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pantsonfire321@aol.com;831667 wrote: Just a thought ...do you have any friends who could foster your kittys /animals for a short time until your settled (one less thing to worry about ).


Not even the family members that I helped out with the momma in the first place....they took in another cat while I was housing this one and now won't take their cat back....I am looking for someone to foster them if not take them for good, my kids really want funkyfeet when he gets older, I'm just not sure at this time what is gonna happen, kinda runnin' out of time now...I thought I had someone to take them, but my friend misunderstood me, thought I said that they wouldn't be ready for 6 weeks, which is true, but need someone to take momma and babies all together.

Millions of hugs and love coming your way :-4:-4



I'm away next week but will be thinking of you and will catch up when I get back.

Imladris;831821 wrote: Millions of hugs and love coming your way :-4:-4



I'm away next week but will be thinking of you and will catch up when I get back.


thanks Immy!! You are a :yh_star

Well, I survived the interview....and well, I'll keep my comments about him to a minimum, lets just say the lady from the agency was right on target....I left with a much different attitude than I went in with, that is for sure.

I got home, a bit down in the dumps...turned on the laptop and proceeded to get into bed, checked email and poof!! an email from the college that I REALLY want to get a job with, its a state government run school and is local with GREAT pay and benefits, plus I can further my edu-ma-cation there!!!! So, that put a bit of joy in my spirit....I called the lady back, missed her by an hour...so HOPEFULLY I can get that interview and have a happier report VERY soon!! That would be so awesome!!:-6:-6

yay, Wendy! I'm crossing everything for you. :yh_shamrk Best wishes! :-4

WonderWendy3;831992 wrote: thanks Immy!! You are a :yh_star

Well, I survived the interview....and well, I'll keep my comments about him to a minimum, lets just say the lady from the agency was right on target....I left with a much different attitude than I went in with, that is for sure.

I got home, a bit down in the dumps...turned on the laptop and proceeded to get into bed, checked email and poof!! an email from the college that I REALLY want to get a job with, its a state government run school and is local with GREAT pay and benefits, plus I can further my edu-ma-cation there!!!! So, that put a bit of joy in my spirit....I called the lady back, missed her by an hour...so HOPEFULLY I can get that interview and have a happier report VERY soon!! That would be so awesome!!:-6:-6


Glad to hear you survived! Surviving the interview is different from surviving the daily grind, I guess. I don't necessarily believe in fate, but that's too cool about the college! I have my fingers crossed, my toes...and my eyes!

Me too. In fact I'm typing this with my elbows. Best of luck!!

Keep your spirits up WW good new is just around the corner. :-4

kazalala;832089 wrote:
Thank you Kaz !! :-4

sunny104;832093 wrote: yay, Wendy! I'm crossing everything for you. :yh_shamrk Best wishes! :-4 Thanks Sunny!! :-4

elixer;832157 wrote: Glad to hear you survived! Surviving the interview is different from surviving the daily grind, I guess. I don't necessarily believe in fate, but that's too cool about the college! I have my fingers crossed, my toes...and my eyes!okay, you can un-cross your eyes before someone hits you in your back and they stay that way forever...ever heard that old wives tale?? Thank YOU!! I really want the college job...great opportunity to the fullest!

Accountable;832485 wrote: Me too. In fact I'm typing this with my elbows. Best of luck!! You are so talented, never cease to amaze me!! and Thank you!!

CARLA;832509 wrote: Keep your spirits up WW good new is just around the corner. :-4 Thanks Carla, I believe you, I really do!

Thanks JAB!! :-4:-4

I got the call this morning for an interview at the college.

The woman called me yesterday and then again today, and I answered when she called (which was a good point for me!! yayy) and she asked if I could come in tomorrow @ 10am, and OF course I can....then she told me I would be interviewing with 4 people on the committee.....:eek:ummm, yeah....I just felt MORE hives pop up!! She said that they will give me a paper with the questions for review before hand....I wish she would email them to me NOW....so I could prepare what to say....the last 2 interviews, I've bombed some of the big questions that I know to expect, but just don't really have those "perfect" answers.....like, "why should I hire you?" and "where do you see yourself in 5 years?"...I am fully aware that a goofy laugh and saying, "ummm I am a good worker-girl and in 5 years I will be doin' sumpin" is not acceptable!!!

So, I am racking my brain and going clothes shopping today, this job opportunity is worth it...I NEED this to happen, and Wendy needs to help make it happen! ....I'll sleep tomorrow....:-3:o

WonderWendy3;832939 wrote: Thanks JAB!! :-4:-4

I got the call this morning for an interview at the college.

The woman called me yesterday and then again today, and I answered when she called (which was a good point for me!! yayy) and she asked if I could come in tomorrow @ 10am, and OF course I can....then she told me I would be interviewing with 4 people on the committee.....:eek:ummm, yeah....I just felt MORE hives pop up!! She said that they will give me a paper with the questions for review before hand....I wish she would email them to me NOW....so I could prepare what to say....the last 2 interviews, I've bombed some of the big questions that I know to expect, but just don't really have those "perfect" answers.....like, "why should I hire you?" and "where do you see yourself in 5 years?"...I am fully aware that a goofy laugh and saying, "ummm I am a good worker-girl and in 5 years I will be doin' sumpin" is not acceptable!!!

So, I am racking my brain and going clothes shopping today, this job opportunity is worth it...I NEED this to happen, and Wendy needs to help make it happen! ....I'll sleep tomorrow....:-3:o




hi ... i employ people all the time so i might have some of the answers for you ...

see from your profile that you have no pm option so if you see this or anyone who CAN contact wendy sees this ... pm ME and i may be able to assist ...

jones jones;832983 wrote: hi ... i employ people all the time so i might have some of the answers for you ...

see from your profile that you have no pm option so if you see this or anyone who CAN contact wendy sees this ... pm ME and i may be able to assist ...


you should be able to pm me...this is the first I've ever heard this....

running out the door now to go clothes shopping....be back in a bit



thanks JJ I appreciate all the help I can get!!

WonderWendy3;832939 wrote: Thanks JAB!! :-4:-4

I got the call this morning for an interview at the college.

The woman called me yesterday and then again today, and I answered when she called (which was a good point for me!! yayy) and she asked if I could come in tomorrow @ 10am, and OF course I can....then she told me I would be interviewing with 4 people on the committee.....:eek:ummm, yeah....I just felt MORE hives pop up!! She said that they will give me a paper with the questions for review before hand....I wish she would email them to me NOW....so I could prepare what to say....the last 2 interviews, I've bombed some of the big questions that I know to expect, but just don't really have those "perfect" answers.....like, "why should I hire you?" and "where do you see yourself in 5 years?"...I am fully aware that a goofy laugh and saying, "ummm I am a good worker-girl and in 5 years I will be doin' sumpin" is not acceptable!!!

So, I am racking my brain and going clothes shopping today, this job opportunity is worth it...I NEED this to happen, and Wendy needs to help make it happen! ....I'll sleep tomorrow....:-3:o


You need sleep today so you're fresh and alert for the interview

Easier said than done but relax - tense up and you'll appear to lack confidence which won't go over well. They obviously rate you or they wouldn't be so keen to get you in for an interview and they wouldn't waste the time of four interviewers.

The very best of luck - you know we'll all be rooting for you and beems will be flying your way at 14:00 GMT on the dot.

May the job be yours and may it be all you hope for it :-6

Will be sending positive beams you way about 9 my time!



:-4

Wendy, when they ask you that question (why should I hire you?) you need to draw on your own strengths. How about you have singly raised three young men while running a household and holding down a job all on your own?

As for where do you see yourself in five years, I can't really help you on that one, it's one I hate. You could say "In your spot, asking the questions!" :sneaky:

Best wishes!

Good Luck for tomorrow Wendy, I'll be thinking of you and wishing you well:D

You're in my thoughts and prayers WW! :-6

I have a disarming way about me, Wendy. So when someone asks where I see my self in 5 years, I say that my job is and always will be to make my boss look good by fulfilling my duties in the very best way I can. If I do my job right, s/he will be promoted once or twice in the next 5 years, and who better to pick as his/her successor than me! :yh_bigsmi



Be ready for scenario questions in a committee interview. Think of 4-6 different instances where you successfully met a challenge. One instance will surely involve you fulfilling 3 or 4 roles such as organizer, supervisor, go-getter, innovator, etc. Make each into stories so you can apply the right one to the story.



For Intstance:



Q: We are a small company on a tight budget. How will you be able to maximize your shared resources while still allowing the other departments to accomplish their jobs?



A: (FIRST find out what they mean by "shared resources") I am very familiar with tight budgets and teamwork. While a *position X* at *company Y* I experienced ..........



And you're off to the races!



Good luck! :-6

Thanks so much Carla, AE, Bryn, Sheryl, RedGlitter, Chocoholic, Mustang, and Accountable!

I am so thankful for all of you....I am just blown away by the hearts of gold in the garden...once again!

I have so appreciated all of the advice and suggestions....and wow! I got more nervous with Accoutables' realistic question...because that is where I lack confidence. My last job was so laid back and low maintenance, I didn't have any time frames or deadlines or even other companies to persuade to buy anything....I answered the phone and typed up service orders for computers to be worked on....

I know that I can do whatever I put my mind to, and I love a challenge...I've done it before and I can do it again. I have basically self-taught myself on the computer, have never taken a computer course, only the tutorials and learned by being shown a few "tricks" here and there from co-workers through-out the years...only been back in the work force for 5 years and feel pretty darn good about my work ethics and record, even though I got laid off the last two jobs, both companies are still in VERY good standings with me and I am guaranteed letters of recomendation if need be!!

I have to just think positive and get out of my head some of the cob-webs!! I am going to get this job!! I know it....I can FEEL it!!!

On the apartment front:

I talked to landlord tonight and I can move in this weekend....

All I have to do now, is get cable hooked and kids schools changed and well, yeah, move all of our crap and find homes for the cats and kittens....and wa-la...all done!

pfft....should take, what 2 hours???:-5:-5:-5

WonderWendy3;833489 wrote: I know that I can do whatever I put my mind to, and I love a challenge...I've done it before and I can do it again. I have basically self-taught myself on the computer, have never taken a computer course, only the tutorials and learned by being shown a few "tricks" here and there from co-workers through-out the years...only been back in the work force for 5 years and feel pretty darn good about my work ethics and record, even though I got laid off the last two jobs, both companies are still in VERY good standings with me and I am guaranteed letters of recomendation if need be!!
I believe I can be helpful from the first day. I can do whatever I put my mind to, and I love a challenge. I am a very quick learner, having trained myself in computers through tutorials and being shown a few "tricks" here and there from co-workers. I have a track record of over 5 years proving my strong work ethic. Ask any company I have worked for; I am confident they will concur.



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There's your 'why should we hire you' answer. It shows you are self-motivated, ready to learn, work well with others, and eager to get started.

Accountable;833494 wrote: I believe I can be helpful from the first day. I can do whatever I put my mind to, and I love a challenge. I am a very quick learner, having trained myself in computers through tutorials and being shown a few "tricks" here and there from co-workers. I have a track record of over 5 years proving my strong work ethic. Ask any company I have worked for; I am confident they will concur.



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There's your 'why should we hire you' answer. It shows you are self-motivated, ready to learn, work well with others, and eager to get started.


Most excellently said, Accountable! :-6

Excellent news 1 down 1 to go keep moving forward your almost there. :-4

[QUOTE]I talked to landlord tonight and I can move in this weekend....

All I have to do now, is get cable hooked and kids schools changed and well, yeah, move all of our crap and find homes for the cats and kittens....and wa-la...all done!

pfft....should take, what 2 hours???[/QUOTE]

Accountable;833494 wrote: I believe I can be helpful from the first day. I can do whatever I put my mind to, and I love a challenge. I am a very quick learner, having trained myself in computers through tutorials and being shown a few "tricks" here and there from co-workers. I have a track record of over 5 years proving my strong work ethic. Ask any company I have worked for; I am confident they will concur.



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There's your 'why should we hire you' answer. It shows you are self-motivated, ready to learn, work well with others, and eager to get started. That was Awesome!! I printed it out and reading it over and over and I have been reading up on things to do at an interview and more importantly things NOT to do.....I took a nap and now I can't sleep and its 2:30am, I need to leave here about 8:30 to make it there in plenty of time to be punctual, plan on being about 15 minutes early of course.

CARLA;833515 wrote: Excellent news 1 down 1 to go keep moving forward your almost there. :-4


I am the little engine that could.... I think I can, I think I can.



I realized tonight that my 18 year old can stay in the house until they officially evict us...that way we don't have to get rid of kittys just yet...and we can slowly move stuff over to the other place. This is majorally one of those "do as I go" situations...I am glad (believe it or not) that I've had the last month to pack up the house, it has helped me a lot...what an emotional roller-coaster....I'm ready to get off now though...ready to go play in the game room and score some points for BIG prizes!!!:-6

WW, you should be in your interview about now. Beams coming your way. I've got good vibes about this.

jimbo;833556 wrote: you are a star ww :-4 Thanks Jimbo!!

YZGI;833876 wrote: WW, you should be in your interview about now. Beams coming your way. I've got good vibes about this.:-4 Thanks Wisey!!

I could feel the vibes....Even though I was more nervous than a whore in church....I was confident with my answers, and I really liked their process. They gave me a list of the questions that they were going to ask me prior to calling me into the conference room, so I had time to ponder on my answers....

The 4 people were all very nice, one lady was all business and didn't crack a smile, but the rest of them were cool, I had them laughing about porta-pottys....because thats how I roll!!:wah::wah:

I felt much better about that interview than the one with the "man" the other day....

Okay, so...now I'm gonna go take a nap...I am living on 2 hours of sleep.....:-5

Thanks again everyone!!

WonderWendy3;834022 wrote:

I could feel the vibes....Even though I was more nervous than a whore in church....I was confident with my answers, and I really liked their process. They gave me a list of the questions that they were going to ask me prior to calling me into the conference room, so I had time to ponder on my answers....

The 4 people were all very nice, one lady was all business and didn't crack a smile, but the rest of them were cool, I had them laughing about porta-pottys....because thats how I roll!!:wah::wah:

I felt much better about that interview than the one with the "man" the other day....

Okay, so...now I'm gonna go take a nap...I am living on 2 hours of sleep.....:-5

Thanks again everyone!!


:wah: I love that saying.

Its great to hear that the interview went well. Do you know when they will be making a decision?

You are doing well Wendy ... really pulling it together :-4

You cannot survive on 2 hours sleep! Now go and get some damn sleep before I come over there and give you a good talking ... :-4

I'm so glad everything went well today! :-4

you sound like me, I've always just been myself in interviews and I've never had a problem getting jobs.

:yh_hugs

WonderWendy3;834022 wrote: :-4 Thanks Jimbo!!



:-4 Thanks Wisey!!



I could feel the vibes....Even though I was more nervous than a whore in church....I was confident with my answers, and I really liked their process. They gave me a list of the questions that they were going to ask me prior to calling me into the conference room, so I had time to ponder on my answers....



The 4 people were all very nice, one lady was all business and didn't crack a smile, but the rest of them were cool, I had them laughing about porta-pottys....because thats how I roll!!:wah::wah:



I felt much better about that interview than the one with the "man" the other day....



Okay, so...now I'm gonna go take a nap...I am living on 2 hours of sleep.....:-5



Thanks again everyone!!


Yup, porta potty's are good convsersation with possible employers. When I interview for a prospective employee I always ask about porta potty's. If they have never used one they are immediatly released. (too uppity). If they have one in their backyard, they are immediately hired. (obviously need the work and will work hard) . If they live in one they are not only hired on the spot but get a $5 raise even before they clock in (I mean anyone living in a crapper has to be able to take any sh it I give him). Good job WW.:wah:

sunny104;834050 wrote: I'm so glad everything went well today! :-4



you sound like me, I've always just been myself in interviews and I've never had a problem getting jobs.



:yh_hugs
Um Sunny? I don't think she is looking for that kind of job..:wah:

YZGI;834051 wrote: Yup, porta potty's are good convsersation with possible employers. When I interview for a prospective employee I always ask about porta potty's. If they have never used one they are immediatly released. (too uppity). If they have one in their backyard, they are immediately hired. (obviously need the work and will work hard) . If they live in one they are not only hired on the spot but get a $5 raise even before they clock in (I mean anyone living in a crapper has to be able to take any sh it I give him). Good job WW.:wah:


you'd be a cool boss, except you live in Kansas and stuff.....:p :wah:

YZGI;834055 wrote: Um Sunny? I don't think she is looking for that kind of job..:wah:


:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

Pheasy;834037 wrote: I love that saying.

Its great to hear that the interview went well. Do you know when they will be making a decision?

You are doing well Wendy ... really pulling it together :-4

You cannot survive on 2 hours sleep! Now go and get some damn sleep before I come over there and give you a good talking ...
I'm sk-k-k-eerrred now....going to bed after I post this....PROMISE!!

And I was hesitant to post the "nervous as a whore in church" saying in fear of offending anyone....but then again...we have no whores in the garden...so I figured I was okay!!:wah:

sunny104;834050 wrote: I'm so glad everything went well today!

you sound like me, I've always just been myself in interviews and I've never had a problem getting jobs.

:yh_hugs I was nervous, but kicked in over-drive personality and was confident!!:-6

YZGI;834051 wrote: Yup, porta potty's are good convsersation with possible employers. When I interview for a prospective employee I always ask about porta potty's. If they have never used one they are immediatly released. (too uppity). If they have one in their backyard, they are immediately hired. (obviously need the work and will work hard) . If they live in one they are not only hired on the spot but get a $5 raise even before they clock in (I mean anyone living in a crapper has to be able to take any sh it I give him). Good job WW.


FUNNY, FUNNY....actually the context that I brought it up was VERY good and they said that I might have to order porta-pottys for special events so they were thankful I had that experience. I actually brought it up when they asked if there was any job that I don't like to do. And I answered with that I couldn't think of any job that I didn't like to do, ordering porta-pottys for building job-sites wasn't glamourous, but I didn't mind doing it....and they laughed WITH me!! ....I HOPE!!

It sounds great. I hope you land the gig!



So what questions did they ask? Other job hunters will want to know what to be prepared for.

:-6 Thing are coming together now WW just hang in there its sounding real good. :-4

Well I have been moving since Sunday...little by little...I astarted back to school yesterday and have been running around getting Kids switched, donations of stuff that we don't need, supplies for new place....etc......tomorrow is the big move day with all the Stuff...I'm supposed to be packing as I type this...I had such a busy day...I am ready to fall over....but I will press on!!

My brother works for a furniture company and they are letting him use the truck to move me...which is absolutely a blessing!! But...I have to have everything ready to go by 8am, in addition to getting my son ready for his first day at the new school (had to transfer to another school in same county)....so ugh! in a word!

I am also getting the cable hooked up in new place tomorrow, which I'm just a tad bit nervous about ....but keeping the old one active and taking the laptop over there JUST in case something doesn't work out....so if I go inactive....don't worry...beee happy!!:wah::wah::wah:

We'll be here waiting. :driving:

Accountable;838447 wrote: We'll be here waiting. :driving:


:-4:-4:-4

I'm exhausted with a capital UGH!!!!



I am moved in, the cable is hooked up, the kids LOVE it here....the dogs are still thinking about it.....and well, I just wanna sleep for about 5 days!!

The last 5 days have been fun-filled and eventful, and I'm POOPED!

Thanks again for all of the prayers and beams, I can feel it!:-4

WonderWendy3;839499 wrote: :-4:-4:-4

I'm exhausted with a capital UGH!!!!



I am moved in, the cable is hooked up, the kids LOVE it here....the dogs are still thinking about it.....and well, I just wanna sleep for about 5 days!!

The last 5 days have been fun-filled and eventful, and I'm POOPED!

Thanks again for all of the prayers and beams, I can feel it!:-4


Here's hoping that this is a new start for you and the kids - new home, new job, new life.

Sleep on, then come back refreshed and ready for action :-6

All moved in? Thats wonderful. What an ordeal for you. I know you are exhausted! But its so great that the kids love it. This is such a new start for you, and new starts are always good. You put yourself in a new set of circumstances, and surroundings.... and anything is possible. You completed an incredible mission. You now know that you can do anything. Did you get the job? Im looking back over the thread, and I only see the interview.

jimbo;839503 wrote: i cant tell you how pleased i am that things are going great for you ww





if any one has any asbestos gloves i can borrow i will help you with moving stuff in my van Awww, thanks big guy....but ummmm I saw the pictures of your van....thanks for the offer though darlin'....:-4

Bryn Mawr;839510 wrote: Here's hoping that this is a new start for you and the kids - new home, new job, new life.

Sleep on, then come back refreshed and ready for action Thanks Bryn, wow....I ran all day again today, NON-stop....I went to the laundry mat to get the bulk of the laundry done...6 loads later....I ran more errands and then it was time to go get the boys, and the "change oil light" came on, and I had just got the call that I need to drive to Richmond (about 45 minutes one way) tomorrow....so, off to Wal-Mart for and oil change....and then home, a weary me!! I have 2 school assignments due tonight in about 2 hours....and well, yeah...I'm cutting it close....I didn't even see them for the first time until 9pm, and my son took a bath and water flooded the bathroom, so I sopped it up with most of our towels, and thats when I decided to go ahead and use the washing machine and wash these towels...well, umm yeah...I have a flooded bathroom and kitchen and under my carpet...I discovered ( a little too late) that the hose fell on the floor and was spilling all the water onto the floor!!:-5:-5 So, now I am drying the towels (not much) to get them to sop up the water :-5:-5 fun fun fun!!!

weeder;839541 wrote: All moved in? Thats wonderful. What an ordeal for you. I know you are exhausted! But its so great that the kids love it. This is such a new start for you, and new starts are always good. You put yourself in a new set of circumstances, and surroundings.... and anything is possible. You completed an incredible mission. You now know that you can do anything. Did you get the job? Im looking back over the thread, and I only see the interview.


Thanks Weeder!:-4 No word on the job yet. I agree on the new start, I'm feeling it now...and I do like it here, its REALLY quiet...I thought my old home place was quiet...this is like dead silence quiet....which is what I like!....well, except for my white noise in my room of course, but we all slept really good last night and the boys are zonked out tonight!!

Let me go "wing" my school work and perhaps I'll play some later.....miss you all!!

So, today was Mothers' day....I slept a lot of the day, due to not feeling well, had a horrible dream about my ex husband calling me and telling me that I am a failure and he was taking the boys away from me. In my dream I called him some names and said some nasty stuff to him that I never had the nerve to say to him before. I remember in my dream I told him that it was none of his damn business why I don't have a job and we are just fine without him, like we have been for the last 10-15 years.... (only 5 since he left, but he wasn't supportive when he was around...)

So, I wake up, start my day....realize that the ex called about 3 hours prior to me waking up....I call him back since he and I have to arrange where we are going to meet to get the two younger boys back to me (he had them for their monthly visit....he didn't even know where they moved to a month ago until this weekend, because he doesn't call!)

As we discuss the meeting place since he has never and probably never will offer to bring them home to me, we have to meet somewhere or he uses my oldest son as an excuse to not have to travel and gets him to be the taxi of the day. I put a stop to that...well, so did my oldest since he really doesn't want to see his dad right now.

Well, it happened....he offers to take the children from me....the conversation started "So, I hear you are in a one room apartment garage...is that true?" and I said yes, and in the conversation, assured him that we are just fine, he insists that I need help in my time of need (like he gives a crap...he just doesn't want to pay his measley child support) and I told him that this is temporary and I got it completely under control....well, he already talked to the kids and the youngest wants to live with him now. This is the third time he has brought this up since July, the man has never offered any financial help....and only sees these boys once a month...... The conversation ended with him telling me he won't bring it up anymore and me saying "good, I'd appreciate that"....and he got angry with my response and huffed where we would meet and the time and abruptly got off the phone.

I went to meet him at the appointed time and place that his majesty set, and got my boys, completely saw the change of attitude in my youngest son's attitude....

I spoke with my youngest son and he said that after the summer he wants to go live with his dad because he has convinced my son that he needs more space....DAMN HIM!!!!:-5:-5

So, Happy Mothers' day to me, that is what that good for nothing blankety blank blank does to me on Mothers' day.....

Wendy that really sucks. Your son could well change his mind before that time comes though. You know how kids are really impressionable at that age. You'll have better days ahead. :-6

Wenders babes, I have no advice im afraid but man that has to suck after all you have been through.

You know your son loves you, but I don't think that he fully understands the change and effect it will have not only on him, but everyone. Maybe he wants to be the center of attention for a while and he thinks he will have an easier life over at Dad's cos he only sees dad one day out of 31 and that days awesome and he gets treats etc...

All you need is Love.........If that guy loved him like you do, he'd be helping out more financially and emotionally..

Good Luck my friend xxxxxxxxx

BIG HUGS

Wendy after a summer in the back of a truck, I don't think the youngest is going to want to live with his dad.

I'm sorry you had a crappy day! Big huggzzz from me! :-4:-4:-4

Chezzie;863251 wrote: Wenders babes, I have no advice im afraid but man that has to suck after all you have been through.

You know your son loves you, but I don't think that he fully understands the change and effect it will have not only on him, but everyone. Maybe he wants to be the center of attention for a while and he thinks he will have an easier life over at Dad's cos he only sees dad one day out of 31 and that days awesome and he gets treats etc...

All you need is Love.........If that guy loved him like you do, he'd be helping out more financially and emotionally..

Good Luck my friend xxxxxxxxx

BIG HUGS Thanks Chezzie, :-4:-4 My boys and I talked more tonight and I let them know how I felt about the situation and I was told that my ex said that both boys have to come with him or none!...so, as anger went through me, I looked at my youngest and said, the only way you are going to live with your father, is your father taking me to court and proving I'm unfit to take care of you, so get used to living with me. I have reminded them that this is TEMPORARY!!! And it is fine, its not a mansion, but we are sheltered, it is clean and in the quiet country!

What upset me the most was that their father hasn't known there where-abouts for a MONTH....and all of a sudden he has the right to judge and criticize???? I don't think so!!:mad: And then after we discussed him taking the boys and the time that we would meet to exchange the boys he called back within the hour to change the time to an hour earlier, because they were visiting family members and they were done visiting, so he was ready to get rid of his kids an hour earlier than originally planned.....and he wants full custody of them?????:-5

Sheryl;863470 wrote: Wendy after a summer in the back of a truck, I don't think the youngest is going to want to live with his dad.

I'm sorry you had a crappy day! Big huggzzz from me!


Thanks for that Sheryl!!:-4 I agree, I even told my Mom, that I am going to let things happen this summer and then we will see....that was before my conversation that I had with the boys tonight...but I agree, a month with his father and his impatient ways....he'll be glad to get home with momma....there have been 2 times in my youngest one's life that his dad had him for one week and he cried to come home...so it will be interesting how a month will go, I realize he's older, but still......

Hugs backatcha!!:-4