Whining and Complaining Only.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:28 pm

Odie;1063486 wrote: I don't!:yh_rotfl

I thought you would feel better getting all those ahhhhhhhhh's outta the way. :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:30 pm

shelbell;1063490 wrote: we're waiting for tomorrow. Her boyfriend is in jail and they've never been able to make bail for him. Daughter is going to the bond hearing tomorrow and if she bails him out, we'll know for sure that she did it then we're going to call the police.

who else would finally bail him out?

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:39 pm

Odie;1063501 wrote: who else would finally bail him out?

No one except her....they don't know anyone else that can come up with the $2000 to get him out. They've tried many times before.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:42 pm

shelbell;1063509 wrote: No one except her....they don't know anyone else that can come up with the $2000 to get him out. They've tried many times before.

so because you know she is attending....perhaps that is the exact time to be ready.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:46 pm

Odie;1063511 wrote: so because you know she is attending....perhaps that is the exact time to be ready.

Except we won't have the proof, even tho she has the motive...we hafta see if he gets out first.

Well, I'm outta here...hubby's home and we're gonna do some more looking. Have a great night sis!!!

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:52 pm

jimbo;1063520 wrote: drama queen :p:p:p:p

ok are you allright

I know, but they mean so much to me and were very expensive.

It's just devastating that one one of your own could do something like that...me and hubby are more devasted by her actually doing that to us more than by the loss of the rings.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:55 pm

shelbell;1063527 wrote: I know, but they mean so much to me and were very expensive.

It's just devastating that one one of your own could do something like that...me and hubby are more devasted by her actually doing that to us more than by the loss of the rings.

it happens sis, my eldest used to do it to us!:-5

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 5:01 pm

jimbo;1063534 wrote:

at the end of the day your kids are your kids

yes they are, and that's what make stealing from parents even worse.

as said, been there............

absolutely no excuse, age has nothing to do with it, period.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 5:07 pm

jimbo;1063534 wrote: my son when he was 16 and had been kicked out by his mother for stealing stole every thing i owned carpets tv pc curtains cooker washing machine everything :-5:-5:-5:-5

he has turned out ok it took a long while but eventually i managed to get over ,stings just a tad though dont it

at the end of the day your kids are your kids ,i expect it was going to be left to her in your will ....... she was just a tad early

:)

Well not this one...she's actually my step-daughter, but I have practically raised her and she calls me mom. She has stolen from us and her younger (now 16) sister so many times we've lost count. If my youngests wants them she'll get them, otherwise they get burried with me. It just hurts when one of your kids stab you in the back....but you know what that's like.

:-5:-5:-5

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 5:10 pm

Odie;1063530 wrote: it happens sis, my eldest used to do it to us!:-5

Yeah, but I was hoping this sh*t would stop once they were outta the house!!!:-5:-5

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 5:10 pm

shelbell;1063544 wrote: Well not this one...she's actually my step-daughter, but I have practically raised her and she calls me mom. She has stolen from us and her younger (now 16) sister so many times we've lost count. If my youngests wants them she'll get them, otherwise they get burried with me. It just hurts when one of your kids stab you in the back....but you know what that's like.

:-5:-5:-5

told you, my eldest son did it many a time, only confessed to it awhile ago, now he is 34, big confession.....now where is my friggin money please!:-5:-5

I have no time whatsoever for that!:mad:

don't care the ages, still no excuse, they knew what they are doing to their parents!

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 5:17 pm

Odie;1063546 wrote: told you, my eldest son did it many a time, only confessed to it awhile ago, now he is 34, big confession.....now where is my friggin money please!:-5:-5

I have no time whatsoever for that!:mad:

don't care the ages, still no excuse, they knew what they are doing to their parents!

Yep, easy money for them cuz they don't hafta break in.

At least your son confessed...I think we are still light years away from that, she's only 20 and still doing it.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 5:19 pm

jimbo;1063548 wrote: yup i do know how you feel it hurts like hell dont it but you just gotta get over it , what else ya gonna do

I've gotten over it about a million times(drama queen moment) but she keeps burning us. I do forgive easily, but trust is a whole nother thing.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 5:22 pm

Ok, now I really need to go, hubby is still tearing the house apart looking for the rings and I should too so we can say we looked everywhere.

Jimbutt, I hope Suzy is ok.

:-6

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 6:19 pm

shelbell;1063559 wrote: Yep, easy money for them cuz they don't hafta break in.

At least your son confessed...I think we are still light years away from that, she's only 20 and still doing it.

but.....he confessed 15 years later! and thought it was funny!:-5:-5

-he stole packs of my ciagarettes over the years

-money from my wallet over the years

-bus fare

-took some other things and sold them.

but he was also very smart, by taking things one at a time, so I wouldn't notice things were missing!:-5

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Nov 19, 2008 6:28 pm

now, can you make everything ridiculous go away?:(

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:06 am

Odie;1063695 wrote: but.....he confessed 15 years later! and thought it was funny!:-5:-5

-he stole packs of my ciagarettes over the years

-money from my wallet over the years

-bus fare

-took some other things and sold them.

but he was also very smart, by taking things one at a time, so I wouldn't notice things were missing!:-5

I think daughter has been working us over. We used to lock up anything with value. So, about 1 1//2-2months now, she's been coming over with our grandson at least once a week. We thought she'd been maturing and started to not worry about our stuff so much. What a freaking mistake.

:-5:-5

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:31 am

shelbell;1064115 wrote: I think daughter has been working us over. We used to lock up anything with value. So, about 1 1//2-2months now, she's been coming over with our grandson at least once a week. We thought she'd been maturing and started to not worry about our stuff so much. What a freaking mistake.

:-5:-5

good luck today sis, I am praying for your sake and hers, that it's not what you think.

thing is, if he does get bail from her, how can you prove she stole your rings?

they would be gone now.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:05 am

Odie;1064162 wrote: good luck today sis, I am praying for your sake and hers, that it's not what you think.

thing is, if he does get bail from her, how can you prove she stole your rings?

they would be gone now.

Well, we'd file a complaint with the police. Go to all the pawn shops and give the a description of my rings. Most of the pawn shops make the person pawning it to show ID for anything that has a lot of value, and they don't want anything to do with stolen property. If it's been pawned it will be obvious...she was here with me and hubby and youngest daughter. Well, youngest has been home after school every day and Has been with me...no way she could have pawned it. She even helped us tear apart the house looking for them. Me or hubby wouldn't do it so that only leaves middle daughter, that's the only person that was here over the weekend.

I'd go to the pawn shops, but they are in the really bad part of town and it scares me to go there by myself...lot's of shootings and car jacking. :yh_worry:yh_nailbi:yh_sigh:yh_brokeh:mad:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:18 am

shelbell;1064202 wrote: Well, we'd file a complaint with the police. Go to all the pawn shops and give the a description of my rings. Most of the pawn shops make the person pawning it to show ID for anything that has a lot of value, and they don't want anything to do with stolen property. If it's been pawned it will be obvious...she was here with me and hubby and youngest daughter. Well, youngest has been home after school every day and Has been with me...no way she could have pawned it. She even helped us tear apart the house looking for them. Me or hubby wouldn't do it so that only leaves middle daughter, that's the only person that was here over the weekend.

I'd go to the pawn shops, but they are in the really bad part of town and it scares me to go there by myself...lot's of shootings and car jacking. :yh_worry:yh_nailbi:yh_sigh:yh_brokeh:mad:

it is a shame the pawn shops couldn't have been checked out before now.....

maybe they now have sold them.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:27 am

Odie;1064228 wrote: it is a shame the pawn shops couldn't have been checked out before now.....

maybe they now have sold them.

My hubby did go into one pawn shop and looked at the selections of rings...they will still have her in their register but they still need a police case before they can give out any names. I didn't realize they were til Monday afternoon so they could of already been gone.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:54 am

jimbo;1064256 wrote: woe is me:-5:-5:-5

dammit she is being kept in again

Awe Jimbutt, you sound lonely. Yes, woe is you, but you're on the right thread for that. You are one a very few men that has set foot in this thread too, see? it's not all man bashing like everyone thinks it is....we welcome the chance to listen to everyone that has something they need to vent about or just talk.

Suzy had problems with her last operation, so it's probably best to keep her in for observation. Just remember to have the house clean for her this time when she gets home!!!:wah::wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:57 am

shelbell;1064244 wrote: My hubby did go into one pawn shop and looked at the selections of rings...they will still have her in their register but they still need a police case before they can give out any names. I didn't realize they were til Monday afternoon so they could of already been gone.

now it makes more sense with a police case, now with the report, can the police not check the pawn shops instead of you guys doing it?

you should not have to go into high-risk areas.......that's their job.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 10:02 am

Odie;1064313 wrote: now it makes more sense with a police case, now with the report, can the police not check the pawn shops instead of you guys doing it?

you should not have to go into high-risk areas.......that's their job.

I doubt it, they'll say they have too many other crimes to hunt down a ring, but if we do it, we know exactly what the rings look like and then we can just call the police from there. Plus, the cops won't know exactly what the rings look like and we do.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 10:05 am

shelbell;1064321 wrote: I doubt it, they'll say they have too many other crimes to hunt down a ring, but if we do it, we know exactly what the rings look like and then we can just call the police from there. Plus, the cops won't know exactly what the rings look like and we do.

what if she registered under a phony name, they don't always need ID here when selling to pawn shops, we never needed one years ago.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 10:24 am

Odie;1064325 wrote: what if she registered under a phony name, they don't always need ID here when selling to pawn shops, we never needed one years ago.

She could have tried, but they always have to show ID on high cost items and this was ( I don't remember exactly) but it's appraised between $7500-$7800. That's a high end item for a pawn shop item.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 10:44 am

shelbell;1064372 wrote: She could have tried, but they always have to show ID on high cost items and this was ( I don't remember exactly) but it's appraised between $7500-$7800. That's a high end item for a pawn shop item.

how very sad if this is what she did.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 11:16 am

Odie;1064396 wrote: how very sad if this is what she did.

Yeah, and our house is still all torn up from looking for them. We've even looked in places it couldn't possibly be in. I'm ready to call it quits and turn in a claim for it. Hubby and youngest daughter don't think middle daughter did it...but I do, but I do really hope that she didn't.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 1:06 pm

Ok, so his court was at 9am...don't know if he's out or not yet...they don't have the records updated yet. A little later oldest daughter will call middle daughter to try to find out.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 3:14 pm

Hi girls. I miss ya. Been busy today. We are getting all our old cans, transmission,copper, and other tin together. to take to sell tomorrow, we do this about twice a year. It gives us a few bucks for Christmas. Then we will do it again at the beginning of summer.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 3:39 pm

shelbell;1064534 wrote: Ok, so his court was at 9am...don't know if he's out or not yet...they don't have the records updated yet. A little later oldest daughter will call middle daughter to try to find out.

I'll be here crossing my fingers for you guys!:-4

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 3:41 pm

southern yankee;1064631 wrote: Hi girls. I miss ya. Been busy today. We are getting all our old cans, transmission,copper, and other tin together. to take to sell tomorrow, we do this about twice a year. It gives us a few bucks for Christmas. Then we will do it again at the beginning of summer.

we miss you to! how much stuff do you have stored?:wah:

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 6:45 pm

shelbell;1064534 wrote: Ok, so his court was at 9am...don't know if he's out or not yet...they don't have the records updated yet. A little later oldest daughter will call middle daughter to try to find out. I know i am late> but You 2 are on my mind:)

watermark · Post by **watermark** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 7:50 pm

I'm so calm tonight, actually, considering how disjointed I was the other night -- haha. I'm completely tense and always noticing what's so bad in my life, makes me feel guilty.

I judge others who are feeling the same, just needing to vent, having those of you who are out of luck, on hard times and all. All I can do is tell you all about my complaints!

I feel ridiculous about complaining but oh well, this is what I do. It's like I'm on automatic pilot. I need someone else to help me take care of things. I can't fix it on my own, it'll just get worse.

I don't have it so bad as some, I do know that, it's just I can't make routine visits to this thread to talk about all that is bad with all of you.

I know I should be more sympathetic, but I'm just too hyperactive to listen and comment to you about your health and your inlaws, siblings, children, best friends, mothers, fathers, dates, I don't know, I'm wanting what you offer but can't give back what I take.

I suppose it's ok for me to whine and complain here without offering anything to help anyone else? I mean, I'm just asking.

Thanks

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 7:54 pm

watermark;1064825 wrote: I'm so calm tonight, actually, considering how disjointed I was the other night -- haha. I'm completely tense and always noticing what's so bad in my life, makes me feel guilty.

I judge others who are feeling the same, just needing to vent, having those of you who are out of luck, on hard times and all. All I can do is tell you all about my complaints!

I feel ridiculous about complaining but oh well, this is what I do. It's like I'm on automatic pilot. I need someone else to help me take care of things. I can't fix it on my own, it'll just get worse.

I don't have it so bad as some, I do know that, it's just I can't make routine visits to this thread to talk about all that is bad with all of you.

I know I should be more sympathetic, but I'm just too hyperactive to listen and comment to you about your health and your inlaws, siblings, children, best friends, mothers, fathers, dates, I don't know, I'm wanting what you offer but can't give back what I take.

I suppose it's ok for me to whine and complain here without offering anything to help anyone else? I mean, I'm just asking.

Thanks we will listen here. we all have crap. that is why we come here:) i have found dear friends here

watermark · Post by **watermark** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:03 pm

Thank you, southern yankee. I'll be ok in the long term. I have always loved forum garden for the vibes it gives off in this way, the always listening way. :-6

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:06 pm

watermark;1064829 wrote: Thank you, southern yankee. I'll be ok in the long term. I have always loved forum garden for the vibes it gives off in this way, the always listening way. :-6 i have only been here about 4or 5 months. there are some WONDERFUL PEOPLE here. Contact me anytime:)

watermark · Post by **watermark** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:18 pm

southern yankee;1064832 wrote: i have only been here about 4or 5 months. there are some WONDERFUL PEOPLE here. Contact me anytime:)

thanks

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:26 pm

watermark;1064825 wrote: I'm so calm tonight, actually, considering how disjointed I was the other night -- haha. I'm completely tense and always noticing what's so bad in my life, makes me feel guilty.

I judge others who are feeling the same, just needing to vent, having those of you who are out of luck, on hard times and all. All I can do is tell you all about my complaints!

I feel ridiculous about complaining but oh well, this is what I do. It's like I'm on automatic pilot. I need someone else to help me take care of things. I can't fix it on my own, it'll just get worse.

I don't have it so bad as some, I do know that, it's just I can't make routine visits to this thread to talk about all that is bad with all of you.

I know I should be more sympathetic, but I'm just too hyperactive to listen and comment to you about your health and your inlaws, siblings, children, best friends, mothers, fathers, dates, I don't know, I'm wanting what you offer but can't give back what I take.

I suppose it's ok for me to whine and complain here without offering anything to help anyone else? I mean, I'm just asking.

Thanks

we do listen and care, that's what this thread is all about.

were not doctors, scientists or even high-class people, were just like you, everyone has problems in their day to day life.

have you had your hyperactiveness checked out? It can be resolved for you in many ways.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:34 pm

here is the place we care for one another. some think it is a DRAMA SITE.

But there are some who are so grateful to have it. We all heal and grow in different ways:-4

watermark · Post by **watermark** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:41 pm

Odie;1064835 wrote: we do listen and care, that's what this thread is all about.

were not doctors, scientists or even high-class people, were just like you, everyone has problems in their day to day life.

have you had your hyperactiveness checked out? It can be resolved for you in many ways.

Hi Odie, I know noone here is expert or whatever, I hope I didn't insinuate you were. I just meant to say I was probably not going to be a great listener for someone else, especially about chronic problems. I need to be listened to but honestly I'm not going to be a great listener. Reciprocity is huge these days. I just wanted to be honest about my degree of this important social skill.

I know quite a bit about hyperactive symptoms. I'm not going to go into my ideas. Basically I meant I'm hyperactive around certain things I could pay attention to that I'm not, but all in all, it's most likely that I'm not interested enough to attend. I'm inconsistent in my responses. I'm fascinated by people and can be drawn to other's problems and dilemmas, but not sure if that's the best thing for people who need a steady figure in their lives. Many times it's not the advise or precision of listening but the ability to stay with the person through the whole event, in my opinion. I don't have the staying power is what I'm getting at.

Thanks

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:56 pm

watermark;1064840 wrote: Hi Odie, I know noone here is expert or whatever, I hope I didn't insinuate you were. I just meant to say I was probably not going to be a great listener for someone else, especially about chronic problems. I need to be listened to but honestly I'm not going to be a great listener. Reciprocity is huge these days. I just wanted to be honest about my degree of this important social skill.

I know quite a bit about hyperactive symptoms. I'm not going to go into my ideas. Basically I meant I'm hyperactive around certain things I could pay attention to that I'm not, but all in all, it's most likely that I'm not interested enough to attend. I'm inconsistent in my responses. I'm fascinated by people and can be drawn to other's problems and dilemmas, but not sure if that's the best thing for people who need a steady figure in their lives. Many times it's not the advise or precision of listening but the ability to stay with the person through the whole event, in my opinion. I don't have the staying power is what I'm getting at.

Thanks

I'm listening.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:01 pm

southern yankee;1064837 wrote: here is the place we care for one another. some think it is a DRAMA SITE.

But there are some who are so grateful to have it. We all heal and grow in different ways:-4

your so right , this is not a drama queen site or a 'woe is me' site.:-5

Everyone has to vent, to say it outloud, to get it off their minds, no matter what it is...I have found for years expressing one self in a letter/email/post takes some of the stress off.

Just typing it out releases stress and everyone needs this.

and there are many a time I have it all typed out, only to change my mind and delete it all, for some just don't care nor understand.

.......and that's fine to, everybody doesn't love everybody.

Post by **Ally** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:39 pm

Its very good to vent sometimes we all need it and what a great place to do it with people who listen mabe not agree but listen.Yes Odie iv done that before had something typed then deleted them thinking who cares.Love ur aviator Odie sooo cute.

:D

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 10:23 pm

Ally;1064848 wrote: Its very good to vent sometimes we all need it and what a great place to do it with people who listen mabe not agree but listen.Yes Odie iv done that before had something typed then deleted them thinking who cares.Love ur aviator Odie sooo cute.

:D

Hi Ally! Sooooooo good to hear from you from Australia, my favorite country!

typing is a good way to vent, then delete, your right, who cares!:yh_rotfl

Thanks on the avy, thought it was cute for this time of year.

come here anytime and vent with us!:-4

Post by **Ally** » Thu Nov 20, 2008 10:26 pm

will do Odie but its xmas and I so love xmas,so want to be happy at this time of year,so try not to let anything get me down.:-5 hehehe dosnt always work tho lol.x