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AussiePam;1093897 wrote: You've got Spot at the table??!!!!!

Chonsi - ya poor girl. I do hope you've managed to get your tooth fixed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A trillion hugs.

And hugs to you too, Duckie!! Kathy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OpenMind!!!!!!! Odie!!!!!


hugs to you to Pam!:-4

shelbell;1094013 wrote: I tried walking but I didn't get very much done! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


good grief, look what the cat dragged in!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

chonsigirl;1093845 wrote: I had the tooth pulled this morning, so tylenol and codine is working well so far. I look pretty bad though.

My husband enjoyed the Christma goodies to eat though, and the kids too. Nice leftover ham to cook tonight.


I'm glad you're feeling better on your meds chonsi...What a miserable thing to happen on Christmas.

AussiePam;1093897 wrote: You've got Spot at the table??!!!!!



Chonsi - ya poor girl. I do hope you've managed to get your tooth fixed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A trillion hugs.



And hugs to you too, Duckie!! Kathy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OpenMind!!!!!!! Odie!!!!!


Hugs back, Pam:-6

Whine and complaint of my day....it's rainy and foggy out, and it's also gotten a bit warmer so all our snow is melting. This should be a good thing right? Wrong...when ever I let my dogs out they come in full of mud and all wet and have to be cleaned up...what an awful mess!! The kitchen floor looks like a very large mud bath.

shelbell;1094394 wrote: Whine and complaint of my day....it's rainy and foggy out, and it's also gotten a bit warmer so all our snow is melting. This should be a good thing right? Wrong...when ever I let my dogs out they come in full of mud and all wet and have to be cleaned up...what an awful mess!! The kitchen floor looks like a very large mud bath.


:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

it mild here to and dense fog!

The temperature here has dropped considerably though it's been cloudy all day.

Odie;1094401 wrote: :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

it mild here to and dense fog!


Perfect day for hiding under the covers and not coming out. Now it's time for laundry and dishes. YUCK!!!!

OpenMind;1094419 wrote: The temperature here has dropped considerably though it's been cloudy all day.


It's supposed to drop in temperature here too, it'll just make everything icy again. We won't be able to walk outside, but at least the dogs won't be so muddy! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

shelbell;1094433 wrote: It's supposed to drop in temperature here too, it'll just make everything icy again. We won't be able to walk outside, but at least the dogs won't be so muddy! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


I've not been outside so I've no idea what it's like. I have a thermometer in my bedroom and it was reading 8C when I got up. I only put the heating on in there when I shower and dress, otherwise a timer switches the heater on during work days.

I don't want it to be icy when I have to go and collect my lass. Snow I can deal with, ice is a different matter.

shelbell;1094432 wrote: Perfect day for hiding under the covers and not coming out. Now it's time for laundry and dishes. YUCK!!!!


Very mild here too and cloudy. Perfect day for watching the new dvd's and playing video games on the DS.

OpenMind;1094455 wrote: I've not been outside so I've no idea what it's like. I have a thermometer in my bedroom and it was reading 8C when I got up. I only put the heating on in there when I shower and dress, otherwise a timer switches the heater on during work days.

I don't want it to be icy when I have to go and collect my lass. Snow I can deal with, ice is a different matter.


The ice is the worst. You have good ideas about the heat. We have a timed thermostat that we always had set for when we were gone, bedtime, and while we were home. Now that I'm disabled and home all the time, we don't set anything on it...I adjust it to hot or cold I am...usually too hot.

qsducks;1094461 wrote: Very mild here too and cloudy. Perfect day for watching the new dvd's and playing video games on the DS.


That's exactly what I'd do if I didn't have sooooooooo much housework to do.

AussiePam;1093897 wrote: You've got Spot at the table??!!!!!

Chonsi - ya poor girl. I do hope you've managed to get your tooth fixed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A trillion hugs.

And hugs to you too, Duckie!! Kathy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OpenMind!!!!!!! Odie!!!!!


Oh no Pam, Spot wouldn't survive at my kitchen table. My kids would gross him out in 20 seconds flat.:wah: He would declare me to the authorities:wah:

qsducks;1094545 wrote: Oh no Pam, Spot wouldn't survive at my kitchen table. My kids would gross him out in 20 seconds flat.:wah: He would declare me to the authorities:wah:


you mean the scrapple?

yeah, that would do me in!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Pam didn't send any hugs to me... -1

Odie;1094599 wrote: you mean the scrapple?

yeah, that would do me in!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


Scrapple or no scrapple they would just gross him out period:wah:. Yes, they do have table manners but the bickering would do him in. He would be drowned out in 2 secs flat.:wah:

qsducks;1094644 wrote: Scrapple or no scrapple they would just gross him out period:wah:. Yes, they do have table manners but the bickering would do him in. He would be drowned out in 2 secs flat.:wah:


:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

we had a rule with the boys, no bickering at the table, and if they did, they went with no dinner......didn't take them long to stop bickering!:sneaky:

Odie;1094702 wrote: :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

we had a rule with the boys, no bickering at the table, and if they did, they went with no dinner......didn't take them long to stop bickering!:sneaky:


We have 2 girls and 2 boys.:wah: and the girls are worse! Laura would eat him alive:wah:

qsducks;1094745 wrote: We have 2 girls and 2 boys.:wah: and the girls are worse! Laura would eat him alive:wah:


I have heard girls are worse, our friends have two girls, ages 5 and 7, all they ever do is screch and scream!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

our boys just argued.

Odie;1094754 wrote: I have heard girls are worse, our friends have two girls, ages 5 and 7, all they ever do is screch and scream!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

our boys just argued.


There is no difference when they are allsitting around the table:wah:

qsducks;1094777 wrote: There is no difference when they are allsitting around the table:wah:


:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

I sometimes hang out in the kitchen and have to listen to the bickering with the oldest one being a girl....jeez, she would knock your socks off, bossing everyone around:wah:.

My boys used to wrassle all over the place, the girls just sat there and sighed and rolled their eyes. :rolleyes:

:wah:

Mike invited his friend over the watch the movie Troy, great movie, seen it before, but its a long movie, and I just want to go to bed now!

have to get up early tomorrow a.m. to visit his fam for the day!



soooooooooooooooo tired!:-5:-5:-5

Some whines for the day :

My brother's live in lover refuses to flush the toilet after she's used it. Even though she's living in the same house as me and my mother, she doesn't talk to either me or my mom. She doesn't even acknowledge our presence. She acts as if we aren't there. Whenever she sees us, she rolls her eyes up and makes a disgusting face at us as if she's better than us even though she's a guest (my brother's guest ) in our house and not the other way around.

My brother has been freeloading me and my mother for years now. Even though he's got two Master's Degrees, he refuses to get a job ( he says it's tiring and hates work. He prefers to spend time with his live in lover instead. By the way, she's got a Doctorate's Degree and refuses to work as well.) They spend several hours a day in his room, which he locks and when my mom knocks on the door, he doesn't open it. They only come out to go to the toilet, eat and go out together. Where does he get his spending money from ? He steals it from my mom when she leaves money hanging around ( which happens often.)

The worst thing about this whole scenario is that my mother condones this behaviour from them. She totally (100%) sides with them. She says stuff like, " They're highly educated. Highly educated people don't have to work. His girlfriend isn't arrogant. She's just the quiet type who doesn't like to socialize. It's okay that he doesn't open the door for me. Maybe they're busy chatting or something. It's okay that they're freeloading off of me. A mother's duty is to take care of her son. I love him and I will pay for him. It's okay that his girlfriend doesn't work. Since my son loves her, I will pay for her also." Grrrrrrrrr !! This whole thing is so annoying. To make matters worse, my mom forces me to give part of my salary to my brother and his girlfriend so they can have some more spending money. She says to me," Since you are his younger sister, it's your duty to take care of your older brother. Sisters have to take care of their brothers."

The only reason why I haven't moved out is because I feel really sorry for my mother. She's elderly, very ill and right now, I'm her caretaker. She doesn't love me but I do love her.

Wow !!!! That felt good letting it all out like that ! I feel much, much better now. :-6 Thanks for letting me do all that whining ! What a great outlet ( for my pent up feelings) this post is. I loooove this post soooo much !!! :-4

nok;1095500 wrote: Some whines for the day :

My brother's live in lover refuses to flush the toilet after she's used it. Even though she's living in the same house as me and my mother, she doesn't talk to either me or my mom. She doesn't even acknowledge our presence. She acts as if we aren't there. Whenever she sees us, she rolls her eyes up and makes a disgusting face at us as if she's better than us even though she's a guest (my brother's guest ) in our house and not the other way around.

My brother has been freeloading me and my mother for years now. Even though he's got two Master's Degrees, he refuses to get a job ( he says it's tiring and hates work. He prefers to spend time with his live in lover instead. By the way, she's got a Doctorate's Degree and refuses to work as well.) They spend several hours a day in his room, which he locks and when my mom knocks on the door, he doesn't open it. They only come out to go to the toilet, eat and go out together. Where does he get his spending money from ? He steals it from my mom when she leaves money hanging around ( which happens often.)

The worst thing about this whole scenario is that my mother condones this behaviour from them. She totally (100%) sides with them. She says stuff like, " They're highly educated. Highly educated people don't have to work. His girlfriend isn't arrogant. She's just the quiet type who doesn't like to socialize. It's okay that he doesn't open the door for me. Maybe they're busy chatting or something. It's okay that they're freeloading off of me. A mother's duty is to take care of her son. I love him and I will pay for him. It's okay that his girlfriend doesn't work. Since my son loves her, I will pay for her also." Grrrrrrrrr !! This whole thing is so annoying. To make matters worse, my mom forces me to give part of my salary to my brother and his girlfriend so they can have some more spending money. She says to me," Since you are his younger sister, it's your duty to take care of your older brother. Sisters have to take care of their brothers."

The only reason why I haven't moved out is because I feel really sorry for my mother. She's elderly, very ill and right now, I'm her caretaker. She doesn't love me but I do love her.

Wow !!!! That felt good letting it all out like that ! I feel much, much better now. :-6 Thanks for letting me do all that whining ! What a great outlet ( for my pent up feelings) this post is. I loooove this post soooo much !!! :-4




perhaps his lover and himself need to move out......now!:-5:-5

tell him he has one month to get a job and a place to stay.

They do not respect your mother in her own home!

your mom does not need his stealing and ignorance!



if they are not out by then, change the locks on the doors.

Wow nok, that is hard. If your brother and girl don't work, bring them home some job applications from Macdonald's or something, tell them to start filling them out, they have a specific time period to start working or they have to move. You can tell him from me with a PhD, work is work. He can either go tutor at one of the Sylvan type agencies, or do menial labor. I work up to 3 jobs to support myself and my husband, and I don't give myself airs what degree I have-work is work. We all would like the fancy jobs at a big college, but I am thankful for what I have. I know what job he can get right away-a substitute teacher. He is qualified, they are always desparate for them, and they pay about $100/day. And the girl can do that also, there is no excuse for them not to work.

It is not your "responsibility" to take care of your brother the freeloader. I wouldn't give one penny to him or his awful rude lover. Do they ever say "thankyou". Probably not as they know you will fork over your hard earned cash to them so they can go waste it. They sound like the most two self centered a$$wipes.

If you threatened to move out what would happen?

damn postman!

still missing 3 parcels and 4 Christmas cards!:sneaky::sneaky:

nok, that sounds like a terrible situation for you. With your mom being so ill, have you tried telling them you would give them some money if they become the caretakers of her? They both sound like spoiled brats and they should be kicked out right away. If your mom sides with them all the time, I'd move out...and what would happen if you told everyone "NO" about giving them money?

Odie;1095818 wrote: damn postman!

still missing 3 parcels and 4 Christmas cards!:sneaky::sneaky:


I'm missing a few myself. Just got a card today from a friend with a Christmas lollypop in it. Yum:-4

Thank you to everyone who replied to my post. All of your replies made me smile. Thank you for all that great advice. Thank you, most of all, for caring. The outpouring of love and concern that I receive from FG is enormous ! You guys and girls are THE BEST !!!!! :-6 I love all of you !!!! :-4

nok;1096301 wrote: Thank you to everyone who replied to my post. All of your replies made me smile. Thank you for all that great advice. Thank you, most of all, for caring. The outpouring of love and concern that I receive from FG is enormous ! You guys and girls are THE BEST !!!!! :-6 I love all of you !!!! :-4


sorry I got a bit nasty about the whole situation, but your mom deserves better!:-4

I still say, thrown them out!

Odie, please don't apologize. I appreciate your straightforwardness. I need it. Thanks again !

nok, much good advice was already given by your FG friends! Just adding my 2 cents worth. You said you're your moms "care-giver", that's very admirable of you! She raised you (& your brother) when you were a child, so now you're very kindly reciprocating, which is understandable. However, you certainly are not & should not be your brother's & or his lovers "caregiver", and or enabler!!! You owe them no support, especially after seeing how selfishly self centered they both are!

You may want to consider to start living your own life, as you will find life is short, so don't let it pass you bye!

Good luck & best wishes on whatever you decide!

nok;1096322 wrote: Odie, please don't apologize. I appreciate your straightforwardness. I need it. Thanks again !


Because you don't live with your mom, is there anything you can do to get your brother out from under her?

She's old now and is not well, I feel for her!

nok;1096301 wrote: Thank you to everyone who replied to my post. All of your replies made me smile. Thank you for all that great advice. Thank you, most of all, for caring. The outpouring of love and concern that I receive from FG is enormous ! You guys and girls are THE BEST !!!!! :-6 I love all of you !!!! :-4


Just remember hun, you're always welcome and accepted here...no matter what. :-4

Todays whine....my 16yr old just got her drivers license today. She's a great driver so I don't worry too much. This is my last kid to go thru this and although I'm proud of her, it brings a certain type of sadness. She's growing up to fast and pretty soon I'll have no kids here.

shelbell;1097688 wrote: Todays whine....my 16yr old just got her drivers license today. She's a great driver so I don't worry too much. This is my last kid to go thru this and although I'm proud of her, it brings a certain type of sadness. She's growing up to fast and pretty soon I'll have no kids here.


congrats to her, that is huge for her!



suck it up mom, you got many more years to go with her!:-4:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Odie;1097766 wrote: congrats to her, that is huge for her!



suck it up mom, you got many more years to go with her!:-4:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


Yeah, it's huge for her and she is loving it! It's hard to just suck it up, she's only got 1 1/2 yrs of high school left then she's going to college to study nursing. *sigh*

:-1If i put a post here. i am afraid it would be like writing a BOOK. But to sum it all up. The holidays were a NIGHTMARE:-1 Let's see, it involved CRYING,arguing,ANGER, disappointment. Despair, STRESS, :-5 I guess that about sums it up.:mad:

southern yankee;1099663 wrote: :-1If i put a post here. i am afraid it would be like writing a BOOK. But to sum it all up. The holidays were a NIGHTMARE:-1 Let's see, it involved CRYING,arguing,ANGER, disappointment. Despair, STRESS, :-5 I guess that about sums it up.:mad:


so sorry hun, the holidays can be very stressful!

southern yankee;1099663 wrote: :-1If i put a post here. i am afraid it would be like writing a BOOK. But to sum it all up. The holidays were a NIGHTMARE:-1 Let's see, it involved CRYING,arguing,ANGER, disappointment. Despair, STRESS, :-5 I guess that about sums it up.:mad:


Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry to hear the holidays were so bad for you. Just remember, when you're ready, you have an ear ready to listen...and you can go on and on as much as you'd like. I will wait patiently for your e-mail. :-4

I :-4 my sis Odie, but I also :-4 and miss my sis SY. Where are you sis????

jimbo;1101237 wrote: i'm sick of this thread :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


Now, don't you feel better after that whine and complaint? :p:p:p

Hold the complaint, I'll settle for a small wine !!!

:sneaky:

Im so sick of being off work I cant wait to get back! want to get out when Im there and back when Im off :-5