<t>Read my post "how do you get over an affair" to realise the hurt and devastation you can cause by allowing this inappropriate flirting to continue.<br/> <br/> Yes, you find him hot, and you are probably fuelling his interest if you are avoiding him - he will enjoy the chase. You have let him rub ...

<t>Well, thank you for all your replies but you've baffled me with science with SSRIs and other technical info!!!!!<br/> <br/> I will print the pages off and read them and try to understand them.<br/> <br/> Re my blood type, I have no idea what that is but I've made a big step & made an appt to ...

<t>Yes, strange I know!! But I need bright, shocking pink eyeshadow and can't find it in Asda/Tesco/Superdrug etc (I am in the UK).<br/> <br/> I am going away with the girls for the weekend and we are all going in fancy dress as punk rockers so need shocking pink make-up. Any ideas anyone?<br/> <br/...

<t>Thank you to you all for your advice. Can I take vit B12 in addition to the SJW?<br/> <br/> I know the cause of my problem is my marriage and I am addressing that by going to Relate and also to an individual counsellor independently. My husband is trying very hard to make things right between us ...

<t>Hi There<br/> <br/> Thank you for all your replies.<br/> <br/> Yes, I'm currently undergoing individual counselling and my husband & I are also attending Relate so, yes, I am communicating and talking my problems through but they are just so huge, I'm struggling desperately. I've also got a 2...

<t>Does anyone have any experience of taking SJW? I am having a lot of trouble in my marriage currently and have not been coping too well so, upon a friend's advice, started to take 340mg per day (tablet form) but I've not seen any benefit yet. Will it take longer than this to start feeling a bit mo...

<t>Hi Teach<br/> <br/> I really feel for you, it's an appalling situation for you to be in.<br/> <br/> Are you still able to communicate? Could you sit him down and approach the subject calmly and kindly, and tell him how much this is affecting you? Would he listen? Would he respond? Does he communi...

<t>Abbey - you ask what is the point of going to Relate??????<br/> <br/> Because although he is making monumental efforts to repair the damage he has caused, I still need help, guidance and counselling through this hell from an impartial third party who is trained to do exactly that. They will help ...

<t>Pink Princess - no offence intended. Yes, you are one of the few whom have been even-sided, sorry, it really wasn't a go at you. Sorry if I've offended you at all. I do appreciate everyone's efforts to post & advise, although it really stings to read the "hard" advice, ie, leave, if he's done...

<t>Smithy/Pink Princess<br/> <br/> These text messages were to a SECOND girl whom he maintains he did not sleep with. I am not interested in the thousands of texts to the first girl whom I KNOW he slept with, I have nothing further to discover regarding the first girl.<br/> <br/> I then found out he...

<t>It's not that easy nor that black and white to close the door on 12 years of your life. <br/> <br/> I will at least give Relate a chance. As someone else has posted, sometimes these things make you stronger. God knows how, but I'm willing to try at least. I have to exhause all avenues before I de...

<t>I don't think that's fair, don't be so hard on me.<br/> <br/> I don't want to torture myself, I simply want to give my marriage the best chance I can before I make my decision to rip my son out of his dad's life and start over on my own after 12 years! <br/> <br/> The text messages MAY reveal he ...

<t>Hi All<br/> <br/> Some of you may have seen the my thread "How do you get over an affair" but I need a little help with something else if anyone can help?<br/> <br/> Basically, my husband had an affair in 2003 but started up another 'friendship' with another girl last July whom he texted and rang...

<t>Hi All<br/> <br/> I've posted quite a long thread in Relationships "How do you get over an affair". Basically, my husband has had an affair but started up another 'friendship' with another girl last July whom he texted and rang rather a lot! Suspicious does not cover it!<br/> <br/> I am posting h...

<t>I found out because my husband is currently taking the ex-employer to an employment tribunal and some documents came through the post one morning when my husband was at work which I opened and, within the documents, were copies of telephone bills detailing the thousands of texts and calls he'd pl...

<t>Thank you so sincerely for all your replies, I have tried to read them all without crying! My husband is desperately sorry (of course he will be now he's been caught) but how do I believe his remorse is genuine? He is clearly scared to death of losing us now (he should have thought about that bef...

<t>This is my first ever post, so forgive me if I waffle on but I am so desperately hurt and confused.<br/> <br/> I've been with my husband for 12 years and 4 weeks ago discovered that he slept with a girl he used to work with 2 years ago. I always had suspicions about this girl and for 2 years I ha...