ForumGarden

koan;568452 wrote: Without intending any offense to people who have, with good intentions, taken the time to let us know they won't be around for awhile, I'm getting sick of seeing these judgemental threads stating that they want the impossible: For ForumGarden to never change.

Everything in life is in a constant state of change. This is not real life but you can't seriously think it would be interesting to carefully select a group of people we like and freeze them into a static space on the internet. If you want to go, fine! Go and come back later if you want. I started this thread to tell you all that you disrupt the board when you announce why you are leaving unless it is purely for personal reason not related to what you think of the forum members. We care about you as people. I, for one, do not care what you think of ForumGarden as a group.

These dramatic goodbye threads have rarely served a good purpose in the past and have just become another tool for insulting the members. Because that's what they are: an insult.

We care about you but we don't want to hear about what you think ForumGarden used to be, is at present or will become.

I say "we" for matters of convenience. This is a thread for the members to agree or disagree. To offer suggestions on how to discourage departing members from making an ass of themselves.

Are you sick of hearing about how boring, immature, mean, unfriendly... fill in the blank... we are?


Without reading this entire thread, I'm throwing my 2 cents out. If I repeat anything already said, just consider it validated by me.

I'm not a regular here but when I do visit, there is always a "goodbye" thread sitting in "new posts". I glance through it and it just reeks of "attention seeking" in my opinion. Not only that, but someone who made a 'goodbye' thread just a few weeks before is active and posting again all over the place.

I mean really....if you were going to leave the friends you've met here, do they not have NO other means to contact you or vice versa? Do you really feel the need to let them know something you've probably already discussed in private via emails or IMs? I know the first thing I do when I start making a new friend at a forum is exchange emails or msn/yahoo ID's. I don't believe for a minute that FG is your only means of contact with your friends.

So, when you make a 'goodbye' thread, this is the kind of things I imagine are going through your mind:

*I've not gotten enough attention lately and want to see if anyone wants to drop a few nice lines and possibly beg me to stay.

*I want everyone to know that something has happened to upset me and instead of calling the person out on it, opted to make a 'goodbye' thread so everyone will hit me up in private about it and I can talk about the situation behind everyone's back.

*Your ego is crippled and in serious need of stroking.

If there is any other reason, PLEASE, enlighten me. And don't even say you don't come back (even as a guest) and read responses. You couldn't stand not knowing!

Better yet...how about those that want their account deleted? Those are drama queens to the infinite degree.

So Koans' right in everything she said. Give it a break. I'll add that if your gonna leave, don't leave us with the weak and lame impression that a 'goodbye" thread leaves. Just leave. It speaks more than the attention seeking thread.

Never Liked Soap Operas





The Bold and the Beautiful is ok.

Pinky;572960 wrote: When ever I get p1ssed off here, I vent it my journal. It gets it off my chest, no-one can reply and it causes no reactions. Yes, I've given this place a break now and again because sometimes when life is stressy you don't need a bunch of bored attention seeking turds trying to wind you up. That's what's happened in the past.

However, I may come across as nice and a bit dippy sometimes, but trust me...no-one runs me off. I will never give them the satisfaction, and they seem to have got the message and stopped trying. I'm as nasty and calculating as the next one along, and I don't suffer fools. I just up my game in a bit more of a subtle way than most.



I've seen leaving threads by the same person at least three times, and it's always 'Tell me you like me!'

The ones that want to go just go.




yes but do you still like me

This thread is almost as bad as a goodbye thread. Why does it keep coming back again and again?

DesignerGal;572974 wrote: This thread is almost as bad as a goodbye thread. Why does it keep coming back again and again?




good one :wah: :wah: :wah:

Pinky;573016 wrote: Well, why not?

It's true, when someone posts an 'I'm leaving thread' it's usually attention seeking crud. Ooh, tell me how much you looove me, how wanted I am!

How barfworthy is that?:rolleyes:

Not enough going on in RL? get attention by threatening to go.




no pinks dont leave please :rolleyes:

I'm sure I said this entire thread in one paragraph, last week!... :wah:

flopstock;572948 wrote: Here's why I disagree..

If someone has something they want to get off their chest, I say go for it. A lot of folks don't feel as comfortable as some of us do being negative and critical with folks they are going to see every day. So they just sit on it and let it fester until they overload and need to unload on their way out the door.



Doesn't bother me, because I've quit reading them. I don't read other types of threads that just aren't my cup of tea either.



That doesn't mean someone else won't get something out of it I that I wouldn't.



I do think that when those of us still here take the exit threads too seriously and let them insult us... find them demeaning.. or any number of other negative personal feelings, we say more about our egos and insecurities then we do about the person leaving.


Perfect !!!

flopstock;572948 wrote: Here's why I disagree..

If someone has something they want to get off their chest, I say go for it. A lot of folks don't feel as comfortable as some of us do being negative and critical with folks they are going to see every day. So they just sit on it and let it fester until they overload and need to unload on their way out the door.



Doesn't bother me, because I've quit reading them. I don't read other types of threads that just aren't my cup of tea either.



That doesn't mean someone else won't get something out of it I that I wouldn't.



I do think that when those of us still here take the exit threads too seriously and let them insult us... find them demeaning.. or any number of other negative personal feelings, we say more about our egos and insecurities then we do about the person leaving.


It bothered you enough you quit reading them though. So other people have an ego problem but you don't because you don't expose yourself to it. Nice dig but with failed logic. The next bit will be how your reason to quit reading them was better than the reason everyone who dislikes them has for not wanting them to be left on the open board.

"So they just sit on it and let it fester until they overload and need to unload on their way out the door" sounds about right. but I don't see why you'd encourage that.

Thanks for the well wishes.

Same back to you.

As to my day. Threads on forums don't make or break 'em. I don't expect they do for you either so, no harm done.

almostfamous;573343 wrote: Why are we ...back on topic?



gah, you guys :wah:






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Bryn Mawr;569860 wrote: Mods are not needed to merge or lock threads.

Not on FG at any rate.


Not much point in having so many different forums then if we just post them wherever we please which a lot seem to do.

DesignerGal;572974 wrote: This thread is almost as bad as a goodbye thread. Why does it keep coming back again and again?


LMFAO so true, it does! I haven't been reading it for days but catching up on reading the posts now.

Seen loads about TV, food and clips in General Chat.

Give it time and you'll learn where everything seems to go and why it seems to work for us.