i could really use some friends
i could really use some friends
hello all!
i am a in depserate need of friends. im almost embarassed to say this, but i dont know how to make or keep friends. i like to think that i am a unique, original person. for whatever reason, i just cant seem to find friends...or even how to start.the "friends" that i do have acknowledge my existence only when they need something...until then, im nothing... i dread weekends because this means being holed up at home doing absolutely nothing... where do i start????????????
any advice would be greatly appreciated...
i am a in depserate need of friends. im almost embarassed to say this, but i dont know how to make or keep friends. i like to think that i am a unique, original person. for whatever reason, i just cant seem to find friends...or even how to start.the "friends" that i do have acknowledge my existence only when they need something...until then, im nothing... i dread weekends because this means being holed up at home doing absolutely nothing... where do i start????????????
any advice would be greatly appreciated...
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Hi Avril, welcome to FG. :-6
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i could really use some friends
Start with learning to like yourself.
Spend weekends doing something you like to do. Go to the zoo, or to the museum, or just take yourself to a movie.
Relax. Don't worry so much about how many friends you have, or don't have.
Find a local charity organization that does something you like, and volunteer your free time.
You'll get comfortable with yourself, and it will show, and you'll meet people who like the same things you like.
Pretty soon, you'll be fine.
Oh, and welcome to FG
Spend weekends doing something you like to do. Go to the zoo, or to the museum, or just take yourself to a movie.
Relax. Don't worry so much about how many friends you have, or don't have.
Find a local charity organization that does something you like, and volunteer your free time.
You'll get comfortable with yourself, and it will show, and you'll meet people who like the same things you like.
Pretty soon, you'll be fine.
Oh, and welcome to FG
The home of the soul is the Open Road.
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They only way to have a friend is to be a friend. That takes time and shared experiences.
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avril;1450977 wrote: ..... i dont know how to make or keep friends ...... i just cant seem to find friends...or even how to start....
I see.
avril;1450977 wrote: i dread weekends because this means being holed up at home doing absolutely nothing... .
Well. There's your biggest problem.
People don't just walk up to strangers and say, "Hi! I want to be your friend!" I know you've heard the expression "having something in common". So? What do you do besides "hole up" at home? If you do something else ... I mean REALLY do something else instead of just faking it .... then you will probably increase your chances of making friends based upon whatever it is you do.
I see.
avril;1450977 wrote: i dread weekends because this means being holed up at home doing absolutely nothing... .
Well. There's your biggest problem.
People don't just walk up to strangers and say, "Hi! I want to be your friend!" I know you've heard the expression "having something in common". So? What do you do besides "hole up" at home? If you do something else ... I mean REALLY do something else instead of just faking it .... then you will probably increase your chances of making friends based upon whatever it is you do.
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avril;1450977 wrote: hello all!
i am a in depserate need of friends.
That's interesting. Most of us are desperate for something - recognition for example. You know, like when we give advice or lend a hand but there is no reply of thanks or even dialog. Sort of like "advice greatly appreciated". Know what I mean?
i am a in depserate need of friends.
That's interesting. Most of us are desperate for something - recognition for example. You know, like when we give advice or lend a hand but there is no reply of thanks or even dialog. Sort of like "advice greatly appreciated". Know what I mean?
i could really use some friends
Nobody wants to be used. If you need friends, respect them.
i could really use some friends
I was recently betrayed by 2, supposed 'friends', which nearly lost me my job.
Needless to say I don't consider them as friends any more.
Needless to say I don't consider them as friends any more.
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FourPart;1476750 wrote: I was recently betrayed by 2, supposed 'friends', which nearly lost me my job.
Needless to say I don't consider them as friends any more.
In retrospect, don't you think it would have been wiser to consider them ex-friends the moment you realized their friendship “could feasibly†cost your job … rather than wait?
Needless to say I don't consider them as friends any more.
In retrospect, don't you think it would have been wiser to consider them ex-friends the moment you realized their friendship “could feasibly†cost your job … rather than wait?
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High Threshold;1476753 wrote: In retrospect, don't you think it would have been wiser to consider them ex-friends the moment you realized their friendship “could feasibly†cost your job … rather than wait?
Because it literally happened overnight.
Because it literally happened overnight.
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FourPart;1476799 wrote: Because it literally happened overnight.
That doesn't sound very good.![Sad :(](./images/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif)
That doesn't sound very good.
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All who smile at you are not your friends.
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LarsMac;1476802 wrote: All who smile at you are not your friends.
Don't sugar-coat it. You might give the guy the impression there's hope.
Don't sugar-coat it. You might give the guy the impression there's hope.
i could really use some friends
LarsMac;1476802 wrote: All who smile at you are not your friends.
Shouldn't that be "Not all who smile at you are your friends"?
Shouldn't that be "Not all who smile at you are your friends"?
i could really use some friends
FourPart;1476829 wrote: Shouldn't that be "Not all who smile at you are your friends"?
While the general idea seems the same there are subtle differences in the meaning. But, basically, Same-same.
While the general idea seems the same there are subtle differences in the meaning. But, basically, Same-same.
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i can relate, ive hate a few relationships all gone pear shaped ,im always at a loss then as i have no one , other than my mother who is 84 dont hink she would be up to doing much at weekends , cant see her climbing a mountain going canoeing going for blast on the back of a motorbike tho she would see the funny side if i asked lol even long time since i did these things , id be happy in a deck chair sharing a drink with friend and a nice day these days , im getting old lol
i could really use some friends
travelingjack;1482124 wrote: i can relate, ive hate a few relationships all gone pear shaped ,im always at a loss then as i have no one , other than my mother who is 84 dont hink she would be up to doing much at weekends , cant see her climbing a mountain going canoeing going for blast on the back of a motorbike tho she would see the funny side if i asked lol even long time since i did these things , id be happy in a deck chair sharing a drink with friend and a nice day these days , im getting old lol
Age is something none of us can dodge, I'm afraid, though it does have 2 consolations; Experience and greater (usually) wisdom! Apart from that, I can't see any useful point to growing older, and advise everyone to have nothing to do with it!!:wah:
Age is something none of us can dodge, I'm afraid, though it does have 2 consolations; Experience and greater (usually) wisdom! Apart from that, I can't see any useful point to growing older, and advise everyone to have nothing to do with it!!:wah:
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