My self pity thread

Raven · Post by **Raven** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:29 am

minks wrote: she always makes me cry
*hands minks some tissues*

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:43 pm

cars wrote: So sorry to hear of your loss minks. Time heals all wounds, so cry as you must, until time heals!

:-4

Oh Cars I have not forgot about you, just slow going through all this, thank you thank you yes time is a great healer, and bandaids, I remember my kids always thought the pain could be erased with a band aid, I believe I will go put on on my finger for a little boost.

Thank you Cars.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:46 pm

Pinky wrote: Aw Minks (((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

It doesn't matter how old you are or how well you think you should be able to handle things, it still pullls you apart when you go your own ways.

Things will get that bit easier every day. Do you have a close friend that can come and stay for a day or two? Sometimes it's a comfort just to have someone around.

If I lived near you, I'd be on your doorstep right now with a humungous pile of choccies and ice-cream and I'd bring you cups of tea all day!

My heart goes out to you sweetie. If you need to chat, give us a pm.

Luce xxx

Awww Pinky that was a fantastic gesture, my bestes buddy offered to come stay but.... far to costly for him to fly across the world

I settled for a phone call. I would have welcomed you completely with all the sweets. I escaped to the camp site and hid out in the protection of my loving parents arms

It was nice. Each day is better. I reason with my self that I have one issue to get over, that is lost love, the lad he has far more ... his work, his investments and family... tooo much for him and I wish him well. Pity he chose to go it alone.

Thank you again for the great support

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:48 pm

Uncle Kram wrote: It doesn't matter if you're 20 or 90, male or female. The pain of lost love is the same and there is no shame in shedding a tear. This is a natural mechanism deployed to help you. You are sweet and caring Mel as the comments here and elsewhere about you bear testament to. His loss is the gain of some lucky guy somewhere down the line. Luv ya Mel, even with that daft pink hat

ahahaha thanks you will be happy to know BB's mama has the daft pink hat for now but if I ever return, it's going to belong to some other FG member dang it.

Thanks Kram for the kind words, I am making progress, yes I see it as his loss as well more so than mine. Today is better than yesterday and tomorrow can only improve right

Again thank you.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:52 pm

Oh Jimbo, its tough being hurt, but somehow it is amazing comfort to know we are human and other humans hurt like us as well. And you survived and so shall I. I am in a far less hurtfilled situation than others and I felt silly admitting my hurt and tears but this thread has made me feel ok about my little hurt

Thank you for the comfort.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:55 pm

Beautiful Cher, thanks for checking up on me

I needed to feel your strength thanks so very very much for the kind words

You're kindness is so wonderful.

Mwahhhhhh

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:56 pm

Openmind, poooooor you, you had to listen to 2+ hours of mindless chatter just so I could keep from bawling like a baby. Thanks a million for the talk on the phone... by the time I was done, I didn't feel like I had to cry at every turn

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 1:00 pm

Raven my best mate (you know I am calling everybody mate here in my side of the pond silly the influence you have on me)

Thank you for the endless support, guys this girl is amazing, she has had to hear ever darn detail from conception of this silly relationship... Oh and more gosh she stood by me as my very best friend during my divorce darn darn pity we could not be in the same room always, but to finally have met after 5 years I can only gush about how great she is and has been for me. She is not above giving me a stern WTF are you thinking talk, to huge aw hunny I love you hugs and best of all, I bawled with her in an international airport.

Ok all of you I know I am being sappy, I felt the need to acknowledge everyone for your unique and individual posts.

I am happy to have the best group of friends on the planet.

Thanks everyone of you.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 2:20 pm

My heart hurts for you Mel.....big hugs across the Ocean........remember the quiet, awesome atmosphere of Canterbury Cathedral, the choir singing, the souls of thousands of people through the centuries...I shared that moment with you and I share your heartache now...it'll be fine my freind...another chapter in the book of life....:-4

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 2:24 pm

minks wrote: Openmind, poooooor you, you had to listen to 2+ hours of mindless chatter just so I could keep from bawling like a baby. Thanks a million for the talk on the phone... by the time I was done, I didn't feel like I had to cry at every turn

Minks. I could not bear to see you so unhappy. It was never a burden. I know you would do the same for me if the roles were reversed.:-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 2:25 pm

Bez wrote: My heart hurts for you Mel.....big hugs across the Ocean........remember the quiet, awesome atmosphere of Canterbury Cathedral, the choir singing, the souls of thousands of people through the centuries...I shared that moment with you and I share your heartache now...it'll be fine my freind...another chapter in the book of life....:-4

Oh gosh yes.... that was peaceful... awww now who is encouraging whom? Thank you Bez, yes I was immediately swept back there

as soon as I read Canterbury.... a special place of special friends, bonds and feelings....

Another chapter indeed.

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 6:23 pm

How're you doing, Minksie? (((HUGS)))

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 1:45 am

Another dawn....another day.....another :yh_hugs

:-4

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 2:35 am

OpenMind wrote: Minks. I could not bear to see you so unhappy. It was never a burden. I know you would do the same for me if the roles were reversed.:-4

Ommmm and Minxsy

I'm so touched by the beautiful friendship you two have developed

I think it's just awesome :guitarist

Yavanna · Post by **Yavanna** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 3:48 am

Really sorry, minks - it's a form of bereavement, to have a relationship end, so go through it like that, and mourn. Disbelief - rage - finally (hopefully) resignation ; don't they say those are the stages of loss?

I also went through a "kick him in the nads and strip his hard drive" last time it happened to me, but it didn't particularly help. Well, ok, it helped for a few hours and then I realised I had a lot of stuff saved on his computer of my own and so I kind of regretted it

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 7:43 am

I DO think it helps to remember everything you didn't like about him and get thoroughly ANGRY!

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 7:46 am

Lulu2 wrote: I DO think it helps to remember everything you didn't like about him and get thoroughly ANGRY!

Aww hi gang, I am doing better yet again today. Anger does help Lu2, but I think I am ok with resigning myself to knowing, I only have this single loss that disrupts my life, he has far more on his plate and well if it is his choice to call it quits, It's best to cut ties and run.

Today that feels alright

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 7:55 am

((((HUGS))))......it's HIS loss and it's for YOU to move on and have fun again. Are you ready for my retail therapy with lots of Margaritas afterward plan yet? You will be....

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 7:56 am

Lulu2 wrote: ((((HUGS))))......it's HIS loss and it's for YOU to move on and have fun again. Are you ready for my retail therapy with lots of Margaritas afterward plan yet? You will be....

yap am so ready bring it on

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 8:10 am

OKAYYY! I'll give you a thousand cyber dollars! WHAT SHALL WE BUY?

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 8:12 am

Lulu2 wrote: OKAYYY! I'll give you a thousand cyber dollars! WHAT SHALL WE BUY?

Shoes

Ohhh my what should we buy hmmmmmm fancy, slinky dresses and head out for a night on the town.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 8:16 am

A limo!

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 8:19 am

chonsigirl wrote: A limo!

with all the FG girls

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 8:29 am

Hamster wrote: Did someone mention retail therapy??

Will we be buying Boots and Handbags??? :-4 :driving:

yes yes we will be

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 8:31 am

Ha-ha, which guy here will be your chauffer, minks?

Come on Hamster, lets go shopping with minks!

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 8:35 am

chonsigirl wrote: Ha-ha, which guy here will be your chauffer, minks?

Come on Hamster, lets go shopping with minks!

Oh my decisions decisions,

Well I know for a fact OM would be the perfect gentleman for us classy ladies, so would hire him in a heartbeat.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 9:01 am

Hamster wrote: Yup works for me!! I'm booking a plane ticket right now...can you hang on 9 hours?? :-3

For you.... anything

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 9:33 am

I'm not a shopper

But I wouldn't miss hanging out with you guys FOR ANYTHING! :-4

I'm on my way . . . :driving:

Babies_Mama00 · Post by **Babies_Mama00** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 9:37 am

*clears throat*

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 9:40 am

I KNEW YOU'D SAY SHOES!

OK...we'll get us a "stretch" limo (they're easy to get here...Oscars & all that) and we'll take anyone who's ready for RETAIL THERAPY! Slinky dresses, shoes, perhaps a bauble or two, champagne/Margys in the limo, OM driving....

What else do we need?

I KNOW.....CHIPPENDALES! MALE STRIPPERS!

"Come on girls, we're gonna' paint the town....AND ALL THAT JAZZ!"

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 9:42 am

*climbs in the back seat and sits right next to her girlfriend Lulu2*

LET'S GET THIS PARTY STARTED! :guitarist

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:17 am

Champagne JUST for you, Lady Cher! Anyone else? Name your favorite store....

Babies_Mama00 · Post by **Babies_Mama00** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:21 am

Darnit I cant drink:-1

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:22 am

Lulu2 wrote: Champagne JUST for you, Lady Cher!

And here is a freshly-mixed margharita for you, my love! :guitarist

I put in an extra shot of tequila :p

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:30 am

I hope you realise what my hire charges are.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:31 am

OpenMind wrote: I hope you realise what my hire charges are.

I'm wondering if we can work out a non-monetary payment for our Ommmmm :sneaky:

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:33 am

Babies_Mama00 wrote: *clears throat*

excuse me????

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:34 am

cherandbuster wrote: I'm wondering if we can work out a non-monetary payment for our Ommmmm :sneaky:

I got pocket lint

is that going to cover it hehehe ooo and a yes look a life saver candy

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:38 am

Keep thinking, gals.:-6

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:47 am

Babies'....we have freshly squeezed orange juice, will that do? How about a VIRGIN MARY?

OM...for the pleasure and sheer JOY of watching so many happy women...I suspect you could pay US!

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:48 am

Lulu2 wrote: Babies'....we have freshly squeezed orange juice, will that do? How about a VIRGIN MARY?

OM...for the pleasure and sheer JOY of watching so many happy women...I suspect you could pay US!

Lulu, I'll be watching the road.:rolleyes:

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:49 am

OpenMind wrote: Lulu, I'll be watching the road.:rolleyes:

ooo I bet you sneak a peak in that rear view mirror a few times

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:50 am

OM....just get into the car, please! And have some orange juice! You'll collect enough information to blackmail us for YEARS on this one! :wah:

Babies_Mama00 · Post by **Babies_Mama00** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:51 am

Id much prefer a virgin Cesar.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:52 am

Lulu2 wrote: OM....just get into the car, please! And have some orange juice! You'll collect enough information to blackmail us for YEARS on this one! :wah:

MUM's the word OM, no details shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh;)

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Oct 03, 2006 10:52 am

Babies_Mama00 wrote: Id much prefer a virgin Cesar.

*rummages around in coffin sized cooler*, lookeee here we got all the ingredients, you got it BB