The trial starts Monday

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Jun 10, 2006 3:55 pm

That sounds good, BR. TV news likes to make a scoop, and you intriqued them so they will help investigate. Let us know if they respond.

We are wishing you well, and Bullet, through all of this.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat Jun 10, 2006 3:57 pm

It can only bring attention to the situation. I'm wondering did this dead guy have friends in your town, are they rich, connected??? Could they have gotten to the Jury in any way....

Or am I thinking to much like John Grisham "Run away Jury"....

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Sat Jun 10, 2006 3:59 pm

continued thoughts and prayers to you both!

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Jun 10, 2006 9:47 pm

weeder wrote: Its always good to fight back Criss... Often, we take the outcome of important matters all too lightly. Letting others have controll over our lives. There is nothing more important than this. Good for you... great determination and dedicatin to a personal cause can often bring about change.
Weeder....my angel. I have gotten past the tears, as they are a waste of time and energy. Now...well, now I'm just p!ssed. And a p!ssed-off BR with her husband's life at stake is a formidable thing. I will scream loud and long till someone, somewhere listens. I will fight dirty if I have to, I will not play fair. I will do whatever it takes to bring the truth of this case out into the light of day. This warrior has a battle to fight, and I will not stop until I have won. There is no other option. Resistance is futile. :yh_rotfl

(If I don't laugh, I'll crack and I can't afford to crack.)

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Jun 10, 2006 9:52 pm

CARLA wrote: It can only bring attention to the situation. I'm wondering did this dead guy have friends in your town, are they rich, connected??? Could they have gotten to the Jury in any way....

Or am I thinking to much like John Grisham "Run away Jury"....

No, Carla....these are crack dealers living in the ghetto. Any money they have is drug money, and not a lot of that, I can assure you. This is simply a travesty of justice that I will fight to the bitter end to correct.

He turns himself in on Monday, and will sit in jail for 10 days till his sentencing, (on June 22nd) at which I hope to have the media and many, MANY letters of character reference. I will drown the judge and the system in glowing words about Matt and do whatever else it takes to make this thing right. (Some of you have received email from me regarding letters of reference. I appreciate the response so far, and I know I'm asking a lot of people who have never met the man, but thank you for your efforts thus far.)

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 2:45 am

BabyRider wrote: Weeder....my angel. I have gotten past the tears, as they are a waste of time and energy. Now...well, now I'm just p!ssed. And a p!ssed-off BR with her husband's life at stake is a formidable thing. I will scream loud and long till someone, somewhere listens. I will fight dirty if I have to, I will not play fair. I will do whatever it takes to bring the truth of this case out into the light of day. This warrior has a battle to fight, and I will not stop until I have won. There is no other option. Resistance is futile. :yh_rotfl

(If I don't laugh, I'll crack and I can't afford to crack.)
Now THAT'S the BR we know and love. I hope Bullet realizes what a lucky man he is to have you on his side.

cars · Post by **cars** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 5:10 am

BabyRider wrote: Weeder....my angel. I have gotten past the tears, as they are a waste of time and energy. Now...well, now I'm just p!ssed. And a p!ssed-off BR with her husband's life at stake is a formidable thing. I will scream loud and long till someone, somewhere listens. I will fight dirty if I have to, I will not play fair. I will do whatever it takes to bring the truth of this case out into the light of day. This warrior has a battle to fight, and I will not stop until I have won. There is no other option. Resistance is futile. :yh_rotfl

(If I don't laugh, I'll crack and I can't afford to crack.)

You go get em "WARRIOR PRINCESS"!

(You will overcome, of that, I have no doubt!)

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 5:11 am

Now...well, now I'm just p!ssed. And a p!ssed-off BR with her husband's life at stake is a formidable thing. I will scream loud and long till someone, somewhere listens. I will fight dirty if I have to, I will not play fair. I will do whatever it takes to bring the truth of this case out into the light of day. This warrior has a battle to fight, and I will not stop until I have won.
For those of you who don't know, I'm BR's sister - not just Internet "sister", but flesh-and-blood we-share-parents sister. And let me tell you from LONG experience, a pissed-off BR is indeed a force to be reckoned with. If there is anything that can be done, she'll find it, and use it.

I'm working on a letter - don't you worry, I'm not going to let this one go without doing everything I can to help. You'll have it from me in a day or two, sis, and anything - anything - else I can do.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 5:55 am

BabyRider wrote: And a p!ssed-off BR with her husband's life at stake is a formidable thing. I will scream loud and long till someone, somewhere listens.

Baby Rider, even though we don't know each other well, I'm so impressed with your passion to make things right. And love is the strongest motivator of all, isn't it?

I'm with you in spirit, BR . . . you go, girl!:)

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 5:30 pm

I thought my thread had been deleted...I forgot where I'd put it.

Tomorrow morning, Bullet goes to turn himself in. The lawyer is meeting us and is asking for a recess till noon or so, so that we can go have a meal and discuss options.

Our first option is appeal. The problem with that is, if an appeal with bond is granted and we can't come up with the amount of the bond, he sits in county jail till the appeal comes through. He would rather be in prison, than a county jail. Especially Wayne County. It's a horrible place. The thought of him being there even for the next 10 days makes my skin crawl.

On sentencing date, June 22nd, the lawyer is also going to ask for a sentence related to a lesser charge, which is in the judge's power to grant. The next 10 days are going to be a major bitch, as I won't be able to see or probably talk to him. But I will see him on the 22nd, regardless of what happens.

Right now he's visiting with his kids for the last time before he goes in. Damn guys, I am a total F-ing wreck. Putting on a brave front for him, though. My sister, Erinna (here) screwed that all up when we had our family dinner about 20 minutes ago. We all met up at Texas Roadhouse so Matt could have a big steak dinner, and my sister started bawling at the end. Dammit, E, that messed me all up!!

Anyway...that's the latest. Keep good thoughts, please, as you have been doing all along. I'm going to hang here with you all till he gets home.

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 5:55 pm

I tried SO hard to hold it in. I swore up and down that I wasn't going to do that...been kicking myself for the last half hour.

:-2

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 5:58 pm

Erinna1112 wrote: I tried SO hard to hold it in. I swore up and down that I wasn't going to do that...been kicking myself for the last half hour.

:-2
Actually I thought you did damn good, as emotional as you normally are. No worries, he's going through something even tougher with his kids right now, and he'll be pretty messed up when he gets home. We're staying up all night long, not wasting any time with sleeping, and getting a ride from "Q" to the court in the morning.

Don't worry about it, you done good, and thanks for taking Josh home. Did he say anything of significance?

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:02 pm

Mom took him, actually. She said she doesn't get to see him often, so she wanted to take him.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:02 pm

Hang with us, BR. We are here for you and Bullet.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:05 pm

Erinna1112 wrote: Mom took him, actually. She said she doesn't get to see him often, so she wanted to take him.
Ahh...ok. I'm sure he got an earful on the way home about how to help me, and to be around, etc, etc, etc....and more. Poor kid...

:wah:

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:06 pm

chonsigirl wrote: Hang with us, BR. We are here for you and Bullet.
Thanks, Chonsi....you guys will probably be sick of me before too long!! I promise not to get weepy, though.

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:07 pm

BabyRider wrote: Ahh...ok. I'm sure he got an earful on the way home about how to help me, and to be around, etc, etc, etc....and more. Poor kid...

:wah:
More'n likely. It's a mom thing. Well, a grandma thing in this instance.

Post by **spot** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:12 pm

You know what, BR? I spent a half hour reading up on your local Senator, Barack Obama, and considering what role he performs in Illinois itself. I'll find better background information on more relevant local people and offices, I expect - but it struck me that though you might not agree, I thought a lot of him. Some people really do seem to go into politics for the public good.

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:20 pm

BR - did you move and not tell me???

:wah:

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:24 pm

spot wrote: You know what, BR? I spent a half hour reading up on your local Senator, Barack Obama, and considering what role he performs in Illinois itself. I'll find better background information on more relevant local people and offices, I expect - but it struck me that though you might not agree, I thought a lot of him. Some people really do seem to go into politics for the public good.
Spot...love ya, appreciate your efforts, and I hate to see them wasted, but....er....I live in Michigan.

And DAMN, you were close!! :yh_rotfl

Post by **spot** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:26 pm

BabyRider wrote: Spot...love ya, appreciate your efforts, and I hate to see them wasted, but....er....I live in Michigan.

And DAMN, you were close!! :yh_rotflI started at Alabama and worked up from there. Come on, I must have been within a few miles.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 6:29 pm

spot wrote: I started at Alabama and worked up from there. Come on, I must have been within a few miles.
Actually, it takes a little over 4 hours to drive from my location to Chicago, Illinois, so yeah....you were zeroing in on it any second!!

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 7:00 pm

Oh Crissy

I wish I had the wisdom to know what to say. :-1

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sun Jun 11, 2006 8:19 pm

Nomad, good to see you we miss you man..!! :-4 I can get ride of my lemon Nomadness is back..!! :guitarist

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 2:27 am

((((((((((((((((((((((((( BR )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

First time I've had a change to get on the internet long enough to read anything. Ah.... Honey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sending a trillion thought waves. I fly out of London tonight and will be home in Oz on Wednesday.. will catch up properly then. Racking my brains to see if there is any practical way we FGers can help you, besides the moral support, of course !!! And hi Erinna.

cars · Post by **cars** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 3:02 am

Nomad wrote: Oh Crissy

I wish I had the wisdom to know what to say. :-1

WLECOME back Nomie,

it's just too bad it had to take something like this to bring you back! But it's good to see you back!

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 4:39 am

BR --

Please feel free to do it all here: laugh, cry, share, get mad, get hopeful, make constructive plans . . .

We'll help you sort everything out. Utilize us.

cars · Post by **cars** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 4:55 am

Well BR the sorrowful day is here, so you'll have to try to be strong for all of you.

It's easier said then done, to be sure, but if anyone can pull it off, it surely is you!

You both will be in my thoughts & prayers today!!!! Good Luck.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 5:30 am

sending you lots of :yh_hugs :yh_hugs :yh_hugs today! :-1

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 6:59 am

BR, you and Bullet are in my thoughts and prayers today this is going to be a tough day... :-1 :-1

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 7:17 am

cherandbuster wrote: BR --

Please feel free to do it all here: laugh, cry, share, get mad, get hopeful, make constructive plans . . .

We'll help you sort everything out. Utilize us.

I'm numb. Can't seem to feel a thing. I just took him in. A brother drove us down so I wouldn't have to drive after, and it's a good thing, too, because I don't remember the ride home. All I know is I'm home, and my other half is missing. Part of me is sitting in the jail cell with him. But, I may get to see him tomorrow. I went to the jail to get all the info I need to contact him, how to send him letters and such. As soon as I get his inmate number, I'll be able to send him letters. He hasn't been here in a long time, but I know some of you enjoyed interacting with him when he was, so if you care to write to him, let me know by PM, and I'll make sure you get the address.

I am going to be here a while, I need the company. Company that's around but not right here next to me.

Nomad, I'm glad you're back. FG would not have been anything like it was before if you had stayed away.

Luv you guys.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 7:20 am

BabyRider wrote: I'm numb. Can't seem to feel a thing. I just took him in. A brother drove us down so I wouldn't have to drive after, and it's a good thing, too, because I don't remember the ride home. All I know is I'm home, and my other half is missing. Part of me is sitting in the jail cell with him. But, I may get to see him tomorrow. I went to the jail to get all the info I need to contact him, how to send him letters and such. As soon as I get his inmate number, I'll be able to send him letters. He hasn't been here in a long time, but I know some of you enjoyed interacting with him when he was, so if you care to write to him, let me know by PM, and I'll make sure you get the address.

I am going to be here a while, I need the company. Company that's around but not right here next to me.

Nomad, I'm glad you're back. FG would not have been anything like it was before if you had stayed away.

Luv you guys.

Oh BR we are all here for you as best as we can be from so far away. And like Chonsi said feel free to express anything you want here. We hope we can be of any help for you.

Minks

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 7:35 am

BIIIIIIG Hug to you BR. :yh_hugs :yh_hugs

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 8:29 am

*big hug for BR*

We luv ya, BR!

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 10:37 am

BabyRider wrote: Thanks, Chonsi....you guys will probably be sick of me before too long!! I promise not to get weepy, though.

BR - you're coping like a Trojan and all respect to you, but if you need to get all weepy here to keep you strong at home then go for it

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 11:41 am

Bryn Mawr wrote: BR - you're coping like a Trojan and all respect to you, but if you need to get all weepy here to keep you strong at home then go for it

Ahh, thanks guys. What else can I do but cope? I have to be strong for him.

His daughter just called me, wanting details, and I had none to give her yet. I don't even have his inmate # for her to write to him yet. She sounded good, tough like me, and asked practical questions.

I told her that in the county jail, no one under 17 can visit him, but that he'd only be there for a few weeks, and she'd gone longer than that not seeing him. If he gets to Jackson, we have a brother from the Blue Angels who is a corrections officer there, so we're hoping that's where he ends up. Either there, or the 26 mile road facility, that is really close to us all.

I just slept for about 4 hours. An escape, I guess, chiken-sh!t as that is. I'm getting lots of character letters through email, some we took to the judge this morning. Those from here who are sending, thank you so much, and keep them coming. I want to drown the judge in them.

Get this: while we were sitting in the courtroom, waiting for them to take Matt into custody, the prosecutor walked in and SMILED at me. I said, "You're not actually smiling at ME are you?!?!?!!! Screw you", (only re-place "screw" for another word). Matt chided me, but I couldn't help myself.

When we left we went to the bank of elevators and he was there again. He got into an elevator and was holding the door for me. I said, "If you think I'm getting on that thing with you in there, you're as crazy as you are stupid."

This anger scares me. I want to hurt people. I don't know how I'm going to manage work tomorrow. But I have to try. I have to try and get some semblance of normalcy back in a life that is totally abnormal with Matt gone. I don't know how to be without him. How do you live with half of you missing?

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 11:54 am

BR, the first few days will be a blur. You will go through the motions of life, but not living it. It will start to focus again, but in another direction. You do go on with life, with half of you gone. Your man will return one day, and you will be there strong and waiting for him.

You will fade in and out with different feelings, BR. Just like for someone who has died, but different. Pain, grief, depression, etc. Denial is the worst phase. You cannot deny it has happened, but you will at first. You will learn to deal with it, as much as you possibly can. When you get through the blurry phase, go to the practical things that need done.

How do I keep the house going?

Taking care of the kids and family?

Being in touch with Bullet, visits, etc.

How do I juggle my work during this time?

Be practical when you can deal with this, and go through what needs to be done. Ask people to help you, when you cannot do something. If there is no help available for some things, learn to depend on yourself to get them done.

You will not remember all this now, but you will later on when you need it. I had to learn to live without half-for my husband is no longer what he was, but is almost like a child to take care of, but he is still mine and I love him. And I always will.

You always will too.

Come to me for advice when you can handle it, and your family is very supportive. And everyone here is also. We will help you, and every stage you go through.

I am sorry this is long, but I thought it was practical advice for you now. It is all said in love.:-4

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 11:58 am

Pinky wrote: I don't think anyone can blame you for reacting like that. I really admire you, you're holding up so well in spite of everything. You go out and do exactly what you said - shout and scream until people listen!
There's my biker sister!!! Thanks, Pink. I'm just angry and the chance to lash out at the man who put him where he is was totally worthwhile. I didn't care about repurcussions. I hope that sick bastard rots in hell.

One thing he said that I plan on screaming long and loud about in his closing arguments, was that ANY 9mm clip can fit into ANY 9mm gun. That is just flat-out wrong, and false. The Glock that Slick had cannot fit into the magazine of the Kel-Tech Bullet had.

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 12:08 pm

Pinky wrote: I'd be tempted to see if it fitted up the creep's butthole actually!
Pinky, honest, you reallyreally have to learn not to hold stuff in like that. C'mon, tell us what you really think.

:wah:

Erinna1112 · Post by **Erinna1112** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 12:12 pm

Pinky wrote: Sorry, I do tend to say what I think! Maybe I shouldn't sometimes, but I can't seem to help myself:-3

Just call me gob-on-a-stick!:D
LOL...I wasn't complaining. Quite the contrary...I was about to offer to hold your coat

I'd call you a gob-on-a-stick but it doesn't sound very complimentary...:-3

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Mon Jun 12, 2006 12:47 pm

chonsigirl wrote: BR, the first few days will be a blur. You will go through the motions of life, but not living it. It will start to focus again, but in another direction. You do go on with life, with half of you gone. Your man will return one day, and you will be there strong and waiting for him.

You will fade in and out with different feelings, BR. Just like for someone who has died, but different. Pain, grief, depression, etc. Denial is the worst phase. You cannot deny it has happened, but you will at first. You will learn to deal with it, as much as you possibly can. When you get through the blurry phase, go to the practical things that need done.

How do I keep the house going?

Taking care of the kids and family?

Being in touch with Bullet, visits, etc.

How do I juggle my work during this time?

Be practical when you can deal with this, and go through what needs to be done. Ask people to help you, when you cannot do something. If there is no help available for some things, learn to depend on yourself to get them done.

You will not remember all this now, but you will later on when you need it. I had to learn to live without half-for my husband is no longer what he was, but is almost like a child to take care of, but he is still mine and I love him. And I always will.

You always will too.

Come to me for advice when you can handle it, and your family is very supportive. And everyone here is also. We will help you, and every stage you go through.

I am sorry this is long, but I thought it was practical advice for you now. It is all said in love.:-4

This was beautiful, Chonsi.

:-1 :-1