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Do you have a church ?

If so you could talk to the pastor. Maybe they could organize a bake sale or auction.

Theyre in the business of helping.

Your congressman and his staff are there to help constituents. Congressional offices have sharp as tacks staffing that could guide you or introduce you to ideas you hadnt thought of.

Ive used my congressman before and they tackled a problem Id been having for years in the blink of an eye.

I strongly recommend at least contacting them to see if they have options for you.



Contact Congressman Rob Wittman



I am here to serve the residents of the 1st Congressional District, and so is my staff.

You may email Congressman Wittman here.

In Virginia we can also be reached at (757) 874-6687

4904-B George Washington Memorial Highway

Yorktown, VA 23692



In Washington, DC, we can be reached at (202) 225-4261 1123 Longworth House Office Buiding

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Nomad;792262 wrote: Are you absolutely 100% certain you have exhausted all avenues that might help you prevent the loss of your home ?

The govt. right now is interested in helping people keep their homes and there are programs that can help you.

Is this because of an adjustable rate or an arm that came due ?

Have you seen this website ?

http://portal.hud.gov/portal/page?_page ... ema=PORTAL


Yes, Nomad...I am sure that I can't save the house, the house is no longer mine, I'm living in a home that belongs to the bank and they want me out asap. It is now up to them to take me to court and force me out.

Nomad;792266 wrote: Have you explored temp companies ?

They usually put you to work right away.

http://www.tsijobs.com/catalog/en/s.htm/


I have used temp services in the past and I can again, I prefer to try to find jobs outright, generally they pay more, but I'm not in a position to be picky, I am applying retail, resturaunt, etc. I have worked pizza delivery, and I prefer not to right now due to the wear and tear on my car, its not worth it in this area, at least it wasn't a year and a half ago, but its not completely out of the question.

Thank you Nomad for all of your help and I am going to check out all of those ads, which source did you get them from?

Betty Boop;792271 wrote: Hugs to you Wendy, wishing you good luck, positive thinking girl, it'll all turn out ok Thanks Betty!:-4

Nomad;792274 wrote: Could you sell your car and buy a beater to buy time on the house ?

Do you have enough stuff for a yard sale ? My car is a beater, its paid for and has over 130,000 miles on it....my son and I are sharing it.

rjwould;792275 wrote: I am curious, Wendy, why did your attorney advise you to give your home up? If that is too personal, I understand.. My Attorney sat me down with all of my bills and told me I was upside down and needed to walk away, file bankruptcy and start over with a clean slate.

Nomad;792276 wrote: Do you have a church ?

If so you could talk to the pastor. Maybe they could organize a bake sale or auction.

Theyre in the business of helping.


I attend a church, I'm not a member and I have family members that were in desperate need of help, went to the pastor and a deacon (not to mention my father is Head Deacon) and they said No, they couldn't help them. They are aware of my situation. I told the Pastor this past sunday.

Having a yard sale within the next month or so, setting stuff aside for it.

Could you negotiate with the bank ?

Say 3 grand for 3 weeks, something like that.

All they can do is say no.

I googled temp jobs in your area.

Im dead serious about contacting your congressman. They have tools at their disposal you couldnt possibly be aware of.

Its just a phone call.

Please do this.

Nomad;792292 wrote: Could you negotiate with the bank ?

Say 3 grand for 3 weeks, something like that.

All they can do is say no.

I googled temp jobs in your area.




On Sunday March 27 th., I was told by the rep. for the bank that they would give me anywhere from 500.-1500 to be out in 14 days, and I had 3 days to decide....We emailed back and forth on Monday and Tuesday, I asked for an extension and a final figure, because she mentioned 2,000....and 14 days....I needed at least 30....she told me Tuesday morning that the final answer was to be out on March 26th and they would cut me a check for 1500.00...but they needed to know by Wed. at midnight....so I declined, since ummm...no place to stay and then 5 days later I'm unemployed.:-5

Thank you so much!

Nomad;792293 wrote: Im dead serious about contacting your congressman. They have tools at their disposal you couldnt possibly be aware of.

Its just a phone call.

Please do this.


I will, I promise!! I'll add to my list for tomorrow during business hours!

Are you recieving child support ?

If not go after him. Its the law.

If you are when was the last time it was ajusted for inflation ?

Nomad;792301 wrote: Are you recieving child support ?

If not go after him. Its the law.

If you are when was the last time it was ajusted for inflation ?


I would except for the fact that the last two times in 5 years that I took him to court I came out looking like someone stabbed me in the heart.....he lies and gets away with it.

It is a long story, but basically the man has never paid on time, and I always had to wait up to 3 months for payment and would only get part of it, the law is basically after 3 months late they go after them, so he always made sure to pay something.

I took him to court a year ago, and he had JUST started back truck driving after an un-successful Real Estate Career of about 2-4 years....and he claimed that he wasn't making much. I was making 12.00 an hour so the Child support went from 1141.00 to 608.00 a month. Plus, the oldest child was 17, even though he was living at home and in school they didn't allow much for him, because he had a job.

He now owns a Big-Rig and he and his wife are tag team drivers and drive across country. They only come home 1 weekend of the month. He sees his boys then, if convenient. He calls them about once or twice during that month ....again...if conveinient.

I have been a full-time single parent for 5 years now...and he knows that I am losing the house, his response was ...and I quote "oh, let me know the new address"....and that was it. He saw the kids this weekend and I purposely didn't tell the younger boys before they went to see him because he won't care....it won't make a difference. He did make an empty offer of taking the boys from me, and I quickly said no, and stopped myself from saying "over my dead body".

He claims that I was always spoiled and I deserve to struggle....not to mention a bunch of other crap ....the less he knows and less he's involved in my and my boys life, the better.

Thanks for asking though...but seriously, he's not even an option.

I don't know much about the bankruptcy/recovery procedures, but would they not want to go after the boys father. Or the benefits agency (sorry not up on the correct names of these people over here) surely, they would want to see the father paying his bit before they start to work out your benefits?

ThePheasant;793368 wrote: I don't know much about the bankruptcy/recovery procedures, but would they not want to go after the boys father. Or the benefits agency (sorry not up on the correct names of these people over here) surely, they would want to see the father paying his bit before they start to work out your benefits?


Not that I know of, they might go after him for re-imbursement of the food stamps, but for the most part he isn't bothered until after I receive services, I really don't know how all that works though.



Update:

I applied to most of the places that Nomad found that he posted, they were REALLY good leads!:-6

I was on a roll this morning sending out my resume out to all kinds of places, and boom, the power went out, so I took that opportunity to go lay my weary head!!

I woke up to 3 requests for my resume or another copy.....so I've been a busy little girl!:-6

I just got off the phone with the unemployment commission......:-5

I need to call my congressman now...

So sorry for your predicament WW, Huge Hugs going out your way. :yh_flower It always seems "Bad" things happen to "Good' people! But this too shall pass, as the saying goes. It does, it really does you'll see, so try to keep a stiff upper lip and continue to soldier on! Best Wishes & Best of Luck!

WonderWendy3;793583 wrote: Not that I know of, they might go after him for re-imbursement of the food stamps, but for the most part he isn't bothered until after I receive services, I really don't know how all that works though.



Update:

I applied to most of the places that Nomad found that he posted, they were REALLY good leads!:-6

I was on a roll this morning sending out my resume out to all kinds of places, and boom, the power went out, so I took that opportunity to go lay my weary head!!

I woke up to 3 requests for my resume or another copy.....so I've been a busy little girl!:-6

I just got off the phone with the unemployment commission......:-5

I need to call my congressman now...


Go it Wendy - you will beat this and come out stronger than before :-6

Wendy - my heart goes out to you darlin!

You will come out the other end a stronger woman - I'm absolutely sure of it.

You have all of us for support.

I love you to bits and only wish the very best for you and your boys.

:yh_hugs:yh_hugs:yh_hugs:-4:-4:-4

Wendy your doing great just hang in there. I know it seems like it won't happen but it will, you will see something will open up for you I just feel it.

File Bankruptcy when you can it will clear your debt and give you mental relief. Of course it cost money so you will have to do it when you can.

Remember you have Kids in your home the State has to provide for them contact your local housing commision through the state welfare agency and get that going as well.

Just walk away from the house when you can. Contact your local newspaper about your situation see if they can do a story about it and you will be suprised at the help that can come from that.

We have a local channel here in San Diego that has a guy that champions for the little guy and their problems. As soon as he does a piece on what the problem is everyone is bending over backwards to reslove the situation. Of course you have to want the spot light.

Screw the Bank if they want you out they can find you a place or call the news when they are coming to remove you. Is there anyone in your family you could stay with for a few months??

Nomad has done an excellent job with the searches I hope something comes out of it and soon.

Your in my thought and prayers kiddo. :-4:yh_hugs:yh_hugs

Wendy... You must register with the Child Support Enforcement Bureau.

The state will take away your husbands drivers liscence. They will garnisher his income. If you get involved with social services.. they will require that you agree to go afer him. When my ex was up to 65,000.00 in back support. I started getting money. Did without it all the years raising the boys, and I still get a check every month now. You deserve income from him, and your boys do also, Is his name on your house? Isnt he liable for anything?

PS Congressman Bob Goodlatte ( Virginia ) helped me get my back support. I wrote to him, years ago, and he contacted social services.

I agree Fuzzy, I read what Carla said and have been pondering on it, and agree....I am going to do that gosh darnitt!! Great Idea Carla!

I've thought of writing Oprah many many times, but honestly feel that there are other people out there that have it much worse than me.

But I am going to write my local paper! I have all the papers to fill out for government help in front of me, just looked at my options for housing...6-12 month waiting list. I have to fill out the forms for food stamps, which is 14 pages long. Needless to say I've procrastinated...

Thank you Carla and Fuzzy butt....and EVERYONE you've all been so sweet, I really want to thank all of you so much!

I'll keep you informed though....

weeder;793838 wrote: Wendy... You must register with the Child Support Enforcement Bureau.

The state will take away your husbands drivers liscence. They will garnisher his income. If you get involved with social services.. they will require that you agree to go afer him. When my ex was up to 65,000.00 in back support. I started getting money. Did without it all the years raising the boys, and I still get a check every month now. You deserve income from him, and your boys do also, Is his name on your house? Isnt he liable for anything?


He is not liable for anything. My name and my name only was on the deed of this house, I bought in back in 1991 when we were divorced and I was a single mom. I took him back like a dummy and for the next 10 years he tried to get me to move, almost lost the house a few times, he hated the fact that the house was obtained by ME....so, now he will be gloating when I lose it, but that is the least of my worries.....

He pays his 600.00 a month and I can guarantee if I take him back to court that he will have it reduced or stayed the same, the man is a master of deciet, plus the fact that I will probably...WILL have a job by the time court would roll around and that might cause me to get less money.

I know I'm sounding like I'm making excuses but trust me, he's burned me so many times that I've learned that I need to not depend on him for anything, I couldn't depend on him when we were married, what would make me think I could after we were divorced?

Oh yeah, I had 4 people asking for my resume at one time today!!

I have 2 REALLY good prospects, even had the Real Estate agent that was looking for rentals for me call me with a lead for a job!

So, that is good news....I'm steady networking Wendy!....

As for college courses ..... UGH!

Okay, I wrote Oprah!!

I couldn't find the "letter to the editor" section on the local newspaper site, so I decided to let Oprah know my troubles!!:o

I've got faith in you, you're a strong woman and I know you'll get through this.



Your ex is a git and should be bloody well ashamed of himself, the stupid man should be helping you every step of the way after all your boys are his children too, he wasn't just a sperm donor. (deep breath, calming down)



Remember that however hard it is to be in the spotlight, it's not forever and if someone like Oprah can help then it'll be worth it.



:-4:-4

Wendy, been there done that. Like Weeder said once your in the state system they will do the work for you. They will make his life a living hell if he misses 1 child support payment. They are great at this believe me there won't be a rock he can hide under.

As far as the housing waiting list you can get that bumped up just be vocal. They also have temp house will your waiting on the list.

As far as the media look at your local tv stations websites see if you can start there with making your situation known. Keep at it kiddo it will work.

Contact every local goverment person you can, mayor office, county, city, congressman, you name it start making yourself heard.

Stay strong and focused kiddo were here for you let me know exactly what city your in and I will make phone calls for you to all goverment agencies. I'm one tough cookie when people are done wrong I will help you in anyway I can. I fought the government when I was disabled for 10 years I know the song and dance very well, just let me know.

[QUOTE]I know I'm sounding like I'm making excuses but trust me, he's burned me so many times that I've learned that I need to not depend on him for anything, I couldn't depend on him when we were married, what would make me think I could after we were divorced?[/QUOTE]

Imladris;793985 wrote: I've got faith in you, you're a strong woman and I know you'll get through this.



Your ex is a git and should be bloody well ashamed of himself, the stupid man should be helping you every step of the way after all your boys are his children too, he wasn't just a sperm donor. (deep breath, calming down)



Remember that however hard it is to be in the spotlight, it's not forever and if someone like Oprah can help then it'll be worth it.




Bless you Immy...I agree, and have finally accepted that he's a poop and I need to not even consider him an option in helping me and the boys....I tried to get him to help me way too many times just to hear how bad off he is....(which he isn't....)so, better off to just go at it alone!!

CARLA;794240 wrote: Wendy, been there done that. Like Weeder said once your in the state system they will do the work for you. They will make his life a living hell if he misses 1 child support payment. They are great at this believe me there won't be a rock he can hide under.

As far as the housing waiting list you can get that bumped up just be vocal. They also have temp house will your waiting on the list.

As far as the media look at your local tv stations websites see if you can start there with making your situation known. Keep at it kiddo it will work.

Contact every local goverment person you can, mayor office, county, city, congressman, you name it start making yourself heard.

Stay strong and focused kiddo were here for you let me know exactly what city your in and I will make phone calls for you to all goverment agencies. I'm one tough cookie when people are done wrong I will help you in anyway I can. I fought the government when I was disabled for 10 years I know the song and dance very well, just let me know.


Well, they went after him when he was 3 months at a time 2 years ago, and then I ended up taking him to court where they told him to catch up all the back payments, which at the time of court he had in his bank account and tried to give to the judge to show that he was a caring father (puke gag puke) and the judge can't take it, he knew that, it goes through dept. of child services, he had to mail it in, so I had to wait another week or so to get it from Dept. of child services.:-5:-5 By the time I got it, all of my bills absorbed the money, so then I was still back to square 1!! :-5

I emailed my congressman today, and thank you so much Karla for being willing to fight with/for me, that meant so much to me.

I had 2 really good leads for jobs today!!

I am cleaning out the shed that has 70, yes 70 totes full of STUFF, I work on at least 2 a day during the week and then this weekend I plan on tackling it like crazy!

As I was typing this...I was thinking about the family of HUGE ants that were living under one of the totes in my shed that I discovered...and oh boy, just as I was thinking about it, I was feeling something crawl on me, eeeek!!! there was a huge ant crawling on my shoulder...I went bazerrko!!o

I'm all better now, went and changed the clothes!:rolleyes:

Just thought I would send a few :yh_hugs:yh_hugs and a bit of:-4



My thoughts are with you & the boys:-6

Thank you Abbey and Mrs. K!! I love hugs!!:-4:-4

Wendy your doing great kiddo your progress this week is amazing I send you a mountain of hugs as well. :yh_hugs:yh_hugs:yh_hugs:yh_hugs The coach in me comes out sometime like I tell the girls "Stay focused, aware, and on your game and good things will happen".

Hugs - I wish you & your family well.

Thank you so much!!

Update.....still unemployed, lots of good leads and going to a job fair tomorrow! I am in my last week of college of the current 9-block of classes, so need to get through this week and get it all submitted. I have taken 2 weeks off from school, so hopefully that will help me focus on getting a job and new place to live!:-6:-4

I want to thank everyone for being so helpful and supportive, it really means so much to me!!:-4:-4

Aw WW3 you keep us posted. One of those job leads is going to come through for you.

Blessings to you and your boys hunny and hang in there.

Huggs and Luvs.

Still hugs coming from over here :-4:-4

WonderWendy3;799130 wrote: Thank you so much!!



Update.....still unemployed, lots of good leads and going to a job fair tomorrow! I am in my last week of college of the current 9-block of classes, so need to get through this week and get it all submitted. I have taken 2 weeks off from school, so hopefully that will help me focus on getting a job and new place to live!:-6:-4



I want to thank everyone for being so helpful and supportive, it really means so much to me!!:-4:-4
Pulling for you, dear! Don't stay home. No employers are there & you can surf the web at night. Use the "50 butt" rule: If there's a meeting scheduled with 50 butts there, your butt should be one of them. It will build your network very quickly. Go anywhere where strangers chat ... well, except for singles bars I spose. Don't talk about your job hunt unless it comes up naturally, which it will so be patient. Just make friends and trust in human nature. You may find more than just a job; lots of friends out there just waiting to be made. :-6

I wish you all the best with your search Wendy, I'm sure you will succeed because you are a strong and determined person and I know that you will keep on going no matter what, and as such I am sure that you wll get the happy and positive outcome that we all want. :-6 :-4 :yh_hugs

((((((((((((((((HEY WW)))))))))))))):-4

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WonderWendy3;799130 wrote: Thank you so much!!

Update.....still unemployed, lots of good leads and going to a job fair tomorrow! I am in my last week of college of the current 9-block of classes, so need to get through this week and get it all submitted. I have taken 2 weeks off from school, so hopefully that will help me focus on getting a job and new place to live!:-6:-4

I want to thank everyone for being so helpful and supportive, it really means so much to me!!:-4:-4


Still here and still hugging............

Click on pic.

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:-4Thanks again for all the hugs and advice and job links...YOU guys are the best!:-4:-4

As for networking, I just got home from a job fair, and my girlfriends fudge shoppe, where I met a man that works for a medical supplier and took my resume....as for the job fair, got a good amount of leads, but they all tell you to go to their website and post your resume....so, I have a lot of work to do tonight!!:-6:-6



Hugs backacta all, thank you so much again!!!:-4

WW, keep the faith going, it will pay off in the long run. All the best to you.

Wendy, you are being really strong and doing wonderfully, keep going we are all rooting for you.

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers:-4

Sorry to hear you're having such hard times, WW. Sounds like you're staying positive. Well done.

It may seem unhelpful to say but most of the times I or people I know have gone through such difficult transitions, hindsight has shown how it helped get us to a better place... even if it seems unlikely at the time.

Thank you Abbey!!

I am steady trying to find a job, applied at the local electric company here in town, and needed to get an act of congress to go along with the application....but it will be worth it if I get the position, it is a VERY good company to work for, and EVERYONE needs electric, so shouldn't get laid off from there, huh?



I want to share that I have been cleaning out my shed in the midst of my "free time" along with school work, and trying to stay positive (been a full time job!!)

I found a BUNCH of old pictures and memories in there, 17 + years of my life is in the shed...and it needs to be gone through, 20 gallon tote at a time (had over 70 of them to start off with, not sure of the count, believe we are in the 30's now)...anyway....thought I'd share a picture of back when I used to make the kids wear co-ordinated clothes for family photos.....and at the very bottom was a month ago, we were out and just got their pictures done for the fun of it, right after the two younger boys got thier hair buzzed!!

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Your doing fine Wendy and those are some great pictures.. :-4

Thanks Carla!!:-4

Well, I decided to open some mail at midnight and its the court date for them to get me out of the house, it is April 16th, so I'm brainstorming at Midnight on what I'm going to do!!:-5:-5:-5