Dear Abby: Valentine's Day is approaching, and I wanted to write concerning those of us who are single by choice, by circumstance, because of the death of a spouse or divorce.
This holiday was set aside to celebrate love and lovers, but it can be a lonely time for people who find themselves without a significant other. Valentine's Day is so commercialized that one is bombarded by ads for gifts, candy, etc., from every angle, which only enforces one's aloneness. The message is subtly sent — but received loud and clear — that an individual without a partner is worthless.
I would like to urge your readers this year to include those who are alone through divorce or widowhood in their celebration of this day. Make it a day on which they too can feel special, loved, and a part of things rather than isolated, forgotten and alone.
And don't stop there. All holidays can be lonely for those who have lost loved ones. Include these people in your holiday plans. You will be blessed by sharing, and they will be uplifted to know someone cares.
Solo in Texas
Dear Solo: Thank you for your letter. Readers, if you're feeling down because you don't have a special valentine, the surest cure for the blues is to do something for someone else. Call someone who's alone to say, "I'm thinking about you."
If you know someone who's in a nursing home, take some flowers. Donate some blood. Listen to your teenager. Tell your parents you think they're great. Forgive an enemy. Send a donation to a food program that benefits the needy.
And if you love someone, tell him or her NOW; please don't wait until next Valentine's Day to be a sweetheart again.
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Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2013 4:30 pm
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Just because it's raining here this evening and I thought of this song:
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Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2013 4:41 pm
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My Valentine to You
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 3:48 pm
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’Really primitive stuff’: Safely ashore, cruise passengers tell of hoarding, filth and fright - Travel on NBCNews.com
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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2013 6:24 am
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Today..some photos
World Press Photo award winners | Photo Gallery - Yahoo! News
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2013 7:05 am
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Today:
Dear Abby: Help! My husband won’t wear clothes. When our children were young, he walked around naked because he wanted to make sure they didn’t have the same hang-ups about nudity that he grew up with. (His father was ultra-conservative and uptight.)
My husband began wearing clothes again when the kids got older, but now they have all moved out and he has quit. He sits naked in his recliner to watch TV. The recliner is right next to the front door, and there’s only the storm door between him and the world. Abby, he literally strips all his clothes off to do the dishes!
We live in a neighborhood. It’s not like we’re out in the country. If I say anything to him, he says I can go into a different room if I don’t like it. Is this normal? — Nudie’s Wife in Florida
It appears to be normal for your husband. Some — not all — families are very relaxed about nudity. As long as your living room isn’t visible to the neighbors and you don’t have drop-in visitors, your husband is harming no one. If you don’t want to look at him, take him up on his suggestion.
P.S. I hope you thank him for doing the dishes. Not all husbands are so helpful.
:wah:
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2013 4:37 pm
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Today...sad news.
Country star Mindy McCready dead at 37 of apparent suicide - CNN.com
Texas woman has two sets of identical twins in one day - TODAY Health
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Posted: Wed Feb 20, 2013 3:59 pm
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Are you a T-shirt wearer?
3-D T-shirts from The Mountain: photo gallery
Which is your favorite?
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Posted: Thu Feb 21, 2013 3:10 pm
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Some of these do make sense...............:wah:
Japanese inventions that seem crazy
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Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2013 3:43 pm
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Funny how a memory pops up in your dream. I woke up this morning with these three words, "bim bom bay" in my head. I remember it was part of the lyrics of an old pop song from my childhood. I don't remember what I was dreaming about though.
Here's a version of it:
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Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2013 5:18 pm
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Rainy Nights
I like the town on rainy nights
When everything is wet -
When all the town has magic lights
And streets of shining jet!
When all the rain about the town
Is like a looking-glass,
And all the lights are upside-down
Below me as I pass.
In all the pools are velvet skies,
And down the dazzling street
A fairy city gleams and lies
In beauty at my feet.
Irene Thompson
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2013 7:14 am
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Good riddance, PT Cruiser car rentals - Yahoo! Autos
Office Etiquette: Getting Along with Your Coworkers
Business Office Etiquette | Chron.com
Some of these issues exist in the small personnel office where I work. My boss is aware of these issues, but lets the negative behavior slide. Don't get me wrong....we do have a more casual atmosphere I like and occasional humor is appreciated. and enjoyed by myself as well as any other. But many times the comments are not funny, they are rude or just plain silly. I do not laugh; I ignore. Nicknames are used by other co-workers among themselves that are just childish. There are co-workers who text or make personal phone calls frequently and talk like they are home.....loudly. Friends come sit by their desks and they just chat away. You can't help but hear most everything...we work in a small office. Until these issues are addressed by the boss, they will continue. I still like my job and will continue to do my job as best as I can. I am friendly, courteous and helpful to my co-workers because I choose to be. I have also chosen to distance myself from the negative behavior and it looks like I'm in the minority. And there's the difficulty for myself I guess. I will not stoop to their level.
Now, AFTR gets off her soapbox.
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Posted: Tue Mar 05, 2013 4:25 pm
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Life is a Beach......
17 beaches we'd like to be lounging on - CNN.com
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Posted: Tue Mar 05, 2013 4:33 pm
by AnneBoleyn
Your threads are amazing & you are fascinating!
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Posted: Wed Mar 06, 2013 4:29 pm
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The Perfect Friend
by Shannen Wrass
Today I found a friend
who knew everything I felt
she knew my weakness
and the problems I've been dealt.
She understood my wonders
and listened to my dreams,
she listened to how I felt about life and love
and knew what it all means.
Not once did she interrupt me
or tell me I was wrong
she understood what I was going through
and promised she'd stay long.
I reached out to this friend,
to show her that I care
to pull her close and let her know
how much I need her there.
I went to hold her hand
to pull her a bit nearer
and I realized this perfect friend I found
was nothing but a mirror.
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Posted: Thu Mar 07, 2013 3:17 pm
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March
In March the wind blows down the door
and spills my soup upon the floor
It laps it up and roars for more!
Blowing once, blowing twice
blowing chicken soup with rice.
written by Maurice Sendak
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Posted: Fri Mar 08, 2013 4:30 pm
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The Weekly Flickr celebrates Women’s History Month « Flickr Blog
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Posted: Sat Mar 09, 2013 5:33 am
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Posted: Sun Mar 10, 2013 6:02 am
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Just two cool Americans. :-4
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Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 2:13 pm
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I watched several episodes yesterday at Hulu. Very interesting. The theme below is haunting and beautiful:
These trendy burnout shirts are a great alternative to traditional t-shirts. Printed all over (edge to edge print.) Front, back, sleeves, everything! Burnout tees are soft and comfortable 65% Poly/ 35% Cotton material. Each shirt is uniquely printed, so no one shirt is exactly alike. Small wrinkles near the shoulders, armpit, or seams may be formed during the printing process. This adds to the vintage look and uniqueness of the item. Get the vintage worn-in feel in a new edgy women's tee.
Sizes run small. For a looser fit order 1 size larger.
Do you own one? I have two...they are different from regular T-shirts.
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Posted: Wed Mar 13, 2013 1:59 pm
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From around the world...
Photos: Weather around the world - CNN.com
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Posted: Thu Mar 14, 2013 2:53 pm
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Today, let's celebrate:
An Irish chef's picks for St. Paddy's fun - CNN.com
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Posted: Sat Mar 16, 2013 7:13 am
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;)
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Posted: Sun Mar 17, 2013 6:37 am
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this day in history On March 17
1756 St. Patrick's Day is celebrated for the first time in New York City at the Crown and Thistle Tavern.
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Posted: Mon Mar 18, 2013 2:20 pm
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Your time has come, now hasten little snowflakes,
To vanish quite away;
The spring-tide hours are sounding gentle warnings
Forbidding you to stay.
~ M. E. Hathaway
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Posted: Tue Mar 19, 2013 2:14 pm
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A Blessing
by James Wright
Just off the highway to Rochester, Minnesota,
Twilight bounds softly forth on the grass.
And the eyes of those two Indian ponies
Darken with kindness.
They have come gladly out of the willows
To welcome my friend and me.
We step over the barbed wire into the pasture
Where they have been grazing all day, alone.
They ripple tensely, they can hardly contain their happiness
That we have come.
They bow shyly as wet swans. They love each other.
There is no loneliness like theirs.
At home once more,
They begin munching the young tufts of spring in the darkness.
I would like to hold the slenderer one in my arms,
For she has walked over to me
And nuzzled my left hand.
She is black and white,
Her mane falls wild on her forehead,
And the light breeze moves me to caress her long ear
That is delicate as the skin over a girl's wrist.
Suddenly I realize
That if I stepped out of my body I would break
Into blossom.
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Posted: Wed Mar 20, 2013 3:39 pm
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America's coolest small towns, 2013 - Yahoo! Travel
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Posted: Thu Mar 21, 2013 4:30 pm
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The Wind Sings Welcome in Early Spring by Carl Sandburg