why are people so nasty to others

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:05 pm

G#Gill, thank you. I apologize if I was wrong. I did think you were addressing Neffy. We don't have the benefit of inflection on here, just words, and things do get lost in translation. Words can look weird. It happens to me all the time.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:11 pm

gill thank you,i have tried sending you a pm but your box is full.

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:11 pm

In my mind negativity breads negativity, people will fall out, bitch, argue, i'm sorry but thats life. You have to take the good with the bad, thankfully here there is far more good than bad.

I just think that people are throwing their toys out of the pram over silly things, some folks here are going through really hard times, it used to be a place where people could get a 'feel good factor' from, instead it's self pitying depressing dribble in repeated threads.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:22 pm

SuzyB;668848 wrote: In my mind negativity breads negativity, people will fall out, bitch, argue, i'm sorry but thats life. You have to take the good with the bad, thankfully here there is far more good than bad.

I just think that people are throwing their toys out of the pram over silly things, some folks here are going through really hard times, it used to be a place where people could get a 'feel good factor' from, instead it's self pitying depressing dribble in repeated threads.

Okay Suzy - now give back my rattle NOW!! :wah:

Very true Suzy, lets get the old days back :-4:-4

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:23 pm

ThePheasant;668858 wrote: Okay Suzy - now give back my rattle NOW!! :wah:

Very true Suzy, lets get the old days back :-4:-4

Great to see you, you want blanky too sweetie :-4

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:25 pm

SuzyB;668860 wrote: Great to see you, you want blanky too sweetie :-4

WHAT YOU TOOK BLANKY TOO!!!!

:-4:-4

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:27 pm

ThePheasant;668864 wrote: WHAT YOU TOOK BLANKY TOO!!!!

:-4:-4

You can have it all back as long as you behave yourself, next time I will put you over my knee :sneaky::wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:28 pm

G#Gill;668832 wrote:

This is a repeat of my previous post :-

Neffy, unfortunately, it's the way you worded the title of the thread. Perhaps it would have been better if you'd added "in the outside world"

As it is, the thread developed into a veritable slanging match, with the subject matter sliding inexorably towards the behaviour of a few Forum Garden members.

It really isn't surprising then that some members, reading all the posts on this thread, thought that the subject was referring to Forum Garden and other similar sites !

one is

I do think it is a lesson to be learned. When (you are) typing words, the meaning

one wishes

( you wish ) to put across must be made perfectly clear, with no risk of misunderstanding. The use of punctuation marks, I am sure, would help greatly in this regard. Also, as somebody mentioned earlier on this thread, the appropriate use of the 'smileys' would more than clarify the mood of the writer, thus saving once again a misunderstanding.

I have been witness to several 'near misses' in the past, on other sites, certain

misinterpretations that have nearly caused World War III !!!!! Others that have caused friends to fall out. A lot, but not all maybe, of this could have been avoided by being a bit more careful with the words used, and the way they are put down, and of course those little smileys ! pmsl

I think we are all in FG to enjoy ourselves, to make new friends and to indulge in good 'chinwagging'. Some people join FG because they are lonely, some people join because they are mostly house-bound. They come from all walks of life, yes even the aristocracy - but we don't really know who or what, and it matters not.

one enjoys

What does matter is that (you enjoy ) this facility but enjoy it with caution and be aware that not everybody is as straightforward as you may be.

Everybody enjoy your threads and be nice to people, because they may need somebody to be nice to them.

-------------------------

Neffy, and everybody,

What I have just written is a case in point ! I've just received a PM from Neffy, and I stand rebuked ! Fair enough.

Now if you look at the second paragraph where I say 'you' poor Neffy took it to mean her, that it was personal. Neffy I owe you an apology. I've just read it again as if I was Neffy, and I can see exactly what she means. So if I change that one word to 'one', each time it is mentioned, the whole meaning is changed and it is no longer 'personal'.

I will not pretend that I did this deliberately to demonstrate what I meant in that post, I'm not that clever ! But accidentally it is a first class demonstration of how the typed word can be misinterpretted if not put down correctly !

Just to make it quite clear (in case I've ckufed up again !) from the second paragraph down it is meant for everybody not an individual !!!!

Please everybody, I was only trying to be helpful, and I apologise if I upset others.

Neffy I'm very sorry that I caused you to be upset, it was certainly not intentional chuck. I was only trying to give a possible explanation why some of these mix-ups occur, and boy did I ever do that ! I think foot and shooting come to mind here !

I hasten to add, that personally I have found that FG is a very good site, and I have only experienced one 'iffy' post directed at somebody else which was dealt with very quickly by one of the moderators !

I have made quite a few new friends on FG and have found that everybody that I've met here is really friendly and easy to talk to - and a lot of you have me in stitches ! Thank you all very much for that

:-4:-4

I don't think you upset Neffy intentionally.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:30 pm

SuzyB;668867 wrote: You can have it all back as long as you behave yourself, next time I will put you over my knee :sneaky::wah:

:yh_rotfl

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:45 pm

SuzyB;668867 wrote: You can have it all back as long as you behave yourself, next time I will put you over my knee :sneaky::wah:

now suzy lets keep this thread clean please:wah::wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:48 pm

neffy;668879 wrote: now suzy lets keep this thread clean please:wah::wah:

Oiy I was looking forward to a spanking :p

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:51 pm

ThePheasant;668881 wrote: Oiy I was looking forward to a spanking :p

Anytime but call me by my correct name, it's Miss Suzy to you :sneaky:;)

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:52 pm

ThePheasant;668881 wrote: Oiy I was looking forward to a spanking :p

you see suzy look what you have started.............lets start a spanking thread;)

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 4:57 pm

neffy;668884 wrote: you see suzy look what you have started.............lets start a spanking thread;)

What kind of spanking thread??

Spank the monkey

Submissive Spanking

Paddle brush Spanking

The choice is yours...................................................

Ali. · Post by **Ali.** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 8:48 pm

Gill good post,Now lets all get in a cilcle and hold hands..............and sing............................happy days are here again de dum de dum de de de da,dont no the rest.lol:D:D:D:D

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 10:40 pm

Ali.;668940 wrote: Gill good post,Now lets all get in a cilcle and hold hands..............and sing............................happy days are here again de dum de dum de de de da,dont no the rest.lol:D
Er excuse me Ali.......Im the si nger here:yh_rotfl:wah:

Ali. · Post by **Ali.** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 11:46 pm

oooPPPSSSS SORRY CAROL,I'LL MIME AND U CAN SING OK.LOL:D:D:D

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 12:14 am

Ali.;668972 wrote: oooPPPSSSS SORRY CAROL,I'LL MIME AND U CAN SING OK.LOL:D:D

ali manilli

i mean like milli manilli

Ali. · Post by **Ali.** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 12:34 am

HEHEHEHEH JIMBO YEP THATS ME BUT I THINK ITS MILLI VANILLI,SADLE ONE OF THEM DIED OF AN OVERDOSE, SAW A PROGRAM NOT LONG AGO BOUT THEM.I THOUGHT THEY WHERE GOOD,DONT LAUGH.LOVED THE HAIR.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 12:38 am

Ali.;668990 wrote: HEHEHEHEH JIMBO YEP THATS ME BUT I THINK ITS MILLI VANILLI,SADLE ONE OF THEM DIED OF AN OVERDOSE, SAW A PROGRAM NOT LONG AGO BOUT THEM.I THOUGHT THEY WHERE GOOD,DONT LAUGH.LOVED THE HAIR.

you do know they mimed though that was my point :wah: yes sometimes jimbo has a point :-3

any hair would be great :rolleyes:

Ali. · Post by **Ali.** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 1:00 am

Doh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!did They Really,hehehehehehhe Yep I Did No But Ta For Tellin Me.:d:d:d:d

Ali. · Post by **Ali.** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 1:01 am

Bummer My Smilies Arn't Comming Up Right.:d:d

Lasgo · Post by **Lasgo** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 1:07 am

on another forum i go to i had to get a few people banned due to what they were saying about me and a thread had to be reomved too due to the content.

just glad noone here is like that. i hate people that are so nasty to others it's not very nice at all.

yesterday afternoon some kids threw stones at my front windows.

Ali. · Post by **Ali.** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 1:33 am

lasgo,no not nice naughty little possums.Same with the forum I have left but thats all in the past,some people just cant help themselves.Mabe they where just born bad who no's.hope its not to wet over there its bloody storming here, hey u'v sent urweather here pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee take it back.Wheres the sun:-6 God I have to go out tonight not lokking forward to it, hope they got the bloody fire on.heheheh.Have a great day u all.:wah::wah:

Lasgo · Post by **Lasgo** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 1:35 am

Ali.;669009 wrote: lasgo,no not nice naughty little possums.Same with the forum I have left but thats all in the past,some people just cant help themselves.Mabe they where just born bad who no's.hope its not to wet over there its bloody storming here, hey u'v sent urweather here pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee take it back.Wheres the sun:-6 God I have to go out tonight not lokking forward to it, hope they got the bloody fire on.heheheh.Have a great day u all.:wah::wah:

it's horrid here too, i'm really cold today but they are saying beginning of august we will see the start of our british summer again

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 2:39 am

Ali.;669009 wrote: lasgo,no not nice naughty little possums.Same with the forum I have left but thats all in the past,some people just cant help themselves.Mabe they where just born bad who no's.hope its not to wet over there its bloody storming here, hey u'v sent urweather here pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee take it back.Wheres the sunGod I have to go out tonight not lokking forward to it, hope they got the bloody fire on.heheheh.Have a great day u all.:wah::wah:
Ahhhhhhh Ali i feel SOOOOOOOOO sorry for you out there in Oz my dear little candyfloss......ere have a week in my posh oops I mean very posh caravan in Clacton:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 3:59 am

RedGlitter;667532 wrote: I think a lot of it is because people are so fake, in real life and especially on forums. I know people here at FG who say how much they "love" others and then they stab them in the back to the faces of the rest of us. I've seen a lot of that here and been stabbed and seen others stabbed. People like that are very small. Lowlifes even. While you can't be expected to like everyone, you don't have to be a jerk about it either. I think it's best to spend your valuable time on those you can respect.

Well said and I totally agree with ya.

Post by **spot** » Sat Jul 28, 2007 2:44 am

shah;669757 wrote: this seems like a very forum,my last forum was not nice,has there been any rows on here? it just seems a nice place to come

People rarely speak harshly here. Rows are impossible. The terms and conditions forbid them.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Jul 28, 2007 4:00 am

G#Gill;668832 wrote:

This is a repeat of my previous post :-

Neffy, unfortunately, it's the way you worded the title of the thread. Perhaps it would have been better if you'd added "in the outside world"

As it is, the thread developed into a veritable slanging match, with the subject matter sliding inexorably towards the behaviour of a few Forum Garden members.

It really isn't surprising then that some members, reading all the posts on this thread, thought that the subject was referring to Forum Garden and other similar sites !

one is

I do think it is a lesson to be learned. When (you are) typing words, the meaning

one wishes

( you wish ) to put across must be made perfectly clear, with no risk of misunderstanding. The use of punctuation marks, I am sure, would help greatly in this regard. Also, as somebody mentioned earlier on this thread, the appropriate use of the 'smileys' would more than clarify the mood of the writer, thus saving once again a misunderstanding.

I have been witness to several 'near misses' in the past, on other sites, certain

misinterpretations that have nearly caused World War III !!!!! Others that have caused friends to fall out. A lot, but not all maybe, of this could have been avoided by being a bit more careful with the words used, and the way they are put down, and of course those little smileys ! pmsl

I think we are all in FG to enjoy ourselves, to make new friends and to indulge in good 'chinwagging'. Some people join FG because they are lonely, some people join because they are mostly house-bound. They come from all walks of life, yes even the aristocracy - but we don't really know who or what, and it matters not.

one enjoys

What does matter is that (you enjoy ) this facility but enjoy it with caution and be aware that not everybody is as straightforward as you may be.

Everybody enjoy your threads and be nice to people, because they may need somebody to be nice to them.

-------------------------

Neffy, and everybody,

What I have just written is a case in point ! I've just received a PM from Neffy, and I stand rebuked ! Fair enough.

Now if you look at the second paragraph where I say 'you' poor Neffy took it to mean her, that it was personal. Neffy I owe you an apology. I've just read it again as if I was Neffy, and I can see exactly what she means. So if I change that one word to 'one', each time it is mentioned, the whole meaning is changed and it is no longer 'personal'.

I will not pretend that I did this deliberately to demonstrate what I meant in that post, I'm not that clever ! But accidentally it is a first class demonstration of how the typed word can be misinterpretted if not put down correctly !

Just to make it quite clear (in case I've ckufed up again !) from the second paragraph down it is meant for everybody not an individual !!!!

Please everybody, I was only trying to be helpful, and I apologise if I upset others.

Neffy I'm very sorry that I caused you to be upset, it was certainly not intentional chuck. I was only trying to give a possible explanation why some of these mix-ups occur, and boy did I ever do that ! I think foot and shooting come to mind here ! :-5

I hasten to add, that personally I have found that FG is a very good site, and I have only experienced one 'iffy' post directed at somebody else which was dealt with very quickly by one of the moderators !

I have made quite a few new friends on FG and have found that everybody that I've met here is really friendly and easy to talk to - and a lot of you have me in stitches ! Thank you all very much for that

I hope that wasn't incredibly deep, touching, or important. I can't pay attention that long. :-3

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Sat Jul 28, 2007 4:15 am

Crazygal, if you get this send i have just tried sending you a PM,

i hope you haven't been banned.

come back soon :-4

G#Gill · Post by **G#Gill** » Sat Jul 28, 2007 7:55 am

Hi everybody ! Hope you're having a good weekend :-6

I just want to say thank you to Almostfamous for the supporting comments, and I'm relieved that some of you took the time to read that epic post of mine ! Well both of them for that matter :wah:

I must apologise to Accountable for making my posts so long-winded, but I did feel that the things I said needed to be said and unfortunately that involved several lines of typing ! I'll try to cut em down in the future matey !!

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Jul 28, 2007 4:26 pm

G#Gill;669860 wrote:

Hi everybody ! Hope you're having a good weekend :-6

I just want to say thank you to Almostfamous for the supporting comments, and I'm relieved that some of you took the time to read that epic post of mine ! Well both of them for that matter :wah:

I must apologise to Accountable for making my posts so long-winded, but I did feel that the things I said needed to be said and unfortunately that involved several lines of typing ! I'll try to cut em down in the future matey !! :DThanks. People say I get distracted, but I haven't really noticed. By the way .......