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shelbell;1067518 wrote: That sure didn't take long, but mom's have a certain kind of intuition, and you already knew it. Sorry it happened so darned fast SY!:(
Oh it's not over YET. They made up. Here we go again

shelbell;1067522 wrote: OMG! Talk about drama...that's probably all he talked to them about when he had them.


Just wish he'd stop trying to make them choose between us, it's not fair on them.

Betty Boop;1067504 wrote: I know they know really, nearly four years down the line and you'd think he may just quit playing this game huh. Not nice to have your 11 year old boy spitting venom at you, he doesn't realise that he looks and sounds just like his dad .

Thinking about it, this could be a simple fact of the ex finding out that I'm at uni, the children don't offer up information easily about me as he always flies off the handle, bet thats what it is, and if so :wah:


Sounds like what we went thru with middle daughter...everytime she came home from her moms she was just nasty....And sorry to tell you this Betty, it usually doesn't get any better until the kids are outta the house. That's when we were finally able to relax and know that we didn't haffta mess with her anymore....I hope it doesn't take that long for you. :-4

southern yankee;1067524 wrote: oh it's not over yet. They made up. Here we go again


ugh! :-5:-5

Betty Boop;1067526 wrote: Just wish he'd stop trying to make them choose between us, it's not fair on them.


What we did was tell our daughter that we don't want info on her mom's life, it's not our business. Then we told her that we wouldn't make her choose between us and her mom, that she didn't need to worry about that. It seemed to help.

shelbell;1067527 wrote: Sounds like what we went thru with middle daughter...everytime she came home from her moms she was just nasty....And sorry to tell you this Betty, it usually doesn't get any better until the kids are outta the house. That's when we were finally able to relax and know that we didn't haffta mess with her anymore....I hope it doesn't take that long for you. :-4


Sigh... oh no. It's mainly just the boy, the ex has always maintained I don't have a connection with him, I didn't when he was born, 8 weeks prem and delivered by emergency ceasarian. Every sane person knows that it is quite common for bonding to take a while under those circumstances. We did bond eventually but the ex won't let it go.

Oh well, the evidence is that the children have settled into school brilliantly, they have been living with me 24/7 since August. Their school teacher meetings two weeks ago were the best ever!

Betty Boop;1067534 wrote: Sigh... oh no. It's mainly just the boy, the ex has always maintained I don't have a connection with him, I didn't when he was born, 8 weeks prem and delivered by emergency ceasarian. Every sane person knows that it is quite common for bonding to take a while under those circumstances. We did bond eventually but the ex won't let it go.

Oh well, the evidence is that the children have settled into school brilliantly, they have been living with me 24/7 since August. Their school teacher meetings two weeks ago were the best ever!


Sometimes that happens as far as the bonding experience...it's different for everyone. It's so great that the kids are doing great in school...that's a reflection of you Betty. :-6

hello...............:yh_rotfl

Odie;1067577 wrote: hello...............:yh_rotfl


aherm.... oopps sorry, whine, moan, whine, moan, whine oh and a :-5:-5 for luck :D

Betty Boop;1067584 wrote: aherm.... oopps sorry, whine, moan, whine, moan, whine oh and a :-5:-5 for luck :D


just joking hun, carry on, thats what its all about!

Odie;1067586 wrote: just joking hun, carry on, thats what its all about!


Now I'll moan about the weather, its cold and blowing a hooley, NO SNOW here please.

Betty Boop;1067589 wrote: Now I'll moan about the weather, its cold and blowing a hooley, NO SNOW here please.


It had better not snow here either! I'm driving to virginia and back this week... and i don't do snow!:-6:D

Betty Boop;1067589 wrote: Now I'll moan about the weather, its cold and blowing a hooley, NO SNOW here please.


its been cold here for days, 18degrees

snowed last week, 8 inches........first one of the year, it fell gentle and at night the houses had their Christmas lights on.......seemed magical!

Betty Boop;1067584 wrote: aherm.... oopps sorry, whine, moan, whine, moan, whine oh and a :-5:-5 for luck :D


You've caught on well to this thread...now you're one of us!!!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Odie;1067603 wrote: its been cold here for days, 18degrees

snowed last week, 8 inches........first one of the year, it fell gentle and at night the houses had their Christmas lights on.......seemed magical!


That is so cool! I love a fresh snow over Christmas lights...it is magical. :-4

Well, hubby couldn't do it, so I finally did. I made the call to the police tonight about my stolen rings. I reached my limit. So, if they track down any leads and connect it to middle daughter, they will arrest her on felony theft. We're gonna try to get a picture from the place we bought the rings, and now we have a case number, so we're gonna go around to the pawn shops in the area and make sure they know it's been reported as stolen. The cop even called her and tried to let her come clean cuz then I would have dropped the whole thing, but she tried to blame her dad!!! my hubby!!! It was so funny cuz the cop rolled his eyes and shook his head at that one. We won't file a claim with insurance until we've exhausted all options. :-5:-5

My damn e-mail is not working tonight, I'm thinking they're doing some work on it cuz the rest of the website works. So if anyone has sent me an e-mail, this is why I haven't responded. :-5:-5

It's raining/sleeting out tonight and tomorrow they're calling for snow showers. Yuck!

shelbell;1067640 wrote: Well, hubby couldn't do it, so I finally did. I made the call to the police tonight about my stolen rings. I reached my limit. So, if they track down any leads and connect it to middle daughter, they will arrest her on felony theft. We're gonna try to get a picture from the place we bought the rings, and now we have a case number, so we're gonna go around to the pawn shops in the area and make sure they know it's been reported as stolen. The cop even called her and tried to let her come clean cuz then I would have dropped the whole thing, but she tried to blame her dad!!! my hubby!!! It was so funny cuz the cop rolled his eyes and shook his head at that one. We won't file a claim with insurance until we've exhausted all options. :-5:-5


Sad sad call to make.... I do hope you find your rings, that is the important part.



the cop rolled his eyes....not a good sign for your daughter is it....he obviously knows something is up.

shelbell;1067639 wrote: That is so cool! I love a fresh snow over Christmas lights...it is magical. :-4 snow???? what is that???:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

southern yankee;1067907 wrote: snow???? what is that???:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


If you moved up 4 states to the north you would know:yh_rotfl

southern yankee;1067907 wrote: snow???? what is that???:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


fluffy cold stuff!

you have to shovel your driveway

you have to shovel your walkway and portch

salt your driveway, no not table salt!:yh_rotfl

special salt that melts the ice and snow....so you don't fall down on your head.:-5

and if you have a sidewalk in front of your house, it must be shovelled within 24 hours of any snow falling, so people don't slip and sue you!...it's true!

thank god we don't have a sidewalk here.......so much easier!

Odie;1067921 wrote: fluffy cold stuff!

you have to shovel your driveway

you have to shovel your walkway and portch

salt your driveway, no not table salt!:yh_rotfl

special salt that melts the ice and snow....so you don't fall down on your head.:-5

and if you have a sidewalk in front of your house, it must be shovelled within 24 hours of any snow falling, so people don't slip and sue you!...it's true!

thank god we don't have a sidewalk here.......so much easier!


A pain in the butt to drive in.

Your kids get off for the day.

Need boots, mittens, hats - everything

qsducks;1067925 wrote: A pain in the butt to drive in.

Your kids get off for the day.

Need boots, mittens, hats - everything


but when the kids are off school, you can take them sledding!:yh_rotfl

Odie;1067728 wrote: Sad sad call to make.... I do hope you find your rings, that is the important part.



the cop rolled his eyes....not a good sign for your daughter is it....he obviously knows something is up.


I'm not sure why she would blame her dad...isn't that sad? While the cop was talking to her on the phone he rolled his eyes AND shook his head. Hubby called the jewelry store today and they are going to check all their stores to see if anyone has that set. They are going to try to get us a picture too to take around to pawn shops. If they can't get those exact rings, which are 7yrs old, they are going to try to get the manufacturer to make one set. So we've gotta lot of things moving now, but I still really doubt I'll see my original rings again.

southern yankee;1067907 wrote: snow???? what is that???:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


:p:p:p:p

southern yankee;1067907 wrote: snow???? what is that???:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


Oh, we did get a little snow...just enough to stick to the grass. Has anyone else noticed that we now only have two seasons.....summer and winter? I'm not sure what happened to spring and fall.

shelbell;1068100 wrote: Oh, we did get a little snow...just enough to stick to the grass. Has anyone else noticed that we now only have two seasons.....summer and winter? I'm not sure what happened to spring and fall.


for once last year we had a proper spring, and summer was much cooler, thank goodness!:guitarist

Odie;1067921 wrote: fluffy cold stuff!

you have to shovel your driveway

you have to shovel your walkway and portch

salt your driveway, no not table salt!:yh_rotfl

special salt that melts the ice and snow....so you don't fall down on your head.:-5

and if you have a sidewalk in front of your house, it must be shovelled within 24 hours of any snow falling, so people don't slip and sue you!...it's true!

thank god we don't have a sidewalk here.......so much easier! i have not done that in over 15 years. sure don't miss it.

Odie;1068213 wrote: for once last year we had a proper spring, and summer was much cooler, thank goodness!:guitarist cool summer, i wish:-2

So i did the grocery thing again. UP UP UP!!! I complain all the time, about it. The stores have us by the PRIVATES:mad::mad::-5

Odie;1068213 wrote: for once last year we had a proper spring, and summer was much cooler, thank goodness!:guitarist


Lucky....it just seems to me that we skip spring and fall....it sucks!

shelbell;1068279 wrote: Lucky....it just seems to me that we skip spring and fall....it sucks!


ALL OF OUR OTHER SPRINGS HAVE BEEN SUMMER WEATHER.....GR~



to hot to fast, 35C and it continued straight thru Sept!:-5:-5

Well, I saw the doc today and he answered all my questions about this new treatment for pain. (yes Odie, he can get it done by the end of the year.:yh_rotfl) I go in Monday to do the trial....2 electrodes put in along my spine, one on each side, and they will be taped on and I'll have an exterior remote(doc said this could take 1-4hrs). If it seems to work, then I wait about a week to get the permanant unit put in. Two more electrodes up by my spine and an implanted control device, probably in my rear. There will be a remote for that one too, but I'll have everything inside and nothing hanging out. I'm praying this helps.:yh_pray

shelbell;1068335 wrote: Well, I saw the doc today and he answered all my questions about this new treatment for pain. (yes Odie, he can get it done by the end of the year.:yh_rotfl) I go in Monday to do the trial....2 electrodes put in along my spine, one on each side, and they will be taped on and I'll have an exterior remote(doc said this could take 1-4hrs). If it seems to work, then I wait about a week to get the permanant unit put in. Two more electrodes up by my spine and an implanted control device, probably in my rear. There will be a remote for that one too, but I'll have everything inside and nothing hanging out. I'm praying this helps.:yh_pray


so you can remote control them for pain?

Odie;1068337 wrote: so you can remote control them for pain?


Right, it's bizarre, but I can use the remote to make the inside unit go up or down depending on pain levels, and also it can make the current from the electrodes move to different areas that might be feeling worse than usual.

shelbell;1068340 wrote: Right, it's bizarre, but I can use the remote to make the inside unit go up or down depending on pain levels, and also it can make the current from the electrodes move to different areas that might be feeling worse than usual.


okay...is there any pain medication in this, or just strickly the electrodes?

Odie;1068341 wrote: okay...is there any pain medication in this, or just strickly the electrodes?


Sticktly electrodes...you can always get pain meds as a supplement if needed. The electodes put out an interfering signal to the parts you tell it to...then it blocks the pain from reaching the brain receptors and makes it feel like a warm tingley feeling or sometimes it can feel like a massage.

shelbell;1068347 wrote: Sticktly electrodes...you can always get pain meds as a supplement if needed. The electodes put out an interfering signal to the parts you tell it to...then it blocks the pain from reaching the brain receptors and makes it feel like a warm tingley feeling or sometimes it can feel like a massage.


you sound soooooooo excited!

just remember, you have to be relaxed for anything to work.



soooooooooo happy for you!:-4:-4

Odie;1068355 wrote: you sound soooooooo excited!

just remember, you have to be relaxed for anything to work.



soooooooooo happy for you!:-4:-4


I'm not sure if it's excitement, but of hope that I'll finally find something that will take away even just the smallest of my pain.

I try not to hope or get excited about things...then if it doesn't work then I'm not so down from it. If I'm expecting bad then anything positive coming out of it makes it like a huge happy surprise. Does that make sense?

shelbell;1068361 wrote: I'm not sure if it's excitement, but of hope that I'll finally find something that will take away even just the smallest of my pain.

I try not to hope or get excited about things...then if it doesn't work then I'm not so down from it. If I'm expecting bad then anything positive coming out of it makes it like a huge happy surprise. Does that make sense?


very much so.



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me, sensitive? read my second email!:mad:

the one that shows it all!:-5:-5

Odie;1068366 wrote: very much so.



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me, sensitive? read my second email!:mad:

the one that shows it all!:-5:-5


But you being sensitive is why so many of us like you.

I HATE IT, I HATE IT AND DIDN'T WANT IT!:-5:-5

finally we bought a new fridge and GAS STOVE, never ever had new applicances.



husband insists it must be a gas stove!:-5

cooked my breaky, now it has 3 grates, you cannot even rest a spoon on the top!:-5:-5:-5

cleanup: all 3 metal heavy grates have to come off, have to wash them all off, clean off the stove, which is the norm, but then have to put back the 3 heavy metal grates!:-5:-5:-5

for one frying pan!:-5:-5:-5

shelbell;1068335 wrote: Well, I saw the doc today and he answered all my questions about this new treatment for pain. (yes Odie, he can get it done by the end of the year.:yh_rotfl) I go in Monday to do the trial....2 electrodes put in along my spine, one on each side, and they will be taped on and I'll have an exterior remote(doc said this could take 1-4hrs). If it seems to work, then I wait about a week to get the permanant unit put in. Two more electrodes up by my spine and an implanted control device, probably in my rear. There will be a remote for that one too, but I'll have everything inside and nothing hanging out. I'm praying this helps.:yh_pray me too my dear:-4

shelbell;1068347 wrote: Sticktly electrodes...you can always get pain meds as a supplement if needed. The electodes put out an interfering signal to the parts you tell it to...then it blocks the pain from reaching the brain receptors and makes it feel like a warm tingley feeling or sometimes it can feel like a massage. that is amazing:-4

southern yankee;1068959 wrote: me too my dear:-4


Thanks hun!! :-4

southern yankee;1068960 wrote: that is amazing:-4


Technology is amazing. It just sounds so bizarre to me. But maybe this one thing will finally help!!!:-4

Well my dear friends, I'm off. I haven't felt good all day and I'm feeling worse....gotta make sure I'm healthy for Monday's doc appt!!

Ya'll have a great evening.

:-4 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo :-4

I've gotta go clean my kitchen now and I really don't wanna. Hopefully I'll have time to get back on in a little while.

shelbell;1069651 wrote: I've gotta go clean my kitchen now and I really don't wanna. Hopefully I'll have time to get back on in a little while. don't work too hard:-4

southern yankee;1069657 wrote: don't work too hard:-4


I didn't, but I still have stuff to do. It's just break time.