Has this ever happend to you?

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Wed Nov 08, 2006 1:57 pm

The weirdest thing happened last night. My friend called me and left a message on my machine, saying Hi Terri...Hi Sue...(blablabla.) (Sue is my mom.) Then she proceeded to wish my mom a happy birthday (coming up) and more stuff. I was stunned at first. We had just talked a week earlier and she had known then that my mother was gone. We talked about her losing her dad this summer too. She is a bit of a scatterbrain, it's true but my gosh, shouldn't this be something she rememberd? She has even been composing a sympathy letter she apologized for not sending yet. It was odd to say the least.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Wed Nov 08, 2006 3:05 pm

what was she smoking??????:p drinking???? inhaling.....paint fumes??

that is odd indeed.

call her and see if she is alright.

kasparov · Post by **kasparov** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 8:07 am

um

difficult one, due to having lost my mum about 8 weeks ago, there are days when i am on top of the game. However there are also days when i cant even remember what i was supposed to being doing.

I cant say whether there are any recollection issues for her (as I dont know her) you probably would expect her to be able to remember such a thing, although who can say where her head's at.

what strikes me as odd is that she's saying that she's composing a letter for you, although hasnt sent it yet, i feel thats she struggling with this and maybe its reopening some very painful stuff for her. some might view this is insincerity on her part, others would understand a different perspective (not blaming you or taking sides!).

It depends on how close you are but maybe a sitdown with her and discussion of where you both at might assist you both and enable your friendship to come through this point, I fear otherwise that resentment may occur on either side and that the friendship may whither away, on a potential misunderstanding.

Friendships that are good are too good too lose!

Best wishes

Kasparov

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sun Nov 12, 2006 12:23 pm

Hi Kasparov,

I'm sorry about your mom. I am saddened when anyone else has to feel such pain.

I did get a letter from her, a nice heartfelt one and I am planning to call soon.

Thank you for your wishes. You have mine too.

:)

Red

princessNicky · Post by **princessNicky** » Tue Jan 09, 2007 12:06 am

RedGlitter;453499 wrote: The weirdest thing happened last night. My friend called me and left a message on my machine, saying Hi Terri...Hi Sue...(blablabla.) (Sue is my mom.) Then she proceeded to wish my mom a happy birthday (coming up) and more stuff. I was stunned at first. We had just talked a week earlier and she had known then that my mother was gone. We talked about her losing her dad this summer too. She is a bit of a scatterbrain, it's true but my gosh, shouldn't this be something she rememberd? She has even been composing a sympathy letter she apologized for not sending yet. It was odd to say the least.

How awful maybe your friend just forgot for a moment . I often have dreams where i wake up still thinking my mom is around only to gutted when i remember she's not here any more .

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Jan 09, 2007 12:30 am

I know those dreams, Princess Nicky. I think everyone who's lost a loved one has them from time to time. How long has it been since you lost your mom? I'm sorry.

princessNicky · Post by **princessNicky** » Tue Jan 09, 2007 12:35 am

RedGlitter;509734 wrote: I know those dreams, Princess Nicky. I think everyone who's lost a loved one has them from time to time. How long has it been since you lost your mom? I'm sorry.

12 months and my hubby six .

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Jan 09, 2007 12:38 am

You lost your husband too? I am so sorry! That makes things even harder. Do you have any family or friends who can offer you emotional support??

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Tue Jan 09, 2007 2:43 am

sometimes when people have alot on there mind, they seem to forget things.

maybe your friend is greving and does not share this grief.

princessNicky · Post by **princessNicky** » Tue Jan 09, 2007 3:12 am

RedGlitter;509740 wrote: You lost your husband too? I am so sorry! That makes things even harder. Do you have any family or friends who can offer you emotional support??

Not really .

ilona17 · Post by **ilona17** » Wed Jan 10, 2007 6:17 am

Nothing like this has ever happened to me. But maybe she was just confused and in a bit of a daze, sometimes it just all gets to much for everyone and you may be all over the place.

Also im really sorry to hear about your loss. I know losing someone you love can be very hard, especially a mother as they usually mean the world to you. I lost my father about two years ago now in very tragic circumstances. I still find it hard to deal with now and just think he'll show up around the corner.

I hope things get better for you soon, and if you ever want to talk or ask anything then you can.