets get this right....most people are game but are all waiting for someone to get in touch :wah::wah:Oh well I will carry on writing to Father Xmas instead as his about all I will get:wah::wah:;)

Oh I love writing to Father Christmas, he's so much fun, and to think of all those lovely gifts he's given me over the years, and I've hardly ever given him anything back in return - what a guy!!! :wah: :-4

chrisb84uk;890110 wrote: Oh I love writing to Father Christmas, he's so much fun, and to think of all those lovely gifts he's given me over the years, and I've hardly ever given him anything back in return - what a guy!!! :wah: :-4You really need to get out more babe:rolleyes::wah::wah:;)

Carolly;890112 wrote: You really need to get out more babe:rolleyes::wah::wah:;)


Hahaha ain't that the truth!!! :wah:

koochikoo;890119 wrote: Has nobody written to you really? I woulda thought you would be most peoples first choice, you are such a presence here!

Maybe they think they know you so well already and the idea was to get to know people you don't know very well.

Or maybe they'd just think you'd be boring, you're so shy, untalkative and reserved. :p



:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl.......pee taker:p

I'm still waiting to find my pen pal just in case anyone is interested in getting to know a monkey that is :wah:

Trunk Monkey;890126 wrote: I'm still waiting to find my pen pal just in case anyone is interested in getting to know a monkey that is :wah:She likes nuts.............say no more:rolleyes::wah::wah:

Is that an offer Carolly :wah::wah:

Trunk Monkey;890138 wrote: Is that an offer Carolly :wah::wah:Nobody bleedin wants me:-5anyway I already got a flipping zoo here fgs without a bloody Monkey as well:rolleyes::p

Carolly;890141 wrote: Nobody bleedin wants me:-5anyway I already got a flipping zoo here fgs with a bloody Monkey as well:rolleyes::p


In plain english...is that a yes :wah:

Trunk Monkey;890171 wrote: In plain english...is that a yes :wah:Meant to be without......not with:wah:....Ive got 2 penpals on another forum anyway so I dont care if nobody wants me:rolleyes::p:wah::wah:

The first taker to be my pen pal gets a free bag of

Trunk Monkey;890180 wrote: The first taker to be my pen pal gets a free bag of


I cant eat nuts i choke on em:wah:

kazalala;890182 wrote: I cant eat nuts i choke on em:wah:Do you????shall have to remember that:rolleyes::D

Carolly;890183 wrote: Do you????shall have to remember that:rolleyes::D


:p:p

So how's everybody doing?? I just sent out four PMs, hoping none of them will be bummed out that it's me .

(I'm a little insecure sometimes)

I am so happy you guys like this idea! I hope we get to know better a lot of our fellow FGers!! Thank you for wanting to try this! :-6

Hi Red.

Hi Chris! How are you?

I'm doing fine thank you, a bit tired now as it's getting a little late, but otherwise good.



How about you, all well I hope!

All's well here too! Trying to stay out of the heat as much as possible.

Oh I can't blame you, sure has been a lot hotter lately, definately the kind of weather that you expect for June, obviously not my cup of tea, but most people enjoy it hehehe. Though with it brings all the nasty bugs (something that I hate, more than anything in the world, which says something!) I can't tell you how many flies we have had buzzing in and out the house, silly things!!

Oh! FLIES!

Us too!! Bugs don't bother me (except cockroaches) but flies make me cranky!!

Ah you hate them too, real pains aren't they!! :-5



My parents like to keep the windows open to try and cool the house down, and as always the stupid flies will come in and buzz around, and take ages until you can get them out again! Very frustrating indeed, no wonder I prefer the cooler weather!

Absolutely!

If I even open the kitchen just to walk out to the laundry room, a swarm of maybe 4 or 5 will fly right on in. Flies are disgusting!

Please note guys out there..............the insect story will continue soon and may turn into a blockbuster novel:D:wah::wah::wah:;)