PerfectAngel;690341 wrote: I accidentally found out over the weekend that my 16 year old stepdaughter has a "Myspace" account.
One of her friends was over at our house and she slipped up and said something about a funny comment that was sent to our stepdaughter!
When she saw the look on my face, I think she realized that she "slipped up"! When my stepdaughter got out of the shower, I told her to give me her account information and password. She kept on refusing to give it to me. I threatened her and told her that she would be on restriction for a MONTH if she did not tell. She kept saying "But you won't like what you see!". For the most part, she has been a very good child growing up, and we have not had any problems with her! She FINALLY ended up telling me the info to get into her account. I am not familiar with myspace, but boy was I shocked! :yh_nailbi She had bloody handprints as her background, with pictures of dead bodies everywhere. She is into the whole "GOTHIC" thing, but I never expected to see all that! The ONLY good thing I can say is that she had posted a guestionare on the account with about 20 questions for her friends to answer. The friends all replied and answered all of the questions. One of the questions was "Do you think that I am a virgin?". EVERY SINGLE one of her friends replied to that particular question, and stated that they KNEW FOR SURE that she was a virgin! So, needles to say I was like "WWWWhhhheeewwww"!. I was mad at first because she didn't tell us about her account and I didn't like the whole blood and guts thing. But I was relieved to see that she is still a virgin! I talked to her about the whole thing for a good while. When I asked her what was up with the bloody stuff, she replied "I just wanted my friends to think that my account on myspace was cool!". So what do I do from here? Do I make her delete the account, or do I make her change her back ground, or should I just leave it alone? I told her that I still haven't decided what I was going to do about her not telling us about the account, but after us parents discussed the issue, we were leaning towards letting her keep the account. We talked about "Reminding" her that we have her password, and that we plan on keeping close tabs on her account activity. We also thought that it would be a good idea to change the bloody back ground! Has anybody encountered anything like this? Any advice? THANKS!
Children will always have secrets from us.
I think for the most part you handled the situation well. Remember kids love their privacy, and generally they love "shock" so yep they are usually trying to out do each other with the shock stuff. It is a form of expression for some. I think you should let her keep her account, but also remind her it is the internet and to play safe, do not give out information that could lead others to actually finding her in real life. Remind her the dangers of stalkers online, pedophiles (I can't spell that word) and general creeps who can read her stuff.
Also be warned pictures will show up and they may be pics of things you may not want to see... ie parties with friends, drinking, the latest trend of girls mauling each other, yeah that happens.
Yay she is still a virgin but please understand that one day she will not be, I strongly suggest the birthcontrol chat.
I hope that isn't sounding too awful, but I speak as a mother of a 20 year old daughter who shocked me with a grandson (both of whom I love dearly) and a 16 year old daughter who is just starting into this kind of stuff, the parties, the drinks, the sex.
It's reality.
If you wish to chat more about it please feel free to PM me.
It's not all that easy or all that cut and dry.
Minks
When she saw the look on my face, I think she realized that she "slipped up"! When my stepdaughter got out of the shower, I told her to give me her account information and password. She kept on refusing to give it to me. I threatened her and told her that she would be on restriction for a MONTH if she did not tell. She kept saying "But you won't like what you see!". For the most part, she has been a very good child growing up, and we have not had any problems with her! She FINALLY ended up telling me the info to get into her account. I am not familiar with myspace, but boy was I shocked! :yh_nailbi She had bloody handprints as her background, with pictures of dead bodies everywhere. She is into the whole "GOTHIC" thing, but I never expected to see all that! The ONLY good thing I can say is that she had posted a guestionare on the account with about 20 questions for her friends to answer. The friends all replied and answered all of the questions. One of the questions was "Do you think that I am a virgin?". EVERY SINGLE one of her friends replied to that particular question, and stated that they KNEW FOR SURE that she was a virgin! So, needles to say I was like "WWWWhhhheeewwww"!. I was mad at first because she didn't tell us about her account and I didn't like the whole blood and guts thing. But I was relieved to see that she is still a virgin! I talked to her about the whole thing for a good while. When I asked her what was up with the bloody stuff, she replied "I just wanted my friends to think that my account on myspace was cool!". So what do I do from here? Do I make her delete the account, or do I make her change her back ground, or should I just leave it alone? I told her that I still haven't decided what I was going to do about her not telling us about the account, but after us parents discussed the issue, we were leaning towards letting her keep the account. We talked about "Reminding" her that we have her password, and that we plan on keeping close tabs on her account activity. We also thought that it would be a good idea to change the bloody back ground! Has anybody encountered anything like this? Any advice? THANKS! 
